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Household Help says
I think we have hit the point where we are ready to pay for extra help. We already have housekeepers that come every other week and do the heavy cleaning. What I am envisioning (and DH is on board) is someone to come once a week for 2-3 hours. Tasks I have in mind are folding all the laundry (I’m particular about the washing of it, so I want to keep that, but I just pile it up on our spare bed and it waits for (sadly) sometimes months at a time), light pick-up of toys, loading and unloading the dishwasher, maybe running the vacuum. Wishlist, but things that I think are probably more involved from a time investment perspective from me (which I don’t currently have), include perhaps light meal prep (we already get groceries delivered), sorting and putting away the mountains of clothes my kid has grown out that are stacked everywhere, etc. Ideally this person who we presumably get comfortable with being in our home might also be available for the occasional babysitting job for a date night or an event, but not a requirement (or regular part of the job). We’ve asked around our neighborhood thinking this would be good for a high school or college student, but no bites. When I started looking online, I feel like we’re in this weird category where we need a “housekeeper” but I’m not looking for cleaning services – that is already covered. Kind of like a mother’s helper but without the baby-watching part? Anyone been able to find this type of assistance or tips for finding it? And suggestions for what the going hourly rate is or should be – given the amount of hours I think we would want to pay through a service to make sure all is above-board? For context, we currently pay $120 per visit for the housekeepers (4BR, 2.5BA, 2300 sq. ft.).
Anonymous says
I paid $20/hr for three hours through a regular cleaning service (just one lady but she had her own company with insurance etc). She folded and put away the kids laundry (3 kids, usually 2 baskets full) – I washed like you because I’m also picky on that, changed the sheets (I left fresh sheets on each bed), and vacuumed the main floor (kitchen living room etc). That took three hours. I had her come every second week (the week our regular cleaners weren’t there) and DH and I did the laundry/sheet change on the other week.
If you’re having someone every week, I’d have the light cleaning tasks on the opposite week from your cleaners and meal prep tasks on the week your cleaners come.
Audrey III says
Following with interest! This is exactly something I’m looking for. My only comment is I think with what you’ve described above, sounds like more a 5-6 hour a week job, or even more? (Or were you meaning to say 2-3 hours per day?) I wonder if you’re advertising for a job for 2-3 hours a week, if that’s preventing you getting any bites?
luluaj says
I have something similar to this. Our house cleaners come weekly and our nanny is at the house 3 days a week. On at least one of the two days that we don’t have the nanny, we have a college student come in the afternoon. She empties the DW, does kid laundry and tidies up playroom, entrance way and whatever project I ask (e.g. clean out kids closets or pantry). She then gets my son off the bus and watches him for about 90 minutes. I pay her a flat rate (60-80 per week depending on if I’ve given her more work) and she determines when she wants to arrive and finish the work. I think some days it takes her 20 minutes. We pay our cleaners 120 a week as well for a slightly smaller house but HCOL area.
Anon says
I have almost exactly this. She comes in the mornings a few times a week, put the kids on the bus, and then chops veggies, puts away kids laundry, light clean up a and random errands as needed. She’s a college student. Try posting with the local universities directly. I pay $20/hr to make it worth her time to drive out and back. In my experience, it won’t be worth it for somebody to make $40-$60 a week, so either you won’t find anybody or they’ll quit pretty quickly. If you can afford it, I would either add on more days or add on to your regular housekeeping.
Anonymous says
Not a direct answer to your question, but how old are your kids? My oldest is 7 and I’ve just come to this realization that 7 year olds can actually do a bunch of things. Like…I had her clean up the entire living room filled with kid toys and random crap that belonged in other rooms. She can fully empty the dishwasher (she uses a stool to get to the slightly too high cabinets). She folds laundry! Like does a good job of it! And then my 4 year old wanted to be a Big Helper too, so I came up with jobs for her- she puts the laundry away, cleans the mudroom (this means putting all the shoes where they go, hanging up all the coats that are strewn about, and running the vaccuum). I recently had all 3 kids (2/4/7) clean out the car and was amazed at what a really halfway decent job they did.
I honestly felt so dumb when I realized what lazy slobs my kids had turned into and now I feel like a genius having discovered my kids are competent. I’m planning to carve out some bigger jobs for my older one this summer and pay her for them (weeding the garden, sorting old clothes, that sort of thing).
It doesn’t solve everything but it definitely may get you closer to where you want to be if your kids are of an age to start being useful.
Household Help says
Still too young to be useful without supervision – oldest is 2.5 – favorite housekeeping activities are unfolding folded clothes, swinging a broom like a fighting stick from Mulan (grunts included) and upending freshly cleaned up toy buckets in the blink of an eye, although she is a big helper when it comes to unloading the dishwasher.
ElisaR says
sounds just like my kids. so very helpful.
Anonymous says
You are looking for a housekeeper! Nearly all your tasks are cleaning! Just hire one of them.
Jessamyn says
When running short on laundry last week, I bought 3-4 new pairs of leggings for each of my kids from Amazon. But then they arrived yesterday, and meanwhile the weather has gotten a lot warmer and is likely to stay that way until next winter (Gulf Coast, bb). So even though it’s less than $40 worth of merchandise, and we probably “could” use the extras, I’m going to go ahead and return them. Sigh. How do you toe that line between being an under-buyer and having way too much clutter?
Cb says
How would you feel about donating them? You hear horror stories about Amazon returns just going in the dumpster. I imagine new, unwashed leggings would be an amazing thrift store find for someone.
Anonymous says
I would keep them until the kids grow out of them, then donate them. You never know when there will be a cold snap.
This is one of the many reasons I avoid buying from Amazon whenever possible. Returns are so much easier at Target and Old Navy, and I suspect that things are more likely to be resold when returned to a store.
Anon says
Apparently the vast majority of donated clothes go straight to a landfill too.
anon says
Boy, that’s the million-dollar question, isn’t it? By the end of the season, things are starting to wear out or are getting outgrown, etc. (RIP to my daughter’s favorite pink leggings, which now have a big hole in the knee.) Past a certain point, I won’t buy more for the season and try to make do, even if it means doing laundry more frequently. But really, I think you can get enough use out of leggings that it may not be worth sending them back.
Anonymous says
You do the best you can and let it go. I think Amazon does resell at least some returns, because we buy plenty of Amazon warehouse deals – “packaging may be damaged” – and also people constantly mention items looking like they were resold returns in reviews.
Anonymous says
Well, I never buy clothes when I could just do the laundry? Step one!
Anon says
+1 the consumerism here is really baffling to me at times. Do your damn laundry! If you’re soooo busy and important that you can’t do laundry, pay sometime to do your laundry. Don’t buy new sh1t you don’t need.
Anonymous says
So you own two pairs of underwear, and was one while you wear the other?
Anonymous says
*wash one* (not was one)
Anon says
Of course I don’t do laundry every day; don’t be obtuse. But normal people realize they have to do their laundry when they run out of clean clothes and don’t just go out and buy more clothing just because they find themselves with a big pile of dirty clothes. That’s terrible for the environment and a terrible message to send your kids. They don’t want to do their chores? Fine, they can just buy more crap!
Jessamyn says
I dono, is it really that crazy to own 3-4 more pairs of leggings in order to have to do laundry only half as often? By that rationale why not have one pair and wash them daily? The issue is more the change in weather, if we were in for 2 more months of 50 degree days I would absolutely keep them.
Anonymous says
You’re the one who said you were behind on laundry so you bought 3-4 more pairs of leggings for all your kids. Yes, I think that is crazy and wasteful.
anon says
Not having enough of a clothing rotation to last a typical laundry cycle is a perfectly good reason to buy additional clothing for her children. I mean, she isn’t throwing the dirty ones away in lieu of washing them. Nothing crazy that I can see.
Anonymous says
What? In my house, we only have time to do laundry at the weekend. This means that every person needs to have at least 10 wearable outfits per season—a full week’s worth, plus one to wear while
doing laundry, another in case we don’t have time to do laundry on saturday and it has to wait until sunday, and a spare in case one gets dirty during the week. If your kids are younger and grimier, you need even more extras.
Anonymous says
She said “running short on laundry” which I interpreted to read her kids needed more clean clothes. This could be because laundry happened less often than normal or that kids need more clothes to go long enough between typical laundry loads. I chose to assume OP is not an idiot who never does laundry since she is already feeling guilty about poorly assessing clothing needs.
Anonymous says
Way to be willfully obtuse. Sigh. She didn’t say “oops we’ve only got one pair.”
Anonymous says
Agree that it’s crazy and wasteful. For reference, I only do the kids laundry once per week. They all have about two weeks worth of clothes per season before I have to do laundry.
Washing machines usually have a quick wash cycle – 18 minutes for 3-5 items and it’s done. Toss in the dryer and in about 30 minutes total you have clean leggings.
Jessamyn says
Mmm yea perhaps could have been clearer. We do laundry once a week. “Running short” on laundry, specifically for pants, was due to a few factors: my daughter recently ripping a pair of her leggings (which I also made a post about! apparently this is something I need lots of input on) and her outgrowing a few other pairs, and my deciding that another pair was too faded for her to wear anymore. All of it added up to me having to put her in a dress and tights because we were out of pants.
Anonymous says
You get the advice you ask for. You said late on laundry not “she only had one pair that fit”
Anonymous says
OP didn’t say whether she’d done laundry two weeks prior or two days prior. In our house, we do kiddo’s laundry twice per week (all together on cold, one load). To make that possible, she needs at least 5 pairs of pants. Usually she has 5-8.
Anonymous says
I hope someone has a tip for this issue – my 3 year old has learned how to slide down the chest clip on the car seat and gets her arms out while we’re driving. Of course this is terrifying to me when I see what she’s done and think about the possibility of getting into an accident. We have a Graco Extend2Fit. The straps are at the correct height and sufficiently tight and we start the chest clip out at the armpit level. She’s very good at following directions so I remind her not to do it and explain it keeps her safe, but of course she’s 3 so she forgets and does. Any advice!?
Anon says
My 2 year old unbuckled the chest clip once. I freaked out and she’s never done it again (even though she’s not a rule follower in general). It is scary though. I take solace in the fact that we’re pretty much never on a highway without a parent in the backseat with her. If we had to commute on a highway I think I’d be more stressed about it.
Clementine says
big safety pin or diaper pin below the clip
Anonymous says
Tape it closed with duct tape each time? Honestly I’m confused how she can get her arms out if it’s adjusted properly in terms of tightness and height. Forward facing is straps at or above shoulder height. If you put them at and not above shoulder height maybe that will give her less room to work with. Otherwise, I think you just need to be very strict on her not being allowed to touch the straps at all. Like if you are going to the playground and she does it, you go home.
Anonymous says
She slides it all the way down to the buckle so she has plenty of room to wiggle her arms through the middle. I’m very big on carsest safety and I knew someone would chime in with “it’s prob not tight enough”. I assure you it is.
Anon says
Is it possibly too tight? I’ve heard that sometimes makes kids more likely to fiddle with their straps.
Anonymous says
I’m just confused that she can move it up and down. I’ve had Britax Marathons, Clek Fllos, Maxi Cosi, and Graco Tranizitions between the three kids and I can’t recall it being easy to move a chest clip up and down. Like after the buckle is done, then the chest clip done, sometimes I struggle to move it up or down to get the right spot.
FVNC says
I think it’s just a difference in car seats. In my car we currently have a Britax and a Graco (no idea what models) and the Britax clip is difficult to move up and down, and the Graco clip slides easily. Not an issue for us, but I can totally see how a kid could move it, if so inclined.
Anonymous says
OP here – we’ve used a Britax on vacation twice and yes the chest strap was much harder to move than her Graco.
Katarina says
My son can do this in his Chicco Nextfit. It seems to have gotten better, but I am not sure what I did.
LadyNFS says
My 2.5 year old does this and I am equally freaked out (and yes, straps are tight and pass the “pinch test”). Following with interest because I don’t know how to handle, either.
HSAL says
I’ve seen suggestions to button a shirt over the clip, but I’m not sure how that works logistically. Could you put the chest clip higher? I’ve read that with newborns, the armpit recommendation is important because they just don’t have that much vertical space the clip can safely go, but with older kids you have more placement room. Otherwise I pretty much agree with Anonymous at 10:56.
Anon says
This is the suggestion I usually see, too. You put a button-up shirt on your kid leave it unbuttoned while you buckle her in, and the do the buttons over the straps and chest clip. It’s a royal pain, though, so I’d work on teaching her to remember it’s not safe to touch her straps.
Anonymous says
I just yelled at my kid really loudly and she never did it again. For a while I did a Stern Reminder every time we got in the car.
Anonymous says
Yeah I think 3 is old enough for a kid to respond to a Serious Talking To about this.
Anonymous says
How about making it Not a Thing? Give her a book or a water wow or a snack or your phone/ an ipad to hold while in the car to keep her busy with something else.
Anon says
We’ve explained to my kids that this is something that we could get in trouble with the police for. (i.e. not having a kid properly constrained). My super-trusted-well-experienced-daycare woman once recommended that tactic to me. I think most young kids get the idea of what a police officer is, and that means it is serious. Just to help differentiate the level of seriousness in their mind between me telling not to do that, vs. me telling them not to make a mess or something.
Obviously, you want to try do this in a way that doesn’t make the police seem scary to them (in case they need to later go to the police for help for something else! among other reasons), so you probably want to talk through the reason why we would get in trouble is b/c the police person wants us to stay safe.
Anonymous says
We say “it’s against the law to drive a car if everyone isn’t buckled up.” Then pull over until they buckle up if necessary.
ALC says
After doing absolutely nothing different (except putting him to bed about 15 minutes early), baby slept 11 hours straight last night! Who knows if that will continue but it sure was nice. Thanks again for all your advice yesterday!
anon says
Yeah, isn’t it nice when it just happens like magic? He will probably do it now and then for a few weeks or months, then gradually slide into a pattern of doing it more and more often. Perhaps so slowly that it doesn’t feel like progress. Or maybe that’s just my frustration talking.
Anonymous says
My son slept for 12 hours in a row for three blissful nights at the end of a 4 month old sleep regression, then didn’t repeat it for months (he went back to waking up 1x a night to eat, which seemed reasonable as we were breastfeeding), but it was glorious.
Katy says
HOORAY. isn’t it amazing how good you feel!? (I hope you got to sleep instead of waking up at all the normal times.
Anon Lawyer says
How old is he? Give me hope!
ALC says
7.5 months!
Anon Lawyer says
Hahah maybe if I just hang on for four more months then. :-)
Anon says
for those of you with ‘big” jobs, or jobs that involve a lot of calls/meetings – how do you find the time to take care of personal items that have to be dealt with during business hours. I already take care of most of this stuff (which i am ok with), but DH is in a job where he has a lot of calls and can’t seem to find the time to deal with stuff. or even more generally – if you are in a job where there is always more work to do, how do you make the time to do personal things. he is open to strategies/suggestions, so I told him I’d ask my internet friends for ideas
Anonymous says
Block time in your calendar so no one can schedule a meeting.
Anon says
What kind of personal items? I generally schedule things I have to do in person (doctor’s appointments) for early morning or last appointment of the day. Everything else I try to handle online (grocery ordering, clothes and other shopping, bill pay) or through a phone call (pharmacy refill by mail over the phone – or to the 24 hour pharmacy), coordinating appointments, etc. On days where I spend all day on calls and I am doing all of the talking or have significant note-taking to do, nothing gets done. Otherwise I try to fit it in where a call ends early, a meeting gets canceled, etc.
Anonanonanon says
Luckily, we an make routine doc appointments and refill scripts through an app, so that’s easy to do. I usually have a lot of calls and meetings but find that actually makes it easier to do personal stuff than the days I actually have to put a lot of attention and energy into producing a product or deliverable? Groceries can be orderd through an app, etc. I sometimes return personal calls while driving to or from an off-site meeting, or take care of things on apps if I get to a meeting a bit early and have time in my car in the parking lot. Sometimes it’s easier to stay at work an extra half hour to knock personal things out before I lose momentum, than get home and wait until kids are in bed and I just want to collapse.
CPA Lady says
I am not sure what personal things he needs to do during working hours, and if you could give examples, that would be awesome.
That said, some things I’ve done:
– prioritize geographically when possible– my eye doctor, dentist, child’s school, place I like to volunteer, kid’s swim and ballet lesson locations, gym, etc. are all geographically close to where I work. I specifically chose these places based on location to minimize the amount of time I’m out of the office.
– get the first appointment of the day for things like doctor/dentist, or 4:30-ish p.m. for hair/grooming appointments and book far ahead to be able to do that. I have my next three hair appointments booked right now.
– think outside the box in order to be able to do things outside of office hours- Is there a way to do the thing you think you have to do at a different time? Returning amazon packages to k ohls rather than the post office, buying stamps at the grocery store rather than the post office, etc.
– Pay more to be able to do things conveniently within office hours. e.g. pay for dry-cleaning that gets picked up from my office vs. less for a place I’d have to drop it off.
– use my bank’s app to deposit checks rather than going to an in person location. pick a bank that refunds ATM fees so I never have to go to a physical bank for anything
– Block off sections of his calendar – I go to the gym twice a week during lunch time. I block this time off on my calendar so nothing gets scheduled during that time.
– realize that you have to make personal things a priority from time to time, because work will always take more and more of your time if you let it.
CCLA says
Yes to all of this. I also make calls during my commute. I have lots of ups and downs and a lot of flexibility – some days virtually nothing personal gets done, other days are slow and I spend 3 hours catching up on errands and personal grooming appts. But really getting something on the calendar is the only way I’ve consistently found that I carve out the time, otherwise the days just fill up. That is especially true I’ve found in the jobs where there is always more work to be done. DH is different, and when he leaves work he really is completely off (the flip side is when he’s on, he’s really on and cannot leave or do anything else). But he also has found it helpful to schedule things in advance, and he then just makes sure to arrange to take a half day off or similar.
Also, while we like to preserve weekends for chilling with the kids when we can, sometimes it’s just easier to get things done on a weekend, in which case we try to target using the mid-afternoon nap window.
Emily S. says
Is he working from home or the office? My husband puts the phone on mute and works out or sweeps the floors or gets online to take care of banking. This may not be recommended. And definitely not feasible in an office. It amuses me to no end though to see him chime in between reps.
anon says
Friday afternoons – I can always sneak out early friday PM, and no one ever wants to schedule calls then anyway
Anon says
In all this discussion about telecommuting/e-learning for a coronavirus outbreak, how does childcare for young kids fit in? I understand that K-12 students can do e-learning at home while their parents work from home, but, as we all know, it’s difficult to impossible to care for a mobile infant or toddler while working. My employer (a large university) has announced contingency plans for online learning for the college students and WFH for all staff in the event of a coronavirus outbreak in our area. But I assume our on-site daycare would be shut in that event and I don’t know how I’d actually do any work with my 2 year old at home. There are tens of millions of people in this situation, but I’ve seen basically no discussion of it in conjunction with telecommuting plans. It seems to be just assumed that everyone will work and attend school from home and that will be great, but…some of us can’t telework if daycares are shut.
Anon says
There are no magic solutions. The answer is you will only work for a few hours a day during their nap or when they are occupied with a toy or books. You can use legos or TV time (if that holds their attention) or try to trade off hours of care with neighbors.
Anon says
Flex your time and work during naps or early in the morning and later at night while your child sleeps. Employers will have to accommodate to an extent.
Anon says
yea i think employers are just going to have to be unusually flexible. i also work for a university and we have a nanny, but my nanny has a child of her own and if her child’s school is closed too, i suppose she could bring her child, but if the whole point is to avoid sharing germs, then i feel like that might defeat the purpose. the thought of being stuck in our 2 bedroom apartment with our 19 month old twins does not sound fun to me. i also feel like unless all k-12 students have their own computers/tablets, the amount of elearning that can be expected is also questionable. i know some schools provide them, but i know a lot of households with younger kids who do not have a separate device yet for each child
So Anon says
My kids are elementary aged and I foresee the same issue. Even if some learning can be done online, that will not replace a school day nor the extended day that my kids are at school so that I can work. My thought is that I will split my workday into chunks with a few hours before they get up (2), a few hours in the morning when they can self-entertain (3), a few hours in the middle of the day (1-2) and a few hours after bed (1-2). It would not be pretty, but I do not see an alternative.
Boston Legal Eagle says
We will probably do some combination of having my dad come for a bit (if he’s available), and then trade off working time while the other parent watches the kids, screen time for the older one, and long nap for the younger one. This is how we deal with snow days. Clearly one day is different from weeks on end in terms of getting work done, but I imagine employers will have to make the choice between giving leeway to parents or risk losing a bunch of workers. I’m not sure how long such a scenario would last, but I can’t contemplate every worst case scenario.
Extra anon for this says
This is the elephant in the room at my workplace right now. We are government-funded to focus largely on pandemic planning and response, so obviously we’re busy and would need to keep working even if we moved to teleworking. Of course the guidance is vague “consider childcare arrangements if you have to telework” but… I don’t know. I would suggest trading off half-days with neighbors, but if it’s serious enough that we’re teleworking at home, I don’t want to expose my kids to another family. I think we’ll just have to manage as best we can and get used to whining in the background of phone calls.
IHeartBacon says
My family’s current plan if we end up having to stay home with our son is to trade off working and watching our son in 2 hour blocks from 6 a.m. to 10 p.m. This gets us each 8 hours of work and makes each one of us unavailable for only 2 hours at a time throughout the day. There are, of course, a lot of assumptions in our plan (e.g., both of us will be able to work remotely from home, neither of us will have to travel during the time, conference calls will fit into our 2-hour shift, that we actually stick to the 2 hour blocks, etc), but it’s the best plan we have come up with at this time. Not sure what else we can do.
Anon says
This sounds so miserable to me. I’d take unpaid leave from my job before I’d put in 16 hour workdays, especially at a time when it’s extra important for my immune system to be functioning well. That barely allows for 8 hours of sleep, assuming you do literally nothing else.
IHeartBacon says
I’m sure the reality of the plan will be worse than it now seems, but a 6 am – 10 pm day is pretty much what we each do now when we factor in the morning and evening hours with our son before and after our work days. It’s just how that day is structured that will be different. Also during the 2 hour shifts where one of us is working while the other is watching our toddler, the one watching the toddler can do more relaxing things with our toddler like read books cuddled in bed, play outside in the yard, nap while toddler is napping, etc. so my hope is that it won’t be as miserable as it seems.
Anonymous says
I don’t think most schools are set up for online learning, nor can public schools assume that all students have access to equipment needed for online learning in a way that is equitable. My husband is a NYC school teacher, and I cannot imagine them making this work, particularly on short notice.
Extra anon for this says
I have had it with men in the workplace today. If one more man explains to me why the information I asked for or the task I’ve asked them to complete isn’t, in their opinion, the right approach, I will scream. For the record, they are wrong every.single.time. so far. (as in, they are misquoting federal regulations or guidance, or speaking to issues I’m literally a subject matter expert in that they have no background in, or saying how things “should” be done when it is very much not our organization’s place to have an opinion.) I’m open to feedback and suggestions, but give it to me along with what I asked for, not hours later INSTEAD OF doing what I needed.
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Anonymous says
would it be weird if a parent (ok, fine, a mom) from one of your daughter’s activities asked you to give their kid a ride? My daughter has an activity at 4pm. She was invited to a birthday party at 1pm (it’s a half day). There is a girl that is at her elementary school who is invited to the birthday party and is in her activity and has RSVP’d yes. I’m travelling that week so if I can’t get my kid a ride, she can’t go to the party.* My kid could either get picked up at car pickup with Other Kid or I know they’ll drive right by our house on the way to the party (we’re on a main road).
I don’t really know the mom or the kid particularly well, though my kiddo knows them and they are family friends of many of our friends (so I have no issues with them being reliable or weirdos or whatever, and I know they have a giant kid-hauler car with a ton of space, just like we do).
Is it totally rude/out of line/imposing to ask since I don’t know them well? I would offer that if she drops the kids off, my husband can pick them up at then take them to Activity (but she might just be planning to stay there). I wouldn’t feel imposed on at all, and would say yes it if was possible and no if it was not possible. But I wanted a gut-check before actually asking myself.
*For complicated reasons, such as how annoyingly away from each other the elementary schools in our town are and where the party is, I can’t ask any of the other moms that I DO know well to give my kid a ride.
Anonymous says
Of course not!
Anonymous says
Not weird. But I would offer to carpool – “Hey, I noticed we’re headed in the same direction on Friday. Any chance you’d be interested in taking both kids to Activity if my husband brings them home?” If the party ends during the dinner/bedtime time frame, this might be very helpful to her, too. If nothing else, she might appreciate knowing you owe her a bit for the future. It’s always nice to have that to rely on sometime ;)
AnotherAnon says
I would not think this is weird and would appreciate you asking because it would give me an excuse to reciprocate and possibly get to know you better.
Anonymous says
I would not think this was remotely weird (and I’d secretly be happy because I’d be more comfortable asking that family to return the favor in the future!)
Beth @ Parent Lightly says
Not weird. Just offer to return the favor sometime!
avocado says
Go for it! This is how you build your village. I would suggest the carpool (other mom takes both kids there, husband brings both home) if it is convenient, but if not just go ahead and ask for a ride.
When the kids are out of car seats and boosters, the getting and giving of rides becomes very common and makes everyone’s lives so much easier.
anne-on says
Go for it! I routinely offer rides when I can since we also need to ask for help sometimes when I travel. Agree that this is key to building your ‘village’.
AnotherAnon says
Y’all! My very small 3 year old finally made his way into the 3rd percentile for height and weight! This is huge! No pun intended.
Anonymous says
Aww congratulations!