Nursing Tuesday: High/Low Jersey Cardigan

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A woman wearing a High/Low Jersey CardiganI’m always amazed when I come across something I bought several years ago that’s still in stock. I first got acquainted with this high/low jersey cardigan from Bobeau at when I was nursing my first son — I wanted something that was warm and soft and washable that had a little bit of color. It seemed like everything I was finding at the time was gray, and all the mothers on TV and in movies were wearing gray, and I thought that since I already felt exhausted and super blah after having a baby, I wanted something more colorful. This cardigan has been at Nordstrom for a thousand years and is great for the weekend and for around the house. For nursing, it isn’t quite as discreet as Bobeau’s fleece wrap cardigan (which also comes in plus sizes) … but honestly I’ve never liked that one. If you’re nursing in public, though, I can see how it could be better — but I liked this one for nursing around the house. It comes in eight colors at Nordstrom for $58, and although it occasionally comes in petite sizes, they’re not currently available, it seems. The fleece wrap cardigan is on sale for $39 and has an incredible 3,900 reviews. High/Low Jersey Cardigan Psst: Looking for more info about nursing clothes for working moms, or tips for pumping at the office? We’ve got them both… This post contains affiliate links and CorporetteMoms may earn commissions for purchases made through links in this post. For more details see here. Thank you so much for your support!

Sales of note for 9.10.24

(See all of the latest workwear sales at Corporette!)

Kid/Family Sales

  • Carter’s – Birthday sale, 40-50% off & extra 20% off select styles
  • Hanna Andersson – Up to 50% off all baby; up to 40% off all Halloween
  • J.Crew Crewcuts Extra 30% off sale styles
  • Old Navy – 40% off everything
  • Target – BOGO 25% off select haircare, up to 25% off floor care items; up to 30% off indoor furniture up to 20% off TVs

And — here are some of our latest threadjacks of interestworking mom questions asked by the commenters!

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Can someone talk me off the proverbial ledge here? I am considering quitting my job to stay at home with my 10 month old. I am a lawyer who works at a nonprofit type job, commuting from a nearby suburb into a large city.
The pros of quitting:
My baby is in daycare. He is sick literally all the time. I think I can remember a two week period last month where he was not the least bit sick. Otherwise, there’s a constant stuffy nose and cough. This Thanksgiving weekend he had RSV and an ear infection. The other babies in the daycare are also coughing with runny noses most of the time. I don’t doubt that the daycare disinfects everything at the end of the day, but I’m wondering if anyone else has experience in daycare where their child is ALWAYS sick. I feel like I’m torturing him, listening to him cough on the monitor or wiping his nose 100x per day. The doctors and nurses at the pediatrician see us about an average of every two weeks. I’ve ruled out a nanny for several reasons, so the options I’m weighing are staying at home, or keeping him in daycare. My husband is extremely supportive and has a ton of childcare responsibility with me, but his job is way more demanding and he can’t leave at the drop of a hat if our kid is sick, and in general his workplace is a lot less understanding of him taking off/leaving early. He is also the breadwinner. I don’t make very much money, especially for a lawyer.

The cons of quitting:
I like my job. I’m not sure I’m cut out for the stay at home lifestyle. I don’t want to make it hard on myself to re-enter the workforce later. My income, while not very much, helps our family. My health insurance, which covers my family, is FREE. I have student loans (though we can technically afford paying them on one income). We like our lifestyle and are not going to enjoy pinching pennies or budget living. We want to buy a new house in a different suburb eventually. Me not working will most likely change the dynamic of our marriage.

I guess I’m trying to square the emotional and the logical here. I guess I’m looking for someone to say: my baby was sick all the time too, it gets better, just power through it, all of this is temporary. Anyone? Has anyone given up their income and job and felt like they made the right choice?

Has anyone tried a Belly Bandit or similar corset-type garment for pushing things back together postpartum? Do they work? I snapped back into shape so easily with my first that I didn’t really understand the market for those things but now with #3 arriving soon, I’m pretty sure I could use all the help I can get. I’m not having a c-section (knock on wood) so this wouldn’t be for wound recovery.

Apropros of the so anon embarrassing complaint discussion above, can I just vent here that we are TTC, and all the TTC-ing gave me a horrible UTI. And the antibiotics for the horrible UTI gave me a yeast infection. And in the midst of all this, a strenuous workout gave me a horrible flare-up of hemorrhoids, which I have NEVER had except while pregnant, and these are worse than the pregnancy ones. In sum, I would like to chop off my body from the waist down please. And also I kind of hate my husband because he will NEVER KNOW the pain and indignities big and small that I have to endure to get these kids.

i just need to vent. 12 weeks here with my first and i am soo nauseous. It was terrible at weeks 7 and 8, but got so much better. Last week I even felt practically fine on Thanksgiving, but I’ve basically gotten sick 1-8 times a day since week 6 and now it is getting worse. Please tell me this doesn’t go on forever? i seriously spend all day at work (no one knows yet that i’m pregnant) trying not to puke and monitoring the bathroom to make sure no one is in the other stall. We spent a while TTC, so I’m grateful to be pregnant, but hate it at the same time. This week I have to go to four holiday parties (they are work things) and it sounds like torture.

My thumbsucking 1 YO has developed a rash around his mouth, I think from the chafing/wetness of the thumbsucking (timing corresponded with him basically rejecting the pacifier in favor of his thumb). Has anyone else had to deal with this? Advice to help it clear up? For what it’s worth, it does not seem to bother him at all.

May I suggest doing some pre-shopping but not making the call until the baby arrives? You don’t say when you’re due, but if you are due in the winter/spring, you may not be outside as much as you think with 2 in tow early on.

I had a 2.5 year old when #2 was born, and bought a sit-and-stand. It worked great, but honestly, I didn’t need it early on. I wore the baby in an Ergo and either used a regular stroller or had #1 walk. The double got the most use at the zoo and when we went to Disney, at which point I didn’t need the infant seat. We bought a second seat (jump seat) for Disney and the kids used the “back seat” to nap and the awake one went in the front.

I’m now expecting #3, who will arrive when #2 is 22 months. #2 cannot be trusted to sit or stand on her own without running away and into traffic (unlike her sister, who was a Very Serious Rule Follower her entire life). My plan is 4 y/o walks, infant in a pouch of some kind, and #2 strapped into an umbrella stroller. We may or may not get a side-by-side eventually–it will depend how trustworthy #2 becomes as she gets closer to 2.5, how many outings we anticipate, and how long it is before #3 can sit upright.

I am having a baby next week. We asked my MIL (who is awesome) to watch our three year old for the time we are in the hospital, except for the last night, when we asked my mother to keep her. We finalized all of this last week.

MIL and mother are both very involved with our first LO, and we have good relationships with both. However, my mother has gotten a little flaky lately. Changes plans at the last minute and can’t do what she said she would, or said she would pick up LO from daycare and calls that day to say she “didn’t make it into town today,” etc. Leaving me to scramble at the last minute.

Today my mother called to tell me she has pulled a muscle and will be in a wheelchair for a week. She has a doctor’s appointment for– yeah– the day she is supposed to keep our LO while I am still in the hospital recovering from childbirth. She asks, can she switch days with MIL?

No, because MIL is keeping another set of grandkids on the night I asked my mother to keep this one. No, because I don’t really trust my apparently-wheelchair-bound mother to wrangle my three year old on her own. No, because this is not acceptable and I am nine months pregnant and we already planned this and it’s not a birthday party, I AM HAVING A BABY and I need you to do what you said you would do! But I also feel kind of bad because she is actually injured (my dad corroborates), and if this were one-off I think I’d be a lot less annoyed. It’s just not the time to flake on me, mom.

I don’t know if I have a question or if I’m just venting… thanks ladies.

I have terrible sleepers. You will be fine. Get sleep however you can. Day care will figure out naps. I wouldn’t worry about that one. Fight the transition fight when you are up for it. My oldest, who was the worst, transitioned pretty easily at a little over two. And hey, maybe when you are ready to be done co-sleeping with the baby, he can just start sleeping with older sib. That actually worked well for us.

Ladies, I wanted to give you an update from a few weeks ago.

Thank you again for all of your support and advice. They really carried me through the hardest time. My husband is at home, and is about to “graduate” out of day treatment to a one-on-one therapist/psychiatrist relationship. Our relationship is getting better and better. I honestly thought this person was gone– it has been really exciting meeting the man I fell for again as he peels back the layers. Kiddo is in therapy with an excellent, extremely experienced therapist who specializes in kids who’ve experienced abuse, and her first session went really well. She was excited to play with the therapist’s new toys.

So life has really stabilized again for us, we’re getting into the swing of our new routine, and I’m starting to feel less like I got hit by a bus in my brain and heart. Still very much taking it one day at a time, and taking a lot of refuge in Christmas plans and preparations and traditions. I’m glad this is the first year that all the holiday magic is really going to register with kiddo, because we could all use a little more magic this year. It’s like our family is recovering from major surgery. We’re SO much better, but we tire easily and we are still getting stronger and doing PT and other recovery work.

My biggest issue right now is staying on task. Our work rush of the season has waned, and I’m just eminently distractible. But I am getting my work done, so I’m trying not to fret too much or be my own worst critic. My work is getting done, and I don’t have to absolutely kill it every single minute of every day.

Sending you all so many thanks and warm wishes.

I have a 2 year old and a 12 week old. Neither kid has ever shown any signs of being a good sleeper. After fighting losing sleep battles for basically my toddler’s entire life so far, I decided to throw in the towel with my baby and not fight. This has resulted in me holding or wearing him for almost all of his naps and cosleeping at night. For the naps, I’m concerned because he starts daycare in a month where he will have to sleep in a crib. For the nighttime cosleeping, I’m fine with it for now but worry about the long term implications.

Have I totally screwed this all up? Anything I should be doing differently now, or can I just carry on for a few more months till we’re ready to sleep train?

Please talk to me about private v. good public school for a precocious soon to be 5 year old. My son will be starting kindergarten next fall and we’re trying to figure out what school he should attend. I had always assumed he would attend the local public school, which will be in a brand new, beautiful building in the fall and which is very well regarded. It is also walking distance from our home, another plus.

But, we recently had a meeting with his teachers. Both of them said that my son was exceptionally gifted. One said that in her 30 years of teaching, she has never come across a child as bright as my son. Of course I felt extremely proud as his mom, but it also gave me some pause on the school front.

Are we better off going the private route? His teachers said that he is a self-starter and will make sure that he is learning and growing, regardless of whether we go the private or public route. He’s also very extroverted and so they don’t believe he needs a smaller class size to excel (which is presumably what you get in a private school)

Wondering if anyone else has been a similar situation. I’m a product of public schools myself so the private option is not something I had even considered.

Ladies, any advice for weaning an almost 3 year old from thumb sucking? I’ve heard that putting some type of bitter solution on the thumb helps — any suggestions on which brand? The thumb sucking is starting to impact his teeth.

Can you tell me about how the transition from infant to toddler room was at daycare? My daughter is 11 months old and her daycare usually moves them at 15 months, but she’s super mobile (has been walking since 9 months and is now running, climbs everything) so they’re talking about moving her earlier. I suspect this move is also because of a weird age distribution at the daycare and needing to move kids around. She LOVES the toddler room when she’s visited, but she’d be the smallest, youngest one there by 2.5 months, and she’s not talking at all, so I worry about her getting lost in the shuffle, esp because the ratios aren’t as low as in the infant room. Also she’s still on two naps, doesn’t really use a sippy, etc. I would love to hear experiences of what that transition was like for others who did the move around 12-13 months.

Unrelated, did those of you with early walkers find that they talked later, or not really? I’m not exactly worried, but I get these stupid weekly emails about what my kid should be doing and I always feel like she’s miles away from some of the the things that she “should” be doing, especially around language. She understands simple commands (clap your hands, wave) and babbles constantly but it’s mostly meaningless (occasionally one of her 1000 “uh oh”s a day will come at the appropriate time. On the other hand, everyone is dada from me to my husband to the mailman, so…).

Thanks – that is helpful! This just happened over the holiday weekend, so today is his first day back at daycare. He has normally drunk quite a bit of milk there. We sent the foogo cup and I’m hoping for the best. Good idea to up the yogurt and cheese, etc. He usually eats those. Also, I totally forgot about the 360! We should try that. He used to drink water out of that but hasn’t since he started with the water bottle. We’ll try that one too. Thank you!

My almost three year old daughter has a decided preference for me, and has for a long time. I kept thinking it would shift but it’s just not. She also has a bunch of things she prefers mama do for her. My husband can do them when I’m not there, but when I’m around she wants me. I think he’s really good about not getting his feelings hurt, but it is sometimes sad and frankly inconvenient!

Important background: my husband is an equal parent if not more and has her in his care alone in the morning for a time, does bath every night, etc. He’s really fantastic with her too and they always have a great time if i’m not there.

Have any of you dealt with this? Do we just continue to wait for this (really long) phase to be over? I assume he’ll be her favorite for most of her adolescence but still, would be nice for things to be a bit more equal now!