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AIMS says
That describes *exactly* how I feel about H&M. They also have excellent kids clothes, fwiw. I also find the kids’ section less overwhelming than the adult.
rosie says
Totally agree on the kids clothes.
Anonymous says
Also agree. I order it all online, though, so I think that helps with the overwhelming aspect of the store. I tried a few of their nursing bras but didn’t like the fit. I always meant to try some of their nursing shirts and dresses but I guess I didn’t want them bad enough because it never happened.
Anonymous says
This is how I feel about H&M too. I love the store in theory, but I find shopping there exhausting and their website isn’t great.
ANon says
I buy all of Baby’s clothes at H&M online now.
Lana Del Raygun says
So, I’ve finally decided to lean into the unsettling weirdness of pregnancy instead of feeling guilty about being weirded out and unsettled. For me, that means embarking on a marathon of pregnancy-themed horror movies and books. Any recommendations? I’ve got Alien, Rosemary’s Baby, and Little Otik on my list already.
KateMiddletown says
Definitely recommend a viewing of Juno and Knocked Up if the horror movies get to be too much!
Anonymous says
And Ali Wong’s specials on Netflix!
Artemis says
+1 forever. I laughed so hard at both of them.
anne-on says
+1 I laughed so hard I had to take a break on my rowing machine or I was going to fall off and/or hyperventilate.
Lana Del Raygun says
Haha I might also save those for while I’m up nursing at night!
shortperson says
https://www.thehairpin.com/2016/08/monstrous-births/#.x3ysbxq7x
Lana Del Raygun says
Whoa, this is great. Thank you so much!
Anonymous says
No recommendations but I like your attitude! Enjoy the growing succubus. (I mean this in the best possible way).
Lana Del Raygun says
Thank you! :)
lsw says
PREVENGE!
Artemis says
Also, maybe, Call the Midwife on Netflix? British show about female lay and nun nurse midwives in post-WWII poverty-stricken London. A baby or two is delivered every episode, and the labors and outcomes are all over the place, about as realistic as TV births are going to get, I think.
Mama Llama says
Caveat, I found this show incredibly traumatizing when I watched it while pregnant with my first.
Lana Del Raygun says
I started it long before I got pregnant and have continued watching it, but my husband has tapped out, ironically.
Anonymous says
Love this show, but could not handle it when I was pregnant.
AnoninNY says
Also love the show, but stopped when we started TTC! Looking forward to catching up again soon!
dc anon says
What would you wear to a bachelorette party in Miami? I am squarely in kid mode or work mode, so I have nothing to wear. I am also heavier than usual, but looking forward to some fun shopping. Ideas and links are greatly appreciated!
anon says
Not in Miami, but in a similarly hot, hip, city. Pants would be really uncomfortable in the heat and humidity, assuming the party is in the summer. I don’t think you can go wrong with a romper, black or white shorts and fun top, or jersey material dress. Maybe reach out to others who are going?
(I attended a bachelorette a few years ago. I wore jeans and a white shirt, which was totally appropriate for where we went, but everyone else wore cute dresses. Don’t be me.)
FP says
This seems like a great excuse to go to Zara or H&M and buy a couple of inexpensive, trendy dresses or rompers.
ElisaR says
I would do a dvf wrap dress. They are forgiving, fun, and can be worn over and over again.
Anonymous says
Depends on your body type. DvF isn’t forgiving on me at all and makes me look second trimester pregnant when I’m not.
Rainbow Hair says
Summer dresses! Maybe the cami dress from old navy?
Rabumba says
I’m almost eight months pregnant with my second, and I’m finding that my feet and ankles are swelling so much more than last time – so much so that I’m almost needing to buy wide width shoes for most afternoons. Are there any tricks that you used to keep your feet and ankles a reasonable size? I’ve tried standing more, standing less, walking more, walking less, feet up, and sitting more – but nothing seems to help. I’m wondering if this is just a function of being super pregnant in 100 degree weather, but am up to try almost anything!
mascot says
Have you tried swimming? Even sitting in a baby pool seemed to help and I guess a cool water bath could work too. Also eat lots of watery foods- I ate so much watermelon and cucumber that summer (august baby).
EB0220 says
YES, swimming! I also found that standing and walking caused my ankles and hands to swell so I tried to prop my feet up whenever possible. I did a lot of work sitting on my couch/bed (worked from home when I was pregnant).
Anonymous says
+1 to swimming!
Anonymous says
I’m guessing you hit the nail on the head if your doctor doesn’t have any concerns. FWIW, I kept flip flops in my office in the last month and only wore real shoes if I’d be seeing clients. Actually, I think it was the opposite…I kept my flats at my office and wore the flip flops to and from work and only changed out of them if I might see a client.
Anon says
Wore shoes as little as possible, kept my feet up, and did epsom salt soaks at night. The soaks were surprisingly effective.
preggo_anon says
No advice but I feel your pain. I’m about to stop wearing my wedding ring because I’m worried at some point I’m not going to be able to get it off.
ElisaR says
I dealt with this for my first pregnancy (oddly not my 2nd? who knows). The thing that helped me was that I brought in a little stool for under my desk. Just propping up my feet 12-18 inches helped immensely. I found when I sat with my feet on the floor under my desk the swelling was much worse.
Emily S. says
Same here! That plus compression socks (ugly but necessary) helped keep my swelling with my 2nd down.
ANon says
I got very swollen toward the end of my pregnancy, too, and there wasn’t anything I could do to stop it. I minimized how much my feet and ankles swelled by doing the things you mention (e.g., propping my feet up on an overturned bankers’ box under my desk). But I also bought inexpensive wide-width pumps at Payless to get me through the last two months. I felt so much better once I switched to wide-width shoes.
Anonymous says
Mom of a July 30 baby…and we didn’t have central AC at the time!
Swimming, drink a TON of water, keep feet elevated whoever possible. For me that included putting pillows under my fitted sheet to keep my feet up at night. My sweet dad actually bought me a foot massage contraption after seeing my feet. It worked well AND it entertained my toddler to boot.
Wear flip flops. Buy cheap wide width shoes. My swelling went away about a week after I delivered, with no lasting changes to my shoe size.
Private or public says
Has anyone purchased a home in a cheaper area and put their kids in private schools? What are the pros and cons of this approach versus buying in a better location and putting the kids in the good public schools?
This is the scenario that we are debating now. We are strongly considering a relocation to a VHCOL area (Bay Area) for jobs and to be closer to both of our families. HHI income will likely be 400 – 450 K, which I realize is a princely sum but many friends tell me that even that salary is not that high for the Bay Area. Real estate is insane and I feel sick thinking of buying a $2.5 or $3 M home. We need to live somewhere on the Peninsula close to SF (Millbrae, SSF, Burlingame, San Mateo). We have 2 kids and potentially a third on the way.
We have always lived in small apartments and buying a big fancy house is not a priority for us, but excellent schools are. I have heard that even the public schools in the super rich cities like Palo Alto are not even that great due to significant budget cuts. The last thing I want to do is pay for a pricey home AND private school on top of that.
So, we’re thinking of buying a place in a cheaper area (like Millbrae or San Mateo) and putting the kids in private schools. I’m a public school kid and am not crazy about this idea, but I also don’t want to have golden handcuffs and feel tied to paying a super expensive mortgage every month.
Thoughts? Appreciate any advice.
OP says
I posted on the main page but also decided to come here since some of you don’t visit the other page and this is kid related. Thanks!
Betty says
I would approach the question with a different question: What are your goals for your family? In our area, the “best” schools are in the highest COL towns. We opted not to live there and choose a nearby town where the schools are good but we could buy with a lower mortgage. The school that my kids attend is an older building; there are not as many bells and whistles. However, the lower mortgage allows us to travel, gives DH and I freedom in our jobs and the ability to build a good emergency fund, nest egg and college accounts. And there has been a secondary benefit: It is not “the best” so there is less pressure in the school to have kids in 45 after-school activities, there is more variety in what “success” looks like among the parents, and I really like those things for myself and my kids.
I would also take a look at what truly differentiates the schools. Are you judging by test scores? If so, does those test scores account for differences in ELL or SES? Are the schools safe? Which schools are more supportive of working parents (after school programs v. concerts held in the middle of the day)? Have you visited the schools or talked with any of the teachers?
anon says
If I were you I would look at San Carlos/Belmont. Schools are excellent, and it’s still reasonably priced (for the Peninsula, which isn’t saying a lot). That said, a lot of people do what you’re proposing. The thing to keep in mind is that if you have three kids, three private school tuitions adds up pretty quickly. Obviously, you need to run the numbers to see how it works. I was looking at a school that was $25k/year, and with three kids, that’s $75k for school alone. We also looked at Catholic schools, which are cheaper, but still.
In terms of finding good schools, I would look for something with a diversity and a strong parents group. We are very happy with our public school, which has an amazing community (we are in San Jose, so probably too far for you).
OP says
Thanks so much. Have heard great things about San Carlos but it’s just so far from SF. I hate driving so would be taking the train, and Cal Train is notoriously slow. I know that everyone is used to long commutes in the Bay Area but a short(er) commute is really important to both of us.
SC says
A couple of thoughts–unless you live or work near your target private school, you will almost certainly be adding to your commute. I grew up commuting at least 30 minutes each way, and for my parents, that meant a couple of extra hours in the car.
Remember that neither your house nor your school choice has to be forever. You could send your kids to private school for elementary and middle school and to a magnet school for high school–or vice versa. You could move to a different district when your kids enter high school.
In general, if there’s a district where really good public schools are an option, and you can get a mortgage there, I’d choose that. Private school for 2-3 kids all the way through school is a LOT of money (for rough numbers, $20,000 x 14 x 3 = $840,000). If the value of your house includes a premium for the school district, you can sell when your kids go to college and buy in a cheaper town.
Anonymous says
In the SF bay area, private school is more like $40k/year so it’s actually more on the order of $1.5M to put three kids through private school. I would much rather have that invested in a house.
anon says
Oh, this. I know a lot of people around here who have unbelievable private school commutes. Like live in Los Gatos, work in San Jose, school is in Redwood City kind of a thing.
My recommendation is to try and find a good elementary/middle school. High school in the Bay Area is tough – a lot of the highly ranked schools have reputations for being ultra competitive, but on the other hand high school is only four years and the cost is easier to manage.
I went to private school when I was in middle and high school, and the other downside was that none of my friends lived anywhere close to me. To go out on the weekends was 20-30 minutes each way. I hardly ever saw them during the summer because of this (at least until I could drive). Also, I was a cheerleader, and that meant that my parents had to drive me back to school for games in the evenings.
Finally, I mean this gently, but there is a steep cost to living in the Bay Area, and it is unlikely that you be able to get a good commute, plus the right schools, plus affordable housing, especially close to SF. You might also want to think about renting.
Anonymous says
Someone said this on the main page too but it was late in the thread – if you opt for the not-as-great public schools, think about what other educational stuff you can do with that money. I was an academically accelerated kid, and got much more out of extracurriculars and summer camps where I could be with other gifted kids and learn advanced subjects than I did out of my good public school. If going private or buying in the best school district will pinch your budget and prevent your kids from going to educational summer camps or taking university classes in high school, I’d think twice.
In House Lobbyist says
We were in a really cool hip area of town where no one sent their kids to public school that were in our income bracket. Everyone moved away when their kids were school age or went to private school. We moved to the suburbs/country with the best ranked schools in the state and guess what – now we homeschool and may end up in private school as they get older because we weren’t impressed with the public schools. Luckily, we got a great deal so even though we moved to a higher income county, our mortgage isn’t too bad and we can still be happy in the country. We are in the SE so I can’t give you any specific recommendations but just wanted to let you know that we moved solely for schools and ended up not even using them.
AwayEmily says
Nursing bra recommendations for very small-chested ladies? I’d love one that was lighter for summer — I feel like most of the ones I’ve tried on are fairly heavy-duty contraptions (which makes sense since I think most nursing moms need that kind of support, but I do not). Cheap is also good.
Anonymous says
I used sports bras or Coobies.
AwayEmily says
oh awesome, I didn’t realize that Coobies made nursing bras.
GCA says
They do now! I used the regular Coobies 3 years ago and just pulled them up to nurse along with my shirt (for whatever reason, the pull-up-and-expose-the-belly strategy vs pull-down-and-expose-decolletage just worked better with my anatomy and baby – no longer remember why :))
Knope says
This: https://www.amazon.com/CAKYE-Maternity-Nursing-Breastfeeding-Pregnancy/dp/B0148MOY3Y/ref=sr_1_16?ie=UTF8&qid=1530195686&sr=8-16&keywords=crossover+nursing+bra.
Is baby here yet, though? I was small-chested before and even during pregnancy. When my milk came in, not so much.
AwayEmily says
Thanks! I like the crossover style but it doesn’t work with many of my shirts (I have a lot of U-necked shirts that I pull down to nurse, and so the crossover bras are visible).
Baby has been here for five months so things have settled back down (when my milk first came in it was a different story).
Anonymous says
H&M has some. I haven’t tried them so can’t really recommend or not recommend them. I just know they’re there.
Anonymous says
Target has some great nursing bralettes in the Gilligan O’Malley brand. I’m a D cup while nursing and they’re not supportive enough for me to leave the house in, but I wear them for lounging around at home. If you’re an A/B you could probably wear them to work.
Anonymous says
I used very cheap cotton bralettes from aerie (not sure they still make something similar) and just pulled down the cup to nurse. I always needed a nursing pad anyway so the lack of lining was not an issue.
AwayEmily says
Somewhat related to this nursing bra conversation (thanks for all the suggestions btw!) — I feel like there is not enough talk about the timeline of nursing. With my first kid, I had no idea about how your milk suddenly comes in and your b**bs are enormous, or that you’d leak constantly for the first few months but then it would slow down/stop, or that at some point the baby will get more efficient, or that supply drops eventually…and I know that all this varies a lot from baby to baby and woman to woman, but the general timeline is pretty standard and something I was completely clueless about, despite doing a LOT of reading about childbirth/nursing/etc. thank god for this website.
Anyway, things have been much better with kid #2 mostly because I realized that the awful early stage would pass quickly and nursing wouldn’t always be a horror show that left both of us covered in milk and vomit.
LH says
I wish I’d known that the first few days aren’t necessarily crucial to establishing breastfeeding. My few drops of colostrum just weren’t enough for my hungry 9 lb-er, which meant that she was on the breast every hour (or less), crying in between feedings, and my nipples were all torn up and bleeding. I wanted to supplement with formula so I could get a break and some sleep, but the lactation consultants at my hospital told me if I gave her formula, it would be the end of our breastfeeding journey and I just couldn’t bring myself to give up completely. Thankfully, our hospitalist pediatrician was wonderful and told me “In a couple days, no matter what you do, your breasts are going to be dripping with milk. Give her some formula now and put her back on the breast as soon your milk comes in.” That’s exactly what I did and 5 months later I’m still BF-ing and she hasn’t any formula since that first week. If/when I have #2, I’m not even going to attempt breastfeeding until my milk comes in.
Everyone I know sings the praises of LCs so much, but I really can’t stand how negative they are about supplementing or combo feeding, since it can work out really well for a lot of people and confer many (if not most) of the benefits of EBFing. I’ve found pediatricians to be much more in line with my attitude, which is the more breastmilk the better but formula is not in any way harmful.
GCA says
So true. Our LC was focused on breastfeeding almost to the exclusion of all else. Baby was jaundiced and too sleepy from the jaundice to latch, and we struggled mightily to bf. Pediatrician advised us to supplement with formula. From the LC, I got the usual scare tactics that if I gave him formula it would kill my milk supply, that bottle feeding would cause nipple confusion, etc. Not useful in the slightest when day after day we’d go in for blood draw after blood draw and baby’s bili levels kept climbing for the first week. (I ended up nursing for almost 20 months after the first couple weeks of difficulties, so…)
Anonymous says
Agree that your LC was perhaps not helpful, but a GOOD LC is worth their weight in gold. The hospital LCs are often tied by certain restrictions that the hospital puts on them and are not always as highly licensed as a private practitioner. My LC worked with me to supplement and still bring baby to breast/boost supply and I never felt like she was judging my choices. Just wanted to chime in in case someone reading would be helped by hearing it. If your LC makes you feel bad/guilty, look for another one!
Anonymous says
Different experience – our hospital LC insisted that we supplement because of jaundice (even though at the time it was very emotional for me to do that), and when we had major struggles with pain later (possibly due to the baby’s extreme tongue tie) another LC was the one who told me “you know, you don’t have have to nurse – formula is also fine.”
Anonymous says
very true LH. I will say that the milk coming in was SO different the 2nd time around. I was sopping wet all the time. It came in very quickly and there was way too much. I didn’t experience that the first time. so maybe you won’t have to deal with it taking a long time to come in next time!
EB0220 says
I wore these pretty much constantly. You may not want a cami in addition to a shirt in the summer, but I am tall and pretty much always wear a cami to lengthen my shirt anyway.
https://www.target.com/p/women-s-nursing-cotton-cami-gilligan-o-malley-153/-/A-13793418
EB0220 says
Sorry, that was supposed to be for AwayEmily.
Anonymous says
I really like Momzelle – they come in smaller sizes and I found they were less full coverage than most nursing bras. They were wireless but still made me feel like I was wearing a “regular’ bra.
Anonymous says
Also meant for AwayEmily. agh.
Anonymous says
Paging dc anon- I would get a romper or jumpsuit for a Miami bachelorette! I recently got on the jumpsuit bandwagon after ordering one from Old Navy of all places. I think with some block heel sandals they look super chic and are more versatile than a short skin tight dress. Have fun!
Cb says
H&m nursing bras are great – no real support but very soft and comfortable. I also have one from Lamaze that I like.
I found I was too small for the crossover style – I couldn’t get anything out and over the crossover?
Anonymous says
I liked the crossover style best for my super causal sleep bras.
Anonssa says
Ugh can’t figure out how to post on my phone but dc anon- short answer: jumpsuit/romper and block heeled sandals!
EB0220 says
PSA: 40% off sale items at Tea Collection. Our absolute favorite for pretty, soft, high-quality dresses.
shortperson says
tea sales are my weakness
EB0220 says
Same. I tell myself it’s OK because I plan to hand things down at least 2-3 times to my younger daughter and my nieces!
Toddlers on a Plane! says
Best iPad apps for toddlers on a plane? I have the Peekaboo games but was thinking about adding a drawing app to keep my 15 month old entertained. Also plan to have sticker books, small toys, etc. Will take any other (app or not) suggestions!
Penelope says
Three winning suggestions that I got on this site are roll of blue tape, Melissa and Doug watercolor books, and the Friskies Cat Game App(touch the fish). Also puzzle books (big pieces) were a huge hit with my 18 month old on recent cross country flights.
Anonymous says
Best one ever is called Video Touch — it’s like 5 second videos of cars/animals/instruments etc. A stranger handed us his phone with this app on it when we were traveling with a 16 month old who was having a hard time, and it was magic– at that age ours was really too young for almost any other app, video, sticker book, etc. There’s a free version but totally worth springing for the paid version especially as baby gets a little older. We also got a lot of mileage, at that age, out of balling up a little piece of paper and putting it in and out of a toy dump truck.
Anonymous says
Same anonymous– we also had a lot of success with small wind-up toys at that age.
Anonymous says
Hahah- that stranger 100% sounds like my husband. He frequently travels for work and is always the guy offering a package of sticky notes to a desperate parent. We have toddlers and tons of nieces and nephews and he just… gets it.
He has a video downloaded which is just like 20 minutes of a tractor driving around and also one of just different boats. On a recent flight from a major military base city, a mom traveling solo with an infant and a toddler was seated next to him. He and the toddler became besties and watched those videos when Mom had to deal with one of those apocalyptic flights with an infant that you just dread.
Walnut says
Your husband is awesome. I will be indebted forever to the kind person who bought me a glass of wine while solo flying with a 1 and 2.5 year old. Also many thanks to the flight attendant who filled that glass to the brim and comped a snack box.
EB0220 says
I wrote a blog post a while ago about flying with a baby and got actually teary thinking of all of the awesome people who helped me when I flew solo (10+ times at least) with a baby and/or baby+toddler. So many kind people helped me with luggage, distracted my kids or returned lost items to me.
Anon in NYC says
Not an app suggestion, but my kid has enjoyed some of the Sandra Boynton books on her kindle. I’m thinking of Barnyard Dance, for example. If she touches the characters, they move. There’s another one (a clothing related one?) that she enjoys too.
Anonymous says
Yes – we still like this at age 6. They are a lot of fun.
Anonymous says
I mean “we”–royally speaking–are 41 but our son is 6 and still likes them.
Anonymous says
Lego game is my kids’ favorite, but i can’t recall how young they started being interested.
Anonymous says
In addition to the Peekaboos, my 2 year old loves “Itsy Bitsy” which is a simple game composed around the Itsy Bitsy Spider song. It’s cute.
shortperson says
two silicon muffin cups and request three ice cubes
anon says
Also LOVE the waterbooks. As far as apps go – balloon pop (or bubbles), toca kitchen, the weird santa one where you can cut his hair are ones that come to mind. There are also ones where the child can trace letters, but 15 months may be a little young for this.
Anonymous says
+1 to Balloon pop / Baby Balloons. my almost-2 year old just pokes at the screen randomly no matter what is in front of him, so things that can’t be “messed up” with random touches are key.
Explaining divorce says
Reposting from yesterday-
My sister and her husband are getting divorced. Any ideas/resources for how to explain this to my kids, who have known their uncle since they were born? They are actually closer to my BIL than my sister, who has several major mental health issues, but they are close to both – my girls were in the wedding and still talk about it. My oldest is 5 and asks about her uncle all the time- they live halfway across the country so we don’t see them more than 1-2x/year, but we used to FaceTime a ton. Now we FaceTime one or the other but they’re never together- and my kids are noticing.
Related, there are some kids that my daughter goes to school with that have half-siblings that live with them part time. So she’s curious why so-and-so’s sisters are there sometimes and not others. I explained the relationship (they have a different mom that they live with but the same dad as your friend) but she’s asking a lot of follow up questions.
FWIW my sister and BIL don’t have kids, so there are no cousins involved. BIL is one of DH’s best friends, even though they live 1k miles away. We don’t have a lot of empathy/sympathy for my sister (she’s the one that wants divorce), but she’s blood so she’s not going anywhere.
Anonymous says
Following. My sister and her bf (who was an unofficial uncle to my kids) just broke up, and not quite sure how to explain it. Different in my situation because he is pretty much out of the picture now.
JDMD says
I don’t have firsthand experience with this, so I apologize in advance if this advice is misguided…
I saw the “Won’t You Be My Neighbor?” documentary about Fred Rogers last week, and it mentioned the episodes he did about divorce. Here’s a recap of one of the episodes:
http://www.neighborhoodarchive.com/mrn/episodes/1476/index.html
And some additional information from his foundation:
https://www.fredrogers.org/parents/special-challenges/divorce.php
http://pbskids.org/rogers//parentsteachers/theme/1476_t.html
As a side note, the movie is terrific. I had a lot of memories of watching Mr. Rogers as a kid (and finding him kinda hokey at the time, TBH), but watching him now, I am astonished at how he explored really challenging topics. Assassination? Cold War politics? King Friday building a wall because of fear and anger?
Anonymous says
+1 to Mister Rogers for this and most other tough topics.
Side note, I didn’t realize how much I loved Mister Rogers until I literally burst into tears the first time I watched Daniel Tiger with my kids and he sang the “I’ll be back /when the day is new / and I’ll have more ideas for you” part at the end.
5 Year Old Soccer Socks says
Does anyone have a recommendation on where to find soccer socks (to go over shin guards) for a 5 year old? She wears 5Tish clothing. I’m striking out on Amazon. Thanks!!
mascot says
Target sells the Umbro line now so try that. At that age, he really liked the socks that had the interior pocket where you could slip in the shin guard and not have to deal with compression sleeves or foot straps or any of that. Try the Wilson Peewee Soccer Sock Guard -other brands make similar concepts the ‘zon should have them.
Anonymous says
These worked for us. Maybe a bit large for your average 5-yo, but you can always fold them over twice: https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B00DF0S342/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&psc=1
EB0220 says
These worked for us in XS. Although my 5 yo is a bit bigger than average.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00SGTAA0M/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&psc=1
Anonymous says
Okay, so this is the weirdest post ever, but I feel the need to share, and I don’t want my real friends to judge the crap out of me. I recently thought I might follow a D-List-ish celebrity of Facebook, because I’ve really been liking his work on TV and am genuinely interested in further projects he might have. I searched for him on FB and all I found was just a normal FB account that (while mostly secure) very much just seemed like a typical FB account with photos we all would want to un-tag but can’t and all that. It also led me to his wife’s account which was even more a regular person’s account with snapshots, comments with friends that were viewable, etc. I don’t know why, but it just seemed so bizarre that a celebrity is doing something so “regular” and accessible. I figured I’d find a fan page kept up by a professional with headshots and nothing else.
Anonymonster says
I want to know who the celebrity is!
ElisaR says
haha me too!
“stars, they’re just like us!”