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Due in December says
Hello all!
I KNOW there was a thread on flying late in pregnancy, but I cannot for the life of me find it via google, and I’d love the input of you all before I get the input of my doctor at my confirmation appointment.
Just found out I am pregnant, earlier than expected. After doing the math with a friend in family practice medicine, I think my due date will be Dec. 26, unless my ultrasound causes the doctor to adjust a bit. Anyway, I had just booked flights for DH and I to fly across the country (6+ hours) to visit my 80-something grandmother for Thanksgiving. I haven’t been able to make the trip to see her for 5 years or so, and really wanted to go. Now, it looks like the travel back home will happen at the end of week 36 or so.
I am deciding whether to just cancel the flights now (which I would hate to do…for various reasons, travel to visit her earlier may not happen), or wait to see how the pregnancy progresses. Has anyone flown at this late date in the pregnancy? How far? Considerations?
(former) preg 3L says
I didn’t fly that late in my pregnancy. Here’s my advice:
1- Check with your doctor.
2- If your doctor gives you the OK to fly, make sure there is a hospital out there where you’d be comfortable delivering.
3- If anything comes up during your pregnancy, make sure you are mentally prepared to cancel the trip.
Newly pregnant says
Some airlines might not let you fly past a certain date – you should check the rules of the airline for their cut-off point.
Momata says
Congratulations on the pregnancy! Obviously, check with your doctor and your airline. But I would not feel comfortable flying that late – both mentally with regards to the risk of delivery, and physically with regards to swelling feet, jamming yourself into an airline seat, having to use the airplane bathroom every hour . . . . I would take this opportunity to combine an earlier visit to your grandmother with a little getaway with your husband.
due in june says
I’m 36 weeks this week and frankly can’t imagine flying across the country at this point for the reasons Momata says – swelling, exhaustion, constant potty breaks, and also the fact that I can’t sleep without my Snoogle pillow. Moving around at this point is not easy.
My doctor grounded me from flying as of week 34, I think. Former preg 3L is absolutely right that you will want to find an in-network hospital near your grandmother in advance if you choose to go, as you may end up delivering there. I understand your frustration – there’s a major international conference for my department that is happening next week across the country, and it’s frankly Not Good for my career that I can’t be there, but I just can’t.
A friend of mine is a consultant, currently at week 38. She needed to carry a recent doctor’s note (updated every week or two) with her as of about 29 weeks proving to the airlines that she was allowed to fly. She had to show it to airlines pretty often. She was grounded as of week 34 or 35 as well.
M in LA says
If you look at the individual airlines’ websites, you’ll see the restrictions they have. For example, in your 9th month United requires a dr’s note within 3 days of your flight attesting to the fact that you can fly. http://www.united.com/web/en-US/content/travel/specialneeds/pregnancy/default.aspx
I am 34 weeks now and have to agree with the other posters that no matter how much you want to go, you may not feel like going in November. Physically – it is hard to sit, hard to stand, hard to lie down… you get the idea! That said, if I were in your situation I would probably just sit on the tickets for a while and try to carve out the time to take an earlier trip. Go when you’re 3-6 mos (the golden period).
Pink on Black says
I flew on my 36th week my most recent pregnancy. As many have advised, bring a doctor’s note to indicate when you’re due (so long as the airline you’re on allows you to fly at c.35 weeks), make sure you are familiar with the hospital system there just in case. I will say that while I had a reasonably comfortable pregnancy and was flying first class, flying 6+ hours was quite uncomfortable. Definitely wear layers (airplane ventilation and temperature is hard to control), bring food you know you can stomach in the worst of times, extra barf bags just in case. Honestly, I’d also suggest going earlier. Best of luck with whatever you decide and congrats on your pregnancy!
anon says
I also flew at 36 weeks for my brother’s wedding, 3.5 hours. My doctor was willing to let me go as long as my ultrasound checked out (I had a partial placenta previa that had to resolve itself first) and I flew direct. If you have an HMO, you should confirm the insurance coverage (some HMOs won’t pay for delivery out-of-area for travel this late, or so I’m told). My doctor also told me to drink a ton of water and get up once an hour. The only reason I did it was because the wedding was scheduled – if you can move the trip at all, it’s worth doing, even if it’s a couple of weeks…
Preemie Mom says
Personally, I wouldn’t do it – I was supposed to fly at 33 weeks and again at 34 weeks for my out-of-town baby showers but, surprise!, I delivered (my now healthy and thriving baby boy) at 32+1. However, I know that experience is coloring my advice, and I completely get wanting to see your elderly grandmother; you don’t get those chances back. So, if you go, I would second the advice of make sure there is somewhere you’d be comfortable delivering, and I would add make sure that hospital has a good NICU. At 36 weeks, you probably won’t be looking at a NICU stay or, if so, it would likely be very short, but if you did deliver while visiting your grandmother, you’d have to be prepared for that. Also, there are some restrictions on flying with preemies, due to lung development – again, likely not a big concern at 36 weeks, but something to keep in mind would be how would you get back if you delivered while visiting. Good luck!
39 Weeks 1 Day says
Get out, get out, get out. I. am. so. done.
Hope everyone has a lovely week.
Newly pregnant says
Oh, I hear you. I’m 38 weeks, 5 days. I’m trying everything to speed this up – long walks, LGPs, evening primrose oil, red raspberry leaf tea, etc.
39 Weeks 1 Day says
Spicy food, pineapple, begging, pleading, bribing…
(former) preg 3L says
http://alphamom.com/pregnancy/pregnancy-calendar/week-thirty-nine/
(former) preg 3L says
Actually it sounds like this one might be more appropriate: http://alphamom.com/pregnancy/pregnancy-calendar/week-forty/
39 Weeks 1 Day says
This one. Yup. Thanks for the chuckle.
due in june says
My sympathies. I’m already uncomfortable at 36+1 and I know it’s only going to get worse. The thought that I have another month of this… ugh…
TBK says
To keep your mind off things (and laughing helps, right?) http://the-toast.net/2014/12/17/third-trimester-message-board-posts/
TBK says
Oh, I should say that link might not be totally safe for all work environments. It’s just a little…honest…in its discussion of childbearing/birth.
39 Weeks 1 Day says
Thanks, I chuckled at my desk (and am reminded why I avoid pregnancy/parenting message boards aside from this one).
Anon says
Would you ever consider hiring an illegal/undocumented person as your nanny? We did nanny interviews this weekend, and some quality candidates are illegal. I’m really torn. But both husband and I are lawyers and I’m in running for some fed govt jobs. I can’t go down this road, right?
Newly pregnant says
I would not.
mascot says
Agree, not worth it.
JJ says
I’m an employment lawyer, so I’m especially savvy to this issue, and I couldn’t make myself do it. It’s something that you just don’t want to worry about popping up as an issue in the future.
And on a pragmatic note, you can deduct a certain amount of childcare expenses from taxes in certain situation. But I don’t think anyone would recommend doing that for an illegal nanny.
pockets says
No. And if you’re going to work for the federal gov’t, you should also pay your nanny on the books (I mean, you should pay your nanny on the books regardless, but there could be real consequences if you work in gov’t).
Anon says
No. The very best nanny that we wanted to hire was illegal, and I just couldn’t pull the trigger – for all the reasons you mention (bar licenses, possible future govt. position) and more (what if she is hurt in our house? what if she comes after us for unemployment?) I am about as sympathetic to the plight of undocumented workers as anyone, but I feel strongly that I would not want the uncertainty associated with the set-up in any way connected to my children’s care.
Just no says
No no no. For so many reasons but I will stick with the fed job one. It will be an issue on your background check. You need to hire the nanny legally and pay the full nanny taxes as well. I know it’s a significant expense and can be hard to find but in your position you just have to do this the legal way.
PregAnon says
Nope. Can’t do it. Even my gardener is properly licensed and bonded, and carries worker’s comp insurance. Too many risks.
anon says
No to the nth degree, for many different reasons. I might be dating myself here but just look up Nannygate, Zoe Baird, or Kimba Wood. Also, as an officer of the court, not okay. All fed employees I’ve know hire folks on the books and are scrupulous about payment issues.
Anon says
Thanks, everyone. Op here. I think I struggle with this because I’m from another country and both my parents worked illegally, and most of their friends did, too. My mom worked as a nanny for several families. It’s a part of the story of how our family succeeded in this country. Now we are all citizens, and doing well. When I interviewed the candidates, especially the ones from my country, I got a little too emotional and thought–now it’s my turn to give back, and help this person! In a way, I feel selfish that I won’t do it out of regard for my own future/ambitions. But I needed to see these responses. I just can’t do it.
Anon says
I also come from a family of illegal immigrants, and I feel you! I would strive to help in other ways, but putting your family in financial and legal danger won’t contribute to your family’s success story!
due in june says
Exactly. Give generously to legal aid and/or political action committees that suit your preferred reforms, and help naturalized members of your community register to vote and vote in order to effect those reforms to the benefit of your undocumented community members. But employing an undocumented person, especially given your personal employment situation, is absolutely not a risk you should take. The penalties for doing so are far more severe these days than they were when your parents were working while undocumented.
Anonymous says
I’d consider it myself, but never, ever, NEVER in your shoes.
B says
I really like this skirt, but $188 for a maternity skirt?!? would hesitate to pay that much for any skirt, maternity or otherwise, unless it were a very basic investment piece. Tell me I’m not the only one…
Manhattanite says
+1. For maternity clothes, I need a capsule wardrobe with skirts that I can wear 1-2x every week for 4 1/2 months. This one is lovely, but it’s not going to be a workhorse. I really hate maternity clothes. I feel like an elephant no matter what. I’m petite which makes it hard enough to shop for when I’m not pregnant, but when I’m all belly and boobs, but still short, it’s worse. Yes, I can hem things, but who wants to add another $30 or so to the price of every crappy piece of stretchy polyester junk passed off as maternity attire.
FVNC says
Nope. For the 4 or 5 months I wore maternity clothes, cheapo Motherhood Maternity, ON, and hand-me-downs worked for me. But, I work for a company with a very relaxed dress code, so I could get away with wearing less structured pieces that didn’t look particularly professional.
Lyssa says
ITA. FWIW, I have a perfectly nice gray pencil skirt from Motherhood Maternity, which, while not the nicest thing in the world, has been wonderfully serviceable for almost 2 pregnancies, and cost about $25. If I weren’t almost done with pregnancy, I’d definitely go buy it again in another color.
FVNC says
Anyone else unable to post comments on this s_ite? My posts are showing up days late, if they post at all.
Decompressing says
I had an insanely logistically tough week/weekend with husband’s family in town. The house was full and there were a LOT of competing needs. I think I hit a great stride with the activities, but I feel like I’m taking the first deep breath I’ve taken in a week. I can feel a post-anxiety/stress headache coming on, but even that is satisfying b/c I know it’s the let down after a week being anxious about how things were going.
Needless to say, I’m treating myself to “Mother’s Day” relaxation activities next week. How was everyone else’s weekend?
PregAnon says
Sounds like we had the same weekend! Had in-laws all over my house, because my youngest SIL was getting proposed to this weekend and there was a surprise party Saturday night, along with Mother’s day happening. This was all in-laws, all weekend so I left the whole thing up to my husband to plan. Well that was stupid. No reservations, no nothing for Sunday and all the restaurants had a 2-3 hour wait. Ended up somewhere off the beaten path with terrible service, which caused me to have a horrible stress stomachache listening to everyone complain.
It was really hard to peel myself out of bed this morning. But next weekend I’m having brunch with friends and doing NOTHING! So I just have to make it to Friday.
Decompressing says
Yes, this with the husbands. My husband doesn’t think in terms of appropriate plans for the myriad people who had to be accommodated, and really didn’t do much to help with the weekend. Usually, I don’t mind planning, b/c he’s great at actually executing, but he was off his game this weekend. He was oblivious as to how much planning went into the weekend, and then didn’t step it up once the family was actually in town. We got into an argument about it last night, and he was appropriately remorseful and realized he wasn’t stepping up to help, but I’m still feeling a stress and frustration-hangover.
Nonny says
My goodness, I am probably overgeneralizing here, but husbands really are oblivious to the planning, aren’t they? My SO and I go through this every time we have people over. He thinks, “we’ll just throw stuff on the barbecue”, and doesn’t consider any of the other aspects.
Decompressing says
Ha! It’s actually making me feel better to know we’re not the only ones. He’s very good at very many things on the homefront, but he gets an absolute F in planning and coordinating several days of activities and food *particularly if the activities have to accommodate a group including a 6 month old and a 92 year old, with all stages and abilities in between. That he was not his usual helpful self when they were here sent me over the edge of reason and sanity.
And, I will totally admit, I finally understand why my (generally very happily married) parents fought every. single. Mother’s day. We spent every one with my dad’s family, and my dad’s mom was openly and totally unapologetically vocal about her dislike of my mother. My mom spent the whole damn day catering to her mother in law (who was pretty mean to her), and my dad would forget to do anything for my mom.
I guess we have a cycle of terrible mother’s day etiquette! Like so many other “Halmark” holidays, I struggle with the obligation and build-up of the day, coupled with Facebook perfect pictures of families, and think about my friends for whom the day is especially difficult. I guess I got caught up in all of it (otherwise I would not have stressed so much about making the weekend “perfect” for my family in law), but the whole thing is conflicting.
TBK says
My friend and I decided that next mother’s day, we’re going off on a girls’ weekend and leaving our husbands with the kids. No brunch. No logistics. No getting the kids handed off to us juuuuust when they need a new diaper. (Really?)
PregAnon says
Sure looks like it!!!
EB0220 says
I’m thinking about going to an all-dress wardrobe. I am currently nursing my baby, but I usually nurse her just once a day in my work clothes. The nursing session is in a private room so I don’t mind unzipping the dress. On the rare occasions that I nurse her in public in work clothes, I could just wear a wrap dress that day. Is there a down side to this idea that I haven’t thought of? I love that I only have to track down one piece in the morning. I live in a moderate climate, so very cold winters wouldn’t be an issue.
Maddie Ross says
The only downside I can think of is that aside from my wonderfully forgiving wrap dresses, many of my work dresses are not forgiving to weight changes. And I’ll be honest, once I stopped nursing, I gained back 5-7 lbs I had lost (and assumed were gone for good). And I know for other people sometimes weight fluctuates the other way. That’s the only downside in my mind.
Nonny says
I am in an all-dress/all-skirt wardrobe, and wear dresses 3 days out of 5. Even on weekends, I mostly wear dresses. I love dresses – so easy, so forgiving. I just wish I could fit into my pre-pregnancy dresses, but whatever, that will come later. I also live in a moderate climate and it works great for me.
Famouscait says
I wear dresses 4/5 days per week; pregnancy really helped me understand how much more comfortable they were for me. But I do keep one pair of well fitting pants on hand for the days I am too lazy to shave my legs.
Pigpen's Mama says
I’m heading towards this sort of wardrobe as well. It just seems so much easier than trying to match pieces. Weight fluctuations are an issue, but I’ve been looking at wrap dresses and shirt dresses for the most part.
EB0220 says
Great thought, everyone! I hadn’t thought about the weight fluctuation factor. Maybe I should weight until I’m done nursing, although last time my weight went down (not up) when I weaned. And how could I forget that “shaving legs” factor? Definitely a down side, but I like your solution, Famouscait.
anon says
Not totally joking, but I have often thought that I should just go with a monochromatic black wardrobe (instead of one that is half-black clothes, quarter-other neutrals, and quarter other). Then I’d just have fun shoes and accessories. TBD.
Anonymous says
I know a number of commenters have recommended the Lindsay Brin videos for core workouts. I looked at the website this weekend and couldn’t decide which one to buy. Suggestions? My kid is 3.5 and I still have borderline DR (2 finger width separation). My upper abs are fine but my abs below my belly button are not and I am looking for a core workout that will help. I already do Pilates and regular ab workouts and it is not helping.
core and DR says
These are the ones that I started with – the core DVD is the only one that I used for my core, and I used the boot camp for total body training. Be forewarned that these are some of the first DVDs she made so they are quite low-budget and cheesy. But I wanted results, didn’t care so much about the cheese factor. :)
http://www.amazon.com/Lindsay-Brins-Method-Moms-Fitness/dp/B002KBA750/ref=pd_bxgy_74_img_y
http://www.amazon.com/Lindsay-Brins-Postnatal-Boot-Fitness/dp/B000EWD7TU/ref=pd_sim_74_4?ie=UTF8&refRID=1HFRQBJ2JKEDQPR7S22C
K. says
I hope this isn’t repeating what I posted earlier, but Mutu exercise system is pricey, but made specifically for DR and includes a more vigorous exercise component too. I really like it!
Nonny says
Just got back from my 6 days in Disneyland. Apart from it being freaking cold there, we had an awesome time. True, my 16-month-old will never remember it but she still really enjoyed herself and my SO (who didn’t go with us) commented that she seems to have changed a lot in the past week. I think the experience was good for her, plus it was great to see her bonding with my parents. We all had fun!
But did you know that, according to a toddler, Mickey Mouse is a dog? If you look at pictures of him, his mouth is always open and you can see his tongue. Well, according to my toddler, this means he pants like a dog. So funny.
CHJ says
According to my toddler, Mickey Mouse is a panda!
Glad you had a good vacation!
TBK says
My parents took me to Disneyland when I was 18 months. I thought all the animal characters were the Big Bad Wolf. Every. Single. One of them. Mickey? Yes. Minnie? Yes. Goofy? Duh! Totally Big Bad Wolf. I also screamed my head off on It’s a Small World. And the Peter Pan ride. Then threw up on the Tea Cups. Sounds like your daughter is a waaaay more fun toddler to take to Disneyland than I was.
Lorelai Gilmore says
Hurray! I am so glad you had fun. I don’t think Disney is a particularly relaxing vacation but it’s so fun that it’s worth the tired feet at the end of the day.
mascot says
I love when kids come up with these observations. You probably shouldn’t mention the confusion about whether Goofy is also a dog seeing how different he is from Pluto. You’d blow her mind. Glad you had fun.
Pigpen's Mama says
The Goofy/Pluto dichotomy STILL blows my mind. Can I get a little consistency, Walt?
mascot says
There is a Disney Wiki site (of course there is). It’s actually pretty interesting to read about the development of the characters and how they started out quite different than they are now. http://disney.wikia.com/wiki/Goofy
PregAnon says
It was a cold week! But much better than the hot, sticky alternative you can get down in Anaheim. Glad to hear you had a fun time!!
FWIW says
Thank you SO SO SO MUCH to everyone who helped talk me down and back into a functional state on Friday when I had my little spotting scare/mild freakout.
They did an HGC test on Friday with a repeat this morning. I was concerned and looking for doubling according to Dr. Google. The test on Friday showed nice, high numbers and a repeat today showed a good increase that was well within what my Doctor wanted. The lovely nurse told me that they wouldn’t expect it to double in that time based on my initial number and that everything looks good and I should relax and wait for the ultrasound.
Thank you, thank you, thank you again.
MSJ says
Glad to hear it!
waiting says
So happy to hear. Thank you for reporting back! I think I’m a couple weeks behind you, and understand how hard it is not to go into worry overdrive.