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fallen says
does anyone have any favorite steak recipes?
anne-on says
For weeknight ‘stretch the meat’ type dinners, where I’m not trying to spend $30 on steaks for 3 adults this is a favorite:
https://smittenkitchen.com/2018/06/garlic-lime-steak-and-noodle-salad/
If we’re having a ‘fancy’ dinner though we usually just get tri-tips or a whole tenderloin, coat it in salt/pepper/rosemary and do it on the charcoal grill, yum!
rakma says
Alton Brown’s Skirt Steak, because it cooks so quickly on the grill and it’s delicious.
octagon says
This one is a favorite at my house, and it easily scales up for company.
https://www.simplyrecipes.com/recipes/grilled_skirt_steak_skewers/
Anonanonanon says
OK dumb question… BUT WHAT IS A SERUM?! They all seem to come in tiny bottles and I haven’t tried one yet. Where do you put it on your face? do you rub it all over? Why are they different than a cream or topical whatever
anne-on says
I am WAY too into skincare, but the quick and dirty answer is that serums are (supposed to be) concentrated ‘prescriptions’ (my term) for your particular skin needs. So first and second cleanse remove oil/dirty/sunscreen/etc. Then a balancing toner to neutralize your PH (if you use one) then ‘actives’ – acids/retionols/prescription skin care. After that dries down (or 30 minutes if you do wait times) you go from thinnest and simplest to thicker and more complex, so moisturizing toner to well, moisturize, a serum to add in some particular benefit (vitamin c, spot reducing, line reducing, etc.), then you can go on to add an oil if needed for dryness, then more moisturizers of varying thicknesses as needed for your personal levels of dryness.
I don’t use serum often because my ‘actives’ cover my particular needs – reduce acne and redness, and retional to reduce fine lines/wrinkles. My personal opinion is that anything a serum claims to do an active can do better/faster/cheaper.
ElisaR says
this made me chuckle…. i had no idea and never used one until about a year ago. I use it after cleansing and before my moisturizer. I think it moisturizes my skin more than just the cream. I have been ramping up my skincare routine lately and this is one of the additions I made. I have been trying different ones and haven’t settled on my ideal one yet but they can get pretty expensive. Blue Mercury sale starts this week and it’s a good opportunity to get a deal on stuff that isn’t usually on sale. I want to try the Revive serum (it’s like over $350 which is nuts) or the La Mer one….. not sure yet.
anon says
just have to vent. my birthday was last week and in order to not end up disappointed I told DH exactly what I wanted – cards and the opportunity to blow out a candle with the kids. well he delivered on the cards (which i’m pretty sure he purchased and filled out the day before), but not on the second part because according to him he did his best given that he is currently working like crazy. yes – he is working like crazy on a big project at work but it was his choice to wait until the day before to get the cards and is it that hard to stop on the way home or run out at lunch and pick up a cupcake or something. i will concede that i do have a history of ending up disappointed on occasions, but that is part of why i asked for something so simple i didn’t even think could be messed up. i think part of what upsets me the most is that DH truly thinks that just getting me a card was good enough and i should be happy with that given his demands at work
Anonymous says
“If ‘doing your best’ means you can’t stop by the grocery store and purchase a cake and a candle for my birthday, your best is simply not good enough. I know your work is important. So am I. I’m making us an appointment for marriage counseling because this is not working for me.”
Anonymous says
+1 – unless your husband is deployed overseas or otherwise physically unavailable, there’s no excuse for not getting you a cake when he knew you wanted one. He sounds like an inconsiderate a$$, honestly.
Anonymous says
And if he truly is like currently on trial, and working 18 hour days, then he needs to be able to say “hon, I can’t. I’m sorry, we need to celebrate after this is over. I’m not even going to have time to see you and the kids let alone get a cake. I’m sorry.”
Anonymous says
+1 He needed to manage expectations if he truly couldn’t do what you asked for. We sometimes have to reschedule celebrations due to crazy work schedules, but we discuss that ahead of time so everyone is on the same page.
Small Firm IP Litigator says
Yeah, this. He shouldn’t have agreed to do it if he couldn’t.
I apparently take a different view here that most. I would never expect my husband to get me a cake in the middle of a very busy work period; I wouldn’t want to add the stress to his life and if I was really dead set on having a cake, I would buy it myself. I would be pretty upset if he put those expectations on me too.
Anon says
hmm, just as a counter: what time had he been leaving work last week? my husband and I have had weeks where we literally could not and never left the office before the end of “normal” store hours and we would not have been able to pick up a treat, unless Walgreens was an option (we live in NYC). on the other hand, if he was coming home at regular times, but just had super busy hours while he was in the office, then yes, he definitely could have swung by a store to grab a cupcake!
Anon says
actually, seconding the Anonymous at 9:50 am!!! That kind of acknowledgement is still important. I should’ve added that into my comment!
Anonymous says
I’m sure there are places you can buy a cake in the middle of the night in NYC. I live in Midwestern suburbia and my local grocery store is 24/7 except Thanksgiving and Christmas. And if he’s that busy, he’s probably making a boatload of money and can pay a bakery to make a nice cake and deliver it to their home. You can get anything with enough money.
Anonymous says
+1 I order the cupcakes for my kids to take to school on their birthdays in January and then they just show up on the appropriate date.
Anonymous says
I live in a small city (under 50K) and even here are there two 24 hr grocery stores with cakes. Even if they don’t have one, how hard is it to instacart a cake from a grocery store?
Anonymous says
Happy belated birthday, and I’m sorry you were disappointed. You’re right to feel upset about this; every grocery store has a bakery department where you can get a cake or a cupcake with a 10 minute stop and zero advanced planning. Assuming you live somewhere where grocery stores are plentiful, at least.
This is not a solution to your husband failing to prioritize your simple request at all, but I make my own birthday cake from a box every year and keep a stash of candles on hand. My mom has always done this (probably because my dad could not be trusted to get a cake), too, so it feels normal to me. The kids now like to help me mix the cake batter and pick the color for the frosting, and it prevents disappointment.
Anonymous says
This doesn’t prevent the disappointment of having a husband who won’t take 10 minutes to get a cake for your birthday because the 15 minutes he already spent buying and writing in a card is apparently all the trouble you’re worth.
Anonymous says
Right, I recognize that and tried to acknowledge that it wasn’t an answer to the actual problem: OP is hurt because she likes people to show love on her birthday with a gift/act of service, and the husband didn’t do it. Gifts are not my love language at all, but I would be disappointed by a lack of birthday cake. Apologies for not making it more clear which type of disappointment I thought was single-handedly preventable.
Anonymous says
No excuse. Even if busy dude could have instacarted a cake or cupcake and had t there whenever he got home. I know because I did this very thing ;). Or bought a few days ahead.
Anon says
Yeah – this makes 0 sense. I’ve had weeks where I’m insanely busy over my husband’s birthday, and I’ve sent him cupcakes from a bakery to home with a nice note, and he and the kids blew out the candles (I wasn’t getting home until 1 AM because I was in the midst of a trial when this was happening).
I live in DC, and Georgetown cupcake will easily deliver. The nanny received them (and if we didn’t have a nanny, could have picked a delivery window when he was home).
Anonymous says
Can anyone tell me if this sounds like normal toddler behavior or might be a sign of sensory issues? My 15 month old absolutely hates having her nails cut, hair washed and (to a lesser degree) having sunscreen applied and clothes changed. She also hates anything touching her head and will immediately remove any kind of hat we try to put on her (we got some funny looks this past winter). I mentioned it to my ped and he brushed it off as normal toddler behavior, but her resistance to these activities is much more intense than what I’ve seen from friends toddlers. When we’re not trying to do one of these things, she’s generally happy and easy-going and she’s super affectionate (loves giving hugs and kisses) and seems to be developing typically.
Anonymous says
That’s entirely normal toddler behavior.
Spirograph says
+1 I remember my oldest would scream and fight like he was being tortured if we tried to cut his nails, esp toenails, around that age. Hair-washing depends on the day. sunscreen and clothes-changing requires being relatively still, which is just not a toddler strong suit.
Ms B says
+++. The only solution to the nail cutting torture was to teach The Kid to cut his own fingernails and to get him to get pedis with me once a month.
Anonymous says
use an emery board. No clipping necessary.
ElisaR says
+1
rakma says
Totally normal, and will probably get better as she gets older. My 5yo was like this as a toddler, and will now wear a hat (if it matches her outfit) and asks for her nails cut (if she can have them painted after) Hair washing is still hit or miss, it’s better in the shower than the bath.
My motto is ‘it’s good to raise strong, independent women. But it’s not easy’
Anonymous says
Normal.
Long time lurker says
Omg going through this right now with my 15 month old. She will not wear hats ever and she is very fair and I worry about the sun. Sunscreen is a massive battle as are nails. Like yours, she hugs and smiles and is affectionate.
anne-on says
Totally normal. Sunscreen is STILL a battle with just about every child I know, from toddlers up to the 10-11 year olds. God bless the inventor of spray sunblock…
Anon (OP) says
Thanks everyone, good to hear. Sunscreen is actually getting easier because it’s part of our daily routine now, and we tell her she has to have it before she can go outside (and she LOVES going outside). I think the hardest thing is nail clipping because we do it irregularly and she doesn’t see the point.
Anonymous says
I resorted to clipping nails when my son was asleep for a while.
Boston Legal Eagle says
Not sure how you feel about bribing and sweets but our 3 year all of a sudden loved getting his nails cut once we bribed him with a lollipop at the end.
Anonymous says
We bribed with screen time. Our daughter got the five minutes or so it took me to trim her nails starting at about that age.
Now that she’s three, I try to combine with already scheduled screen time on Saturday mornings. Because turning off the TV is a disaster since about age 2.
Anonymous says
These responses are comforting. I have 3 kids and my middle is a lot like your kid. She won’t wear clothes “with a line”- which is basically some kind of noticeable seam. She is Very F-ing Opinionated. That’s just the way she rolls.
Anonymous says
My mom still laughs about my sister going through a phase around age 2 where she refused to wear anything that was “TOO TIGHT!” (basically that touched her body anywhere other than at the neck or waist) or that didn’t have a picture of Micky or Minnie Mouse on it. My mom didn’t pick that battle and likes to sew, so we have a whole year worth of pictures of my sister wearing comfy mouse stuff, including at the studio sitting for family pictures that year.
My sister does not have sensory issues, but she does have a huuuuuuge stubborn streak. My mom recently made a minnie mouse sweatshirt dress with an attached tulle skirt for my daughter, too, just for old times’ sake. Daughter loves it.
Anonymous says
FYI Target sells a line of clothes with flat seams – look up Cat & Jack adaptive or Cat & Jack sensory
To the OP everything is normal to a point, and then it isn’t. Read The Out of Sync child and see if there are any free “sensory consults” in your area — your library may know about them.
Anon. says
My toddler screams to the point of hyperventilating sobs with tears at the prospect of cutting his toenails.
Anonymous says
To me this is normal. DD is 2 and yells “ALL DONE” when I wash her hair. Still has to be held down for cutting her toenails. Had to be held down to brush her teeth until like a month ago. And I would never think she has sensory issues or a developmental – she’s a great eater, super social, easy to take in public, etc…some kids just object more forcefully than others when they dislike something. Like there’s such a broad spectrum of tantrums from the laying down on the ground kicking and screaming to a child that whines for 30 seconds and then is over it.
That being said if you have a super strong gut feeling that something is different about your child, you can always pursue a second opinion with a pediatrician who specializes in this issue.
anon says
My middle child had what felt like crazy sensory and anxiety issues (would only use stick sunscreen, refused to wear t-shirts or shorts even in the dead of summer, super picky eater, scared of dunking his head and having his toes clipped, fear of all kinds of normal things (e.g., the living room)) until he started kindergarten, and then he totally grew out of it (except the picky eater part). Our pediatrician said it was totally normal.
Anonymous says
We tried to have my 2.5 year old nap on a cot instead of her crib the other day because she is getting to be too big for a packnplay for our upcoming vacations, and it was a DISASTER. Two hours of yelling, getting up and down, banging on the door, etc. At this point I’m terrified of the day when she’ll be too big for the crib- will she ever sleep again!?! She eventually collapsed from exhaustion but it was such a waste of an afternoon. How do other kids make this transition? I will add when I asked at daycare how she does sleeping on the cot there they were like, “she does great! goes right to sleep!”
Anonymous says
Of course she will sleep again! This was one time, your first time.
Anonymous says
If you’re making the change just for vacation and she’s already 2.5, do you really need the nap? It eats up a lot of time going back to a hotel room/Air BnB for napping. We usually brought a stroller with a good recline and let kid nap in there if they were exhausted enough. Otherwise, skipping nap was an easy way to make sure they went to sleep on time. around between 2.5 and 3.5 was the toughest times for nap for us as they didn’t consistently need a nap. Travelling with the same pillowcase she uses at home can also help when on vacation.
Anon says
I agree – drop the nap on vacation even if she’s still napping at home. Many kids have a hard time with bedtime on vacation and dropping the nap will make bedtime easier. We went to Europe when my daughter was 14 months and put her on 1 nap there even though she was still on 2 naps at home. It worked great and being more awake during the day helped her get over the jetlag faster.
anon says
Yeah, at 2.5 we don’t even try for naps on vacation except for in the car/stroller. Ain’t gonna happen *sob*
Anonymous says
Not what you want to hear but we lost naps when we moved my son out of the crib (at a very tall 3). He stopped napping regularly at daycare when they stopped using pack n plays (so, at 2.5…). I’m still upset more than a year later. However— very tall kid was fine in pack n play for travel till at least 3- do you really need to switch?
ElisaR says
My suggestion is that she might not really be too big for the pack and play. My 3+ year old is in the 90th percentile for height and I thought the pnp would not work anymore for him. He looks silly in it. But guess what he was a total nightmare when we were at the beach on a blow up mattress and so he has been in the pnp last weekend and this weekend. He fits well enough. He’s not laying straight but it’s working. He sleeps on a mat at daycare but whatever he isn’t ready for a travel bed.
anon says
The crib-to-bed transition is ROUGH. We’re 6 months out, and I still haven’t fully accepted that this is my life… But anyway, I digress.
Some kids do just fine. My daughter walks to her bed, lies down, and go to sleep. That’s it.
My son was/is like your kiddo–gets up, walks around, looks at stuff, eventually screams, cries, kicks, bangs, etc. We live in an apartment so not really an option to do toddler-style CIO. We now sit with him until he falls asleep. The rule is he has to stay in his bed or we leave the room. I sometimes have to leave, but usually not more than once per night and then he’ll lie down and fall asleep eventually. It sucks sitting in a dark room, but I’ve started telling him I’m reading on my phone and now I just use that as downtime to scroll through this site, etc.
Callie says
So you know your own kid, but I was just about to ask about whether she was actually too big for the pnp? Did you mean too big like will-climb-out or too big like she-looks-cramped?
I ask b/c we recently moved my 2.5 year olds naps to my soon-to-be-born-baby’s mini crib in our room so that our almost 4 year old could do “quiet rest time in their shared room” without keeping the 2.5 y/o awake. I would have never thought my 2.5 year old would fit in a mini crib, but it turns out she loooooves it. She could probably not sleep in a fully spread out “X” shape if she wanted to, but she never sleeps that way anyhow and she seems to fit just fine and even asks to “nap in baby brother’s crib?” as her preference every day. (Ah, NYC living with three children under age four in a two bedroom apartment = musical cribs)
(Now, I guess that once this newest baby is here we’ll have to shuffle that around, but I guess I’m thinking she can still have his bed for those sacred two hours a day if it means she still naps. Newborn can just nap in the uppababy bassinet if he needs to sleep at the same time right?)
SC says
We also had an extremely difficult transition from the crib to the toddler bed. Our kid had slept amazingly well pretty much from birth. He still needed a lot of sleep, and he was a cranky monster for a while. We ended up talking to a sleep consultant, and I’ve written long posts before on all her suggestions. Basically, we removed all stimuli, including toys, from the room, and we went back to a Ferber method, and we calmly put Kiddo back in his room each time he got up.
He’s 4 now, and it’s been a year and a half. I’d say at least 50% of the time, he gets up 3-4 times before settling into bed. Once a month or so, he makes it a game and gets up 15-20 times. We’ve tried pretty much everything that’s typically suggested, and what works the best is to stay calm and put/send him back to bed.
SF says
We used happy sleeper’s toddler section when we transitioned. They have the sleep wave or reverse sleep wave depending on where your kid is at.
CCLA says
Probably confusing for her if it was just one nap on a cot while her crib is still present. Switching from the crib entirely should be different. For us (we switched last summer around 22 mos in anticipation of new baby), it was a few shorter nights and napless weekend days as she enjoyed the freedom of being able to run all around her room, but we put a child lock on the door and watched her on the monitor and after a few days it just became the new normal and the novelty wore off. Also used the hatch light okay to wake to enforce times when she could come to the door. Weekend naps now involve about 30-45 minutes of her free playing in her room before lying down to sleep, but we still get that down time and she enjoys reorganizing her diapers or “reading” or whatever she chooses that day. Echoing other posters that around 2.5 I would totally skip a nap on vacation, though.
So Bored says
Tips when you are “stuck” in your current role at work? I’ve been in my role for about 4 years, have great work/life balance, and basically don’t have any room for growth past what I’m doing.
I’m shadowing/learning in a different department, have a few really crappy stretch projects, and this is all after multiple conversations and proposals with my boss.. It doesn’t help that despite being on the leadership group of my department, I don’t optically seem as high-up as my peers.
I’m finding it harder to be productive because I’m so bored. We are relocating at year-end/early 2020 so I’m starting my job search shortly for a role in new city, but looking for ways to actually be productive and feel engaged in my current work.
Anonymous says
You’re leaving in a few months. Just show up, do a B+ job, and go home
OP says
Totally in that headspace, but even a B+ is hard right now! I think I’m at a solid C.
Spirograph says
C is a passing grade!
Anon says
No advice, but right there with you, except at the moment I’m at more of a C-/D+ and I have no plans to relocate. I know I need to do something, but I’m really stuck. I’m so bored but I have a toddler and can’t imagine leaning in and taking a more challenging job that will disrupt my work-life balance right now.
OP says
Sending some empathetic vibes. Have a toddler as well, and DH is counsel in BigLaw and works the norm for his industry and position which amounts to…a lot of hours.
anon says
Oh my gosh, same. I have great work/life balance in my current role and can’t imagine starting over somewhere new where I’d have to prove myself like I did in this role, pre-kids. At the same time, I don’t want to be in this role forever, and the longer I stay, the harder it will be to leave. The reality is that if I took a new job, especially one with management/leadership experience (which I would like), I would probably need to hire additional help (on top of full-time preschool and a biweekly house cleaner).
Walnut says
How much vacation do you have built up? Is it enough to take off every Friday or a half day every Friday from now until the end?
yup says
Happy belated birthday! I’m sorry you are disappointed. My husband is wonderful in so many ways but he does not care about his own birthday AT ALL, which extends to not understanding the fuss over my birthday or anyone else’s. I have learned that this is just something he is not good at and that if I want a birthday celebration, I need to plan it myself.
Anonymous says
Sorry, but I think this is a terrible excuse. My husband grew up in a family that didn’t celebrate birthdays (he didn’t have parties or get gifts as a kid) and really doesn’t care about his own birthday. But he recognizes that I celebrate birthdays and will do what I ask to ensure kiddo and I have nice celebrations. Nobody is a mind reader, but if his wife makes a reasonable request for birthday plans, he should be able to Dow abt will make her happy, regardless of his own feelings about birthdays. She wanted grocery store cake, not a two week trip to the Maldives.
Anonymous says
*do what will make her happy
Anonymous says
Agree with this. Even if you aren’t big into birthdays yourself, it’s a reasonable request to get a card and a cake. Honestly, my kids are old enough that they would be super upset if their Dad forgot to get me a cake for my birthday. They associated birthdays with cake and blowing out candles, anything else is extra.
yup says
I think OP’s request was very reasonable, I’m simply saying that some husbands can otherwise be great but just not find a birthday a big deal. I have learned that I would prefer to plan something for myself than expect him to do something and be disappointed. also I think the previous comment to go to marital counseling is ridiculous. No, this is not a legit reason to do that.
Anon says
I think this is a very legit reason to go to marital counseling. Her husband is ignoring her and being wildly insensitive to her feelings. This isn’t about the birthday itself, it’s about the fact that she wants him to the bare minimum for her (seriously, what’s easier than a card and grocery store cake?) and he won’t do it. That’s a very valid reason to seek counseling.
ha says
Yeah, I chuckled at the comment about marital counseling. If he is otherwise a good guy, then forgetting the cake was thoughtless but not worthy to go to counseling for. and in general, people on this board jump to “go to counseling” way way too often.
Anonymous says
If he’s just like “shrug I did my best” about this as OP says above, that’s pretty insensitive and I doubt this is the only time he’s been dismissive of a reasonable request from her.
Anon says
Yeah I think the odds that he’s a perfect husband 99.9% of the time and he just blew this one little request are basically zero. Responsible, attentive, thoughtful husbands don’t do things like this, and that’s why everyone is telling her to go to counseling.
Anonymous says
There’s a difference between ignoring an event and ‘not making it a big deal’. When someone has just asked for a cake (it’s not like she specified a particular cake that was hard to find), and you don’t do that for them and act like it was ‘too much’, that’s really hurtful.
OP shouldn’t have to buy her own birthday cake. That’s pretty harsh. It’s one thing if her DH had special ordered something at the grocery store and asked her to pick it up when she usually gets the groceries, but this is straight up saying he was too busy. In a time of 24 hr grocery stores, instacart, and even cakes on amazon, there’s no reason to not do it.
CPA Lady says
Well, but the problem is not that he doesn’t think birthdays should be a big deal. The problem is she asked for something specific (and extremely reasonable) because it was important to her and he half-@$$ed it and then acted like she was ridiculous for being upset.
Do I have the exact same priorities and wishes as my husband in every single aspect of life? No. Do I always agree with what he thinks is important? No. But do I try my best to go along with it when he makes a point to request something because it is important to him? Of course. Because that’s how we show a basic level of caring and respect for each other. That is why people are suggesting counseling.
If not counseling, you should at least sit him down and have a conversation about expectations, OP. I completely agree with everyone who commented that if he couldn’t make this happen, he needed to let you know. And also let you know that he will be making up for it later.
Boston Legal Eagle says
I think people are suggesting marital counseling because it sounds like he doesn’t value her desires and express wishes. It’s not really about the act itself. If his boss had told him to do something, I bet a million dollars he would have figured out a way to get it done. Yes, I know work is important and pays the bills, but your marriage is also important.
OP says
thanks everyone! CPA lady – you hit the nail on the head and did a much better job of explaining my feelings than I did. my DH definitely is not as into bdays, occasions, etc. it is something my parents made a big deal of growing up that his didn’t. it has taken a lot of adapting on my part and disappointments along the way to learn not expect something magical and over the top. i take this as part of the price of admission to our relationship. that is why i tried to be very clear and simple with what i wanted. there are many grocery stores, bakeries, etc. between or home and DH’s office. in fact his office is adjacent to a mall (like you can walk from his office to the mall without going outside). he was getting home late last week, like 9pm-midnight, but i know he stepped out of his office in the middle of the day for a break and could’ve gotten something then, or he could’ve stopped on the way to work. i did not want some fancy cake or even a cake with my name on it. all i wanted was to be able to blow out a candle with my kids. which is what i had been hoping for last year (my first bday as a mom), but i did not explicitly say so in advance, which is why i did say something this year. all of the occasions in our family are the first half of the year, so i guess he has 6 months until it is time to try again…
Anon (OP) says
Aw, hugs. My first birthday as a mom was really special to me too. I completely understand why you’re disappointed, especially when you told him clearly what you wanted and your request was so minimal. It really shows a lot of carelessness that he couldn’t do this one small thing he knew was important to you.
anon says
I’m sorry, this just stinks. :( I would feel sad and disappointed, too.
Anonymous says
Ugh, about 1/3 of the invitations to my baby shower have not reached their destinations yet, and it’s been two weeks since they were sent out. Who knew the mail was so bad?!
Anon says
the issue with the BOB strollers – does anyone know what years/models have the issue?
Anonymous says
https://www.mother.ly/news/bob-stroller-safety-what-parents-need-to-know
Lots of info available about this