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HSAL says
Exciting news from this weekend – both 11 month twins are night-weaned! The girl basically did herself, but she’s been consistent for the last week. I decided I was done and put my husband in charge of the boy this weekend. So I slept in our room with a sound machine and my husband slept in the spare room with the monitor. Night 1 baby woke up and thought it was time to party when my husband took him into the living room, so they were up about an hour and a half before he passed back out. Night 2 he took him long enough to calm him down (he was extremely upset when he walked by my bedroom) and put him back down awake, where he cried for a couple minutes and went back to sleep. Night 3 he woke up, cried for a couple minutes, and went back to sleep on his own. Of course, despite the sound machine I still woke up for a bit each night, but didn’t have to get out of bed. Game. Changer.
Anon says
yay, congrats!
Anonymous says
Woohoo! Do you feel like a new woman? Congrats!
AwayEmily says
That is awesome!!!
Anon says
I still can’t believe you made it 11 months. Our twins are only a month older than yours and they stopped eating in the middle of the night by 5 months and if they hadn’t I would’ve been a hot mess these past 7 months. Congrats!
Scooter Advice says
Favorite scooters for a 3.5 year old on the small side? Thanks!!
GCA says
How physically coordinated? Mine got a Radio Flyer EZ Glider when he was 2 (very coordinated) and has loved it ever since. Easy roll but stable; adjustable handlebar height so it has grown with him. Only downside is that it’s a little heavy if kid gets tired and you have to carry both child and scooter home from the park (ahem).
octagon says
+1 this has been great for us.
Cb says
Micro minis with the little seat seem to be the scooter of choice here
Anonymous says
+1 to the Micro Mini, but you won’t need the seat for a 3.5 year old.
AwayEmily says
Our 3yo has a micro mini, no seat. It’s been great.
Anonymous says
+1. Our 3.5 year old loves his mini (no seat). I think they’re on sale right now on the company’s site.
Callie says
My tall almost 4 year old has been using his micro mini since just shy of 2 (never with a seat). My tiny 2.25 year old has been using her micro mini since right about 2 (with no seat).
Sarabeth says
Agree with this. Seat is totally unnecessary.
Anonymous says
Piling on to the Micro Minis. The deluxe version has adjustable handlebars that go even lower for tiny ones than the regular version – the regular was fine for my small older kids at 2.5, but we got the deluxe for #3, who seems less athletic, and she’s been loving it since just past 2.
Scooter Advice says
Thanks so much for the advice, everyone! I really appreciate it!
Patricia Gardiner says
Good morning! What Ok to wake clocks do you use? I’ve seen the concept recommended a couple times on here but looks like there are multiple brands. Any favorites? This is for an 8 months old… hoping it will help get him to play quietly until at least 6am!
Anonymous says
FYI – this got hung up for a really long time. You might want to repost tomorrow. I don’t have one, or I’d respond substantively.
Cats (toxo and allergy opinions) says
I’m pregnant with my first. A close relative of mine has some physical disabilities caused by in-utero toxoplasmosis exposure (probably caused by food hygiene issues, not cat exposure), and is freaking out at the news that I will be spending a few days at a friends’ home whose residents include a cat. This cat is old, introverted and indoor-only, and the host has happily agreed to change its litter box on a daily basis. My ob/gyn isn’t worried, and I’m planning to wash my hands frequently. I also have a cat allergy and so will be avoiding direct physical contact with the cat for two reasons. Relatedly, in terms of anti-allergy meds, my ob/gyn recommended that I start with claritin, and switch to zyrtec if the claritin doesn’t work — but my pharmacist said zyrtec is more effective for animal allergies, although some doctors won’t recommend zyrtec in pregnancy. My feeling is that I should just start with the zyrtec if my ob/gyn feels that it is safe for pregnancy, which she does, albeit as a second-best option, since I’m only going to be taking it for 1-3 days. All that said: If you took additional steps for toxoplasmosis avoidance, or received different advice on allergy meds during pregnancy, or if you otherwise have safety/health tips, please share! Thanks.
Anon says
Loads of pregnant women have cats and don’t give them away the second they get pregnant. The advice is not to be changing a litter box, which you will not be.
That said as someone with a cat allergy, allergy meds do nothing for me. Is there a reason you can’t stay in a hotel? I would be miserable staying in a home with a cat.
Anonymous says
Ignore your relative and follow your doctor’s advice on the meds.
Spirograph says
Just as a bit of reassurance, I had 2 indoor cats throughout each of my pregnancies, and had no toxoplasmosis issues. I mostly avoided changing the litter boxes, but otherwise I went about my normal life that included lots of close contact with my cats.
Pogo says
I forget Emiy Oster’s exact stats on this, but the cat exposure re: toxoplasmosis is very unlikely – as you point out, it’s much more likely to come from handling of raw meat incorrectly. I changed my cat’s litter while pregnant using gloves and washing my hands immediately after with hot water and soap – if you’re not planning on getting near the cat’s litter I don’t see any risk of exposure.
I took Benadryl while pregnant per my doc’s rec. I have seasonal, not animal, allergies though.
rosie says
Follow your dr’s advice on exposure & meds. But I will add, how do you usually handle being around cats as someone with an allergy? How severe is your reaction? My spouse has a cat allergy and prolonged exposure will trigger asthma attacks and other respiratory symptoms that will last beyond the exposure, requiring more meds, inhaler use, etc. I wouldn’t want those symptoms while pregnant (I mean, or ever, but particularly while pregnant).
GCA says
On the toxoplasmosis front, if your doctor isn’t concerned I wouldn’t be. But as someone with a very slow-burning cat allergy, it doesn’t even matter if I have direct physical contact with the cat – I start to develop symptoms over the course of a few hours while in a cat-friendly home, and it’s pretty miserable even with Claritin or Zyrtec. Just something to beware of!
Anon says
I took Zyrtec while pregnant for seasonal allergies (although it also helps when I visit friends with cats, which I am also allergic to). My OB had no problem with it. Note that you may want to start taking it a few days early – in my experience it can take up to a week of consistent dosage to reach full effectiveness. Also, you probably already know this, but your friend should thoroughly dust and vacuum (preferably with a vacuum with a hepa filter), wash all of the bedding and then ban the cat from wherever you’re sleeping (i.e., what my mother does for my dog-allergic husband when we visit). I typically try to sit on hard surfaces where the cat is less likely to be (i.e., kitchen chair vs. sofa). When we visit my family, my mom also vacuums daily to cut down on the dander elsewhere in the house for my husband.
Irish Midori says
Also had two cats while pregnant twice w/ no issues. I mostly got out of litter box duty, but sometimes pitched in and just washed my hands well (as I would anyway).
Anonymous says
I used it as an excuse to make my husband clean the litter box for 9 months, but that’s about it. We had 3 cats.
blueberries says
Your relative is out of line for freaking out. For a close relative with a special concern, I’d allow a calm, brief expression of such concern exactly once. You have selected a qualified ob/gyn and take advice from the doc. You can handle the relative as you would if she was telling you exactly what kind of menstrual hygiene products to use or how to take your coffee.
If you’re worried, maybe talk with your ob/gyn about toxoplasmosis screening and whether, if you’ve been infected (many people already have), additional exposure is of concern.
NAZ says
I can understand why your relative is skeptical, but they’re overreacting. You’re not going to get toxoplasmosis from just being in the same house as a cat, especially if you’re already avoiding contact with it for allergy reasons. I lived with three cats the entirety of my pregnancy and never had a problem. If the cat is indoor only and they aren’t feeding it questionable raw meat, the risk of it being there is super rare anyways. Listen to your doctor’s advice to control your allergies and go about life as normal.
Em says
When I found out I was pregnant I had a littler of sketchy foster kittens (“sketchy” meaning they were previously street cats, which have the highest incidences of toxoplasmosis since it comes from ingesting birds and rodents). They had runny stools that got all over our bathroom. I had my husband change the litter and clean up the messes, but I still handled them daily. I just washed my hands really well. You will be fine.
Breech says
Went in for my 38 week appt and baby is suddenly breech! This isn’t a huge shock since #1 pulled the same tricks, but it sure is stressful. I’m trying everything – chiro, acupuncture, spinning babies, swimming – but would take any suggestions or just good head-down vibes… (I keep seeing stuff that says posture/reclining can cause this, but how many 38 week pregnant women can avoid reclining?!) First baby ended up cooperating in the end, but only after an ecv, subsequent flip, and then a c-section that didn’t end up happening. I was really hoping to avoid this drama this time around!!
Anonymous says
You can avoid the drama! Just, don’t do any of this stuff that has no proof it will even work. Either your baby will flip or it won’t. Accept that. What will be will be.
Anonymous says
I’d walk walk walk to use gravity to your advantage!
NYCer says
My advice is don’t worry to much if you end up with a C section. Planned c sections are much, much different than emergency c sections. My baby was also breech (basically the entire time) and refused to flip despite trying all the tricks under the sun including a version. Had a scheduled C and it was a breeze. My husband and I now joke that scheduled Cs are very civilized and calm, and I (half jokingly) tell all my friends that it’s the best way to have a baby since you avoid all the pains of labor. You’ll be fine!
Anonymous says
I agree that a planned c-section is not the end of the world, but more and more as a mother I believe birth matters. That a moms feelings matter. And if you want a v-birth, and/or have already had a successful one and want another one, those feelings matter. And while many people have a quick recovery from a c-section there are those who don’t. And complications from a c-section is still one of the leading causes of maternal mortality. And there are many reasons to want a v-birth like being able to move immediately after labor, or avoiding drugs during labor, or having to lift and care for another child after labor. So I think we should be supportive of anyone who doesn’t want one.
Breech says
Thank you so much for this. I appreciate everyone’s feedback but I would prefer another v-birth if possible.
NYCer says
Just curious, what do you mean by “birth matters”? That because I had a c section I didn’t give birth? I certainly didn’t choose to have a c section, but when you have a baby that is breech and won’t flip, that is what you get. I was just trying to reassure the OP that a scheduled c section is fine and that recovery is generally much easier than after an emergency c.
Anyhow, a healthy baby is what mattered most to me, not how the baby came into the world. Having a c section certainly qualifies as giving birth in my book.
Anonymous says
I’m not that Anon but I don’t think the comment “birth matters” was implying that women who have c sections don’t give birth. She was saying that the birth experience matters to many people, and that’s ok. Obviously the most important thing is a healthy mother and a healthy baby, but if it’s safe, many women would prefer a v-birth to a c section, and those feelings shouldn’t be brushed off flippantly with “a healthy baby is all that matters.” I too thought your post was kind of dismissive. I had one (medicated) v birth and one planned c section birth, and I found the v birth much less scary and my recovery much faster (even though I tore badly) and although I have no plans for a third child, I would have a strong preference for a v birth if I were going to have another child. I’m allowed to feel the way I feel and so is OP.
Anonymous says
Yup that’s what I meant – it’s ok for someone’s birth experience to matter. It can be and usually is a transformative experience for women, even if it’s not their first birth. I just think statements like “oh you can have a c-section no big deal!” When someone wants a v-birth or “you can just give formula!” When someone wants to b-feed but is struggling are really dismissive of women’s feelings. And frankly our country’s lax attitudes towards major abdominal surgery is dangerous
Anon says
My second baby did some last minute flipping as well. He was diagnosed with “unstable lie” and I was induced at 39 weeks when they found him head-down. Maybe you could look into an induction if he flips again? Good luck!
Walnut says
My second was still doing sumersaults until around 38 weeks and eventually settled into a head down position. There’s still time!!
Redux says
Anyone have advice for early stage potty training where the kid holds his poop? We’ve just started potty training our 2.5 year old and while he is fairly consistent on #1 he has not gone #2 on the potty at all– he holds it until he is in a naptime or overnight diaper (or, like this morning, when he *thinks* he is in a diaper. Yuck.). I remember my oldest did this, too, but can’t for the life of me remember how long it lasted or if there were any strategies to nip this in the bud in the early days of training.
Irish Midori says
No advice, he jut had to grow out of it. Kid would hold it in all day and come home and put a pull up on himself to poop. I think it’s common to have a fear of pooping in the toilet. We just had to wait for him to overcome it with lots of encouragement and try to avoid shaming him over it.
Jeffiner says
Bribery. We put a really cool Paw Patrol toy on the shelf above the potty, so my daughter could see and work towards her reward, but she was 3.5. It took her a couple of weeks to earn it. We followed up with the rest of the Paw Patrol set for each poop, then downgraded to stickers.
Strategy mom says
Just give it time. My doc suggested letting him poop in his diaper in the bathroom. Then poop in diaper sitting on potty. And finally remove diaper. And heavy bribing
Ducky36 says
My little one went through the same thing right around 2y-8mo. He is now 3y-1mo and it is finally clicking for him. He even takes himself to the potty most of the time now without any reminders from us. I think it just takes time. We tried bribes and they worked sometimes, but mostly he just needed to mature a little more.
Anonymous says
No advice because all of my kids did this. Just keep encouraging. I know it’s gross but just keep doing underwear or bare. I think it’s confusing to them to keep switching, especially if they understand the concept of the potty. Bribes (screen time was our #1 success). My 3rd kiddo has been 100% #1 during the day and about 70% for #2 for months….we try to be super vigilant during the times we know he usually goes but still can’t force it sometimes.
Redux says
Thanks, mamas. Good ideas and solidarity for *patience.*
Ms B says
Eh, The Kid potty trained for #1 around 3 years, 3 months and #2 took until about age 4. Until then he waited until he got home from school to do his business most days and then demanded a pull-up. We decided not to fight that fight. The matter resolved itself after that, although it was quite a while until The Kid wiped his own behind full time.
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Anon says
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Legally Brunette says
Any gift ideas for my 9 year old nephew? He’s on the spectrum but high functioning and in a mainstream school. He’s a really sweet kid and I’d love to get him something but don’t have a clue about that age range.
avocado says
Depending on your price range and his interests:
LittleBits
Star Wars Lego kit
Harry Potter Lego kit
Find out from his parents whether he’s into a particular book or graphic novel series and get any volumes he’s missing
Anon says
Why don’t you ask his parents? 9 year olds can vary pretty widely in their interests.
So Anon says
Legos!
In House Lobbyist says
My soon to be 9 year old got a snap circuit set for Easter and it was a big hit.
Irish Midori says
My oldest just turned nine and his favorite b-day gift was a diabolo (sometimes marketed as “Chinese yo-yos). This is a good age for legos, or beyblades are big here.
Anonymous says
I have a 9-year-old boy who has a couple of ASD kids in his class who are his friends. They are all bookworms and go through books like reading’s going out of style. I recently got my kid a Kindle e-reader for an international trip to cut down on carrying heavy books and he has loved the ability to get instant access to books. The e-reader is for books only – there are no games on it at all, and I linked it to my AMZ account and got a digital library card. So maybe if the parents are into it this would be a nice splurge-y gift.
Video games are also huge hits if you know what device they have and what games he might not have yet. Or accessories for the device like extra controllers or whatever. This could be in the $25-75 range. You’d have to ask the parents though.
Little sibling just got a robot that burps and farts and says other rude but innocent things and 9-year-old is obsessed. It’s pretty decent quality for $35 at Target; I think the brand was “Really Rad Robots”
A very basic drone would be fun too.
Weird, right? says
My house is on the market. Hot market, will be under contract (God willing) this evening after just 5 days. We had a last minute showing scheduled at 12pm for 12:30. But at 12:10 DH (who didn’t know about last minute scheduling) got a motion detector alert to his phone through our baby camera. So, he logged in to see what was up…
The people looking at our house at 12:30 were evidently early and put their baby (who looks to be quite little) in our baby’s crib…. this is really, really weird, right?!?! I’m not mad or anything – we’ll just change the sheets tonight, but like…. SO STRANGE.
(Three weeks ago DD had conjunctivitis and HFM… I wouldn’t dream of putting her in a stranger’s crib/bed!)
Anon says
Hahaha that’s so weird. Did they just stick her in their to see if she fit (? but all cribs are basically the same size right?) or did they put her down for a nap in there!?
OP says
No she’s been in there for almost 45 mins!! Like put her down and walked away.
anon says
What???? Way weird. Way.
ElisaR says
so bizarre.
Anon says
Is she awake? I’m not condoning the behavior, at all, but it sounds like they wanted to tour the house without “dealing” with their baby so they put her in the crib where she’d be safe while they go about their day. I agree it is weird but at the same time, I understand it a little.
Anonymous says
This is my thought too. It’s a little weird, but I understand thinking it would be way easier to tour a house without the baby in tow, and hey look at this convenient crib!
In staged homes, I see signs warning people not to sit/lie on “beds” that are some cheap shortcut for looks, not really fully-supported mattresses. Testing out living in the house by using the available furniture is definitely A Thing Some People Do. I don’t know why, though. You’re usually not buying the furniture!
Anon says
Maybe she really needed to sleep during the showing? I agree it’s weird, but if the baby was crying its head off because its overtired and there’s an empty room with a crib right there, I can kind of understand. Most germs don’t last very long on surfaces like a sheet, so I wouldn’t be too worried about that aspect, particularly if the baby is old enough to go to daycare.
Pogo says
That is SO weird and kinda creepy tbh. I don’t think I ever so much as sat on someone’s couch during a showing.
So Anon says
First, congrats!!! And, yes, that is so very weird. People do really weird things while touring homes. My house is also on the market with a security camera toward the exterior and people are just weird.
HSAL says
That’s hilarious but yes, so weird. We bought our house when our babies were a week old, and they just slept on the floor of the entryway in their infant car seats. I they shouldn’t sleep in their car seats unless they’re in a car or stroller so hey, points for the parents for respecting the safe sleep rules!
Anonanonanon says
THAT IS SO WEIRD!!! Kind of funny (because it’s not my house) but yes, so weird!!
AnotherAnon says
Might be too late in the day but: opinions on where to do a vow renewal? Our 10 year anniversary is next year, and I’d like to include our friends as the wedding was just the two of us, plus we’ve made new friends over the years. I don’t really want to do another ceremony so it’s basically just an excuse to get together with friends and party. Parameters: direct flight from west coast (Portland and San Diego), not Vegas, sort of leaning away from beach destinations. I guess we could do New Orleans, but it would have to be after our anniversary – ain’t no way I’m going to NOLA in August.
SC says
NOLA is a fun place to have a party. I’d wait until at least October, and avoid any big football weekends.
If you want to have it in August, I’d choose something in the mountains (I’ve been to a lovely summer wedding outside of Denver) or in the Pacific Northwest.
Anon says
SF is in between and is nice in the summer, plus lots of good day trips for people that want to rent cars and explore.
I know this is nitpicky and not what you asked, but please don’t call it a “vow renewal” unless you actually plan to have some kind of vow renewal ceremony. It’s a weekend with friends to celebrate a milestone anniversary. I’m one of those people who will move heaven and earth to attend a wedding, and to me a vow renewal is just one step down from a wedding, especially if I didn’t get to attend the original wedding. A weekend with friends feels much more optional (although I would love to attend such a thing if I had the time/budget).
Anonymous says
Yeah to me a vow renewal is already eye rolling but if you’re going to call it that I expect to see you renewing vows.
anon says
+1. TBH, a 10-year anniversary party is sort of cringe-worthy. It’s a milestone for you as a couple, but it isn’t particularly special or noteworthy in the grand scheme of things. I don’t think you get a do-over for your wedding.
Anonymous says
To be blunt, I sort of agree. 10 years in is when the first major round of divorces started in my friend group, so I feel like making it to 10 years isn’t that big an accomplishment. If unique stuff has happened that made the 10 years very challenging for you as a couple, I can see making an exception but 10 years isn’t a milestone that deserves celebration in and of itself, like 50 years.
Anonanonanon says
I would much rather attend a weekend with friends than someone’s vow renewal…. so this will probably be person-dependent. However, DEFINITELY agree you need to be specific about what it is. If it’s a vow renewal, people will expect a ceremony/reception etc. Otherwise, just say “It’s our 10 year anniversary and we’re planning a trip to _____ and would love to celebrate with friends! How does a group trip sound?”
Anonymous says
If you want to include friends, have it a) where you live or b) wherever is most convenient for your friends. Sorry, I’m not flying to your destination anniversary party.
Anon says
I get this, but can’t the people who feel this way just not attend?
Anonymous says
Absolutely! But assuming she wants people to go, it’s something to consider. No fun to plan an amazing party in Austin only to realize zero people want to go.
Anon says
My parents did their vow renewal for 20 years at Pebble Beach something like 13ish years ago and it was lovely (they did have a short ceremony). I might consider something in Montana in August – the summers are beautiful and not super hot if I remember correctly as a child, or maybe outside of Denver as suggested above.
anon says
If you want people to actually come to this, it needs to be in a place where people would want to go on purpose for some other reason. I know you said not vegas, but … vegas? My husband and I got vow renewed there for our 10th anniversary, by Elvis, and it was hilarious and fun and awesome. (We did not invite anyone to go with us, we just did it ourselves as part of a trip out there).
OP says
So you all are just confirming that this wouldn’t work, but FWIW, my friends suggested that I do this because they all missed my wedding and we get together every year anyway, always in their hometown in the PacNW. But thanks for the gut check. I’ll go back to planning my own getaway for our anniversary.
Anonymous says
Or have a party in their hometown when you are there with them anyway? Or ask them if they’d be interested in meeting up somewhere else this time?
Anonymous says
+1 on a party during the regular hometown meetup.
IHeartBacon says
If you were a close friend of mine or a family member, I would absolutely attend a vow renewal or join you for a anniversary celebration. If you have friends who have already expressed interest, then you know there are a least some folks who want to attend. I say go for it. I agree with others, however, about not calling it a vow renewal if it really isn’t going to be a ceremony with some type of celebration following the ceremony. A few years ago some friends of my husband and me put out feelers about doing a big group trip for their 10 year anniversary. We were honored to be included on the invite list. There were 6 couples total who went, including the bride’s parents and the groom’s siblings. They didn’t have a ceremony or anything, but we all had dinner together one evening at a very nice restaurant where we had a private room. They decorated the room beautifully (twinkle lights, candles, etc), which made the dinner feel very festive and incredibly romantic. Everyone dressed up for the dinner. For desert they had a small wedding cake, which was a replica of their original cake. We did a champagne toast and the (original) maid of honor and best man gave small speeches. So did nearly everyone else, including the bride and groom. Everyone was crying by the end of the speeches. I disagree with some of the other commenters that celebrating a 10 year anniversary is cringe-worthy. A lot of good (and sad) stuff can happen in 10 years.
Anon Lawyer says
So why are the posters on DC Urban Moms so mean and judgmental? Is it something about the DC area (where I’ve always actually found a good support system and nice people) or is it just an Internet phenomenon?
Anon says
Just the internet I think, but some internet communities definitely foster different attitudes. That one seems like a place for the mean girls to hang out.
Anonanonanon says
I’m in the DC area and have never utilized that site for this reason. A lot of mean people with too much time on their hands I think? I’m glad you have found a great support system in the DC area. I haven’t had a horrible experience, but I definitely haven’t connected with many other mothers either. I have more in common with other women who work, and women who work and have small children are busy.
Anon says
I think it’s the DC-area. Likely exacerbated by online anonymity. But notwithstanding that I too have found my support system here in the DC-area with what I would call “good people” who I can see raising my and their children together (similar to how I grew up with a lot of friends who were like family to us) and can see us staying here for the long-term, it has been a long road to get to that place. I’m not sure if it’s the general affluence of the area, the often transient nature of the community or something in the water, but I find people generally (not all, obviously) to be more judgmental, competitive and often rude in this area than anywhere else I’ve lived (from major city all the way down to a horse farm in the country).
Anon says
I grew up in the DC area and now live in Silicon Valley. As a kid, I cared a lot about what people thought about my clothes, body, etc. I now mostly DGAF. I’ve always attributed the change to a variety of different factors, but maybe I should weight geography more heavily.