Maternity Monday: Stiletto Pants
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Sales of note for 1/16:
(See all of the latest workwear sales at Corporette!)
- Nordstrom – Cashmere on sale; AllSaints, Free People, Nike, Tory Burch, and Vince up to 60%; beauty deals up to 25% off
- AllSaints – now up to 60% off (some of the best leather jackets!)
- Ann Taylor – Up to 40% off your full-price purchase; extra 50% off sale
- Banana Republic Factory – 50% off everything + extra 20% off
- Boden – 15% off new styles with code — readers love this blazer, these dresses, and their double-layer line of tees
- DeMellier – Sale now on, free shipping and returns — includes select options like Montreal, Vancouver, and Venice
- Eloquii – $29 and up select styles; extra 50% off all clearance, plus ELOQUII X kate spade new york collab just dropped
- Everlane – Sale of the year, up to 70% off — reader favorites include their scoop tee, Dream Pant, ReNew Transit backpack, silk blouses and oversized blazers! New markdowns just added
- Hannah Andersson – Up to 30% off all pajamas;
- J.Crew – Up to 40% off select styles; up to 50% off cashmere
- J.Crew Factory – 40-70% off everything
- L.K. Bennett – Archive sale, almost everything 70% off
- M.M.LaFleur – Tag sale for a limited time — jardigans and dresses $200, pants $150, tops $95, T-shirts $50
- Spanx – Lots of workwear on sale, some up to 70% off
- Talbots – Semi-Annual Red Door Sale – 50% off + extra 20% off, sale on sale, plus free shipping on $150+
And — here are some of our latest threadjacks of interest – working mom questions asked by the commenters!
- The concept of “backup care” is so stupid…
- I need tips on managing employees in BigLaw who have to leave for daycare pickup…
- I’m thinking of leaning out to spend more time with my family – how can I find the perfect job for that?
- I’m now a SAHM and my husband needs to step up…
- How can I change my thinking to better recognize some of my husband’s contributions as important, like organizing the shed?
- What are your tips to having a good weekend with kids, especially with little kids? Do you have a set routine or plan?
Has anybody here used the Doona Car Seat/Stroller? I’m intrigued but don’t know anybody that actually has it. My main concerns are weight, I’m petite and not particularly strong. We mostly drive and plan to take walks around the neighborhood, no city walking. We travel by plane a good amount.
Anyone have an older (school age) kid with chronic constipation?
My almost 6 year old has been battling intermittent stomach pain for almost 2 years now. We’ve seen the ped and the pedi GI. They’ve ruled out all the really bad/serious stuff and when she takes a daily laxative her stomach doesn’t hurt and things, ah, flow normally.
If she doesn’t take it (I’m the one that forgets), in a few days it starts hurting again. She always has a bowel movement but it’s just that her system doesn’t keep up pace with her ingestion.
Curious for those who have been there if/when they outgrew it?
My kid eats tons of fiber, is super active, and well hydrated.
Anyone know where to find professionally-appropriate maternity clothes in a size 16/XL? Everything I’m finding that seems truly professional stops at a size 14 or L. I ended up ordering a Stitch Fix and a Trunk Club shipment just to see if they can come up with anything but I’m feeling kind of stymied looking online (and people on other boards think things like rompers are professional). I work at home most of the time but I’m a lawyer and have some in-person events coming up – I was thinking dresses and a blazer I can wear open would be best, but am open to other ideas.
Thoughts on how to allow a toddler to set physical boundaries? My 2-yo daughter is very comfortable telling people that she knows “I don’t like that” if we are tickling her or in her space, etc. We were just with a bunch of relatives, and she was super shy. My uncle who has met her a few times but isn’t someone she really knows was tickling her. I couldn’t tell if she was ok w/it or not — she was just kind of looking at him and not saying anything.
Thoughts on what to do in this kind of situation? Am I worrying over nothing? Should I have proactively checked in with her to see if she was ok w/it? Should I have just told him to stop?
Can I get a gut check as to whether this is normal? I have read all the books and blogs but it’s honestly hard to retain everything when life is so hectic these days. Our kid is 7 months old and basically will only eat fruit purees (she’ll eat the kind with veggies only if it includes apple or pear or some other sweet fruit). She doesn’t like plain baby oatmeal, plain yogurt (can’t really blame her to be honest!) and will not eat anything chunky like scrambled egg (even if I tear it into tiny tiny pieces). She did sort of gnaw on a piece of bread crust yesterday. I’m also terrified of choking so when she was gumming the bread and a small piece broke off into her mouth, I felt panicked.
Are we way behind on this whole eating thing? She just doesn’t seem interested in food at all. I know our window to introduce flavors and textures is rapidly closing (I read that after 12 months it’s much harder) and I really don’t want to condemn her to a childhood of being a picky eater.
Also, my husband thinks I give up too easily when she refuses something, but I’m not going to pry her mouth open! And I don’t want to get to the point where she’s upset and crying because we keep offering food and she doesn’t want to eat it.
Thanks in advance for any advice or commiseration!
We are trying to sort out daycare choices and hoping to get some thoughts or angles thT i’m Not thinking about-
My son is 2.5 and we were just informed that a spot has open up for him at Daycare #1 for September. Meanwhile he is on the waitlist for Daycare #2. Daycare #2 was our first choice- our first kid went there and we really loved it. Both places have preschool ciricculum so I know this will be where my son will be until kindergarten.
Daycare #1- walking distance from our house (less than ten minutes) and all meals provided. Though $200 more a month.
Daycare #2 – they have an infant room, and we are expecting a third, so there is a possibility of only having to do one pickup/drop off (though no guarantees because the waitlist is long). Larger facility and more diverse student body, including special needs children. About a ten minute drive from home – so still close, but not walking distance. Tends to be a high turnover with teachers,though.
I guess writing that out, the only thing I really love about #1 is that it is walking distance from home. And the currently have an opening. It is also potentially less drama than #2. #2 has a very active parent body, which doesn’t see the case with #1. But i’m wondering if proximity and not having to pack lunch is enough of a game changer? Or if we should wait it out for school #2? We do want to move my son out of his small in-home daycare soon- he is receiving services for speech delay and one of the things our therapist says is that being with more children will help him a lot.
Ugh! We are slow decision makers. i’m sure either school is fine, but it feels like such a big decision.
Anon vent/advice request: just finished up a long weekend with my spouse’s family. There are two preschool kids in the family – my kid, and one cousin. A little over a year apart in age. The rest of the family lives in the same town and see each other often, and the grandparents do a lot of childcare. When we were all together, the grandparents still focused on the other kid despite not seeing my kid that often. (Maybe 3-4 times a year). My kid is now old enough to notice, and the kid asked me a few times why grandma was with cousin and not my kid. And kid was imitating the (younger) cousin’s actions in a clear attempt to get attention that was going to cousin.
To top things off, I’m due with a baby this fall and the grandparents just committed to taking care of cousin right around my due date – the discussion was had in front of me. We live far enough away that I wouldn’t count on family help for watching my kid during the delivery, but close enough that they could easily come to the hospital to meet the new baby. It just hurts a lot to basically watch my kid get ignored when the grandparents see the cousin all the time, and then to have the disparity of family support emphasized with no acknowledgment that maybe grandparents would want to come see our new baby soon after the birth. We wouldn’t expect them to stay and help out, though it would be nice – we just know we can’t count on them, even though the other family counts on them practically every week.
Do I say something? Try to get over it? What do I tell my kid if kid notices the disparity again?
My spouse is amazing but his job means that he’s physically not present for a lot of time. I am so drained and exhausted from my full time job, keeping the kids alive and healthy, trying to clean, and just attempting to be a happy, functional human.
A friend has a spouse whose job has similar demands. She’s working 2 days per week. For the first time in my life, I am so jealous.
I am lucky that I like my job, they want to promote me, and I definitely have a unicorn schedule where I can work a straight 8-4 with limited need to monitor email/manage crises after hours.
Guys… I’m coming off that blissful 4 day weekend and just keep thinking how nice it would be to be home with the kids more…
Me!! DD had a string of medical events – nothing earth shattering but a few hospital stays for bad croup, stomach bug/dehydration, ear infections that would not end, etc. I’m convinced that disruption and constant cuddles while perpetually sick caused her regression. It began in November (7 months) and lasted through end of January/early Feb (11ish months). We finally did CIO. It took about 4-5 nights but worked wonders and we’re in the clear. We were never anti-CIO, but the constant illness is why we couldn’t bring ourselves to make our sick infant also cry for hours and nights on end.
I need some encouragement. I went for a walk with DD (14 mos) yesterday and ended up jogging for about 5-10 mins. It felt so good. I’m achy this morning but it’s good achy – I’m reminded that certain muscle groups exist and have been inactive for far too long.
I used to run a fair amount – have a few half marathons under my belt and countless 5 and 10ks. I’m not fast – I average 10:30 miles probably. Before yesterday I don’t think I had jogged since before I became pregnant about this time in 2017. I feel like we finally have a routine that maybe.. just maybe would allow me to get out and jog in the mornings for 30-45 mins. That, plus the slower pace of work this summer… I think I can do it? It would require waking up at 5 am, which I used to do on the regular, so that would be a readjustment. I definitely need new running shoes so I could head out to my local running store to get fit for them.
Tell me I can do this? I’m still 20 lbs above pre-pregnancy weight (which was an all-time low for me) and the jogging felt so heavy. I’m a little afraid to start and find out that I don’t have it in me anymore. I know how to train so I don’t need C25k… just some confidence, which I haven’t had in a very long time. Has anyone else made a successful come back post baby? A little sliver of me is like why bother because we’re going to start trying for #2 sometime soon-ish (within 12 months) and it will all go to h e l l again, but I also know that’s not logical.
Looking for commiseration more than actual sleep advice (as nothing works!) – Has anyone had an older baby (8-12 month range) become a terrible sleeper? My son slept great when he was younger but now it’s tons of night wake ups, short naps, and ridiculously early mornings. I feel guilty that he’s not getting enough sleep – although he isn’t grumpy and doesn’t seem tired (unlike me). And just generally I feel like I’m failing at this one essential part of parenting.
Meanwhile, I can’t seem to get away from parents who want to tell me all about how their baby this age sleeps 11 hours a night and takes 2 hour naps twice a day. Am I really the only one with a kid this age who can’t get sleep issues figured out?
What do you buy if you have extra FSA money? Pending some unforeseen medical issue, it looks like we will have a large surplus this year. I stocked up on band aids in a prior year so I’m good there. I’d like to stock up on sunscreen but it looks like my fed FSA program may require a rx in order to reimburse. Since we may have several hundred dollars left (ooofff!), I’m curious if there are some big ticket items people have purchased with their FSA money (other than b pumps).
Recommendation for your am coffee break: The cut article about a Brooklyn preschool
How did y’all deal with working in the last few weeks of pregnancy? Apart from being tired all the time, I’m also having trouble determining how to plan my last weeks of work. For instance, should I plan to be available to prep for and attend a big meeting in Week 38? Or should I try to hand that over to someone else, with the risk that I’m still around then and won’t have anything to do?
This is a very unimportant question. I’ve never been happy with my diaper bag/ backpack situation. I feel like I’ve tried everything. I like having a crossbody option, and I like nylon or canvas for washability. Would the OMG be too big/ bulky for this? I don’t really NEED it for work. Thanks.