Accessory Tuesday: Livi Heather Flat
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I’m always impressed by how many great reviews Hush Puppies get on Zappos — I don’t think I’ve worn them myself since my grade school days! This flat looks kind of adorable, though, and I like the little folded detail at the front. It comes in four colors at Zappos in medium and wide sizes 5–12 for just $62, and it’s also available at Nordstrom and Amazon. Livi Heather Flat This post contains affiliate links and CorporetteMoms may earn commissions for purchases made through links in this post. For more details see here. Thank you so much for your support!Sales of note for 9.10.24
(See all of the latest workwear sales at Corporette!)
- Ann Taylor – 30% off your purchase
- Banana Republic Factory – Up to 50% off everything + extra 20% off
- Boden – 15% off new styles
- Eloquii – $29 and up select styles; up to 50% off everything else
- J.Crew – Up to 50% off wear-to-work styles; extra 30% off sale styles
- J.Crew Factory – 40-60% off everything; extra 60% off clearance
- Lands’ End – 30% off full-price styles
- Loft – Extra 40% off sale styles
- Talbots – BOGO 50% everything, includes markdowns
- Target – Car-seat trade-in event through 9/28 — bring in an old car seat to get a 20% discount on other baby/toddler stuff.
- Zappos – 26,000+ women’s sale items! (check out these reader-favorite workwear brands on sale, and some of our favorite kids’ shoe brands on sale)
Kid/Family Sales
- Carter’s – Birthday sale, 40-50% off & extra 20% off select styles
- Hanna Andersson – Up to 50% off all baby; up to 40% off all Halloween
- J.Crew Crewcuts – Extra 30% off sale styles
- Old Navy – 40% off everything
- Target – BOGO 25% off select haircare, up to 25% off floor care items; up to 30% off indoor furniture up to 20% off TVs
And — here are some of our latest threadjacks of interest – working mom questions asked by the commenters!
- The concept of “backup care” is so stupid…
- I need tips on managing employees in BigLaw who have to leave for daycare pickup…
- I’m thinking of leaning out to spend more time with my family – how can I find the perfect job for that?
- I’m now a SAHM and my husband needs to step up…
- How can I change my thinking to better recognize some of my husband’s contributions as important, like organizing the shed?
- What are your tips to having a good weekend with kids, especially with little kids? Do you have a set routine or plan?
I just saw my 9 month old baby fall on the hard wood floor from the couch in a split of second while the nanny was putting something away. Thankful now for the Nest Camera. I will not tell her anything just to see if she is honest. I am so worried about him now. They went in the park so I cannot see how he is reacting. What signs should send us to the ER?
You are all so wonderful for responding, and with such thoughtfulness, too. Thank you. He actually is not so good at spontaneously telling me I’m beautiful, although will here and there say “you look nice” if I’m dressed up. I think I will take the advice to tell him at a non-vulnerable moment how it makes me feel. And it’s true I may be focusing more on the negative.
I’m half considering showing him this thread but it might make him embarrassed.:)
I am so tired and sad today and missing my baby. I won’t see him tonight because I have a work event that runs until 8, so he’ll be in bed when I get back. I’m exhausted because two nights ago I couldn’t sleep (we’re closing on a house, supposed to be today but – blah – got pushed to Friday, I was really anxious) and last night Baby woke up at 1 a.m. and I nursed him back to sleep. That rarely happens these days, but of course did on a night where I was so tired. We rushed around this morning to get out before the walkthrough in anticipation of the closing that didn’t happen, so I didn’t have my baby time this morning. I’m totally swamped at work so I can’t take time off tomorrow to hang out with him, especially since closing is Friday now (so I’ll have to leave work in the middle of the day…again.)
I just need to be sad about disappointing life events and missing my baby to people who won’t tell me something annoying about how working is making me miss the important parts of my child’s life. I already feel that, thanks.
Please forgive in advance the seeming extreme superficiality of this post. It’s less worry about my looks (genuinely) and much more about being distressed with my husband.
I was recently emailed a picture of my husband and me on our wedding day. I said “aww,” and showed him, and said, “so do I look much different?” He says, “well, you look older.” This really bugged me! And I’m trying to figure out if I’m being unreasonable – or how unreasonable, more accurately, because I did ask. At the same time, it’s only from 12 years ago, and frankly (and yes, pettily) he looks much more different than I do. There are plenty of things he could have said to soften it, like “but you’re just as pretty,” etc. Or even something like ‘you’re just as fit’ – after having two kids, I’ve worked to lose the baby weight, and though my body looks different, it’s fit, and I mention that only because it really would have been an easy way for him to soften it up.
I’m bothered because he’s said this a few times. I saw a picture of myself a few months ago and said “yikes,” because it just wasn’t great, and he said, ‘your eyes do look sadder.’ The first Valentine’s day after my first child was born I commented on how sort of drawn I was looking, and he said, ‘well, having kids DOES age you.’
From the sound of all this, it will sound like I constantly talk about/invite comment on my looks. I don’t – it’s just that it seems like whenever I do, it’s the same very unflattering response.
To add to it – I had kids pretty late, and for years people would tell me how young I looked for my age. My husband would say it too, but then add, ‘it’s because you haven’t had kids.’ So – now that I’ve had them, I guess it’s in his head that I look older.
I hate that I’m thinking about this. I don’t care if I look older – I should! I care that my husband seems to have so little regard for making me feel good about myself. He’s generally otherwise sweet, honestly. That’s why this is confounding, and I’m wondering if I’m being unfair and unreasonable – I am, after all, asking him.
I feel totally sexist asking this, but….I’m looking for a babysitter for my 5 year old after school a few days a week. A neighbor boy who is 19 and going to the local community college responded to my ad. I haven’t met him or his family so no personal knowledge one way or the other. It makes me a little uncomfortable, though. Reasonable or sexist?
Long time follower but first time poster here. I am pregnant with baby #1 and just found out I will be traveling to Japan for depositions this summer at about 24-25 weeks pregnant. Any special tips? I have never visited Japan before, so curious to hear thoughts on what to wear/pack, any cultural thoughts re pregnancy in Japan, general tips for overseas travel during pregnancy, etc. I’ll be there for 2 weeks and hoping I can mix and match enough pieces to come up with acceptable “suits.” I get the sense that Japanese culture would dictate more formal dress than my (biglaw but very casual) office. Mostly I am really excited to eat sushi without being shamed for it!
So I’m having a health issue that is scaring me. I saw my doctor yesterday and she is running tests. I just need reassurance from anyone who has had these symptoms that it can be something other than cancer. Of course I know cancer is not likely, but it helps to hear others say it.
I’ve been having diarrhea for 11 days, with mucus, and yesterday there was blood. Lots of cramping and the sensation that I still need to go even after I’ve emptied my bowels. Some days I am going 10+ times a day. I am 40, otherwise in very good health, two young kids (one 5 month baby).
Doctor is running stool culture plus blood tests to check for C Diff, parasites, and complete blood count. I did finish a course of antibiotics for mastitis a couple weeks before this started so C Diff risk is higher than average.
I stupidly looked at the internet and freaked out about colon cancer and/or ulcerative colitis. These are the least likely causes, I know, but I need reassurance. Anyone else have this experience and turn out okay? Anyone want to yell at me for looking at the internet? (My brother, a doctor, already did. Okay he didn’t yell, but he scolded me.)
My DH grew up in a family where yelling was considered appropriate, normal discipline. He’s the primary caregiver to our toddler and I am struggling with how to handle this issue.
example– our daughter knows not to pull objects down off our kitchen counters, because she could get very hurt. Ongoing limit -testing arena because she knows not to but there are tempting objects on counters. She tried it again this morning and I watched him stand there and calmly yell (truly, he was calm but his voice was raised and his tone was strident) “bad, bad, bad, we don’t do that, you know better, that’s bad!”
Our daughter stood and listened and hung her head and then ran away and cried with her face on her bed. Surely this isn’t the most effective way to teach her things. I know this and it makes me super uncomfortable. But my husband’s upbringing was very different than mine, and he got beaten until he was bleeding for stuff like this– so to him, this really is calm, measured discipline. I do not want this to become a triangulated issue between us and our kid, and I am treading very carefully because he takes a lot of pride in his role as a SAHD– but it’s fragile.
I have had success modeling different ways to handle things, and in the moment I went back, comforted her, talked about how everyone makes mistakes, the behavior is bad but she isn’t, we love her no matter what. Big hugs and dad participated in that conversation and the hugs. But I’m worried about her little psyche, and shame, and fear. Has anyone else handled this issue?
Please don’t tell me to sit down and talk it out with him, or leave because he is just so terrible. Direct confrontation and talking is not the right approach, largely because I know from experience that it won’t be effective. And I’m not going anywhere– kiddo and dad have a solid relationship and so do dad and I– and in the grand math of childhood trauma, I’ve decided that this problem is by far the lesser of evils than dad and I splitting up. There are a lot of loaded issues present — my husband’s background of abuse and fear that he’ll repeat it/sensitivity to being called a “bad parent”, class differences in upbringing (lots of things that I consider standard parenting– swim and piano lessons, for example, he considers incredible luxuries and not “necessary”, a marriage just now really recovering from severe PPD.
Thanks in advance. I know there are good ways to teach different discipline by example and participation– looking for resources or your own experiences. I’m reading a lot of Janet Lansbury and talking a lot to DH about what I’m learning and that has really helped us already.
Catching up on yesterday’s reading, and wanted to recommend the podcast Longest Shortest Time, episode 116, “How to Not (Accidentally) Raise a Racist” to the mom looking for resources on how to talk to kids curious about race. Scrolling through my feed to find that one, episode 94 is titled “Raising a Transgender Child” and while I haven’t listened to that one yet, I really like this podcast generally and it might be helpful for the poster whose child she suspected could be trans.
This is a public service announcement: I love my maternity bra, the the Melinda G.
I spent a pretty penny on it but compared to the cheaper versions I wore with my first, this one is amazing. It is structured enough to wear to work under blouses and dresses but soft enough (and no underwire) that I actually fell asleep with it overnight last night. It’s got wide v-cut cups, and I don’t feel overly va-va-voom in it. It’s got a nice wide band and is supportive and doesn’t pinch. In a word, brilliant.
I highly recommend getting fitted in-store, I wear a totally different size than I ever imagined (and way different from what I was fitted for the first time around). Link to follow.
Two feeding questions for my 19 month old.
1. He’s started to throw his fork at us when he wants us to feed him a bite instead of using it himself. Should this result in a loss of fork or should we remove him from the table briefly? We currently take the fork away for a couple minutes and then give it back so he continues to eat. He then throws it again a few minutes later. Down side is if he doesn’t sufficiently eat his supper, he’ll wake up around 1AM for a snack.
2. The current fork he uses is barely sharp enough to stab anything, so he spends a lot of time just trying to get food on his fork. What is the “next size” for kid utensils? I gave him the salad sized fork and spoon from my regular set last night for supper and they were awkwardly large.
I’m about 8 weeks pregnant with my second and I just feel so exhausted. I work a straight 9-5 job, as does DH, and we have a 2 year old. DH takes care of most of the house errands (laundry, groceries, etc.) and we outsource most of the cleaning. I feel terrible coming home from work and just wanting to lay in bed. I am now easily agitated with DS because I just want to be alone and sleep. DH has been great, but I feel SO guilty having him take over childcare duties every weeknight. It doesn’t seem fair since he doesn’t get a break either. I don’t remember being this tired during my pregnancy with DS 1. I don’t have nausea or morning sickness, so that adds to my guilt.
Advice for finding maternity swimsuits for really big boobs? Like in the G part of the alphabet :( Can’t be a bikini.
Found the race/class convo yesterday very interesting… and now I’m wondering if “white trash” means something different in different parts of the country. The way I grew up hearing it used had little to do with someone’s socio-economic class, and much more to do with their moral character. To the point where it was preceded by either the word “poor” or “rich” to distinguish between poor white trash and rich white trash.
Did anyone here purposefully try to have kids pretty close together (or by accident, but you were happy about the timing)? I hear a lot about timing certain age gaps. Daughter is 6 months and is an easy kiddo. Originally we discussed waiting until 1 year to pull the goalie but we’re both anxious to start now. It took 2+ years to conceive our daughter. Are we just nuts? I figure it will be crazy no matter the ages so why wait, especially if we struggle like last time. Appreciate any comments from those who have been there!