Readers, what do you do for date nights? How do you fit them in when so much else is going on? Do you have a regularly scheduled date night, or do you take it when you can?
Is your partner a stay-at-home parent? What do you do to support them? Is it working out well for your family? (Have you ever been the stay-at-home parent?)
Readers, do you feel like you and your partner split PARENTING duties (and the mental load associated with them) evenly? Are you satisfied with how you split them, whether evenly or not? What are your best tips on how to share the mental load with parenting stuff?
Do you feel like you and your partner split household duties (and the mental load associated with them) evenly? Are you satisfied with how you split them (whether evenly or not)? What are your best tips on how to share the mental load with household duties?
When your partner “takes” a task, do they do the entirety of the task themselves — or do you find yourself doing part of the task for them? How do you feel about your partner taking full ownership of a task?
How do you handle the things that neither you nor your partner want to do? I can see three ways forward, but I’d love to hear your stories…
What have you done to improve your happiness, whether for yourself, your family, your kids or your marriage? (We’re asking the same Q at Corporette today!)
With household/parental tasks, do you ever think, “If I want it done right, I’ll just do it myself”? Welcome to the concept of weaponized incompetence…
If you don’t have outside help like a nanny, au pair, grandparent or babysitter, how are you sharing “work time” with your partner? Any great systems (or rants)?
Have you ever taken a vacation without kids? There’s a huge range here..
How do you deal when you have a different internal clock than your partner or your kids — i.e., when some of you are larks and some of you are owls? What changes have you made personally to accommodate people, such as going to bed earlier or getting up earlier?
How does your partner support your career — and how do you support his or hers? Once you became parents, did either of you feel pushed to step back or opt out in order to better support the family?