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And — here are some of our latest threadjacks of interest – working mom questions asked by the commenters!
- If you’re a working parent of an infant with low sleep needs, how do you function at work when you’re in the throes of baby’s sleep regression?
- Should I cut my childcare down to 12 hours a month if I work from home?
- Will my baby have speech delays if we raise her bilingual?
- Has anyone given birth in a teaching hospital?
- My child eats everything, and my friends’ kids do not – how should I handle? In general, what is the best way to handle when your child has some skill/ability and your friend’s child doesn’t have that skill/ability?
- ADHD moms, give me your tips to help with things like behavior in the classroom, attention to detail, etc?
- I think I suffer from mom rage…
- My husband and kids are gone this weekend – how should I enjoy my free time?
- I’m struggling to be compassionate with a SAHM friend who complains she doesn’t have enough hours of childcare.
- If you exclusively formula fed, what tips do you have for in the hospital and coming home?
- Could I take my 4-yo and 8-yo on a 7-8 day trip to Paris, Lyon, and Madrid?
Clementine says
Does this exist in adult sizes? I’m looking for the adult equivelent of the Primary 5 pack of bike shorts. I want them to be more substantial than Skimmies but don’t need them to be hardcore workout shorts. Ideally, I’d like a cotton/spandex combo.
(Looking to wear these under summer dresses while playing with my kids. One of my kiddos likes to hide between my legs and frequently flings my skirt up.)
AnonATL says
I’m pretty sure I’ve seen a cotton/spandex blend of bike shorts on Zulily before to wear under tunics and dresses. They typically have a ton of different colors and patterns. It looks like Hanes makes some available on Amazon in black and grey. Just search cotton bike shorts. There’s a “yoga” compression short that look more cotton than athletic material. I used to have a few of these to prevent chafing under dresses.
Pigpen's Mama says
The name is awful, but “Se*y Basics” — found on Amaz*n — has some cotton shorts with a little bit of spandex that are great for wearing under dresses/skirts. The Jockey Skimmies were too light for me, even though I didn’t want compression. Since they are cotton, they are also pretty cool. I’ll put a link in a reply.
Pigpen's Mama says
My other comment is in moderation, but I like these. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01CIT5V9U/
They do lose their stretch after a while, but I get at least one spring/summer of about weekly use from them.
Anonymous says
This appears to be the uniform of the pack of teen girls roaming my neighbourhood at the moment- bra top, grey bike shorts, big handbag, clunky shoes. Maybe stores which target teens – Forever21, Aerie, etc?
TheElms says
It makes me chuckle that teen girls are wearing these as shorts and we want them to wear under other clothes. Oh how things change as you age! (And if you are a grown up and rock bike shorts that’s awesome and and I am inspired by you – but I’m not there yet).
Pogo says
I feel like such An Old when I look at the teens and what they’re wearing. Like with VSCO girls and all that, the scrunchies and baggy sweatshirts we wore in the 90s are back. I also see a lot of super short shorts with their butts hanging out and I’m sure I dressed ridiculous when I was their age too, but I can’t help being like OMG what are they wearing?!
Clementine says
look, my ‘eyebrows’ were six hairs and my jeans were so low rise it made coin slot ‘normal’. They look comfy.
Pogo says
hahahahah oh man. I remember the “baby tee” + low rise trend where there was a good four inches of exposed flesh. I definitely rocked that, point taken!
Anonymous says
Did any of you suffer from symphysis pubis dysfunction during pregnancy? I’m 99% sure that’s what I’m experiencing right now, and I’m struggling to walk and move around. I will talk to my doctor about it, but in the interim would appreciate any advice any of you have to deal with it.
cb says
I did, really early on, like 12-14 weeks. And I know chiropractors are controversial but I went to one specialising in pregnancy and postpartum care and honestly, she fixed me in like 4 sessions. No big corrections, no touching my neck, just gentle adjustments, the gun thing, and massage. I saw her throughout my pregnancy and went from struggling to walk at the end of the first trimester to happily walking 5 miles at 2 weeks overdue.
Cb says
Comment disappeared but yes – I know chiropractors are controversial but I went to one specialising in pregnancy and went from not being able to walk at the end of the first trimester to walking 5 miles at 42 weeks. Gentle adjustments and deep tissue massage.
Pogo says
(raises hand) I had it with my first and currently experiencing with my second. Some resources that were recommended on here have helped – the book “Relieving Pelvic Pain During and After Pregnancy: How Women Can Heal Chronic Pelvic Instability”, and the program “One Strong Mama”. The book has helpful hints on actual day to day movements like getting out of bed, getting in the car, vacuuming, etc which are very painful w/ SPD, as well as basic exercises and ‘tests’ that you can do to see if you have SPD (since most likely you can’t get to a PT right now due to COVID)
One Strong Mama is a fully online exercise program, a combination of yoga, stretching and PT that addresses SPD. Honestly I think there are a bunch of similar programs, all similarly priced, same business model etc. I’ve had success w/ this one so I’m happy to recommend it. You have to be consistent – doing the SPD specific exercises at least 1x a day, and doing the longer videos 2-3x/week. I REALLY feel it if I miss a day or two.
I also encourage you to return to exercise mindfully after the birth – I got back into running and running w/ the stroller quickly and then ended up in PT for months. Pregnancy does a number on your core and pelvic stability, and unfortunately, the only way I’ve found to fully return to pre-pregnancy pain-free life is putting in the work with PT. As lot of people on here have mentioned, it’s kind of crazy that in the US there is no expectation you go to PT after birth like there is in other countries. If COVID doesn’t allow you to see someone in person, I think the OSM program is a great alternative (MANY of the exercises are exactly what my PT gave me).
Physical therapist says
Many physical therapy clinics are still seeing patients, so please do not defer care if you would typically seek PT services.
Pogo says
Thanks – I should check again, in my state it was not happening recently and they were doing telehealth. Which to me is similar to watching someone walk you through the exercises on a video.
Anon says
Physical therapy worked for me with simple exercises explained to me in 15 min. I couldn’t walk without significant pain and was completely healed by PT.
Spirograph says
I thought I was, but my OB was not convinced, so I never did any formal PT, although I did look up stretching exercises online and do those. For me, it was the worst when I went from sitting to standing. I’d have to stand up and just kind of wait for a good minute or five before I could walk. Standing desk helped, as did sitting on an exercise ball vs in a chair. I also had a support band that seemed to help a bit. I’m sorry to say the most helpful thing was spending time in a pool, because I know that’s not an option in a lot of places right now.
Anonymous says
I had it with my second during the last 2 months. He was 2lbs heavier than my first at birth. I hear swimming helps. I stopped vacuuming and went up stairs very slowly. Same with getting out of the car.
aelle says
I got a lumbar support belt (specifics given by my OB) and it made a big difference, although the pain didn’t completely go away until a few weeks after birth. Also if that’s an option for you, biking was infinitely more comfortable than walking, so I biked even for very short distances.
2 Cents says
Yes! From 20 weeks on. Two years later, still suffering. I saw a PT (before Rona) and just two sessions helped immensely. I wish I had gone to a PT who specializes in pregnant women while pregnant (though I couldn’t handle yet another appointment at the time). Do not do what I did and wait! (Even if you have to wait until after baby.) my OBGYN was skeptical too, but I had all the symptoms.
Realist says
Spirograph and 2 Cents, I’m sorry your OBs did not support you. Why don’t doctors listen to women about their own bodies?!
Anon says
Does anyone have a child with vacuum form retainers, and can offer me cleaning advice? Normally I would just call the orthodontist, but they’re still closed and asking people to only call with emergencies.
They directed me to clean the retainers with regular toothpaste, and to soak them in denture cleaner or clear mouthwash. The issue is that I’ve been wearing heavy petroleum-based lip balm overnight, due to allergies making my nose and lips raw. The usual cleaners can’t cut through the lip balm residue, and I don’t want to go crazy with harsh chemicals for fear of damaging the retainers.
Does anyone know a safe cleaner that will get this oily lip balm off, but won’t melt my 400-dollar retainers?
Anonymous says
wouldn’t dish soap be safe?
Anon says
OH MY GOD how did I not think of this. I use dishwasher pods, and I think my brain totally deleted the concept of liquid dish soap because I use it so rarely. Thank you!
Anonymous says
Wait but I have questions? How do you never have to wash anything by hand. Please share your ways!!!
Anonymous says
Seriously, tell me how you avoid using dish soap! I have at least a few things i hand wash every day – pots and pans, especially nonstick and cast iron, knives, etc.
Anon says
Sure! We follow a Mediterranean/low-fat diet, so we eat as much fresh produce as possible, and we bake or broil our meats (chicken and fish) in the oven using Corningware. We rarely use the stove, but when we do, we have inexpensive stainless Farberware pots that are dishwasher safe. I chop veg with one-piece stainless knives I got at BB&B that are dishwasher safe.
People who are good at cooking probably use better tools that warrant hand washing, but frankly I’m a lazy slob who just wants food prep and clean-up to be over. I’d rather use cheap stuff that I can toss in the machine.
Lana Del Raygun says
I’ve never cooked meat in the oven in *anything* without it needing to be scrubbed. :(
anne-on says
Have you tried oil cleansers? That’s what they’re designed to do. If they’re safe for your face I can’t imagine they wouldn’t be safe for dentures. You just need to use them on dry skin (or dry retainers!). This one is pretty cheap and washes off easily. I use it in the summer to get sunblock and bug spray off easily off my kid.
https://www.amazon.com/Innisfree-Apple-Seed-Cleansing-150ml/dp/B01LSZOX1W/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=oil+cleanser+innisfree&qid=1591278326&sr=8-2
anon says
I have vacuum form retainers – but sounds like we’ve gotten different advice in the past since I was explicitly told not to use toothpaste on them. I use Retainer Brite cleaner on my dentist’s recommendation but not sure if it would solve your problem.
Father's Day gift ideas says
Reposting from yesterday since I posted late. Any suggestions for a Father’s Day gift for my husband? I have a 2 year old and will have a 2 week old. Last year, I did a picnic at the park and a photo gift. But we won’t have newborn photos done yet. And not sure that getting out of the house for long will be feasible (although maybe).
Also while I super appreciate the cute ideas in the responses yesterday to have my 25 month old make something, I don’t think that’s feasible this year (but saving for the future!). He won’t sit still more than 5 minutes; husband is WFH so would see me attempting to make something; I’m still finishing up at work today; I’m being induced tomorrow. So I’m really looking for something I can order online that would be a keepsake for my husband, cute, silly, or practical/useful. Any of the above. Thanks!
Cb says
Matching tshirts? Papa Bear, Brother Bear, Baby bear. It’s corny but cute. My son has long outgrown his but my husband wears his all the time.
Anonymous says
Love this. I did something similar for DH years ago and he loved it more than I would have expected.
Anon says
Get one of those shirts with a racetrack on the back. Dad lays on the floor while 2 year old runs cars around his back and gives dad a semi-massage.
Or get matching dad/kid socks. We liked Pair of Theives but you can get them from a variety of places. My kids LOVE to coordinate days to wear the matching socks, and it’s pretty much the cutest thing.
Clementine says
Matching socks and matching converse have been HUGE hits in my house.
Anonymous says
Does he have interests? Hobbies? Things he likes? Order him a nice book related to one, and write a thoughtful inscription that you love all of him and hope he enjoys getting to explore a passion during the hours of rocking the baby.
Anon says
Johnny Was facemasks? The neutral version. That’s what my dad is getting!
Anon says
I am outing myself but I make DH a custom Tervis tumbler every year with pics of him and the kids and “Happy Father’s Day 20XX” – then we use them all year. Surprisingly easy to do online and they turn out great and hold up!
Anon says
I love this idea. The Tervis tumblers with the flip tops (20 oz) are great.
FP says
Not sure if your husband would like this but I bought matching swimsuits for my two boys and my husband – they all look adorable in them! Vineyard Vines has a big matching area.
Realist says
If you have any decent family photos of 2020, even just casual ones, go to Etsy and look for one of those artists that will make a drawing from the photo to capture your family for Father’s Day 2020. I would think they might even be able to mash together 2 or 3 photos if you aren’t all in one.
Anon says
Good luck tomorrow!
Sg says
I ordered my husband a watercolor print of his favorite sport stadium from etsy (instant download) and am getting it printed on canvas from Costco.
Lana Del Raygun says
With a 2yo, maybe a kit to build a birdhouse?
Anon says
Are any of you taking your kids to protests? I am taking my 7 and 5 year old to a family protest this weekend. (Sorry if this has been discussed before, I haven’t been reading the site regularly lately)
Anonymous says
No way. Police in our city are deliberately attacking the media and peaceful protesters with pepper spray, tear gas, and physical force. Outside groups, rumored to be white supremacists, are carrying firearms and engaging in violent acts. Then there’s the pandemic. I understand that it’s sometimes necessary to risk one’s own life for the sake of justice, but I’m not risking my children’s lives.
Anon says
No. I went myself and took pictures and showed my kids after. I’m in Houston and there were 60,000 people there, it was hot and crowded. Very glad I went but even the walk from parking to the march would have worn them out. It didn’t feel like a good learning moment in the moment – lots of angry and sad people even at a peaceful protest.
Houstonian says
should add I did take my kids to the women’s march and the march against gun violence. this one had less kids and felt different.
Anonymous says
Yes- I’m in a small suburban town
Anon says
I love the sentiment of your question, but my general feeling is that a) there’s too much of a public health risk due to Covid and b) protests are ready-made for people who want to take advantage of the open invite and cause a disturbance. Not an experiment I want to subject my kid to. This is a very different time than say, the womens marches that occurred in January 2017.
anon says
Yep, I agree with all of this. Would’ve taken them to the women’s march; wouldn’t with this. The situation is more volatile and ripe for violence, at least in my city.
Spirograph says
I feel the same way. I’m looking into the suburban family-friendlier ones, but I will not take my preschoolers to the DC protests. Although there hasn’t been much violence (from protesters or law enforcement/military) in the last couple of days, it’s just too volatile of a situation both from a public health standpoint and an immediate physical safety standpoint for me to be comfortable doing that with my kids.
Anonymous says
We had a small neighborhood gathering yesterday evening, which I took my 1-year-old to. It was only about 20 minutes of standing around in a park, everyone wore masks, and there was no visible police presence. We are debating taking him down toward the White House on Saturday early on (like 10 am), but leaning toward no. Just don’t want to risk any tear gas or other dangers.
Anonymous says
I absolutely would not take your 1 year old near the White House now. There’s literally no benefit for him (he does not know what a protest is) and I would be worried about the police AND the crazies (not the protestors but like what supermacjsts and other extremist groups) that are now showing up.
Pogo says
Pre-COVID, I would have considered it (though I live far enough from the city to make it pretty unmanageable). Now, no, due to COVID. I am showing my support in other ways (so far donations).
CPA Lady says
No, but the police in my area have already tear gassed a peaceful protest. Otherwise I would take her to a daytime protest. Definitely would not take her to an evening one, even if the tear gassing hadn’t happened, since evening protests seem more volatile.
AnonLaywer says
I’d go to one of the family protests. I haven’t seen or heard of any trouble regarding those in my city. (I haven’t because they so far have seemed incompatible with the baby’s schedule but I feel kind of bad about it.)
Lana Del Raygun says
I took dd to a family separation protest when she was tiny. I’m not taking her out right now because of the combined danger of COVID and police violence, although the vigil I’m going to tonight will (I think) be peaceful enough that I would if it weren’t for COVID.
I do think it’s a good thing to do, when it’s safe. My mother took us to the MfL when we were little, and one of her earliest memories is a picket to support the UFCW grape boycott.
Anonymous says
It makes me really sad that the reason we are afraid to take kids to protests is not because of the protest itself but because of the violent police response to so many peaceful protesters so far.
Anonymous says
In DC proper, and just feeling sick about what I am seeing in terms of federal build-up on the streets. I may take my kids this weekend.
Knope says
Sorry for the late response on this, but hopefully you are still reading! There is going to be a “socially distanced protest” on Friday between 5-6 PM along 16th st – all the way up and down. They are asking everyone to stand 6 ft apart. At 5:45 participating houses of worship along the street will ring their bells, and everyone can take a knee. I plan to bring my kid, although we live in walking distance to 16th so it’s easier for us to bail out if things get too crowded or otherwise hairy.
Kara says
An actual protest with the possibility of tear gas – no. But I just went to a rally in my suburb, in a decently sized park, that was basically sitting or standing in a distanced way and listening to people speak. So if something like that exists near you I would totally go.
5YOfreakout says
5yo son has been having intense tantrums when things don’t go exactly his way. Yesterday it was because neighborhood kids didn’t appreciate something he gave them (paper Wonka bars with golden tickets inside, he thought they were awesome), even though we coached him about how to react if they didn’t know what Willy Wonka. Today, a 30 minute freak out because we didn’t bring pop-up chairs to a socially distanced outdoor lunch with friends. He got even more upset after we presented him with lots of alternatives to a chair and demanded we go home to get one as the only acceptable course of action. He ate lunch in our car by himself after it was clear that nothing we said helped, and we left early. His method of dealing with these situations is scream-crying until we ultimately get home. We haven’t given in if his demand is remotely unreasonable, but We usually comply if it’s something like red plate vs blue plate.
Is this beyond typical 5yo behavior? Can I reasonably expect a 5yo to be satisfied with situations that are only “good enough” and not perfect? I am rapidly losing patience for this and while I want to give him space to work it out in his head, these out of control reactions are really something. I don’t think it’s due to being tired or hungry. I’ve looked on Janet Lansbury’s site and other child psych resources and can’t really find useful steps. Any ideas? Are we finally seeing the pandemic stress I’ve been worried he would have?
Anon says
I don’t know if it’s typical or not, but my 5 yo does it. I found that getting on his level and talking him through the tantrum helps.
Anonymous says
Ha, same response. Don’t k is how typical but we are dealing with it at 5 too. Preschool thought our kid was a little more intense than others, but… all my friends with kids this age still are having these meltdowns. For our child the way thAt works best to address it is to leave him alone until he’s under control. At home we put him in his room until he can stop screaming at us (messaging it that way). Other kids might respond better to cuddles, talking it out, etc.
Anonymous says
It could be pandemic stress..but if you are personally seeing that his behavior isn’t on par with his friends/peers I would talk to the pediatrician. It really is possible for things like this to develop into anger issues (even as a child).
Anon in Texas says
Agree with seeking out your pediatrician. They have experience with the whole range of behavior and can tell you if what your describing is typical. FWIW, we took our son to the pediatrician after his daycare sent him home several times for acting out/aggressive behavior. We didn’t think it was too extreme but wanted to get a professional opinion and she confirmed his behavior was not typical. Long story short, after a year in therapy he is a different child. Therapist worked on his (and our) coping mechanisms for his intense anger issues. Not saying you need to go that route, but you should explore your options. I also like How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen. Giving in fantasy is a tactic that works especially well for my kid. Like he wants an extra cookie, I say, “I wish you could have another cookie, I wish you could have 100 cookies! How many cookies do you think you would eat?” This usually gets them excited about some absurd scenario and gets their mind off what is disappointing them.
Anonymous says
+1 on the book recommendation and on giving in in fantasy. It’s also very important to avoid trying to reason a kid out of his feelings.
5YOfreakout says
Thanks to you both. Will check out the book this week.
CHL says
I think this is both typical, and super frustrating and can be improved but part of it is growing up. We had good luck with our son using the Social Thinking Superflex program (offered at a local childrens’ therapy practice). It talks a lot about self-regulation, difference between small, medium and large problems, different types of “unthinkables” that get in our brains and make us get “stuck”. They have a website and if you search around you may be able to find a therapist that works with the program.
BlueAlma says
My almost six year old still goes through phases like this. They usually come when a routine is changed AND he’s eaten more sugar than usual.
Anon says
i know that people on this board really like Emily Oster and I was googling around to find her article about grandparents and day care and covid, and first came to an article in the Washington Post. Has anyone read this? Thoughts? https://www.washingtonpost.com/health/im-missing-it-all-grandparents-grieve-over-loss-of-visits-with-grandchildren/2020/05/29/0a9831c2-9fa6-11ea-b5c9-570a91917d8d_story.html
Anonymous says
Yeah I’m just not depriving my family of togetherness. We’ve done three months. We will continue to be socially distant outside. They don’t want to live like this and neither do we.
Anon says
it sounds like your grandparents live locally and you are lucky. for us it is either a 24 hour drive or a flight and the risk calculus is hard
Anon says
Health experts need to think this through and not always default to the most extreme advice about avoiding risk at all costs or people will start tuning them out more and more. It’s already happening with the protests. People look at the potential risk and say, ok, this is still more important – I’m doing it anyway.
Anon says
+1 This same thought process really struck me recently when there was a recent thread about how long parents kept their babies in their rooms. I know the official rec is 1 year (luckily that was after I had kids, we made it two months!) but it struck me how very few of the responses said they stuck to the whole year, or if they did it was due to an extenuating circumstance. And I consider this board to be fairly conservative on issues like this. That to me really showed that health advice is silly if it is so draconian that no one follows it… wouldn’t it be safer to be realistic & give advice accordingly?
That was a tangent, but I think the same can be applied here to COVID.
Realist says
+1. As someone who was very against co-sleeping, it took about 72 hours with my will-not-sleep-any-other-way baby to realize that all the recommendations were BS if they didn’t work in the real world and that parents need advice and recommendations on a spectrum that fits the real world. The way they do baby sleeping advice is akin to giving everyone abstinence-only education. And while my family is pretty conservative with Covid, I realize we are on that extreme end of the spectrum and it is very intentional. I’m really surprised that some people seem to think they are either in lockdown, or living life as normal and don’t see all the various things in between. And that is absolutely a failure of our public health officials toprovide a framework and data-driven, realistic guidelines for different regions.
Anon says
I know you and I have disagreed on some things with COVID (I’m the more, let’s get back to normal & I know you are conservative) but I will absolutely agree that the amount of confusion & lack of cohesive messaging at this point is staggering. I feel like I have no idea what’s allowed or what’s not anymore. I’m in the Bay Area. I think officially our SIP ended on Sunday? Honestly I don’t even know. But now we are in these weird “phases” but the examples given in the news for each phase are so weird and one-off specific (like, I think it literally addressed outdoor table tennis at one point) I have no idea who the examples even apply to. And my daycare reopens on June 15 (which I’m personally excited about, I know not everyone would be), yet as far as I know we aren’t officially allowed to see my nearby parents, or one family of friends, or whatever? Which also makes zero sense. Or maybe it is just implied that we allowed, since everyone seems to be doing it anyway? The messaging is totally mind boggling bad. In my opinion. At least here.
AnonLaywer says
I was just saying that to someone today – virtually nobody I know followed the baby in their room for a year advice unless they were also co-sleeping. Why give it then?
Anonymous says
Everyone’s situation is different. My parents and in-laws live half way across the country, so we do not expect we will see them in 2020. All of the grandparents are over 70 and they each have other risk factors, including receiving from open heart surgery last month and another is undergoing radiation. We would like to visit. However, I would rather deal with a guilt trip from an unhappy parent than risking that our visit caused one (or all) to get the coronavirus
SC says
My parents got on a plane and visited us for a week. They’re flying home today. They are well aware of the risks. My mother is a doctor. They have N95 masks. They’re taking the virus seriously to some extent (masks, social distancing), but they’re pretty determined to live their lives. They’re also planning road trips, flights, and cruises for later this year, though I’m not sure they’ll actually be going on these trips.
One set of in-laws is basically coming to the conclusion that they’re going to accept risk. They’ve been quarantining at home, but FIL has gone back to work. He’s a doctor and seeing patients and operating. His wife’s grandchildren are going back to daycare, but I highly doubt she’ll stop seeing them. (They’ve all been completely quarantined since March and combined germ circles.)
The other set of in-laws hasn’t left their house since March for anything, and they haven’t invited us there for socially distanced visits.
Anon says
We are staying locked down ourselves (not sure what the legal status is in Virginia – I think our SAH order goes through June 10 unless it was rescinded, but at the same time most of the state is entering Phase II reopening except for Richmond and Northern VA which are about 2 weeks behind the rest of the state). The reason we are staying locked down (grocery only delivery, no in person shopping, WFH, no housekeeper, no outside care providers (DH is a SAHD, but I have been working 12 hour days up until this week, so normally he would get a break through preschool (closed) or a babysitter), no gym when they open, no pool when they open, *might* in 2 weeks entertain the notion of curbside takeout or delivery because I am so over cooking 3 meals a day for the past 3 months but we will see how this Phase II reopening goes) is so that we can alternate visiting grandparents (which is not socially distant as we have a toddler who does not understand stay apart) every 2 weeks. As long as I can continue to WFH, and preschool hasn’t started yet, the plan is to stay locked down in favor of visiting grandparents with low risk (aided by the 2 week separation between visits, so that we are not transferring germs from each set to the other set). Once preschool opens back up hopefully in the fall (they follow public school calendars), toddler is definitely going to preschool, and we’ll have to see what the risk calculus is then, but even if the calculus is no in person grandparent visits, I think preschool is more important for her development than in person grandparent visits – she desperately needs the activity, engagement and social aspects that preschool can provide.
SC says
PSA on 2 great children’s book ordering experiences I’ve had recently.
First, I ordered a “surprise” box of used books from Gottwals Books several weeks ago for my son. With the surprise box, you tell them your interests, and they pick the books. You get $50 worth of books (based on their sticker price) for $35 and free shipping. I told them my son was 5 and loved vehicles, especially trains. They shipped about 10 books, many of which involved vehicles in some capacity, and a few that are great for any 5 year old. The books are very gently used or new. Miraculously, none were duplicates of anything my son has read at school or checked out from the library.
Second, I ordered 19 books from Book Outlet for about $100. I spent about an hour picking these out, so it’s more work. But we received some great books that I’m really excited to read.
We rely on the library a lot, and Kiddo also gets exposed to lots of different books at daycare. (They rotate a large collection.) He’s been begging for “something I’ve never read before.” I’ve been using Kindle Unlimited and the library’s digital resources, especially for early chapter books. I also bought a few books for his birthday from Amazon. But now we have almost 30 new picture books in our collection for under $150!
make em say uh.... anon-anon says
Awesome recs!!! I also wanted to share a non-Riversite way of getting books I discovered through quarantine. I called my local Half Price Books and gave them a list of titles. Some they had in store, which they set aside for me, and others they could search their database and have shipped to me or to the store for $1 less. Ultimately, I was able to get most of my wish list (kid and adult recs) in about the same speed of the bigger retailers for a better price.