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- If you’re a working parent of an infant with low sleep needs, how do you function at work when you’re in the throes of baby’s sleep regression?
- Should I cut my childcare down to 12 hours a month if I work from home?
- Will my baby have speech delays if we raise her bilingual?
- Has anyone given birth in a teaching hospital?
- My child eats everything, and my friends’ kids do not – how should I handle? In general, what is the best way to handle when your child has some skill/ability and your friend’s child doesn’t have that skill/ability?
- ADHD moms, give me your tips to help with things like behavior in the classroom, attention to detail, etc?
- I think I suffer from mom rage…
- My husband and kids are gone this weekend – how should I enjoy my free time?
- I’m struggling to be compassionate with a SAHM friend who complains she doesn’t have enough hours of childcare.
- If you exclusively formula fed, what tips do you have for in the hospital and coming home?
- Could I take my 4-yo and 8-yo on a 7-8 day trip to Paris, Lyon, and Madrid?
Paging Suburban! says
Sorry I missed the formula feeding discussion yesterday. I posted you a lengthy response, but then it didn’t appear… if you’re still here and reading, I’ll try again!
Thank you AEK for the nice shout out. I treasure the compliment that anything I may have to say could be considered “eloquently discussed”. Made my day!
In other news, I just learned that the sickness I’ve had for the last 48 hours is in fact the Hand, Foot and Mouth virus. OMG I’m so grossed out with myself right now. =(
Glad to hear that. I’m not a stalker but I think your little one is a bit older than mine, so I was really aggressively reading every post about late pregnancy & babies around the time you were discussing!
And also, very sorry to hear about the HFM diagnosis. Mercifully haven’t gotten that delightful one (yet?) but I have been plagued with just about every other daycare disease this fall / winter. At least your spots are seasonally appropriate adornments?
Ha! Yes! I am just festively spotted. Love that.
Ugh, so sorry about HFM! I had it in 9th grade and they wouldn’t take my braces off because of it. Clearly devastating. Hope you feel better soon!
Thanks for the page! I’m all ears. Hope you feel better.
You got a lot of good advice yesterday, so I thought I’d try to fill in with a bit of practical advice, plus my own experiences:
– I was always uncomfortable with the idea of bf’ing. Formula was 100% the right choice for us. My husband and parents really enjoyed being able to feed the baby. I never felt any kind of primal urge or regret that I didn’t bf. The psychological weight of being someone’s food source (and the logistics that go along with that) were not for me.
– Like anything baby-related, bottle feeding can be as simple or complex as you make it. We chose simple. I got about 12 bottles (various sizes and nipples) used from a friend who did bf. We sterilized them once to start. Baby took those bottles/nipples without struggle and we never tried any other kinds. Bottles were given cold out of the fridge – not heated. Washed them in the dishwasher.
-You need to get the Dr. Brown’s Formula Mixing Pitcher. We would make bottles every 3 days or so. Make enough to fill all the bottles + the pitcher in the fridge. You treat formula just like any other milk product. If you would/wouldn’t drink a glass of milk after having it sit in the fridge/on the counter for X amount of time do/not feed it to your baby. Simple. There’s no need to throw out perfectly fine formula!
-I used Target brand (they’re truly all the same, generic just costs less) and bought in bulk when it goes on super-sale twice a year.
– Do not tolerate judgement, especially from your doctor. When we were interviewing for peds, I specifically said that baby would be ff and asked a Q about that just to gauge response. We did not go with the Doctor who then wanted to know why formula and not bf, did I know it was my legal right to pump at work, etc. If that’s the kind of pressure you get in a pre-client meeting, it will not be any better when you are a patient. Our current ped was no big deal, told us he ff his kids as well.
-I had a great experience at the hospital, but was totally prepared (as was my spouse) to push back against pressure to bf. Somehow the lactation consultant did find me in 90 seconds I was by myself after delivery, and I simply said quickly and firmly that I was ff’ing. Beware that anything related to “baby nutrition” (even at your hospital!) actually means bf’ing.
-I wish I’d known in advance to bring tight sports bras and an ace bandage wrap to the hospital to bind my chest. (The LC actually left me with a sheet on how to stop milk supply!) Gross but also helpful: frozen cabbage leaves in my bra. It sucks and I can’t eat cabbage now, but it was over in about 10 days.
The good news is that all of this crazy stressful focus on how and what to feed baby does pass. My kiddo is now ~13m and no one asks if he was a formula of bf baby. Good luck!
Anon in NYC says
My friends who FF said that the Baby Brezza machine was a lifesaver. It’s like a Keurig for babies.
Can’t thank you enough. This was everything I wanted/ needed to hear. Huge. Thanks again.
You are most welcome!
Next Milk Source says
Did anyone choose an alternative to cows milk when baby was ready to transition off breastmilk / formula? Although my child does not appear to be intolerant to cow’s milk (we’ve given him yogurt), a lot of research we’ve read shows that cow’s milk is not in fact good for the human digestive system. So far, I have heard of almond, rice and goat’s milk as alternatives.
Amelia Bedelia says
My bebe is highly allergic to cow’s milk, so we had to find alternate sources. She is allergic to goat’s milk, and supposedly (according to my doc – i have not researched this because my bebe is allergic) it has the same digestive difficulties for children.
Unfortunately, my kiddo is also allergic to the most highly rated alternative (soy). So her only choices are the nut milks. Our pediatrician and pediatric allergist were not happy with those choices. First, the majority of them that you can buy at whole foods, etc., contain a lot of artificial ingredients. Secondly, even if you buy the “fortified” coconut milks or almond milks, they have far less protein than regular milk. We ended up with a special formula (imported) that’s designed for children with casein/milk and soy allergies for morning and night. During the day we give her coconut milk (trader joe’s has a very simple kind). Also, we give her supplementary vitamins and she eats a TON of protein from other sources.
So, I suggest finding the most natural product you can and making sure to heavily supplement protein in other ways. I’m sure there are plenty of vegans that can weigh in with long-term experiences. I’m just letting you know our experience and information. I will note, though, that the same enzymes and proteins with cow’s milk are present in regular yogurt, so are you really avoiding anything? perhaps you are just trying to limit the intake?
Amelia Bedelia says
Oh, and one more comment: rice milk is absolute rubbish. It has pretty much zero nutritional value.
Can you please talk a little more about how you discovered the milk allergy? My little one has a nut allergy, and so I’ve been really careful with introducing new foods. When I first started cow’s milk, he developed a very bad diaper rash, and his #2s dramatically increased. We backed off, and switched to soy, but that didn’t seem to make a big difference. After a few weeks, we re-introduced yogurt, and have been slowly adding some cow’s milk back into his diet. I haven’t seen the same reaction, but I’m curious how the allergy for your LO presented. Thanks!
My daughter does not have a cow’s milk allergy but switching from br3astmilk to cow’s milk made her perpetually constipated (for about 6 months) until I figured out the right balance of those blessed Gerber pouches of fruits and veggies to dairy products.
Amelia Bedelia says
Sure. I was breastfeeding and my daughter screamed all. the. time. during her first month or so of life. In addition to that, she was losing weight and diagnosed as “failure to thrive” and was covered from head to toe in a “heat rash.” Lovely feeling that gave me. The doctors at first told me it was because my milk wasn’t nutritious enough, so we began supplementing with formula. It made zero difference. Also, she literally pooed every hour to hour and a half and it was straight smelly liquid.
I finally did some research on my own and learned that dairy allergies often times present with rash, “colic”, and loose stools. So, I cut out every speck of dairy from my diet. Within a week she was SO much happier and the rash cleared and the BMs regulated. At that point, I began to use cream in my coffee once a day — and the rash and screaming reappeared. So, we conclusively decided that she had a dairy allergy. I then started introducing soy into my diet (only 40% cross-allergy). She had the same reaction, though it was less severe. So, I cut out all soy.
We were told by our pediatric allergist that a number of kids who are “allergic” to dairy/soy at birth grow out of it within a matter of months. She did not, though. She is still allergic (at nearly 2 yrs old), but can tolerate “trace” amounts with only minimal eczema and gas. We don’t consciously give it to her, but we are not as militant as policing dairy/soy when we occasionally eat out.
We had her officially tested at one year old (apparently tests can be faulty before a year). We learned of a whole host of other allergies and were quite upset. Some are worse than others, though, and we tell ourselves we could face harder medical issues. All that to say that the tests confirmed the dairy and soy allergies, but you really only have trial and error until you reach the one year mark. I was vigilant with keeping a food diary — and learned that once the child switches to direct ingestion (vs. breast milk) symptoms often take 24-48 hours to present. So, really track the eating if you are suspicious of allergies.
Amelia Bedelia says
oh – forgot. She also had severe “reflux” for the first month. They even put her on medication! As soon as we cut out dairy/soy, she was magically cured.
As someone who got the soy allergy diagnosis as an adult, can I tell you how amazing it is for your daughter that you tracked all of that down when she is so young? I went decades thinking that people just lived with constant digestive issues and major, unexplained life disruptions. She probably won’t ever know how grateful she should be for your diligence, so I’m thanking you on her behalf.
I don’t think WCM is an absolute must. But, I think what WCM provides is an easy source of necessary fat, vitamin D, calcium and protein and it’s the easy to find/more affordable option for a lot of people. The other milks may not have all of these components in one product. You can certainly work in other foods to fill the gaps.
We still give several servings of milk/dairy a day. I felt like even on his pickiest days with foods, I knew that he at least was getting some solid nutrition in that glass of milk or cup of greek yogurt.
Anon in NYC says
I’ve heard that hemp milk can be a good alternative.
Amelia Bedelia says
yes. We considered Hemp milk, but the protein and calorie level is shockingly low.
Use cow’s milk or formula. If your child has a confirmed milk protein allergy (as mine does), use soy. All other milk substitutes are nutritionally deficient. If your child is also sensitive to soy (as mine was), talk to your doctor or dietitian about specialized formula options – you can get a very expensive formula (your insurance may cover) instead.
If your baby doesn’t like the taste of milk then use other dairy products – yoghurt cheese kefir etc to get the majority of their dairy, but it is very hard to get a toddler to consume enough servings of these to replace milk.
Rice/Coconut/Almond etc are no replacements – they have very little nutritional value. Healthy fats and proteins are extremely important to toddler brain development.
Amelia Bedelia says
COMPLETELY agree with this. We use the ridiculously expensive imported formula and still struggle to make sure our kiddo has sufficient protein and good fat.
but I had NO idea that insurance could cover the cost??????
We are in Canada and our public govt paid insurance didn’t cover it but our secondary (employer paid) insurance would if we had evidence of both a cow’s milk allergy and soy allergy. If only CMP allergy then they expect you to use soy. YMMV
I think there may have also been an age cap on how long they would pay it – I think maybe age 2 was the max? Basically it was treated as a prescription (even though it was food not a prescription).
Meg Murry says
Even if insurance won’t cover it, you may be able to reimburse yourself for it out of an HSA if the doctor writes you a prescription for it. According to this webs!te, you can reimburse the difference in cost between the expensive formula and standard formula, and a few others say something similar (I googled HSA formula prescription allergy).
Chi Squared says
There’s nothing wrong with cow’s milk unless your baby is dairy intolerant. In my opinion, alternatives like almond, soy, coconut, rice, etc. are artificial and nutritionally inadequate, and should be turned to only if medically necessary.
This sweater looks good for 2-months post partum me. Does anyone else have any good suggestions for this “postpartum pooch” phase as Kat calls it? Right now I look ridiculous in my maternity tops and like a sausage in my “regular” tops. I bought a tunic- length cowl-neck sweater that’s working and a “cocoon” top from old navy that I really like, but I need a few more options.
Here’s the Old Navy top I’m liking:
I was coming in to say the same thing. I’m 4 months out and can’t figure out how to dress myself. I have a huge pooch and even bigger boobs so I feel frumpy and large in everything I put on. And of course, I don’t have a ton of time to try on a billion things in hopes of finding what looks good on my new body shape. I need ideas!!!!
Perhaps something like this with a blazer or cardigan for work:
I’ve had good luck with flowy tops (like chiffon , with a tank underneath, or loose sweaters). Pencil skirts with a bit of stretch in them are also great on my body because they come up high enough to sort of compress the pooch. I also broke down and bought some new dresses that are stretchy/washable fabrics with a zipper (for pumping) in an appropriate size. Like Ellen Tracy and similar brands. I’ve been thinking a loose straight shift dress would look nice, sort of 60s mod style, but I don’t have one.
+1 to flowy tops. They aren’t bulky so they don’t add weight but they are roomy enough to disguise areas you are self-conscious about. Plus they look good untucked so you can wear maternity pants as long as you want! Since it’s temporary and you probably want washable anyway, polyester “silk” is your friend!
Pigpen's Mama says
I was a knit top sort of person pre-baby — now my favorite shirts are my Pleione flowy tops — drapey but not bulky.
I found high-waisted pencil skirts (a few sizes larger than pre-pregnancy) to be the answer for me. Pre-preg, I was a 2, and now, 22 months pp, I’m really comfortable in a 10. I found my best options at Banana and Express, and my favorite new jeans are from Ann Taylor (and are fairly high-waisted). I didn’t spend more than $30 per item, because I’m broke and cheap. Only mentioning the price to encourage you to wait for sales.
I really liked narrow or slim bottoms (still several sizes up from my pre-preg size) with a compressing tank and a flowy top, often with a loose cardigan. Layers were my best friend. The narrow bottoms helped with the frump factor.
For work, I also found that tulip or A-line dresses seemed to hide the pooch, if they fit right. They created the illusion of a waist, even when mine was still non-existent.
My kiddo will be 2 1/2 this summer … which would be a better Christmas gift, balance bike or tricycle?
Balance bike! We regretted getting the tricycle first…it really slowed down getting on a real bike.
Wait, I just reread the age. If kid is only 2 now maybe the trike is OK (if you live somewhere that it won’t be used much until summer then definitely the balance bike, but if you are in CA or similar climes then a tiny tot might make more use of a trike).
Balance bike. I think it makes learning to ride a bike easier.
I agree, two year old loves his balance bike and it burns off tons of energy.
We don’t have one yet, but I say balance bike, too. My 2.5 year old cannot pedal his tricycle. Although we have one with the removable handle on the back, and he does love to sit on the tricycle and have us push him. He might just be a little slow (or lazy), but he’s otherwise very coordinated/athletic for his age, so it’s weird. Something about pushing his feet around in a circle as a means of transportation is not clicking in his head. We’re planning to get him a balance bike for his birthday this spring.
It’s expensive, but the Wishbone converts from (pedal-less) tricycle to balance bike. It’s a great, great product.
My daughter has been pedaling her tricycle since about 20 months. She loves it. The bar on the back is handy to keep her out of traffic.
Grandparents got her a balance bike for her 2nd birthday and she’s still too short for it several months later. We’re thinking it will fit this summer, but she’ll be nearly three.
I’d watch the size for a tricycle or balance bike. Many are too big for a 2 yo.
Another good option is a micromini scooter. She got one at 2 and it’s been a big hit.
Best balance bike? says
Can anyone give a rec for a balance bike they like? Brand?
In House Lobbyist says
We do balance bikes for the 2 year olds in or family. We like the Chico brand. My daughter turned 2 in August and she’s a master at the balance bike.
Meg Murry says
I’m pretty sure the ones my kids have is the Mini Glider. It’s easily height adjustable, and the kids like having a kickstand and hand brake “just like a big kid”. It had a bit of a learning curve, but peer pressure and a slightly older kid using one is the best way to teach them to use it. My oldest didn’t really get the hang of it for a while (but he seems to have inherited my less graceful tendancies) but my oldest was zooming away pretty quickly, between the fact that he could watch his older brother demonstrate it and having a very slightly downward slope to the sidewalk at our new house. Now the youngest is 4 and he can fly on that thing, plus work the hand brake.
Technically 2 year olds can use the glider bike, but I’d say it takes until 3 to catch on to it for most kids.
We also borrowed one of the radio flyer tricycles with a push handle on the back from a friend – that was nice to use instead of a stroller when we wanted to take a walk, because the kiddo could pedal when he wanted to, and just ride when he got tired out – as opposed to walks in a stroller where we got tired and he just sat.
My kiddo just figured out the tricycle this summer at 3. She has yet to figure out the balance bike. It may be because she doesn’t like speed!
Air v ground says
Any thoughts on whether it is safer/better to fly or drive from east coast to Midwest with a 2 month old this winter? I know weather can be an issue and obviously driving seems riskier for adults, but I also don’t want my baby to get sick on the plane. What would you do?
Anon in NYC says
As long as your baby has had his or her first round of shots, I think a pediatrician would say that it’s fine to take them on a plane. Our ped recommended waiting 6-8 weeks before taking my daughter on the subway because “it’s a steel tube of germs” and I imagine the same principle applies to a plane. Post-shots, I’d probably fly and keep the baby close to me / away from others. Pre-shots, I’d be more inclined to drive.
Agree with above that post-shots, baby should be fine on a flight. In my experience, flying with a baby was super easy, so long as they’re easily soothed by close contact and feeding – no need to otherwise entertain them. I flew alone cross country with a 4 month old with no problems; that same 4 month old could be a nightmare just on the 15 minute drive home from daycare.
How “Midwestern” are you talking? Ohio? Minnesota? North Dakota? The further north and west you go, the higher the risk of dangerous driving/icy roads. I would probably fly and keep baby close to you, which shouldn’t be hard at that age (Moby wrap/K’tan all the way). They’ll waive you to the front of the security line probably too, which makes flying easier.
If you do drive, make sure to bring lots of extra food and water for yourself (and extra formula for baby, even if you are nursing), lots of extra blankets and warm clothes for everyone, and ice melt/snow shovel in your trunk. And keep an eye on the weather an hour ahead of you, since it can be drizzly in one place, sleeting in the next, and blizzard an hour away.
I would be inclined to drive depending on how long the trip is. I have been stuck on an airplane with baby when flight was delayed. I have also survived a 8 hour flight delay in an airport with a baby. Air travel is great when it runs on time, but with weather delays – I think car is the better option because you have more control. You can leave early or late to suit baby, you can stop overnight on the way to/from to adjust for weather etc.
When I started pumping this morning, a whole bunch of milk got sucked up into the tubing and more seemed to spill out the bottom of flange (on one side only). When I disconnected the tubing,the remaining collected milk dropped down into the bottle. I’ve never had that happen before! Anyone know what causes this? I reconnected all parts and put in new tubing and that seems to solve it but I’d like to prevent reoccurence… (I’m using medala PISA if that matters).
How do you deal with unsupportive coworkers? My boss is fantastically amazing about kid stuff, but the other lawyer in our group is not at all. She is single and childless. My kiddo is crazy sick today and may need IV support or to be admitted later today (I’m at work for a few hours), and when I mentioned that I may need to work remotely tomorrow, she sighed and complained that it would interfere with her plans and is there any way I could still come in? Ugh.
No solutions just empathy. I don’t know what you can say other than (as politely as possible), that no you cannot come in if your child is very sick or hospitalized. If someone can’t understand that at face value, I don’t think there is a magic way of expressing it that will make her get it. It’s her problem not yours.
Assuming she actually knows the details, this isn’t unsupportive, it’s incredibly selfish (almost disturbingly so). I am not a kid person – I don’t like kids and don’t really care to hear about my friends’ children or see pictures of them, but if someone told me their kid was sick and possibly going to be hospitalized I would be extremely understanding and bend over backwards to help/accommodate them, because that is what a decent human being does. Tell her you won’t be in and don’t give it another thought.
Also, I sincerely hope your kid feels better soon.
Second the earlier posters. One response might be, “Yeah, it’s really messing up my plans too.” And then avoid working with her in the future if you can.
Chicco caddy stroller? says
We have been planning on getting the Uppababy Cruz but weren’t in a rush because we’re facing the winter and thought we wouldn’t use it much until a few months after baby is born (we live in the city and are planning on mostly babywearing for the beginning). Someone mentioned we should just get the Chicco Caddy stroller to have for emergencies and to use with our Chicco Keyfit carseat, and hold off on the Uppa until we have a firmer sense of how we’ll be using a real stroller.
Q’s: Anyone here do this? Is it silly to get the caddy if we think we want a “real” stroller eventually? And is this the kind of thing I can buy gently used if we do go this route?
We used our Chicco caddy stroller all the time for first 6 months or so and longer in airports. It’s cheap, easy to fold, and car seat just clicks right in. Perfect for mall, travel, restaurants, etc. and in the winter it’s easier than taking the infant out and re-strapping in another stroller. Definitely get a used one if available – it’s just hard plastic so can easily clean.
Pigpen's Mama says
I loved our caddy and did exactly what the person who advised you did — got the caddy and waited until ~ 6mos to get a ‘real’ stroller, then didn’t really use the real stroller until 9 months. That being said, we’re semi-suburban, so we were driving most days.
The caddy has so much more space to hold stuff than most strollers. I used the basket underneath for shopping the first few months. The Cruz looks like it has more space than the stroller I ended up with (City Mini GT), so that may not be as much of an issue.
It’s also a lot lighter — so it was easier to get in and out of the car (without the seat clicked in) than the bulkier full sized strollers are.
Get the caddy! We got our full stroller and the Keyfit caddy before the baby was born, and did not use the stroller once for months & months because the caddy was so convenient. (FWIW, baby was born in Jan.) I love that thing. I grocery shopped with it, used it for daycare, everything but actually “going for a walk.” I miss it now that my son is in the convertible car seat.
To answer: Yes, No, Yes. What you describe is exactly what we did (including the used Caddy). We ended up with a Cruz as well but as our kiddo is still in the infant seat, we just used it and the Caddy for plane travel and didn’t have to fret about losing the “nice” stroller.
Cute top? says
Does anyone have any recommendations for cute tops to fit my massive nursing chest? I’ve always been “blessed” in this department, but I’m currently a 34H. I did not know cup sizes went that far down the alphabet.
Loose tops look like tents. Tight tops are not particularly flattering on my postpartum pooch and really just accentuate my gigantic chest.
Nursing friendly is a plus but not required. Dress recommendations also appreciated. I’m really just looking for everyday cute close. Not necessarily dressy or for the office.
Cute top? says
* cute clothes. Not close. Whoops!
It’s my husband’s birthday today and he’s also just arriving home today after a long business trip. So I had the idea of putting up decorations in the kitchen as a sort of welcome home birthday surprise — just some streamers and balloons, but it looked fun. I put it up after the kids went to bed last night and thought they’d also like the surprise in the morning. Boy did they. Twin A came downstairs first and was sort of like “meh, I’m more into this board book.” Twin B, however, made his “OMG” face and pointed at them and was really thrilled. I was pretty happy about that. Then he kept pointing at the balloons and signing “more” (which he uses to mean “give me”). I blew up a couple of extra balloons and gave them to the kids to play with. No. B wanted the balloons on the ceiling. Now. (“more, more, more,” point, point, point, fussy noise, louder fussy noise, “more”). “No, B,” I said. “You have a balloon. Those balloons need to stay on the ceiling.” More, more, point, point, fussiness. We wound up in full, complete, utter, tantrum mode. He couldn’t even eat his breakfast. He NEEDED THE BALLOONS NOW NOW NOW. Screaming. Flinging himself on the floor. Tears, snot, big patchy redness on his face, swollen crying eyes. More screaming. More pointing. The kid can throw a tantrum and he went all out on this one. For 20 minutes. Finally, I just pulled down all the decorations, popped the balloons, and put it all in the trash. Sorry, honey. Our kid ruined your birthday. Surprise! I did, however, manage to snap a cute photo of him pointing to the balloons when he first came in. It’s pretty cute.
It happens. Even 5 years into this parenting shtick, I can’t always accurately predict what will set off an epic tantrum, what will end up being a non-issue that I thought would be a huge big deal and what will totally make them happy that means zero to me. Congrats on the effort!
The unpredictability is insane. Last year, we took the kids (then babies) to see Santa and A was totally cool while B freaked out. This year, we were all set for a B freak out (he’s by far the more high strung of the two) and lo and behold it was A who freaked out while B tried to sneak back under the rope for a second turn on Santa’s lap!
The best laid plans…
My youngest (2 yrs old) freaked out this morning because he didn’t get to pick which diaper I put on him. Then my older kid flipped out because he couldn’t wear his giant down puffy coat to daycare…it was 60 degrees outside. I finally just let him wear it and he can sweat.
Sometimes I worry that giving in on stuff like that just sets the kids up to be spoiled and demanding. Then I remember that I just don’t want to deal with an unnecessary tantrum for a hill that I don’t want to die on. The unpredictability is wild.
Maddie Ross says
Ack, JJ, I’ve been there too. I mean, seriously, does it matter if you pee on cookie monster or elmo? Apparently yes, yes it does.
I carried my daughter to bed last night while she screamed “SOAP” and made washing gestures with her hands, tears and snot streaming down her face. Because she wanted to wash her hands a third time before bed, of course.
I see it as preparation for the teenage years.
LOL, I was literally just looking at this top.