When Working Moms Should Hire A Cleaning Service

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Ladies, let’s just discuss: have you hired a cleaning service or cleaning professional to help clean your home? Did you hire a cleaning service BEFORE kids, or was it only something you investigated once you became a parent? (Or, did you ramp up from, say, a quarterly cleaning to a biweekly cleaning?) When would you advise other working moms to hire a cleaning service?

On the flip side, is the cost of daycare (or nanny or other childcare) so great that you can’t get behind the idea of hiring a cleaning service — and then have you gotten into the Flylady system or some other cleaning schedule for yourself (even if it’s just a last-minute cleaning system when company’s coming)? 

I still remember when I realized it was time for my family to use a cleaning service — it happened when my older son had just upgraded from the baby tub to the regular tub. For some reason, when I took my own showers I never noticed all the mold and soap scum on the tub, but sitting on the floor next to my son who was happily licking the walls and toys and drinking the dirty bathwater (WHY?), I was horrified.

Up until then, my routine for keeping a “clean house” involved 15 minutes every day when I wiped down counters, scrubbed toilets, dusted something, or organized something — but I realized that with a small, crawling, growing little man (who was licking weird stuff) that I needed to raise my game. I had no particular interest in spending more than 15 minutes a day cleaning — or even to scrub the tub on a regular basis! — so this kind of depressed me. 

Around the same time, as luck would have it, we went out for a date night with another married couple, and they started talking about how AMAZING their cleaning professional was. “She’s like the housekeeper I had when I was in London,” the husband, A,  gushed. The wife, my friend N, piped up: “Yes! She asked if she could organize A’s closet and then did a great job!” 

Psst: some of our favorite books on cleaning:

We expressed interest, and so they asked, and soon their cleaning professional, O, was cleaning our home once every two weeks. My home quickly became WAY cleaner than with my own cleaning method — not just cleaner, but more organized. There was at least ONE DAY every two weeks where I felt a sense of peace and calm coming from a 100% clean home. There is no way I could go back to the way things were before!

Some tips from someone who’s had a cleaning professional for a while:

  • Ask your friends and neighbors for recommendations. A Facebook group for your child’s school, a hyperlocal listserv, or a site like Nextdoor are great places to ask for recommendations. I’ve never worked with a cleaning service, just single-woman operations — I prefer knowing exactly who will be coming to clean my house and what the quality of work will be.
  • Specify if you want particular products used. Some cleaning professionals bring everything, while others will use what you have. (O even asked us to buy about $100 in products the first time she came to clean, including a fancy mop.) If you have definite opinions about whether you want green cleaning in your home, or you prefer unscented products or things like that, it’s a good idea to be very clear with them about that preference.
  • Do the pre-clean until you know them better. Some cleaning professionals will organize your stuff if you ask — but some won’t. I once hired someone who I thought could handle working “around” a few dirty dishes in the sink, but days later I found sharp knives sticking UP in the big canister we use to hold spatulas. Um, no thank you. I kind of love the pre-clean anyway, because I feel like my time is best spent organizing — almost anyone can clean the countertops, but only I can put the stuff away in the drawers underneath them. (And not to get into too much about emotional labor, but my experience 80% of the time is that my husband moves stuff from one solid surface to another in order to clear up the surface to be cleared, versus my usual attempt to actually return things to their rightful home. E.g., regular toys mixed with bath toys stay in the bathroom when he precleans the bathroom, whereas I try to put the regular toys back in the living room or wherever they belong.)
  • Have your house cleaned as regularly as you can. I tend to prefer a once-every-two-weeks cleaning because we can stand the mess until then, and we don’t have to commit hours every week to doing a pre-clean. I know one stay-at-home mom of three who prefers to get a weekly housekeeper rather than hire a mother’s helper or babysitter to take some of the pressure off herself.
  • Bask in the glory of your clean house. I like to host friends for dinner or schedule playdates during weeks after we’ve had our house cleaned — it feels like it gives us an “excuse” to socialize.

Readers who have already decided to hire a cleaning service, maid service, housekeeper or other cleaning professional — how did you find them? What are your best tips for other working moms who may be just starting to consider a housekeeper? What do you say to your kids about the situation?

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Thanks for the suggestion to have friends over after having our house cleaned so we can bask in the glory of the clean house. My husband and I both work full time, and I been thinking about hiring a residential cleaning service to take some of the pressure off of us at home. I’m glad I read your article because using the clean house as an reason to socialize makes me feel excited about finding a service to hire!

I like how you said it is okay to ask that they use particular products. I am thinking of getting a cleaning service. My children are very sensitive to smells. Knowing that I can request products that don’t have strong smells might be the incentive I need to get some help around the house.

I’m tired of cleaning all the soap scum on my bathtub. I think I’ll hire a maid service and ask my friends for recommendations on where to find one. Thanks for the tip that I should let them pre-clean before I hire them so I’ll know how clean they can clean.

I have had a cleaning service since I was 26 years old. (First child at 28) I will never give it up- I will eat dog food first. I’ve usually used service since I do not want to worry about taxes, social security etc. We now use an individual who was recommended. We are in a two bedroom condo- empty nesters and pay $80 every other week.

Sorry for the late reply. I use Merry Maids.

Does anyone have any recommendations or experience hiring a cleaning service in the NYC area? We are looking for someone and would appreciate any recommendations or more information on just what the market pricing is. Thank you in advance!

I have been a Secretary/office manager for most of my life. I have also been cleaning vacation rental homes and offices part time evenings and weekends for almost 20 years. As a single mom, I did what was necessary to provide. About 2 years ago I lost my full time desk job without warning. After weeks of interviews and job searches I started to give up hope. I began to pray even harder. It wasn’t long before the phone began to ring, with opportunities to work. But not sitting behind a desk all day, CLEANING HOUSES. I started out with about 4 clients and within a years time I had more than 20 houses to clean on a regular basis. My business was built solely on word of mouth referrals. I actually enjoy cleaning much more than being stuck in an office all day. I use essential oils in every way possible and I even make most of the cleaning products I use with non toxic ingredients like vinegar and baking soda. I feel accomplished at the end of the day knowing that the work I’ve done has made my client’s day and given them the opportunity to spend more time enjoying the things they love. I always say “A clean home is a happy home” My personal recommendation for hiring a cleaner is to ask friends and family or neighbors. A good cleaner listens to what you are looking for and helps design a plan that works within your budget. (at least that’s what I do) and I base my prices on the individual job as opposed to an hourly rate. This allows me the freedom to take my time and thoroughly clean your home from top to bottom. Every clean is a deep clean!

Before we had a child, we had a cleaning service once every two weeks. When I was pregnant, my first Mother’s Day present was to increase our cleaning service to once per week. Yes, my husband is amazing ????! We have used a few different cleaners over the years. I love the lady who owns the service we use now more than I love a few of my blood relatives. One thing I highly recommend is finding someone who will change all the bed linen. I leave clean sheets and they change every bed in the house. The previous week’s bed linen is washed when I get home from work and I toss it in the dryer. Doesn’t seem like much, but it is life changing.

You ALL would love me! I started my own natural cleaning business and I do all of it! Organize, redesign, laundry, scrub on my hands and knees….i see things out of place and dirt no one else would know is there. I’m not the cheapest…but we’ll worth it. For an event hire price, I’ll travel (wink)
It’s hard work, I physically hurt every day. Kind words go a long way. Tip, give a small gift just to say thank you. I love my clients and they me. I have one employee and my hubby now helps ad well as we expanded to offer handy man services. 5 star service so you feel like you are at s resort. We conquer chaos to bring peace in your home. Now…if I can just have one if me for my house!

I’ve never had a cleaning person, though I’ve considered it several times. We are the “clean but cluttered” house. I’d love someone to come and do a deep clean, but we always have tons of stuff sitting out on surfaces that never seem to find a home. It would be so much work for me to pre-clean that I might as well just do it myself. I’ve tried the Konmari thing and just wasn’t committed enough, but I have been in major de-stash mode, trying to live with less “stuff.” Truly hoping for a cleaning service at some point. Really wondering if I can justify the cost. For a couple hundred bucks…I always wonder if I should be doing something else with that money. Yep, the guilt is real.

I married a man from SE Ohio where apparently, they do not use toilet brushes. Did not realize til I , yes I, because he could not afford shit on his own, bought the family home. Thus, years in after the kids came, it was me or a service. I did pay a service for very long, against my better judgement. As my girls got older it turned out that it was not just bathroom duty he didn’t believe it, but most of the rest of the house.

I was paying a hispanic woman to pick up after him and my 2 girls because he wouldn’t back me up and make them pick up their shit. I was bringing in the big money, benefits and conveniences.

We divorced last year. That house smells nasty.

Do what you need to do——

I’m in big law (7th year) and finding it harder and harder to clean. Husband won’t do it, but works from home (not full time!) and doesn’t like someone coming in while he’s there. Or even when he’s not there. So the house is just dirty. Which I hate. And I get complaints from home that I don’t do enough around the house, even though I cook dinner and do the dishes every night while he watches tv, and even though he doesn’t clean either and has way more free time. Ugh.

YES to time being way more valuable.

Literally every single woman in leadership at my company (big 3 consulting firm) advises up and coming women to “work your life”, as literally the ONLY way to be able to work 70-80 hrs/week, primarily on the road, and have a family. The first thing to go was cleaning (since then, just about everything else has been outsourced, too). I’m not going to lie, it’s not a reasonable cost. If I did the math I’m sure I could retire a couple years earlier if I didn’t have a cleaning lady. But, I live in a top 3 HCOL place and nothing is reasonable. I did it pre-kids, but we have dogs which is really the biggest cleanliness demerit. I think if you’re type A it can prove challenging to let go of control even of menial tasks (for instance I had to count to 10 last night after coming home from being on the road to find out the nanny used a laundry detergent with a strong scent on my son’s clothes / pajamas… guess what, he’s still alive and well even after wearing strongly scented clothes ;), so it hasn’t always been easy for me to let go of everything being the control freak I am. But, I am an adamant believer that time is way way way way more valuable than money. I think if money is too tight, don’t clean your house; and/or splurge on a deep clean ever quarter/half year/year depending on what your budget allows. Bein exposed to germs and dirt are better for your overall health, anyway. Just let go… and let God (or insert whatever is applicable to what you believe/don’t believe)

This is fascinating! The first thing I did when I got a job after grad school was hire a cleaning service. My husband and I are both messy. We usually have the cleaners come every other week. We’ve done once a week when we had our house on the market and after our 2nd baby was born. That was almost too much because I constantly felt like I was tidying up. I guess that’s not a bad thing, but I felt like I couldn’t do things that took some time, like sorting too-small/out of season kids’ clothes. Between cleaning, I wipe down counters and kitchen table, sweep floor under kitchen table and that’s about it.