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Maternity Monday: Ombré Wool & Cashmere Scarf

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Purple Scarf: La Fiorentina Ombré Wool & Cashmere ScarfThey make special maternity capes, to be sure, but for my money I’d suggest that if you like the look and don’t have something already in your wardrobe, now is a great time to pick up a scarf or wrap for spring. You can use it as an additional layer on top of a light jacket or blazer! You can use it as a scarf — or a nursing cover! It will fit no matter what, is soft if you’re holding your baby up near it (I avoided zippers and buttons and the like while the boys were small, but that’s probably just me), and can be a great way to add a bit of extra style to a simple outfit like a black t-shirt and gray slacks. This wool/cashmere blend looks perfect — substantial enough that it’s actually a good layer, not too snag-a-rific, and in a versatile color that I’d wear pretty much year-round. It’s $128 at Nordstrom. La Fiorentina Ombré Wool & Cashmere Scarf Psst: if you’re looking for something lighter/softer I’d try this silk/cashmere wrap. Building a maternity wardrobe for work? Check out our page with more suggestions along both classic and trendy/seasonal lines. (L-4)

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  1. Cribs says

    We’re looking for a mini crib to have baby in our bedroom and are debating between the Alma Bloom Mini and the Babyletto Origami Mini. The Babyletto seems to basically be a cheaper version of the Alma, and I’d be tempted to say is just a rip off of it but it does have very good reviews on most websites. Anyone have experience with either or both? Especially if you considered both, is there a reason you picked one over the other?

    • Cribs says

      PS: I know a lot of people do pack and plays for this purpose but we really want an actual solid crib, not a pnp.

      • boots says

        We had the Alma (bought used off a parent listserv). I was madly in love with it and it fit our son’s tiny room perfectly. But, honestly, it’s so small that he outgrew it pretty quickly. I’d buy the cheaper knock off just because you won’t get a ton of use out of it. That said, I know the WHO says it’s okay for like a year or something…

  2. Anonymous says

    When and why did you decide to move your toddler out of a crib and into a “big kid bed”? My 2 year old is going through a separation anxiety period and I’m wondering if now is the right or wrong time to move her to a toddler bed. I wonder if a big kid bed will help her feel less confined and therefore less desperate about separation. Thoughts welcome!

    • mascot says

      My son climbed out of his crib before age 2 so we moved him immediately for safety reasons. AlphaMom blog just had a post about this that might help.

    • Anonymous says

      We waited until she asked for an ‘open bed’ – 3.5 years old. It was great because we negotiated that she got the open bed (side removed from her crib) but that the side would go back on the crib if she got up at night without asking us. I didn’t want to gate her room and I was worried about her wandering around at night as we had just moved to a new house. At 4.5 she still won’t get out of bed without asking first – we still have a baby monitor so she can talk to us.

    • MomAnon4This says

      Your kid’s separation anxiety is right on schedule with developmental milestones.
      Moving out of a crib to a bed will not help or harm that either way – do it or not for safety or whatever reasons, primarily, not nec. because of anxiety issues.
      It’s the genie — once you do the big kid bed, you can’t go back to the crib.

    • Meg Murry says

      Our crib had a removable side, so we took that off once they started trying to climb over the side of the crib (early 2s) and converted it into a daybed. We then switched to a regular twin bed in the 3-4 range when we needed to pass the crib on.

      My concern with switching to a bed from a crib during separation anxiety is whether the kiddo would then be jumping out of the bed and trying to run to you/your room often – and whether you would prefer that to having to rescue a screaming kid from a crib and then trying to return the kid to the crib.

      The nice thing about having the side off the crib though is that it’s easier to sit next to the bed and cuddle or stroke their head, and easier to deposit a drowsy kid in without waking them.

      • Spirograph says

        This is what we did too, because kiddo was trying to climb out, and we ultimately needed the crib again for baby #2 and didn’t want him to feel ousted. So we converted his crib for a few months, then bought a new toddler bed when #2 was outgrowing the bassinet and we needed the crib again. I wish my 3 year old were contained. He wanders into our room almost every night. No gate would hold him in his room – he’s gotten annoyingly resourceful about turning things into steps, and my husband rebuffs my dutch door suggestion. If you don’t have a reason (climbing out, new baby) to switch from a crib, I wouldn’t do it.

        • Meg Murry says

          So it seems kinda crazy, but I read a blog post on a family that was having trouble keeping their large dog out of the kid’s room (and the dog was doing gross things like trying to eat dirty diapers) and they finally wound up taking the door off the kids room and putting up a screen door (with a high latch on it).

          We were able to contain my son with one of those toddler-proof door knob covers for a few weeks, until he learned how to get around that.

          My 4 year old has been wanting to sleep in our room lately when his older brother isn’t home (he claims he’s lonely), and based on the advice of friends we set up a little “nest” for him in the corner with some pillows and a sleeping bag – so he can sleep in our room if he wants, but not in our bed. Not ideal, but way better than one parent giving up and going to sleep on the couch because of the kicking toddler in our bed.

      • Anonymous says

        That’s my husband’s worry too, Meg– that we’ll never sleep alone again!

        Spiro, can your husband compromise with a baby gate in the door?

    • Anonymous says

      we moved our now 2.5 year old at 18 months. She was raging against the crib (screaming, shaking bars, the works. We put her mattress on the floor and BAM instant happiness. She got an actual bed at 21 months (it’s a full bed with toddler rails but not because she needs it- we wanted it as an extra guest space).

      • Famouscait says

        Has anyone gone from a crib to a larger bed (like a double/full) rather than a twin size bed? Kiddo is still in his crib for as long as we can, but I’ve thought it may make more sense to move to a larger bed when the time comes. More useful for guests, and potentially more comfortable for a growing boy.

        • FVNC says

          Haven’t done it yet, but we will be moving kiddo from her crib (converted to daybed, currently) to double bed late this summer. She’ll be close to 3 years old. We’re keeping our fingers crossed it goes well — she’s a great sleeper and I am a little nervous making such a big change!

          • mascot says

            I had a big reply that got eaten, but we did the same move around that age and it was no big deal. He loved the extra room.

        • Katarina says

          I moved straight to a queen at a little over 2, and it went really well, he loves the big bed. If anything he sleeps better. We already had the queen bed, which had been used for guests (and still is). It has been several months, and he never tries to get out of bed. We do have him locked in, because the bedroom is on a different floor.

        • Anonymous says

          I posted above- we did. It was a total non issue.

          I have divorced parents that occasionally visit at the same time so we wanted to use Kid’s bed as a back-up guest bed. Kid sleeps happily in our room on the floor or on the floor in her own room in her sleeping bag; grandma gets the bed with Elsa sheets.

          The only FYI is that some cute kids sheets and room sets don’t come in full (and most do not come in queen). But many do.

        • Resort Paralegal says

          We went from crib to double bed because we were in temporary housing and needed a place to put a double/guest bed. It was nice to be able to crash with her during the middle of night wakings. We have since moved and put her in a twin bed with no issues.

    • EB0220 says

      We moved our oldest around 2.5 because we needed the crib for her baby sister. Not a good reason. It was a rough road, but she did fine after a few weeks. Just moved my younger child at 19 months. The toddler bed has been sitting in our bonus room since we moved big sister to a twin bed. She slept in it one rough night when I couldn’t get her to sleep in her crib. After that, she refused to sleep in the crib. She’s done great so far and sleeps better in the toddler bed (just a little open bed, still uses a crib mattress).

  3. boots says

    Flying solo with 2 kids (4 and 4 months) tomorrow. Should I really bring birth certificates? I don’t want to have such important documents with me on this trip…are copies okay? I’ve flown with my older son before and was never asked for it (mostly I read they ask when the child looks close to 2 and doesn’t have a seat…)

    • Anonymous says

      I’d put copies of it on your phone and bring a photo copy. I travel all the time without them, but I do keep copies of the kids’ SS cards and birth certs on google drive, in case I ever had to show them.

      I was only asked once, when kid was 2, and it was because they thought I was bringing her on as a lap infant. I didn’t have it and was having panic attacks, but then we realized the mix-up and they were fine with no cert as long as she wasn’t sitting on my lap.

    • MomAnon4This says

      We’ve brought birth certificate copies or other proof of parenting docs and have never been asked for them.
      Sometimes it worries me with kidnappings, child custody, etc. but for the most part I’m sure it works.

    • Carrie M says

      I’d take pictures and have them on your phone if you don’t want to bring physical copies. They won’t ask at security but I have been asked by the gate agent at boarding once. It seems to totally depend on who’s working, to be honest.

    • Preemie Mom says

      If flying Southwest, they require the birth certificate for a lap child, regardless of age (we flew with ours at 6 months, and he was tiny, yet they still required it). We took an original. I’m not sure if a photocopy would have been okay – if Southwest, I would call to ask because they are unusually strict about it. I’ve also flown American and United with him as a lap child, and neither asked for his birth certificate.

      • Anonymous says

        It totally depends on which check-in agent you get with Southwest. I’m not sure what their official policy is; we got away with a dated facebook picture one time before we realized how strict they are about proof-of-age (baby was also around 6 months), but I wouldn’t count on that. A shot record from your child’s pediatrician is also acceptable documentation — I remember they suggested we could get the ped to fax one over to us but it was a weekend and there’s no way we would have gotten it in time.

      • Anonymous says

        I’ve flown with DD at five different airports on Southwest. They will not give you a boarding pass for the baby unless and until they see a copy of the birth certificate and your ID.

      • Lkl says

        Photocopy has been fine with us for Southwest (we were asked for it at 3 months!). They also told us immunization record would be fine, but I would double check that.

    • RDC says

      We’ve flown American with a lap child and they asked for the birth certificate but were fine with a copy.

    • SoCalAtty says

      Airlines typically ask me for proof of age, and my LO was only 4 months last time we flew. But just take a copy and that was fine, no way would I travel with the real thing.

    • EB0220 says

      I have no experience with either of these (though I love my L&S OG) but I LOVE #1.

  5. Famouscait says

    I’m considering a LeSportsac Abbey Carry-on bag as a new carry-on/diaper/travel bag. I’ve never bought LeSportsac before, so I’m wondering if its worth the price? I like nylon (wipeable, lightweight) and found a print or two I like (hides stains); the crossbosdy strap is a must. Other bags I should consider? I’ll be traveling this summer with a laptop and want a bag that has a zip top and is rather sizeable for carrying onto the plane. Kiddo is still in diapers and bottles have been replaced by the need to carry books, small hand toys, etc.

  6. Anonymous says

    Going off the post above, what worked for your toddler’s separation anxiety?

    My 2 year old stalls at bed time, which we do not ever give into– we have a very consistent routine that lasts no more than 30 min or so: bath, books, bed. Lately she cries when we leave her in her crib and we have tried several things: (1) ferbering (which worked when she was an infant, but seems useless now); (2) sitting next to her crib in a chair while she falls asleep (but this will sometimes last for 2 hours!); (3) hard-line ignoring her, but the other night she cried for an hour and a half before I rescued her. The nights she does fall asleep in her crib, she pretty consistently will wake up in the wee hours and cry hard until one of us goes in there, but then it takes her another hour to fall back asleep with one of us next to her crib in a chair (and if we try to leave before she’s asleep she cries hard). We’re exhausted, which turns into us just bringing her into the bed, which is bad sleep for everyone. Any advice?

    • CHJ says

      What time is her bedtime and her early wake-up time? Have you tried moving her bedtime up by 30 minutes? Sounds counterintuitive, but I find that my 2 year old has more trouble falling asleep when he is overtired.

      The other thing that has worked lately for us is letting him read a book in bed, by himself. He gets stories/songs and then gets to pick out a book to take to bed. He’ll “read” it for 5-10 minutes and then fall asleep. (His nightlight puts off enough light for him to see the pictures). Not sure if that is a universal solution, but it’s an easy one to try. Good luck!

    • Anonymous says

      Singing softly and rubbing back in crib or occasionally snuggles in the rocking chair works for middle of the night wake ups at our house. Sometimes she will lie down on her belly and wait for her back rubs as soon as I come in the door. I think part of what comforts her is knowing that I will come when she calls so she doesn’t stay awake for that long because she knows if she needs me later, I will come again. About one 20 min wake up 5/7 nights.

      For bedtime, I tell my daughter that she had her bath and bedtime and now it’s mommy’s turn for bathtime and bedtime. I tell her that I will check on her after my bath before I go to bed. It helps that her room is across from the bathroom and we have a loud bathroom fan. Initially, if she was upset, I would go back in with my towel and shower cap on before I got in the shower and rub her back for a few minutes, then I actually went and took my shower at that time – would check on her after I got out and put my pyjamas on – sometimes she was still awake and need a back rub but most times she was asleep. If she was awake, she saw that I was in my pyjamas and accepted that mommy was ‘going to bed too’. Now I just flip on the bathroom fan until I can see on the monitor that’s she’s asleep and do whatever. I think at 2 years old they realize that grown ups are awake after they get put to bed and they probably think we are playing with all their toys while they are stuck in their room.

    • Anons says

      A few things to think about trying–although you have probably tried at least some of these:

      (1) Music–she may just need something to help her mind relax and go to sleep. We downloaded a lullaby album (it is a woman singing the songs, she has a beautiful voice) and also have a tranquil turtle. My almost two year old loves the lullabies. As she gets older, I may switch to children’s audiobooks.
      (2) The bedtime pass–it gives her some control. Google this concept. It allows her one time–just one–to call mommy and daddy back for something at night. Once it is used up, it is gone, so the thought is that she will use it wisely, if at all, once she knows how it works.
      (3) Talk to her. Explain it is bedtime, that her body needs rest, that you are going to bed too, that you are in the house and will be nearby while she sleeps and will be with her again in the morning. Try to assuage any fears or uncertainties that might be going through her head.
      (4) If she is teething, she may need some pain relief at night and then again in the wee hours. (Molars coming in?) Also, possibly an ear infection could be causing pain.
      (5) Is she comfortable? Does she need a more supportive pillow or softer crib pad now that she is older? Possibly a lovey or stuffed animal to sleep with, if she isn’t already attached to something?
      (6) Is it possible she needs a tweak in the bedtime routine? We’ve had a strict routine since very early (as you do), but when my daughter is having a rough time, we sometimes add a few minutes of quiet rocking in the dark to help her reconnect with us before she goes to bed. Not rocking to sleep–just a few quiet minutes of connection. Sometimes the extra focus on her is just what she needs when she is having a tough time. A short backrub or footrub might also be something to try.
      (7) Is she getting outside everyday? This makes a HUGE difference for some kids.
      (8) Go with your gut on this one–but is she testing you? Some kids do better with the hard-line of ignoring versus Ferber. If you think she is testing limits, and she is not awake from pain or something else (might be worth a doctor’s visit to rule out molars or an ear infection), then maybe give the hard-line ignoring a week to work (yes, even if it is 1.5 hours of screaming for a few nights). Tell her about what will happen and then be consistent–she needs to know that you aren’t going to come in and rescue her even if she screams awhile.

      Good luck! It is so hard when sleep problems crop up.

    • Samantha says

      Some great suggestions above, but I second the point about outdoor time. Ideally, she should be really sleepy (like, dropping, low activity/energy, eyelids heavy) at the point in the bedtime routine when she gets in the crib. This is key. If she has the energy to scream for an hour and a half then my first guess is that she isn’t tired enough. The point about her being awake in the night for another hour supports this. Now that we have a longer day thanks to daylight savings, is it possible for her to get some outdoor or active play time in the evening? Is she sleeping too long or too late for her nap? (When my son occasionally on weekends napped until 5pm, we’d have a hard time getting him to bed at 9 unless we played really hard – like park, climbing structure, biking – in the evening.

      Also, is she “winding down” with the bedtime routine, i.e. do you keep lights low and reduce screen time in the hour before bedtime and so on? Ideally it should be a slow downward spiral towards bed rather than fun-fun bathtime, playing with mommy/daddy and suddenly bam! in the crib all alone, nobody to talk to.

    • Anonymous says

      We started readin Llama Llama Red Pajama, which she loved. I told her I was going to be downstairs like the mama llama. That somehow clicked with her and she stopped freaking out when I left.

      So maybe try to relate with books?

    • FVNC says

      Right around that time, my daughter also went through a sudden, intense bout of separation anxiety. Thankfully, it was short-lived — maybe 1 month until she was totally back to normal? — but felt like a lifetime while we went through it. The only things that worked for us where staying in her room until she fell asleep, sometimes up to 30 min (never 2 hours thankfully), and sleeping in a sleeping bag on the floor of her room if she woke in the middle of the night. Definitely not ideal, but it worked for us, and now she’s back to sleeping 11+ hrs without needing us at all.

    • Good luck says

      Make a list. With pictures. A checklist. A picture of a bath. A picture of a book. A picture of a parent hugging a child, and a picture of a child in bed. It can be a drawing, a photo, internet picture. Doesn’t matter.
      “involve” your kid as much as possible — “What comes next?!”
      “check off” everything on the list.
      Then, it’s bedtime.
      Can’t argue with the list! It’s not YOU making her go to bed, it’s the list!
      It’s worked on occasion? I swear.

      • Maybe? says

        Oh, also, I’d hug a big stuffed animal and put it in the bed. It was a big elephant, there was a small elephant, too, so this was the Mommy Elephant.
        I’d say, there’s a Mommy Hug for you on this elephant. If you wake up in the middle of the night, and you need a Mommy Hug, you can Hug the elephant!

        I don’t know if it worked, but we both liked it as part of The Ritual.

    • EB0220 says

      My kid is a bit older (just turned 4) but I’ve used many of these techniques. We have a bedtime routine (pictures of her doing each task). She has pictures of the whole family next to her bed. She gets two get-out-of-bed tickets (one for general stuff, one to use the bathroom). It works, mostly….

    • Anonymous says

      This is only slightly better than sitting in the room, but when my son was about that age and going through the same thing, we would sit in the hall outside the room, working on the laptop or whatever, and then gradually move towards the living room. It was pretty comical in retrospect, especially since I was like 8 mos pregnant scooting down the hallway floor.

      Then, one day, my mom came to stay, and she put our son to bed. She said firmly to our son that she would leave the door open, and that we were all in the next room, but that if he cried, she would close the door. Somehow, this worked.

      I doubt this is helpful, but just thought I’d add my experience…

      • Anonymous says

        So the ‘have somebody who’s not Mommy or Daddy tell them to stay in bed and it magically works,’ thing is actually pretty amazing. I don’t understand it at all!

        My friend’s kid was just about 4 and was still jumping in bed with mom and dad on a pretty regular basis. Big (kindergarten aged) cousin came to visit, scoffed and told the kid that big kids sleep in their awesome rooms. Just like that, kid slept in his own room. Magic!!

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