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- Should I cut my childcare down to 12 hours a month if I work from home?
- Will my baby have speech delays if we raise her bilingual?
- Has anyone given birth in a teaching hospital?
- My child eats everything, and my friends’ kids do not – how should I handle? In general, what is the best way to handle when your child has some skill/ability and your friend’s child doesn’t have that skill/ability?
- ADHD moms, give me your tips to help with things like behavior in the classroom, attention to detail, etc?
- I think I suffer from mom rage…
- My husband and kids are gone this weekend – how should I enjoy my free time?
- I’m struggling to be compassionate with a SAHM friend who complains she doesn’t have enough hours of childcare.
- If you exclusively formula fed, what tips do you have for in the hospital and coming home?
- Could I take my 4-yo and 8-yo on a 7-8 day trip to Paris, Lyon, and Madrid?
Fallen says
Any parents of two who do a bedtime at the same time? Mine are 3 and 8 and right now we put the 3 year old to bed first and then 8 year old. But ideally I would like to figure something out where they both go to bed at the same time.
Spirograph says
It’s doable! We do bedtime more or less at the same time for my three kids ages 4-8. Sometimes 8 year old stays up a bit later to read with me. We don’t have a great system, but it works: After dinner is kind of a steady parade of kids getting jammies on, bath or shower for whoever needs one (sometimes together, sometimes in succession), and reading & winding down. For some reason, I’m reading different chapter books to/with the 6 year old and 8 year old, so I’ll do a few pages with 6 year old while 8 year old is in the bath or vice versa, or 8 year old will read with me while DH reads a story to the younger kids and tucks them in. We aim for 8, but they usually all get in bed with lights out around 8:30.
No Face says
Do you have a partner? DH and I divide and conquer bedtimes.
Lyssa says
Mine are 5 (almost 6) and 8, and our system is at the same time, but one part switches off. That is, we read (5 minutes) downstairs, then brush teeth and potty, then go to one of the rooms (this is where we switch, alternating who goes first), read for 10 minutes upstairs, then the one who’s room we’re not in leaves to hang out with dad, while I stay with the other for cuddles and songs. Then I take the other to his/her bedroom and do the same there.
In theory, it seems like the younger one should go earlier, but we sort of got into the habit of letting her be more flexible back when she wasn’t in school, and it’s stuck. But it seems to work fine.
Mary Moo Cow says
Mine are 6 and 3.5 and we do bedtime at the same time. Usually we split up, so each child has one-on-one time with a parent, but I occasionally have to do it solo. Our routine is: around 7:15, go upstairs for joint bath or separate bath; 7:30-7:45 pajamas, brush teeth, extinction burst, bed, two books, story, song, and lights out at8:15- 8:30. I then go say goodnight to the child whose bedtime I didn’t do. Younger child has low sleep needs and stays up “reading” with the lights off until 9 or 9:30.
My kids shared a room for about 4 months, until last month, and routine was the same. The older one got bored with picture books. Younger child also kept older child up, so she asked to go back to separate rooms.
3 and 8 seems like too big of a gap in sleep needs for me to try to do bedtime at the same time, but YMMV. If 8 year old needs a lot of sleep and 3 doesn’t, it may work; or, if you give permission to 8 year old to stay up reading with the lights on for an hour or so after putting 3 year old down.
Anonymous says
Yes. Well, sort of. Our kids don’t need the same amount of sleep (also 3 and nearly 8). We do 7:30- older one goes into bed and reads while I tuck in the younger one. Then I swing back through and tell big kiddo lights out by 8 and give her a good night kiss. I stick my head in at 8:20 or so to make sure she actually turned off the light.
Sometimes we’ll start early and older will read to younger in younger’s bed; sometimes instead of going about my business I stay with the older kiddo and read a bit to her.
Anonymous says
Yes. Currently 2-almost-3 and 6 and we have done simultaneous bedtime since the younger one was maybe 6-8 months old. Younger one actually goes to sleep a lot later since he naps, but we are extraordinarily fortunate in that he’s fine to chill in his crib until he goes to sleep. We most often divide and conquer so each parent puts a kid to bed, but are moving towards one parent doing both so someone gets a break. Kids brush teeth/pjs around 7:30 (shower together a few times a week starting 7:15ish); both require assistance with getting ready. Each kid gets 15-30 minutes of reading – lights out around 8. The kids have some good overlap in books they are interested in now, so if one parent is doing both we read together (Frances, Amelia Bedelia, Little Bear books, Longer picture books are the type that still interest both kids at this age). Then the one parent plunks 2 year old in his crib and goes to lie down with 6 year old (we stay till 8:30). Otherwise we read chapter books with the 6 year old. Currently the kids get up at 7:30, which is what makes this late bedtime possible.
Anon says
Yep, we’ve done same bedtime for both. They’re 6 and 8 now and in separate rooms but we’ve had this same bedtime since they were 3 and 5 and shared a room. What helps is that we allow reading in bed. So if one isn’t tired, he/she can read with a flashlight.
For our routine, we switch bedrooms each night. After they change and brush teeth (and get a sip of water and go pee and go set out the thing they just remembered they need for school in the morning), we read a book on the bed. We sing a quick song, then tuck them in. About 45 min later we go check on them and gently request anyone still reading turns out their light.
CCLA says
Ours are 2.5 and 4.5 and share a room, and we do similar – same bedtime, but frequently one of them will be up looking at books or the like for a while before actually going to sleep.
Katala says
Entire evening routine is together for my 4 and 6 year olds. After school stuff, dinner, potty time, bath if it’s bath night, jammies, teeth, books. They both get the same book, either a chapter book or the 4 yo will sometimes choose something different. If 6 yo doesn’t like that choice, he’ll read by himself. Ideally in bed by 7 and lights out at 7:30. It works pretty well for us because 6 yo is higher sleep needs than 4 yo so it evens out. They both wake up between 6-6:45. If both parents are available, we’ll both be involved but one will spend some part of the time downstairs cleaning up. If one of us (usually me working) isn’t available, it’s very doable by one parent.
anon says
Mine are closer in age and share a room, but our routine is that they both go upstairs and put on pjs right after dinner while we clean the kitchen, then can come back down to play. If they need a bath, one parent goes upstairs to supervise that while the other cleans up dinner.
We trade off who does actual bedtime. One parent takes both kids upstairs, helps with teethbrushing and peeing, then we all read a chapter of a book together, and they get tucked into bed. The parent who didn’t put the kids down is then responsible for after bedtime shenanigans.
Katala says
Ah yes, the after bedtime shenanigans. Since they share a room, mine can rile each other up after lights out, but sometimes they just chat quietly which is very cute and probably prevents some post-bedtime attention seeking. I think sharing a room makes the combined bedtime easier even if it can be slightly worse after lights out.
anon says
I have the same age gap, and IME, trying to get them to go to bed at the same time is an exercise in futility.
GCA says
Yes, almost-3 and 6. They share a room so they have the same lights-out time (on weekdays, 8pm but the small one doesn’t fall asleep till 8.45; on weekends, 8pm but the toddler is hustled off to bed earlier if she goes napless and shows signs of melting down). Winding down begins around 7pm when we shoo the big kid off to shower, shower the small one, they do their respective chores (sweeping the floor under the dining table and picking up toys in their room), and we cuddle on the couch and read together. There aren’t really any shenanigans; 6yo usually conks out within 10 minutes.
anon says
I know this has probably been covered a ton – but have you flown with kids recently? I am considering flying on a cross country flight with two kids (7 and 4). I trust that my kids will follow rules and keep their masks on and hands to themselves, but I still just feel anxious about getting on a flight. Its a 5.5 hour flight and they are going to need to eat and drink during that time without their masks on. If you have done this recently, how did it all go?
Anonymous says
Shana at the Mom Edit seems pretty COVID-cautious and flew with her unvaxxed kids recently:
https://themomedit.com/travel-adventuring-family-flying-with-kids-during-covid-coronavirus-pandemic-tips-travel-packing-essentials-airport-airplane-ppe-snacks-rental-cars-shana/
Anon says
Following. I’m flying in two weeks with my 3 year old. I got her a KN95 mask but it’s a 9 hour flight so she’ll have to take the mask off to eat and drink.
Anon says
where do you get a KN95 mask for a kid? are you also having her wear a face shield?
Anon says
I got them from a place called Vida. Probably not a face shield? She’s not used to wearing one and I don’t want to freak her out (she wears masks at school so those are NBD). We’re going to Hawaii so everyone on the flight has to have a recent negative test which gives me additional peace of mind. I know it’s not perfect, someone can get Covid right after getting their test and be infectious on the flight, but I do feel like it’s an added layer of protection.
Anonymous says
Yes, MA to PDX. It was basically a normal flight (crowded, bumpy). My kids kept their masks on except to eat. So did other people near us.
Anon says
has anyone had their kids wear face shields or glasses?
anon says
I have flown 3 times now since November on a 2.5 hour flight with a 17 month old and 4 year old. It went fine each time, aside from the usual parts that suck about flying with little kids that have nothing to do with COVID. I recognize that this is not possible for everybody but we did fly first class on all of these flights, partly because the 17 month old has flown as a lap child. That helped immensely because we were first on and first off the plane and of course had much more space to ourselves and ability to not be quite so close to others.
Anonymous says
We flew last June with my son, although not more recently. We are in NYC so had been in pretty strict lockdown, staying home and watching the world fall apart and ambulances going by constantly since March. Then my FIL died and we traveled to the deeeeeep South, land of no masks, for his funeral. Honestly the trip was kind of one long panic attack for me (I was so stressed I got lost 3 different times on my way to the airport, although in my defense I was driving alone to Newark with my son), but we got through it; I’m sure traveling now would be much less stressful. 2 tips:
1 – turn on the air vents full blast, and dress warmly so that you can maintain this throughout the flight in comfort. That air is filtered and will help keep unfiltered air away from you.
2 – accept that you are taking a risk and won’t be able to control a lot of what happens while you are traveling. Your kid is going to want to eat every time they bring snacks around. Other passengers will have masks below their nose or unmasked kids. God knows what you will find in the airport. Make your peace with this in advance and it will make everything more pleasant.
Anonymous says
Ugh, threading fail
Anon says
If you could live anywhere in the US, where would you live? Pretend you don’t have to worry about a commute and proximity to friends/family is irrelevant.
Anonanonanon says
Assuming we could magically keep our current jobs/incomes, NYC or Miami
anon says
Spearfish, South Dakota. Or maybe Rapid City
Anonymous says
Near Annapolis, MD. Or Arizona haha!! I know, wildly different
Anonymous says
If money were no object, Lake Tahoe but before all the tech folks from the Bay Area started living there full-time.
Redux says
Definitely a gorgeous western mountain town for me too. Tahoe and Park City came first to mind.
AnonATL says
Same. Somewhere with mountains and a lake
Anon says
Bay Area here, most tech folks have no interest in Tahoe as a full-time residence. It’s a status symbol to have a second home (or rent a home every weekend) and many tech workers are young and single and want to be in a city with cool restaurants, bars and more opportunities to meet people. Even before the pandemic, many commuted from SF to Palo Alto and Mountain View because SF was trendier.
Anonymous says
There has been a lot of press about tech people from the Bay Area driving up rents and home prices, driving out locals, trashing beaches, causing traffic jams, etc. during the pandemic.
No Face says
Florida Keys or Hawaii.
Anon says
We almost moved to Hawaii for my husband’s job and I was really unhappy about it. Proximity to family was a big factor, which OP said she’s disregarding, but the cost of living is very high, the schools are terrible, and the traffic in Honolulu is very bad (and if you’re not near Honolulu, then you’re pretty rural and far away from a lot of the comforts of civilization). I love visiting Hawaii and could see myself purchasing a condo there in retirement (that was my parents’ original retirement plan, although they scrapped it to be near my family) but it’s not a place I would want to raise kids and I was very relieved when we found out we didn’t have to move there.
Anon says
I know a non-mormon who moved to park city with kids recently – her husband makes a lot of money so that’s definitely key here – and it looks AWESOME.
Anon says
Park City is gorgeous! My husband had a conference there once. I’m not sure about schools and stuff like that but it does seem like it’d be a really great place to retire to.
Boston Legal Eagle says
As I’m thinking about it, I really like where we are now! I like having 4 seasons, even though winter can be bone chilling, I like being in a neighborhood where kids can walk to schools and parks and I like the culture of the Northeast. We’re also within driving distance of mountains for hiking/skiing and beaches (although we’re not big beach people). I would probably pick a similar New England town, maybe a little closer to the downtown area, as it would be nice to walk to more restaurants and the library, for example. We have that here, it’s just in a different part of town that we didn’t pick.
I’ve lived in CA before and yes, the weather is warm year around, but it just didn’t feel quite right to me, maybe a little artificial. I also didn’t enjoy having to drive everywhere. The South is too hot and I haven’t been to the Midwest much, but maybe a similar suburb of Chicago with lots of walkable places would be nice.
This is all assuming my current lifestyle with kids!
Spirograph says
I came to the same conclusion about my DC burb once I started thinking about it! My platonic ideal of a place to live has 4 seasons, infrequent natural disasters, a nearby international airport, easy access to museums & cultural events, and is driving distance to water and mountains. I also like my leafy residential neighborhood with parks and a neighborhood elementary school and a short ride on a bike trail to a walkable downtown. I’ve never lived in the Northeast, and that would probably fit the bill, too. Also outside a major city on the Great Lakes (although ski mountains start to get questionable west of PA).
Anonymous says
+1. I admit I dream of retiring to Portsmouth NH but the winters would break me.
Pogo says
Same, I like Boston even though the winters are rough.
Otherwise, San Francisco or Seattle.
Anon says
Ooh fun question! Is this also ignoring cost of living or is that a factor? I have a deep love for New England, especially Maine, in summer and fall but can’t handle in the winters. I do like seasons though, so wouldn’t want to be in CA or Hawaii or someplace like that. COL is also crazy there. I’m not a fan of big cities in general – we’re close enough to Chicago to visit for the day and although I love to visit, I don’t think I want to live in a city and suburbs tend to be pretty bland
I live in a Midwest college town now because of DH’s job and mostly like it, but living in a red state is frustrating, especially with the pandemic, and we have terrible airport access (over an hour to the nearest airport). I think my ideal might be a more liberal Midwest college town with better airport access? Although the ones I like best like Madison have pretty harsh winters. Or a Pacific Northwest college town? It’s super random, but my husband has become convinced that Eugene Oregon is the optimal city for us because it’s in a liberal place, good weather year round but still has some seasons, has an airport and is near some really nice scenery. It’s a little inside joke for us now whenever something about our current town annoys us, “Welp, guess we gotta move to Eugene!” (We’re not moving to Eugene. He has tenure and we don’t want to uproot our family.)
I know this isn’t what you asked, but if I could work remotely from anywhere and didn’t have family nearby, I’d move to be near the set of grandparents I thought would be most involved and helpful. My parents recently moved to our city and it’s been so wonderful for all three generations. I thought it would be great but it’s honestly. And our kid is still in preschool so we haven’t even reaped the real benefits of summer and afterschool childcare yet.
Anon says
Oops lots of unfinished sentences! I meant to say I thought having grandparents nearby would be great but it’s honestly been so much better than I could have imagined.
Anon says
I live in Madison. We started downhill skiing this winter (as an outdoor COVID safe activity) and it’s made me love winter. It can get really cold here but it’s not that different from most of the other Midwest. And we get the BEST snow. Beautiful and sticks around to enjoy. And I am from a much warmer climate. I just wish the days were an hour or two longer in the winter.
Anon says
Portland, ME or Madison, CT.
TheElms says
Denver
FVNC says
My current city, Tacoma WA. We’ve been here about a year, and the only drawback for me is distance from our east coast families, but otherwise I love this place — close to mountains and water, temperate climate, reasonable cost of living, advantages of a big city without a lot of the drawbacks.
anon says
Los Angeles or Bay Area. Most likely I will not leave California for the rest of my life, in part because if I did, I don’t think I’d be able to afford to come back (given the direction housing prices have been going here).
Anonymous says
Non-trendy part of Brooklyn, which is where I grew up and currently live. What can I say, I’m a hometown girl!
Anon says
Santa Barbara California.
anon says
Haha I live in Santa Barbara! It is a very nice place to live, I’ll admit, albeit a bit small for me.
Anon says
I currently live in NYC (and love it) – grass is always greener right!
Anon says
+1
Anon says
Outer Banks, NC
Anon says
I used to want to retire to Napa, but the fires are making me rethink that plan.
AnonATL says
Work is banana pants the next two weeks as we get ready for a product release. I feel simultaneously exhausted and super stimulated. Looking forward to some quiet time afterward when I’m sure I’ll crash from all the adrenaline. Unfortunately I will be solo parenting that weekend while my husband has reserve duty.
What do you do to recharge after busy times?
Boston Legal Eagle says
Take a day off while kids are still in daycare and just do what I want! Part of the day may be catching up on chores but I also like to schedule in a pedicure or massage (now that I’m fully vaxxed), or just wandering around Target or sitting in a coffee shop with a book.
Cb says
Yes, I’ve got a big deadline on Tuesday night and work has been full out for both me and my husband with election stuff, so I’ve got Wednesday booked off. I’m not fully vaxxed so no indoor dining but planning for patio lunch and some fun errands.
Pogo says
When solo – I like to put kids to bed early, eat something super low key like a salad + cheese & crackers (aka zero cooking), open a bottle of wine, do my nails, and listen to podcasts or watch something DH isn’t into.
During the day I’ll also take the kids in the stroller to a coffee shop, again listening to a podcast while I walk. I get an iced coffee and let the 3yo pick a baked good. We have a coffee shop with a playground where I’ll let him play while I sip and read my New Yorker.
I am obvi a huge introvert so ymmv. One of my friends needs to recharge with people so I’ll meet up with her with baby in the Ergo and we hike.
Anonymous says
Our Memorial Day Weekend weather is looking pretty non-summery. Ideas on fun indoor activities? We might make some cutout cookies.
Strollerstrike says
Any favorite picture books about brushing teeth/“personal hygiene” for my soon to be two year old?
Anon says
There is a Daniel Tiger one if your kid likes Daniel Tiger.
Anonymous says
My in-laws are looking to move to a LCOL city that is accessible to both Chicago and New York, as half the family is in each. They are considering Indianapolis and Pittsburgh. They want an affordable SFH in a semi-walkable area, good arts/museums/entertainments, and decent restaurants, along with a good healthcare system. Any suggestions, either between those two or other cities? Thanks!
Anonymous says
Cleveland
Anonymous says
+1 I grew up outside of Cleveland, and it ticks all these boxes.
Pittsburgh is also nice, I guess. And has more successful sports teams. (and a growing tech economy)
GCA says
DH grew up in Cleveland Heights. “At least we’re not Detroit” is how Clevelanders joke about their city, but it has a LCOL, is socioeconomically diverse (but rapidly less and less liberal the minute you get out of the city, if that’s a concern), a lovely art museum and a pretty decent food scene. (My ILs no longer live there; they semi-retired to a small mountain town which was their dream all along!)
Anonymous says
There’s an “awkward Cleveland tourism video” from probably 10-15 years ago floating around on YouTube that ends with “We’re not Detroit!” :)
Anon says
+1
Cleveland has the #2 hospital in the country, plus two other health systems. Very LCOL in nice walkable suburbs. Cleveland Orchestra is one of the top in the world and so is the art museum. Restaurants are pretty good too and there’s the lake/beaches. I have family in Chagrin Falls (super walkable small town about 30 min from downtown Cle) and love it. My family in Pittsburgh always admires Cleveland when the two sides get together.
Anonymous says
The “summer home of the Cleveland orchestra” is Blossom Music Center and kids under 18 are free on the lawn. I went to so many Cleveland orchestra concerts as a kid and literally didn’t know until I was about 16 how awesome that was.
Anon says
I live close to Indy (not the burbs, but close enough that we frequently go for the day or even just a meal). I really like the city!
Indy has a really great food scene (underrated, IMO!) and good entertainment, including a really nice art museum, ballet, theater, shopping, parks, etc. We have friends who love opera and they say Indy’s opera is decent, though of course not as good as Chicago. For kids, there is a nice zoo and the largest children’s museum in the US. The healthcare system is very good. The airport is really nice and has a decent selection of direct flights for a city its size. There are definitely non-stops to NY (my in-laws live there, so we fly IND-NYC a lot). It’s very affordable, I would guess more affordable than Pittsburgh but I don’t know for sure. Indiana is of course a red state, much redder than PA, but Indy the city is very blue and our governor has been pretty sane about the pandemic and has generally given complete freedom to localities to make stricter rules (Indy still has a mask mandate, though the state does not). The burbs unsurprisingly skew older and more conservative than the city, but some of them have nice walkable downtowns and very decent restaurants. I especially like Carmel and Fishers. They’d be within easy weekend trip distance of Chicago (and Lake Michigan), Cincinnati, Louisville, Columbus, even Detroit, Nashville and the Smoky Mountains if they’re up for a longer drive. My coastal friends laugh at me when I say this, but Kentucky and Tennessee and even southern Indiana are surprisingly scenic. Midwest friendliness is not a myth. It’s really a nice part of the country to live in and Indy is probably my favorite city in the US when you factor in things like affordably and stuff like that.
Happy to answer any more specific questions you or they have!
Anon says
Another +1 for Indy. It really does have a lot of perks that you wouldn’t expect in a city of its size. Where are they coming from? Depending on what they’re used to, there are lots of different choices around Indy.
It’s been a few years, so I’ll defer to people who live there currently. Carmel/ Fishers are definitely the more expensive, giant house, conservative type of young families. Fountain Square is more hip, artsy scene. Greenwood is more blue collar working class. Old Northside/ Fall Creek are diverse with lots of beautiful historic homes. Meridian Kessler is similar but with a little less diversity and more older retiree type folks.
Indy has everything you mentioned. The Children’s Museum really is fantastic, and the restaurant scene is very underrated. (Some of the best Ethiopian/Eritrean I’ve had in the US was in Indy, surprisingly.) There’s a huge research hospital and a large pharma company is headquartered there, so the healthcare is system is well funded and resourced.
Anon says
Yes, the food really is incredibly diverse for a small Midwest city. The best Cuban food I’ve had outside of the Miami area is in Indy. I’ve been to Cuban restaurants in Chicago, NYC, SF, etc and they’re not as good as my favorite Cuban place in Indy.
Anonymous says
Con confirm the Indy airport is great. It used to be the closest airport to where I lived and in my opinion it’s hands-down the best US airport. Check in and security are super fast, luggage comes out fast, the terminals are open and airy, and traffic and parking aren’t bad. I’ve flown out of IND the day before Thanksgiving and gotten checked in and through security in under half an hour. At non busy times it’s like, 15 minutes.
Redux says
Pick a place you would want to visit! Also, direct flights (may not be an issue for you depending on where you are).
Anonymous says
Pittsburgh is nice, but the roads and traffic are terrible. Many main roads in the suburbs are two lanes, and it’s difficult to get in and out of the city as well as to navigate within the city. It snowed on Easter there.
Anon says
I used to go to Columbus, OH a lot for work and it seems like a great place to live.
anonamama says
Which branch of family do they see more? Indy may be better just on distance if it’s the Chicago branch. Where do they live now? Pittsburgh is better than you’d think. There’s a handful of walkable suburbs here, a great airport, tons of children’s activities and attractions (here and within a short drive), absolutely beautiful summers, amazing restaurants (local chef Richard Deshantz has some stunners) and the nicest people you will ever meet. The cold isn’t anything other-wordly, but it does mean you’re in a coat for 6 mos out of the year. We moved here from DC and the quality of life is fantastic. Carnegie museums. High-ranked colleges. Best in class healthcare. Took a DC friend around the city and she said, yep, I get why you’re so happy here. There’s truly something for everyone!
Anon says
+1. Indy to Chicago is only about three hours driving. You can fly too of course but it takes longer to fly than drive. Pittsburgh (and the Ohio cities) are a significantly longer drive from both Chicago and NYC.
Anon says
How did you know you were done having kids?
I’m in my early thirties and have a 3-year old and a 1-year old. I’m 95% sure we are done having kids and that two is the right number of our kids for our family. DH would consider a third kid but is also fine with two and is willing to make our birth control “permanent”, so to speak. I want him to make an appointment, but there’s also a small part of me that wonders if I might change my mind as we get a few years down the road and my little kids get easier and wish we had a third? It just feels strange to be officially done DONE with the pregnancy/baby phase of life.
Anonymous says
All I can say is that one day I realized I had gone from “there’s a small part of me that wonders if I might change my mind” to “OMG, make the appointment now, we cannot get pregnant again.” I’m sure it was a gradual transition, but when I knew I knew.
FVNC says
Similarly, a little while after our 2nd, I had a dream I was pregnant again. And when I say dream, I mean nightmare. Husband made an appointment soon afterward.
Anonymous says
We waited until the youngest was 3 before we decided.
Anon says
I always wanted a lot of kids. After I (finally) had my first, I knew that wasn’t going to be in the cards for me, at least biologically. (Pregnancy and birth are not kind to my body.) After I was lucky enough to have my second, I decided that was all my body could handle and my DH got snipped that year – we had already met our family deductible which helped with the urgency. Honestly a V is very reversible if you do have intense regrets later on, so it’s a pretty low risk decision.
My youngest is now 6 and I’m still 100% fine with this decision. My siblings have babies and while I love getting to babysit, it’s such a relief to know we’re done at 2. I never have to carry a diaper bag again!
Anon says
Why not just hold off on doing anything permanent until you’re more sure? I’m 95% sure I’m one and done, but we’re not making it permanent for now. Although for me, being out of the pregnancy/baby phase of life feels like a huge relief. I would love to cuddle a newborn but only if I can give it back to its parents! (Desperately hoping my SIL has a baby soon for this reason, but of course I’m not saying anything to her about it.)
Anon says
You might consider storing vials of genetic material at a cryobank just in case you both change your mind later and then having your husband schedule his procedure. Storing is relatively easy and inexpensive.
Katala says
I was 80-90% sure we were done when my kids were about 2 and 4 because things were getting so much easier. This got up to about 99% at 3 and 5, we even donated the last of the maternity and baby stuff I was hanging onto when we moved to a bigger place. But the pandemic, a change at work, and the bigger place somehow shifted things and we said WTH, let’s see what happens. Baby #3 will be here in less than a month. I’m back to 99% sure we’re done but I suppose we’ll see once she’s here! DH is ready to get snipped once we are both comfortable with the decision. If I were to have a c-section this time, I might get my tubes tied. I’ll be 40 this year and would only want another if it were right away but I don’t think my body can handle it. It’s hard to say “absolutely no” when I had such a drastic shift this time though.
Anon says
I am having a WTH pandemic baby too :) Go us!
this is our fourth, and i’m getting my tubes tied during the scheduled c-section. no doubts, but also… four.
Katala says
Yes! I’m so happy we went for it. If it were our fourth we would 100% be done. I’m not really sure why I think we would want four as we never talked about more than three but I just love these little humans so much!
Anon says
I would wait – but I’m also a person who doesn’t like making any “permanent” decisions. Condoms work great when used as directed (I got pregnant three times on my first try – so quite fertile – and no oops babies).
I don’t feel done yet so no help on that point!
Anon says
+1 also used condoms for almost two decades with no oops and got pregnant the first try so no fertility problems.
Boston Legal Eagle says
Or an IUD! Even easier as you don’t have to think about anything after you have it inserted, it eliminates periods or at least makes them minor and you can have it removed when ready. I also conceive easily and no oops babies yet!
For the original question, I’m not quite ready to say I’m done with two, but I really can’t imagine adding another kid right now. So I might just let the passage of time decide for me, coupled with my lack of desire to have kids past late 30s (i.e. if we don’t decide to have another kid in the next 4 or so years, then we’re done).
Mary Moo Cow says
I don’t know that I do know. Or, at least, I don’t know that I ever will feel settled with my decision. I thought we were done when our youngest was born, 3.5 years ago, but over the past few months, DH and I both have tentatively brought up having a third. For Reasons, I don’t think it is in the cards. The feeling of not being sure we were done came on gradually and then suddenly.
Anon says
I’m thinking same thing right now. Exactly same. We’re not doing anything permanent until youngest turns 2. We have two boys so a small part of me wants a girl … but there’s no guarantee so we won’t try unless both of us actually want three boys. We’re not there yet so we’re tabling it for another year or so.
Anon says
I just had boy #3. I’m hoping for a fourth and yes, part of me really wants a girl….but I’m also solidly a boy mom now so would love another boy, too.
Anon says
My mom is the 4th girl in a family making a last ditch try for a boy!
Coaching says
If you’ve used a career coach, how did you find them? And is it useful to have someone who specializes in your field?
Context: I’ve been at the same company for nearly eight years and am about to return from my second maternity leave. I have such a great set up right now, from a life balance perspective, but I know this job is not going to get me to where I want to be long-term. I also doubt that any of my coworkers have ever used a coach, so I don’t think I could get a referral from a colleague.
CHL says
I have not used them but I just got Daisy Dowling’s new book, Workparent, and I LOVE it. It’s much longer than other books on the topic and has a lot of very practical advice about parenting in corporate America, including scripts. I think her firm does coaching, but the book might also be useful to you.
OP says
Thanks, I’ll check it out!
coached says
Part of a severance package included 6 mos of Ranstad RiseSmart and I loved working with them. I know they offer support for all stages, just not sure about the pricing. Good luck!
Anon says
Can anyone recommend a kid table with storage or a bottom shelf built in to hold art supplies, etc? I’ve found some rando brands on amazon and one attractive option at Crate & Barrel that has terrible reviews.
anon says
IKEA Flisat.