Accessory Tuesday: Sharna Cross Strap
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These shoes from Rockport are very highly rated at Zappos, and they’re on sale, too (for $55.99 from $80). They look like they’d be great shoes for running around after your kiddo, but they’re also flattering, particularly because the crossed straps dip below the line where the typical ankle strap would go. Rockport Sharna Cross Strap
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Sales of note for 12.10
(See all of the latest workwear sales at Corporette!)
- Nordstrom – Beauty deals on skincare (ends 12/14) including La Mer, Kate Somerville, Dior, Sunday Riley, Dyson, and gift sets — the deals include reader favorite lip balms Dior Addict, NARS Afterglow, and Clinique’s Black Honey, as well as Too Faced mascara and Sunday Riley’s Good Genes.
- Ann Taylor – 40% off your purchase, up to 50% off outerwear
- Banana Republic Factory – 50-70% off everything + extra 20% off
- Eloquii – Extra 50% off all sale + extra 25% off 2+ items
- J.Crew – Up to 60% off everything, with 40% off their newest styles
- J.Crew Factory – 50% off everything + extra 25% off when you buy 3+ styles
- Macy’s – 15% off beauty, including Tarte, Clinique, Dior and gift sets
- Spanx – Lots of workwear on sale, some up to 70% off, plus free shipping on everything (and 20% off your first order)
- Talbots – 50% off everything + extra 25% off when you buy 3+ styles
And — here are some of our latest threadjacks of interest – working mom questions asked by the commenters!
- The concept of “backup care” is so stupid…
- I need tips on managing employees in BigLaw who have to leave for daycare pickup…
- I’m thinking of leaning out to spend more time with my family – how can I find the perfect job for that?
- I’m now a SAHM and my husband needs to step up…
- How can I change my thinking to better recognize some of my husband’s contributions as important, like organizing the shed?
- What are your tips to having a good weekend with kids, especially with little kids? Do you have a set routine or plan?
I definitely do want to try and address it with diet and exercise. Time is the biggest obstacle, but money is a factor too, with us building a new house.
The current plan for diet is joining WW this week to become more mindful of eating habits and shed some lbs. The online WW program doesn’t require me to spend a weekday evening or weekend morning attending a meeting and is cheaper so I’m happy about that. I’m going the implement the advice about oatmeal for breakfast and salad for lunch immediately.
For exercise, I’m going to try to walk on weekday evenings for an hour after baby goes to bed and before logging back on to finish work. I’m also looking for a yoga class that I can do with baby on the weekend.
I’m very open to all suggestions!
After several years of our school-age son being on behavioral plans and still struggling with issues related to impulse control and attention, we’re pursuing an evaluation for ADHD. So many of the signs seem to fit what he’s going through, and the social interactions are getting harder for him all the time. He’s a bundle of energy who doesn’t know when to quit, and many of his peers have just had it with him. Breaks my heart. Emotionally, I’m all over the place. I’ve been trying to get my DH on board for testing for awhile now and he just didn’t see it until very recently. So I’m a little angry at him, and me, for not pushing harder. I feel relief that my DS might finally be able to get the help he needs. But I feel so ill-equipped for dealing with this. If ADHD is the verdict, he’s going to need more behavioral counseling, and possibly a different setup for before/aftercare.
Any tips for navigating the testing process, and working with the school? And how do you manage a behavioral diagnosis as a working parent?
On top of dealing with kid stuff, I’ve spent half my workday calling around to assisted living places for my grandpa, who is recovering from a car accident and is going to need more hands-on care when he’s finished rehab from the accident.
I feel pulled in a million directions and like I’m failing everyone. Let’s just say work is not my highest priority right now.
Sort of along the same lines as the conversation above, but…lately I have really, really been missing my 11-month-old when I’m at work. I went back to work when he was 3.5 months, a few weeks earlier than I had planned to, because I was REALLY bored being on leave. When I got back to work, everyone kept checking in with me, and saying how hard it was to go back to work for all moms…except I didn’t feel that way. I loved being at work during the day and seeing DS in the morning/evening and on weekends. But now that DS is more interactive and learning new things every day, I find myself really missing him during work, looking at my phone for pics from the nanny, etc. I know I wouldn’t be happy as a SAHM and I love my job, but it’s been rough lately. I don’t think there’s anything to be done, but just venting my sad feelings today :(
Hi Ladies! Thanks for all the support I got when I posted earlier about my defiant tantruming little kindergartener. Things have been going better for the last week or so and it’s amazing how much better it feels. Combo of good work from school and both my husband and I, and frankly, good effort from him. We still have an appointment for parent-child interaction therapy later this month and I have an individual counseling appointment (long in the making) for this Friday. Light-I see you at the end of this tunnel!
OK YOU GUYS I need to share this. I just found out my health plan offers what are essentially skype appointments with a doctor 24/7. They are legitimate doctor’s appointments, super fast to arrange, and very cost effective. I just used this this morning when one of my kids woke up with pinkeye. While I waited in the “line” to see the doctor I was getting things ready in the kitchen while kiddos played. Actual conversation w/doctor took only a few minutes (we chatted and he looked at kid’s eyes), and they sent the script to the pharmacy immediately. AND, most importantly, avoided going to the doctor’s office with flu germs floating around. This was so incredibly helpful to me. Wouldn’t use this for a more serious/complex issue, but for run of the mill stuff it was so helpful. Call your benefits/hr office and find out if this is something you can take advantage of. Seriously a life saver today!
Posted but it got swallowed, so apologize if this is a duplicate. Short version: can someone please reassure me that my almost-3 year old will at some point learn how to deal with his anger/emotions and stop hitting/yelling/gnashing his teeth at people? I feel like we’re FINALLY making some progress at home (going on since about 18 mo) but it’s just getting worse at preschool, and they’re running out of ideas. We have a whole library of strategies that sometimes work, but up till now I’ve basically been thinking “this too shall pass,” only… it hasn’t yet. It will, eventually, right??
My almost-3 year old, while generally a very happy and extremely easy kid, has always had a lot of anger and trouble dealing with it — i.e., started knocking over furniture when mad at 18 months, rips the houseplants, looks around for something to destroy, yells/gnashes teeth, etc. He also tries to hit us ALL the time and will try (but never succeed/follow through) to bite us. Time-outs have worked well for throwing toys, damaging inanimate objects, etc., but have never worked for hitting, so we eventually stopped them for hitting and just ignore him or say “I won’t let you hurt me, I’m going over here fora while.” (This doesn’t work very well either.) Sending him to go play music for a while or snuggle his lovies is really the only thing that helps him calm down. We read “hands are not for hitting” a few times a week. Spanking is out.
Now he’s hitting/yelling/gnashing teeth at preschool too and I am just beside myself (pregnancy hormones?). Preschool is being great but I think they’re also running out of ideas — sending him to go stomp his feet sometimes works, and they have some lovies he can snuggle, they’ve taught him to stomp his feet and take a break etc., but man, you don’t like to hear that your preschool is out of ideas. Can someone just reassure me that yes, he will grow out of this, he will learn to manage his feelings, and he’s not going to be still hitting his friends and screaming in their faces when he’s in fifth grade? And any other ideas? FWIW my husband remembers having this kind of all-encompassing anger he didn’t know what to do with when he was small.
Bedtime HELP. I have two kids: 3.5 and 5.5. The 3.5 is clearly ready to give up his nap, but there is no other “option” for kids his age to go in lieu of a napping room at school. Unfortunately, that means he simply cannot settle at night, and is routinely staying up until like 9 or 9:30. He is up like clockwork at like 6:45. I hate this, in part because I feel like it’s a really late bedtime for a 3.5 year old – but honestly, mostly because I am ready to be DONE by 8PM. We have a rock solid bedtime routine that we’ve had since my kids were little, and I’ve been striving to have them in bed with the lights out by 7:30. That way, they can have some time to talk before they go down (and are clearly exhausted), but they just end up winding each other up. They share a room, so he is also often keeping up his brother (who definitely would fall asleep by 8). But, as soon as I leave the room, they are laughing and talking and carrying on. It drives me crazy — I’m usually upstairs like four or five times before they finally pass out around 9:30.
I am solo parenting a bunch right now while my husband travels internationally, and I can’t figure out what to do. Bedtime used to be my favorite time with my kids, but they just get so wound up and I can’t figure out how to calm them down without resorting to punishment, which I don’t love and also doesn’t work. Thoughts? Separating them is an option, but not ideal.
Just wanted to say thank you for all the thoughtful responses yesterday to my post about being overwhelmed as a working mom of a baby and toddler. I read the replies with tears streaming down my face, while holding my sick, sleeping baby. I’m still completely underwater, but it really does help to know I’m not alone and this is all normal. I really appreciate the wonderful women in this community.
When will I start to love my second baby? He’s almost two weeks old and I like him quite a bit. He’s an easy baby and I’m definitely glad we had him. But with his sister (who’s now two), I remember feeling this intense immediate bond with her, and I just…don’t have that with my son.
Everything I read about second babies was along the lines of “I never thought I could love my second kid as much as the first but the second he was born my heart expanded and filled with all this love.” That has not been my experience at all — so far, I still am a million times more attached to his older sister, who is adorable and frustrating and charming and wonderful.
It’ll happen, right?
I had a different weaning experience than yours (my son pretty much was too busy for the b00b at 14 months and never looked back), but I wanted to say that the hormonal roller coaster from weaning is real. We had the most relaxed, stretched out weaning you could imagine, and I still had really crazy hormone/emotion experiences to the extent that I actually went to my OB GYN. They suggested low dose of SSRIs if it didn’t get better, but it did. Just wanted to put that on your radar because I legitimately thought I was having some sort of breakdown and did not know that is pretty common.
Looking (unabashedly) for some encouragement. I’m in the process of mother-led-weaning my 12 month old, mostly motivated by some time pressure to get going on number two and still no cycle. We were down to morning and evening, and last night I put LO to bed the first time without nursing. Then I watched a movie where the protagonist leads a successful but tortured life and offs himself when he’s at his prime. COMPLETELY LOST IT and cried for about an hour. I wanted to whip LO out of the crib, latch him on and keep him safe forever. I know objectively it’s probably weaning hormones and mourning the end of the true baby era. I do want to wean though and am excited for the next stage. How long should this mopey period last? Tips for letting go?
Cross posting from the other site because there’s a four and two year old in the mix as well:
Those of you who have hung out your own shingles/are self employed, and those of you who are married to self employed people – can you help me with this transition? My husband quit his day job three weeks ago to focus full time on his business, and we’re on just my salary but the demands of two full time careers right now. I am really struggling with self care, care for my marriage, support of his endeavor, and getting my own side hustle off the ground. Any tips? Any ideas for any of the above that cost literally $0? My salary is enough to cover the bills, but only just.
I feel like I am having a constant low grade panic attack and am snappier and angrier with people than I generally wish to be.
Funny story: We celebrate mother’s day in March in the UK but I’m American so it doesn’t register on my radar until May and I realise I can’t buy a card to send to my mom. We were driving home from work and my husband said, “Oh mother’s day is coming up…we’ll have to have a think about that.’ Cue me grumbling about emotional labour, he looks after his mum, I’ll look after mine…
I didn’t register that mother’s day applied for me this year!
I went to the doctor last week (for the first time since my 6-week post-partum appointment) and found out that my blood pressure is insanely high. Like 170/120 high. He told me a could stroke out anytime with readings like that. My doctor wouldn’t let me leave the office without BP medication, so I’m taking that now but I took some home readings and they are still 150/100. I feel like, if my blood pressure is this high at age 31 WTH is it going to be like when I’m 51? My BP was on the higher end of normal before I got pregnant (around 125/80), high during pregnancy (but controlled by medication) and seemed to return to normal after birth and during my mat leave (the last time it would have been measured was at my post-partum appointment) but obviously has increased a lot since then. I’ve been back at work for 8 months, my husband went back to work in January (meaning baby started daycare and is sick all the time), we moved to a new city in December so are now dealing with a new commute but we’re in temporary accommodation as the building of our home was delayed. I feel like this stressful stage of life is spiking my BP. Does anyone have experience with this, and did your BP ever return to normal?
TLDR: Between my litigation job and a lot of life changes, my life is stressful and I don’t think I can change that. I don’t want to be on BP medication at age 31 and definitely not longterm. Any good news stories from people who’ve experienced something similar?