Week in the Life of a Working Mom: Civil Servant in Washington, D.C.

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For this installment of our Week in the Life of a Working Mom series, I’m happy to introduce CorporetteMoms reader Heather, who lives in the Washington, D.C., area with her husband and two kids (twins!) and works as a civil servant in the U.S. government.

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First, Some Basics About This Working Mom…

Name: Heather  
Location: Work in Washington, D.C.
Job: Civil servant in U.S. government
Age: 40
Home Situation: I live in a 3,000-square-foot single family home with my husband (52-year-old aviation inspector), our kids (11-year-old girl/boy twins with ADHD), and two dogs
Childcare Situation: We do not currently have any child care help since the pandemic started. 

How is the work-life balance in your industry in general? What are common ways of juggling responsibilities that you see your colleagues and coworkers doing?
Work-life balance is theoretical under the current [2020] presidential administration. Many supervisors don’t have kids, or their wives stayed home. I go into work early, like 6:30, and leave at 3:30 to be home by 4:00. With the pandemic, we are starting earlier, dealing with school/virtual camps, then working more. Telework was decimated under this current administration; we are only allowed to telework one day a week (pre-pandemic). 

How do you handle household chores, such as laundry, grocery shopping, housecleaning, etc.? Who does what, and when — and how often?
I have a housekeeper that comes once a week to clean. But laundry days are Friday. Kids are starting to wash and dry their own clothes; I make my husband do his own. I end up folding most of the clothes. I order groceries from Amazon/Whole Foods. I was using one of the meal delivery services for three meals a week and then adding to them but forgot to restart them after we went on vacation. The kids get a chore list every morning; they have to sweep and mop the kitchen, unload and reload the dishwasher, and weed the gardens out front. I make the shopping lists, pay the bills, and make meals.

We asked if Heather had advice to share regarding parenting kids with ADHD: 

Early identification would have been helpful. Don’t be afraid of medication; it has worked wonders for both kids. Try to keep a routine for each kid. We use multiple electronic calendars and dry erase boards in our house to keep track of everyone’s schedules. Find what works best for each kid. Even though both twins are diagnosed with ADHD, their behaviors and symptoms manifest themselves very differently, especially in girls. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from your pediatrician. Also, ask friends for provider recommendations.

A Week in My Life

Note: This was a week in Heather’s life during summer 2020. 

Sunday

This is a sleep-in day during the summer, but during the school year we are up by 7:00 a.m. to drop the kids off at religious school by 8:00. Husband makes coffee and watches CBS Sunday Morning until 10:30.

We call our former au pair, who lives in the UK, and talk with her for a couple of hours. About 1:00 p.m., we go out and do yardwork and house projects.

Dog had to go to the groomers at 3:00, and that takes about 90 min. I drove up the street to pick her up.

I make dinner around 5:30 p.m.; kids were downstairs watching a movie and playing on the Wii.

Monday

I get up at 6:30 a.m. to get ready for work. Husband left to go in to work at 6:00. Got coffee, kids slept in until 10:00. They got their chores out of the way.

Girl child FaceTimed with her friends, and boy child played Wii and watched a movie. Kids made themselves lunch, and I sent them outside until 3:30 p.m., when boy child has virtual counseling.

At 5:00, I interviewed someone our family and another family are considering to teach our pod for virtual schooling this year. That lasted an hour. I made dinner and husband was home by 8:00.

Kids and I watched a couple of TV shows and we were all in bed by 9:30.

We asked Heather if she had any advice for readers interested in working for the federal government, and she shared this: 

Find a friend or a service of someone who is familiar with Federal Resumes, and have that person proofread it. They are very specific and not like corporate or other nonprofit resumes. Do not be discouraged if you aren’t hired right away. At one point, I had 50 applications in for a particular federal job series at different agencies. I narrowed down the departments I wanted to work in and set up searches for those agencies and locations through USAJobs. There are few Departments that are not required to use USAJobs and have their own system. You’ll have to apply to those separately.

Tuesday 

I get up at 6:30 a.m. to get ready for work. Husband left to go in to work at 6:00. Got coffee, kids slept in until 10:00. They got their chores out of the way.

I worked until 12:30 and then had to drive to a doctor’s appointment. Was back by 2:00. The kids read books, watched movies, and played outside on the ninja line we bought in the spring.

My boy child has a pre-algebra online enrichment class he is taking starting at 4:00. I finished work around 5:00 and ordered take out from a local Caribbean place up the street from our house. Husband was home by 7:00.

We watched a bit of TV and went to sleep by 10:00.

Wednesday 

I get up at 6:30 a.m. to get ready for work. Husband left to go in to work at 6:00. Got coffee, kids slept in until 9:00. They got their chores out of the way.

I worked through the day until 4:00 p.m. Kids played video games and made a YouTube video, read books, chatted with friends, and rode bikes until 5:00.

At 5:00, I interviewed another pod teacher candidate. Husband made it home by 5:30 to participate in the last half of the interview. Called our friends to discuss the two candidates we interviewed this week and to put together a list of questions on the upcoming virtual school year to our principal, who is having a coffee talk/town hall next week.

Made dinner. I went outside to read magazine for about 30 min. Then it was upstairs to get ready for bed. My kids went to the basement to watch a movie together.

Here’s an update from Heather on how the teaching pod turned out: 

Our pod lasted through the end of October. Each kid had a completely different schedule even though they were in the same grade at the same school. It became too stressful for us and the other family. We didn’t want the pod to ruin our friendship. So we dissolved the pod. As of today, the kids are back in their building two days a week.

Thursday

I get up at 6:30 a.m. to get ready for work. Got coffee, kids slept in until 9:00. They got their chores out of the way.

Husband left for work at 10:00. I worked until lunch. Both kids ate around noon.

My girl child had an online telehealth appointment at 1:00 p.m. that lasted 90 minutes. She also has a virtual Japanese language and culture class this afternoon at 5:00.

Boy child has his second virtual pre-algebra enrichment class this week. I make dinner, but this time I needed easy. I threw in two frozen pizzas.

We took one dog for a three-mile walk through our neighborhood. Finally poured myself a glass of wine.

Friday

I get up at 6:30 a.m. to get ready for work. Husband left to go in to work at 6:00. Got coffee, kids slept in until 10:00. They got their chores out of the way.

Housekeeper arrives at 10:30 and is finished by 3:00 p.m. Friday is shabbat. So I try to finish work by 3:30, so I can prepare dinner.

Husband makes it home by 6:00 and we sit down to dinner, light candles, and enjoy a non-rushed family dinner.

Saturday

Today is screen-free Saturday. We started this back in March at the beginning of the pandemic because we all were on screens so much more often than before. We get projects around the house done.

My girl child had a virtual sleepover with one of her “BFFs.” They keep the laptop open on FaceTime and watch a movie together with popcorn.

We also got takeout for dinner but I don’t remember where we went. I also spent two hours on the phone with our mobile phone provider working out why I was having signal reception problems.

Thanks so much to Heather for sharing a bit of her life as a working mom! Readers, what’s your biggest takeaway from her week of work as a civil servant as well as her general work/life balance?

Psst: check out some of our other top working mom diaries, including:

• a BigLaw mom in Chicago and a BigLaw mom in LA
• a mom in finance at a Fortune 500 company
• an income partner in Boston
• doctor in NYC

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