3 Ways to Teach Kids a New Language

Teach Kids a New LanguageI still remember the big day in 6th grade that we got to choose the foreign language that we’d start learning: Spanish, French, or German. (I picked Spanish.) Many schools in the U.S. still don’t begin to teach kids a new language until middle school, while most European countries, for example, start instruction of a second language when kids are six to nine years old. Here are a few reasons why it’s beneficial to start language learning sooner rather than later:

  • “The ability to hear different phonetic pronunciations is sharpest before age 3, and we lose the capacity to hear and produce certain sounds if we aren’t exposed to them early on.” [Parents]
  • “After the teen years, the brain changes and makes it extremely challenging (if possible at all) for an adult to learn a foreign language.” [Parent.co]
  • “While new language learning is easiest by age 7, the ability markedly declines after puberty.” [NBC News]

Over at Corporette, we recently talked about ways to learn a foreign language as an adult, so we thought it was a good idea to talk about language-learning for kids, too. If you or your partner don’t speak a second language and neither do your parents/in-laws, here are a few ways to teach kids a new language:
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How to Make Mornings Easier As a Working Mom

It’s every working mom’s goal: to make mornings easier, both for YOU and for the family/kids. So how do you do it? What hacks and tips have you found? What are you considering?

In Lean In, Sheryl Sandberg shares the story of a woman who put her kids to bed in their school clothes to save 15 minutes in the morning:

One of the other panelists, an executive with two children, was asked the (inevitable) question about how she balances her work and her children. She started her response by saying, “I probably shouldn’t admit this publicly . . . ,” and then she confessed that she put her children to sleep in their school clothes to save fifteen precious minutes every morning. At the time, I though to myself, Yup, she should not have admitted that publicly. Now that I’m a parent, I think this woman was a genius.

It’s too true!  Some tips I’ve tried over the years to make mornings easier (particularly as someone who is not a morning person):

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Mommying Your Husband

Mommying Your HusbandLadies: do you struggle with mommying your husband or partner? Do you fight against it? Does he? Has it added to the stress of keeping the romance alive — or is it just one more task on your to-do list? The “helpless man” stereotype has spawned a whole genre of TV ads like this one — but do you have some real-life examples to share? I’ve had a few wine-fueled conversations with girlfriends about this and have seen a few commenter threads over at Corporette (like here and here), as well as a few news stories that made me think about this, so I thought we’d discuss here.

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How to Be a Great Part-Time Associate

how to be a great part-time associateAs I mentioned a few weeks ago, my friend Y has had a very successful run as a part-time associate, working reduced hours (about an 80% schedule) for years now.  I asked her for some of the top tips she’s learned along the way, and she was kind enough to share her tips for both negotiating a reduced work schedule as well as the tips below, how to have a successful run as a part-time associate.  Ladies who’ve negotiated similar flexible work arrangements — do you agree with Y’s tips? What are your best tips for how to be a great part-time associate? 

As an associate working reduced hours, here is what I learned along the way that I would offer as advice to anyone in the same position, or contemplating making the switch:

1) Remember you are making a professional sacrifice. Remember how I said in my first post that you can’t have it all? The reduced work hours approach, in many cases, forecloses certain professional opportunities. In the BigLaw world, when you’re not available 24/7, you’re simply not as desirable for certain assignments or projects. As a junior associate, I didn’t really realize this, but as I got up there in years, it became clear to me that my professional experience was not — and could not b‎e — as well-rounded as that of my peers, and could not progress at the same rate. Most days, this was just fine, since I continued to remind myself that I was making the sacrifice to be able to raise my children as I wanted (by then, there were more of them). Some days I did feel frustrated at my perceived lack of professional development. All in all, I would say: Be prepared to make the sacrifice, and remember what you’re gaining in return.

2) ‎Stick to your agreed-upon schedule (mostly). We corporate types didn’t get to where we are for lack of hard work, and I would venture to guess that many of us have a hard time not going above and beyond. But when you’re on a reduced hours or part-time schedule, you have to be disciplined about leaving the office at the agreed-upon time and/or not working beyond the hours you’ve committed to. Avoiding “schedule creep” can be a huge challenge, particularly when everyone else is working many more hours than you are. I made a concerted effort to remind myself that a deal is a deal and that I wasn’t doing anything wrong by leaving the office at 6:00 every day; in fact, I wasn’t being paid to stay beyond then.

3) But be flexible. No part-time job in the corporate world is truly limited to 9-5 hours. While it’s important not to be a pushover or feel bad about not working to the extent your colleagues are, it’s key to demonstrate that you’re still committed to your job and are willing, when necessary, to stay late at work, get online after the kids are in bed, or travel overnight. It’s a delicate balance, and you have to have the professional experience to determine when the extra hours are necessary and/or would be appreciated by your colleagues.

4) Anticipate some level of jealousy or animosity. While others are burning the midnight oil and you head out to your second job as a mom, some may resent you for leaving earlier. I always just ignored this, since I had an official arrangement with the firm and was getting paid less than them, in accordance with how much I worked.

5) Reassess the flexible work arrangement as time goes on. Just because a reduced hours schedule suits you at one point doesn’t mean that it will always be right for you. There may come a time that you throw yourself back in the game on a full-time basis because the kids have grown, your spouse or partner becomes more available, or your life otherwise changes. Fortunately, it should be easier to transition back to a full-time workload since you’ve had your head in the game as a part-time employee rather than being out of the workforce entirely.

Ladies — have you ever tried reducing your working hours to 80% or less? What were your thoughts on it, and what are your best tips for other women considering such a flexible work arrangement? 

Pictured: Pixabay.

The Best Brands for Washable Workwear

machine washable workwear2017 Update: We still stand by this roundup as the go-to brands for washable workwear — links have also been updated below!

We’ve been doing our Washable Workwear Wednesdays for a while now, and I’ve learned there are a few brands that one can reliably look to for washable clothes. So if you’re on the hunt, I thought we’d round them up:

Pictured, top row: green dress / black blazer / black dress
Pictured, bottom row: navy dress / suit / black dress

  1. MM.LaFleur: A lot of dresses and tops from this workwear startup are washable. Pictured: one of their best selling dresses (top left)
  2. Boden: Not only is this one of Corporette readers favorite places to shop on the Internet, but a TON of their dresses are washable. Pictured (bottom right). Bonus: they sell kids’ clothes too, so you can do one-stop shopping. 2017 Update: check out our roundup of how to build a work wardrobe at Boden.
  3. Halogen: Many of this affordable, in-house-to-Nordstrom brand’s clothing is a great source of washable workwear, including dresses, blazers, and more — and much of it is available in regular, petite, and plus sizes.
  4. Lands’ End: Corporette readers love their washable ponte dresses, but do note that their suiting pieces (pictured, bottom middle) are mostly machine washable as well.
  5. Ming Wang: You can get this brand’s stretchy, travel-friendly pieces — all of them washable — at Nordstrom. Pictured (top right).
  6. Eileen Fisher: Not only does this brand focus on the human rights aspects and environmental impact of its supply chain through Vision 2020 (and is otherwise friendly to ladies who prefer slow fashion workwear), but most of the pieces are machine washable. Another pro: most pieces are also available in petites and plus sizes. Pictured (top middle).  
  7. Ellen Tracy: These affordable, cute dresses are great for desk to dinner, and the brand makes a ton that are machine washable. (You can also find their washable workwear on discount on places like Amazon or 6pm!)
  8. NYDJWhether you’re a mother or not, Not Your Daughter’s Jeans (aka NYDJ) has a ton of washable workwear, some of it with a bit of secret shaping power, including blouses, dresses, pants and more.
  9. BCBG: Whether you like wrap dresses for pumping or just general wear, do note that this BCBG wrap dress has been around forever, and comes in new colors and prints every year — and it’s machine washable. The brand has a lot of other machine washable clothes for workwear and weekend.
  10. Betabrand: As Betabrand explains on its website, “Brand-new ideas spring to life on our site every day [and] our fans co-design and crowdfund them into existence.” The brand (or “online clothing community,” as it labels itself) became known for their yoga pants for work, but they’ve expanded heavily — their WorkIt collection has a TON of dresses, blazers, and more, all of them blending athletic performance fabrics with traditional workwear shapes. (If you’re a new customer, use this referral link to get $15 off your first order!)
  11. Karen Kane: This affordable brand offers dresses, skirts, blouses and more for work, many of them machine washable and available in regular and plus sizes. This $108 dress — often on sale for even lower! — has been a reader favorite, and comes out in new prints and colors in long-sleeves and short-sleeves every season (pictured bottom left).
  12. Pivotte: There’s less selection at this workwear startup, but I must say I’ve been living in the drapey washable wool cardigan I bought for myself — I highly recommend.
  13. 2017 Update: Note that Hobbs London has a ton of washable workwear, available at Bloomingdales as well as at Hobbs.

Ladies, have you found any other reliable brands for washable workwear? What are your favorites?

Psst: if you’re looking for washable pants for work or stylish travel dresses for vacation and beyond, check out our roundups over at Corporette.  

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Tips on Negotiating Reduced Work Hours

reduced work hoursI’ve always been in awe of one of my old friends, Y, who’s negotiated reduced work hours at numerous Big Law firms in a major market — and advanced while doing it. I reached out to her to ask for her top tips on negotiating reduced work hours and her own thoughts on the journey. Below, we present Part 1, Y’s thoughts on negotiating reduced work hours — you can find Part 2 here, where we look at her thoughts on being a successful part-time associate.  Thank you so much, Y! – Kat

Working mothers can’t have it all. I truly believe that. Something’s gotta give, and when I had my first child I wondered what that would be — and how much. There are obviously many answers to that question — there is no “one-size-fits-all.” For me, the answer was asking for a flexible work arrangement at the BigLaw firm where I was a second-year associate, so that I could continue in my career while also having time to spend with my family.

I remember when I first negotiated for reduced work hours. I had been on maternity leave with my first child and knew right away that I could not possibly raise a tiny person and also work full-time (which in my job meant being on call 24/7). ‎After contacting the powers that be at the firm about discussing a potential flexible work arrangement, I received a call from a partner, and the conversation was not nearly as scary as I thought it might be. That may also be because I went in with zero expectations, figuring that if the firm wouldn’t agree to a flexible working arrangement, I would walk. At that point in my life, working full time at an AmLaw 100 firm was not on the table for me.

By that time, I had done my homework and knew that some women were already working at the firm on an 80-percent basis. (Depending on their practice area and reason for working part time, they either worked reduced hours on a relatively regular schedule or committed to billing 80 percent of a full-time associate’s yearly billables, even if that meant working long hours on a deal one month and taking time off the next.) When I stated that I wanted to work four days a week and be home in the evenings with my baby, the partner agreed to offer me an 80-percent arrangement. He added that there were no guarantees with regard to the bonus but that the firm would aim to give me one that was prorated.

Having heard horror stories of women who officially worked part-time and were paid accordingly but billed just as much as a full-time associate, I asked what would happen if I ended up billing more than 80 percent of what a full-time associate would. Would I be reimbursed at the end of the year? The answer was no. While it didn’t seem equitable, it did incentivize me to stick to my reduced schedule rather than revert to my type-A personality and try to do it all (despite my cognitive recognition that, as a mother who wants to remain intimately involved in her child’s upbringing, I could not). “One last thing,” the partner said as we continued to talk. “I’m not saying that we’d definitely never make a part-time partner, but we most likely wouldn’t.” I just said “fine” — it was not even remotely on my radar at the time, let alone something that would have influenced my decision.

That started my long journey as an associate with a reduced work schedule.

Here are some tips I would offer to anyone thinking of requesting a similar part-time arrangement:

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