Everyone Thursday: Jacquard Intarsia Scarf

This may be a bit late in the day, but related to the post about someone’s nanny needing a new job and another poster needing a nanny (how awesome!), does anyone know of some good resources for figuring out daycare options in NYC, specifically Manhattan. I’m not sure if hoping for one or two comprehensive s*tes is too much to hope for, but I’m also not having the best luck with google alone. The two day care centers I found so far that work logistically have over a 1-2 yr. waiting lists and are very pricey on top of that. I know there are other ones, but I am getting so frustrated trying to locate them. Someone told me of a Park Slope parents group but I don’t live in Park Slope so it’s of very limited use; googling my neighborhood + parents just gets me a lot of stories about insane Manhattan moms. Thanks.

It’s time to cry it out. I have been dreading it, making excuses for baby, and just putting up with it, but I think it is finally time. 11 month old DD wakes up every2- 3 hours at night to nurse. I have tried to cut down the nursing time. I have also tried to offer her a bottle with a little less milk in it every night, but she cries until she gets enough.
She goes to bed around 8 (after a dinner of solids and a long nursing session), then I dream feed around midnight, she wakes up around 3am for nursing, again around 5:30am, and then is fully awake around 7:30am. So, I would like to cut out the 3am nursing. Husband has tried giving her a bottle at 3am and she screamed until I gave in. Is that just how this needs to go?
What am I doing wrong? Any help would be sincerely appreciated!!

If you cry easily and don’t want to cry at your desk right now, stop reading here.

I’ve never met this woman, but she is a friend of a close friend. My heart just breaks for her, and I think she’s so brave to tell this story (which she posted on facebook and invited people to share widely, so I’m just going to copy it below), and her message is so important. Current recommendations are that infants sleep flat on their back on a fairly hard surface with no bedding other than a tightly-fitted sheet, but older generations learned differently and might not know things have changed. Please make sure you and all your baby’s caregivers follow the new recommendations. A couple of well-intentioned mistakes and a huge dose of bad luck ended with such a tragedy.

“This is hard to write but it’s important so I’m doing it anyway. I just got a call from the medical examiner. Molly did not die from SIDS. She died from suffocation. She was in a swaddle sack I had given our sitter. She was slightly propped on her side on the edge of a pack n play. She rolled herself onto her belly and her face was buried in some blankets that were on the bottom of the crib to make it softer. Because of the swaddle sack, she couldn’t lift her head to breathe. The doctor assured me that she slept through the whole thing and was at no point awake and scared. I had wrapped my head around her dying from SIDS. I told myself something was just missing from her brain that told her to move and breathe. But that’s not what happened. There was nothing wrong with her brain. She is supposed to be here. I used to put Owen in a pack n play with blankets on the bottom because those thin pads can’t be comfortable. A lot of us do that. But I’m writing this with a broken heart as I beg you, please don’t put anything in the crib. Nothing. Molly is supposed to be here.”

How do you distinguish between wanting a second child and general baby fever? My kid is almost a year, and my husband and I always said we probably only want one but agreed to keep the conversation open. I’m still mostly on board for this, for numerous reasons. We’re already stretched fairly thin, with our time, attention, finances, etc. I have a hard time picturing us adding another little person to the mix. But when I see pictures of friends’ little tiny newborns, I start to ache for another one. It’s hard to know whether I actually want another child or whether I’m just feeling nostalgic for those early days. I also worry a little about my child not having a built-in playmate. Any advice or insight?