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Accessory Tuesday: Feather Loafer

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Women\'s Steve Madden Feather-L Loafer

This shoe from Steve Madden has been around for a long time. If you’re interested in a really well reviewed bestseller with a classic shape, a sleek toe, and a very polished profile, this is a great one to try.

It’s currently on sale for $39.90 (marked down from $91.95) at Nordstrom, but they (and Amazon) only have lucky sizes available — Zappos has many more sizes in stock. Feather Loafer 

For an even more affordable flat, I’ve heard great things about this shoe from Walmart’s Time and Tru line that’s only $14.97 (also available in wide sizes!).

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  1. Early pregnancy after miscarriage says

    Looking for advice on being pregnant after a miscarriage. I am nearly 40 and miscarried this April. I am only 13 days past ovulation and got a positive pregnancy test yesterday. I am very fearful about miscarrying again. Words of wisdom?

    • TheElms says

      I do want to say congratulations, but understand why you may be hesitant to celebrate. When you are comfortable do remember to celebrate. A couple things that people say repeatedly on this site that I think are helpful. First, you are pregnant until you’re not. Second, miscarriages are much more common than people realize, which does not make them any less gut wrenching, but it does mean that most people who miscarry subsequently go on to have healthy future pregnancies. But if you find you are worrying a lot raise it with your OB, talking your concerns through with your OB may help or an anti-anxiety medication might make sense.

    • Anon says

      I miscarried in the fall and am now very much pregnant so in your shoes. I just took it one day/week at a time. And that’s all you can do! Take the time to take care of yourself and relax. See if there’s a little project you could work on around the house to keep your mind as occupied as possible over the next couple weeks. Rooting for you and your baby!

    • anon says

      Remember that you’re pregnant unless you’re not. And don’t beat yourself up if you feel more fear than joy at certain points during your pregnancy — that is really normal and understandable after a loss. I don’t think I settled into my daughter’s pregnancy until after the 20-week ultrasound. Not that bad things can’t happen after that, but it was a relief to get past that point and have *some* confirmation that things were OK.

    • gouda says

      I had a baby at 40. What really helped me was the plot in Emily Oster’s book, “Expecting Better”, that showed the miscarriage rate as a function of week. I loved watching the numbers go down. This is personality dependent so use your best judgement.

      • rosie says

        I had a miscarriage at the end of the first tri, which is less common, and did not find Oster’s book helpful in subsequent pregnancies. I think once you’ve been in the narrow sliver for whom things don’t turn out well, her style and info is less comforting, so just a word of warning to OP.

        • Anon says

          +1 I haven’t had a miscarriage but I had a fair amount of anxiety about things going wrong, especially near the end when the loss would have been even more traumatic, and I didn’t find her books very comforting. Her argument with respect to a lot of things is “well, most people who do this are fine” which I don’t find very persuasive. Most people who don’t use a seatbelt are fine too, but we still have seatbelt laws, and with very good reason, I think.

          • Anon Lawyer says

            I would separate it into two categories. I didn’t find the miscarriage stuff reassuring either for that reason. She would toss off comments like “well if you have morning sickness you’re probably fine!” And I’m like, well, I don’t, so should I be despairing?

            But on the risk analysis, it is important for us to have actual risk numbers so we can weigh them. Yeah, we have seatbelt laws, but we don’t prohibit cars – when cars are too risky is a decision we all have to make ourselves. Similarly, when I read what she and other people had written on sushi, I was like, ok, I am willing to eat that in certain circumstances (clean, high quality establishments) based on both the magnitude of risk (low) and type (mostly that I’ll get sick, not that it will hurt the baby). On the other hand, I decided not to drink any alcohol.

            So Emily Oster annoys me a lot, but I do find it important that she’s trying to give women information to make decisions themselves instead of just relying on flat prohibitions that may or may not be reasonable for any individual.

    • Anonymous says

      I’ve miscarried a few times–twice before DS was born and once before my current pregnancy. It’s so hard. I was in a really dark place after the first two. My main advice would be to try to let go of the societal pressure to feel excited. It’s so ingrained. But if you want to create some emotional distance, and not get excited, that’s totally okay. I know people who wait until the baby arrives to allow themselves to feel joy, and I know people who need to make it to that 20-week scan. There’s no right or wrong time. Just take care of yourself.

    • Bette says

      Sending you lots of virtual hugs and good vibes. I am 32 and miscarried my first pregnancy last year; it took seven months to get pregnant again but I’m now rounding out 38 weeks of a healthy, uneventful pregnancy and expecting our little boy any day now. I share that only because when I was newly pregnant for the second time I found it really comforting to hear stories from other women who had miscarried and gone on to have a healthy pregnancy afterward. It also helped me to remember that statistically the chances of a healthy pregnancy after only one miscarriage are the same as they would be if you’d never miscarried (it’s only after multiple losses that your odds start to go down). I’m firmly on Team Oster and found comfort in her pragmatism and analysis, but recognize that might not be for everyone.

      I also found a strange courage in the realization that I had already suffered through a worst case scenario and I had survived it and come out on the other side – it was like I had faced a terrible fear (and yes, it really was terrible) but I knew that it wouldn’t kill me. Knowing what that pain and grief actually looked like and tasted like and felt like somehow made it less scary. And so I knew that whatever happened with the second pregnancy, good or bad, I would be able to handle it.

      I also found myself adopting a more measured approach – with the first pregnancy my mindset was “positive pregnancy test = baby in nine months!” and with the second it was more about just making it to the next milestone, like “positive pregnancy test = going in for an ultrasound in a few weeks. Heartbeat at the first scan = making it to the next scan. Then, making it to the genetic test results.” Once I got out of that first trimester and received the results of our genetic tests, I was finally able to relax a little and translate it into “baby coming my way.”

      Oh one more thing… even though I have been really grateful for a healthy pregnancy the second time, I am not one of those women who enjoys being pregnant. I’ve actually been really uncomfortable and disliking it much of the time but felt like I couldn’t voice that (out of guilt or something?). It was really liberating when my best friend said “You can be both things – grateful for the pregnancy and also not enjoying it, that doesn’t make you a terribly person or an unfit mother. And you can can complain to me any time.” So I guess I’m trying to say that you get to feel however you want to feel about this experience and don’t let any nasty voices inside your head tell you otherwise.

      Wishing you the absolute best of luck and hope that this one turns out the way you want it to.

  2. Amelia Bedelia says

    I own this shoe in multiple colours/patterns. highly recommend. I like it with boot cut pants or skinny pants. it has significantly upped my work-shoe game as I move away from heels. very comfy!

    • AIMS says

      What’s your foot like? I have never found loafers that look cute on my feet but I’m tempted by this shape.

      • Amelia Bedelia says

        I wear a size nine. my feet are a little on the wide side, but not wide enough that i have to buy designated wide shoes.
        I definitley think my feet look cuter in these shoes when i wear bootcut pants. however, i wear slim pants with them becuase of the trends – and even silk joggers – and i think they look decent. They look the best of any loafer i have tried. I think the pointed toe makes the difference to me.

  3. anon says

    I like this style SO much but really struggle with any shoe that has a pointy toe. If I have enough toe space, it’s guaranteed that it’ll be flopping off my heels or gaping at the sides. Skinny foot problems.

  4. More Sleep Would Be Nice says

    I’m a worrywart by nature, so not sure if I’m overthinking here. We’re in a major TX city that is coming down the curve. (Our COVID+ data is all over the place state-wide, but based on local data, the positive rate is falling).

    We had DS (2.5) out of daycare/pre-school from Mid-March-June. We put him back early June and took him out as things surged (including cases in his class). Since the June outbreaks, his school has had 0 reported cases. I’m aching to send him back, not only for a break for us but for HIM – he’s become even more chatty and curious this summer and I feel like he’d love it. And yes, we’ve been paying in full this whole time, which is a thorn in my side. Management has mentioned at some point they do want to figure out a way to refund tuition due to the lower volumes of students.

    I’ve spoken to daycare management and his teacher. The ONLY thing that gives me pause is that his class is almost brand new from what it was in January – it seems like most families have officially withdrawn, so there are kids that are new to the school, and new to the class. FWIW I didn’t know any of the other families in the class, as we were new to the area in January when DS started at the school.

    Question: Should the new students issue give me any pause at all, or am I overthinking?

    Other details: I’m also 22 weeks pregnant, and we have local grandparents who are typically a huge help but have been keeping distance as my Dad is in the highest-risk category due to health complications.

    • Anon says

      My daughter is a little bit older and I’m a little bit more pregnant and she is back in daycare since July…and it’s been wonderful. We’re in the northeast so strict protocols are in place. That’s what I would ask is if the daycare is doing everything it can to limit transmission (masking for at least all adults including those who pick up children, sanitation procedures, etc.)

      I wouldn’t worry so much about there being new kids. Kids that young are so adaptable and become friendly with each other so quickly. While I know the kids in my daughter’s class, I don’t know everything about their families, so I don’t know what precautions they’re taking outside of daycare hours.

      • OP says

        Thanks. They have mandatory masks for any adult in the building (meaning staff wears masks all day), only 1 parent for drop-off/no parents allowed in classroom, temp checks for both parent/kid at drop-off and pick-up (which is only good if you’re showing symptoms, but it’s something), and I’m pretty sure they’ve continued very strong sanitation procedures, but can still follow up to confirm.

        That’s my concern – no idea what this group of families is doing outside of daycare, but I guess I never knew that anyway so it is what it is. I’m not worried about new kids/DS adapting.

    • Anonymous says

      I don’t know why new students would give you pause. Kids that age don’t really have specific “friends” they will be upset about leaving. My daughter is the same age, and we were home from March to August due to school being closed. When we went back earlier this month she moved to a new room with new teachers and all new kids. She still talks about some of the kids from her old room and we answer her honestly (they either didn’t return to school or were placed in a different room) but it hasn’t been a big deal at all. She loves going to school and is so happy to be back and making new friends.

      • Anonymous says

        Ah I see I missed your clarification above. I wouldn’t worry about new students and COVID either. I think, almost by definition, parents who put their kids in daycare are less risk averse than parents who don’t, because daycare is a major potential exposure point. But from talking to other parents who also sent their kids back it seems like most people are taking a similar approach to life as you and me – no seeing high-risk family, nothing indoors except an occasional grocery shopping, no large gatherings, etc. Part of it is generally wanting to be a responsible citizen, but part of it is also not wanting to be patient zero at school. (For example, DH and I are personally comfortable with the risks of patio dining, but we JUST got daycare back and don’t want to take a chance on being patient zero and shutting the whole school down again, so we’re avoiding it for now.) I also think teachers are more likely to be the source of an outbreak than a kid, both because of what we know about little kids not transmitting the virus very well and also, at least at our school, the teachers are less educated and much more politically conservative than the parents, so I think they’d be more likely to do something objectively foolish like go to a 200 person indoor wedding.

          • Anonymous says

            Why wow? It’s fact that a higher education level and being politically liberal both translate to taking the virus more seriously.

          • Anon4This says

            Um yeah…the Karen vibe is strong with that one. I’m sure the low-paid, likely WOCs who take care of your children (and have the most to lose by getting sick) would love to hear what you really think of them.

          • Anonymous says

            You’re making a lot of incorrect assumptions here. I’m a POC and most of the teachers at my school are white, they’re paid extremely well for daycare teachers (though I wish they, like all teachers, were paid more) and I love them! They’re wonderful people who take great care of my kid. But it’s fact that people who identify as Republicans take the virus less seriously and are more willing to take risk with respect to COVID than people who identify as Democrats. The political and educational divide between parents and teachers at my school is profound. It doesn’t mean the teachers aren’t great teachers or I don’t appreciate them.

        • Anon says

          I’m Facebook friends with toddler’s daycare teachers and it is one of the reasons we decided not to send toddler back to daycare. None of toddler’s 3 prior teachers who are all back teaching at the daycare now are practicing social distancing in the same way we are. FB is just a snippet of someone’s life, but all have attended large indoor and outdoor gatherings with minimal mask wearing by the other adult participants within the last month (weddings, belated graduation parties, family BBQs).

          • Anonymous says

            Makes sense–who is going to think it’s safe to teach at a day care? The same people who think attending a wedding is safe.

          • Anon says

            Um, maybe they feel differently about going back because most daycare classrooms don’t have 100 people in them? A classroom with 10 kids and 2 teachers where it’s the same people every day is a completely different risk scenario than a wedding with 100 guests who traveled from all over the country. And that’s before you add in the precautions like masks and temperature checks which are standard in daycares and very uncommon at weddings. I’m not sure why you’re so insistent that daycare is OMGSODANGEROUS but I know about a dozen people who’ve had someone in their daycare test positive without an outbreak, and in most cases without ANY spread within the daycare, so clearly the precautions are working to a large degree. All the scientists and experts agree that large, unmasked gatherings like weddings are much riskier than small, consistent classroom groups with everyone wearing masks.

    • Anonymous says

      Kids being new or not has literally nothing to do with covid risk. If that’s your concern put him back tomorrow.

    • Anon says

      i’m guessing you are maybe in Houston (i’m there too!) and the data is so unbelievably confusing since the governor can’t get his act together. and since he won’t give local government any authority it scares me that he won’t take necessary action if things surge again. are you and DH working from home? if you are being strict otherwise and kiddo hasn’t been in daycare, you don’t necessarily need to keep distance from grandparents, though obviously if you send kiddo back to daycare you will want to maintain your distance. in your shoes i would probably send kiddo back now that you are out of first trimester and then keep kiddo home as it gets closer to delivery time or if cases surge again and/or you want to be able to rely on grandparent help. and maybe think about what you want to do when you have the newborn at home. will you want to keep kiddo home and have grandparents help rather than daycare, etc. if you are in houston, i’d also wait until after this storm passes through…

      • OP says

        Hi fellow Houstonian! And yes, DS would start next week at the earliest. This storm…ugh.

        Governor Abbott has made this a clusterf**k. Local leadership/TMC is doing their best but you’re right; Gov has stripped away so much authority from our capable local leadership. I try not to think what better position we could have been in if the mandatory masking was allowed to stand in April….

        Yep, DH and I working from home. We’re pretty strict, but I’d still want COVID(-) tests for all of us before we interacted with Grandparents without masks/distance. And of course, no daycare in that scenario, too.

        This is exactly the plan I had in mind. Keep DS in daycare until any surges and/or December (I’m due after Christmas). In December, get COVID tests and hunker down. Have my Grandparents come help with newborn and toddler post-delivery (and re-test then if needed). My MIL will also be here in Mid-January (weather permitting the drive, she’s a few states away) to help for a few months. No decision yet on what to do with DS #1 come January with newborn around. Sigh.

        We’re putting DS #2 on the waitlist at DS #1’s school but who knows what things will look like come March…

        • Anon says

          i think that sounds like a good plan given your situation and our location. i think that one thing that has made me more risk averse about covid than I might be under different circumstances, is the fact that we live in an area where leadership has not demonstrated that they will do what is needed to slow the spread. in the northeast (which is where i am originally from), state leadership seems to take the virus much more seriously and so I trust them to roll things back if necessary, but I definitely do not feel that way about TX

          • OP says

            Without giving away too much more, I 100% agree – if I lived in a state with better and consistent state leadership I’d be a lot less risk averse. I’m scared our Governor is going to (again) prematurely roll back things that are barely keeping us afloat (mask mandate, bar closures) and it’s all going to go to hell again.

            Again, would be nice to have national leadership set the tone, but that is out of the question.

        • Anon says

          Unless things drastically change, I would certainly keep DS1 home in January with a newborn. I’ve had a 2-year-old and a newborn at home before, and I will have two kids + a newborn home in the spring and it is fine. Little more hectic for the parents, but definitely safer in terms of germs. We’re all hunkering down at home for most of my pregnancy, in fact (in the Northeast, but I’m of the “better safe than sorry” mentality in this case).

    • Anon says

      I’m also pregnant with a two year old in daycare. Her daycare class also had a lot of turnover and is mostly new kids. I think daycare is a huge benefit for all during these times, and it sounds like yours is taking good precautions.

    • GoodNews says

      Your question is very timely! New data has recently come out from Rhode Island daycares and UK schools. The Rhode Island daycare data, in particular, may be of interest to you. With 18,000 children there were about 50 cases in students and staff, most of which were not linked to the childcare setting. The daycares siloed the kids and had a few other precautions. UK school data also strongly suggestive that kids can be in a group setting, safely.

      Summary of RI data in the second paragraph here: https://emilyoster.substack.com/p/you-asked-for-it-sippy-cups

      • Anonymous says

        RI and UK are not TX. Of course the virus is not going to spread in day cares if you have restricted opportunities for day care kids and staff to catch it elsewhere and bring it in to the school. I find it hard to believe that many people in TX who are choosing to send their kids to day care are also choosing to take any other precautions. My state has had a much better coronavirus response than TX’s, and even here everyone who has opted for in-person school is also going to restaurants, having backyard BBQs, etc.

        • Anon says

          Rhode Island has a pretty high number of cases per capita relative to the rest of the northeast. Covidexitstrategy says RI is 98 per million and Texas is 184 per million, and Texas (Houston especially) is trending down while RI is trending up. My state has many more cases per capita than RI (though not quite as many as TX) and most people I know who sent their kids back to daycare are being very responsible. If you want to keep your kid home, fine, that’s your right, but don’t act like everyone who is making a choice to send their kids back to daycare for educational and developmental reasons is just throwing caution to the wind and behaving totally recklessly. Daycare is far more essential than restaurants and backyard BBQs and most people are aware of that.

        • OP says

          I’m a die-hard Texan (and my politics skew left, I promise I’m not an anomaly for this state ;)), and I agree with this post, unfortunately. The population of our daycare skews kind of, well…bougie (local newscasters, major local business owners, 2 physician families, etc.) so that doesn’t really give me confidence either way on if people are following strict protocols. Also we’re…way more densely populated than RI, so that’s another reason RI never had the COVID-19 issues that we do.

          Bottom line, I will likely still send DS given that the school now have a good track record on reported cases, but I don’t think it’s safe to assume that all these families are being diligent in their distancing.

          I’ve noticed generally, with friends (this goes for those with and without kids) around the country what “being safe” means varies wildly based on their personal risk tolerance. For some people, dining inside a restaurant following protocol is fine, socializing with small groups of friends (without masks/distancing and taking them at their word) is fine, etc.

  5. Cb says

    Can I mom brag? I’m ill and went to take a nap. My 3 year old snuck in “mama, how are you feeling? Do you need anything? Love you mama!” He is so kind and lovely, a sensitive wee soul. He keeps coming over to stroke my head and brought me a pillow.

    • anon says

      Aw, that’s the sweetest. Feel better!

      I’ll add a mom brag, too. My 6 yo was really struggling with writing last school year, so I decided to work on it with her since the shutdown in March. We’ve worked on it a little every day, even though it was really hard for her. Today she decided to write a letter to her new teacher to tell her about herself since they’re not having an open house and will be DL this fall. It’s a beautiful letter–nice handwriting, correct use of capitalization (including proper nouns), commas, and periods, good sentences and flow. Super sweet message. I’m just so proud of her. She’s come such a long way from the kid who wasn’t able to write anything legible or coherent in February. She still says she hates writing and has things to work on, but I think she’s going to be pleasantly surprised this year when she realizes that she’s actually really good writer.

      • Anon says

        Good for her and you! That sounds really impressive to me if she’s already writing like that. I worked in a first grade classroom last year and most kids couldn’t write much more than their name at the start of the year.

        • anon says

          Thanks! She’ll be a 2nd grader this year (though young for her grade) so they expect a bit more, but I still think she’s in really good shape. Like most parents I have a lot of worries about DL, so it’s a big relief to not feel like she’s going into the year behind the ball.

          • Anon says

            Yes, definitely still impressive for an incoming second grader, especially the capitalization and punctuation!

      • CHL says

        My favorite note from my 6 year old was a picture of me with a computer and a note – “I hope you have fun working by yourself Mom.” So many ways to read that… .I took it as genuine expression of goodwill:)

    • GCA says

      Aw, too sweet! I woke up the other day to my newly minted 2yo patting me in the face and saying ‘I love you, mama’. (Husband had snuck her into bed with us when she woke briefly at 5am – apparently I slept through all this, which is a first for me.) Of course later on in the day she also yelled at me: ‘Stop working, mama!’ Oops. Hope you feel better soon Cb!

  6. Toddler face mask says

    Does anyone know where I can find a mask to fit a 2 year old without covering his entire face? I think it’s weird that they don’t seem to come in sizes – I wish someone sold 2T-3T masks or something.

    • Anonymous says

      Cincinnati Zoo has a toddler option. They’re actually too small for my large 2.5 year old. We’ve also found good toddler masks at the Etsy shop WestCoastClearance. Shipping is slow though. Old Navy kids masks also work well for her.
      They don’t come in sizes like 2T because there isn’t actually much difference between the size of an average 2 year old’s head and the size of an average 6 year old’s head. 2 year olds’ heads are 90% of their adult size, so it’s totally different from height or something like that where they’re going to double in size between and now and adulthood.

      • Anonymous says

        I bought those on a recommendation from here and didn’t like them because they come with the ear loops untied and getting my 2 year to sit still for the fitting of all of them was a nightmare. We still don’t have the fit quite right on most of the masks so they’re always falling off. Theoretically, the untied ear loops should allow for a more custom fit, but with a 2 year old who won’t sit still it was the opposite.

        • rosie says

          I haven’t seen those masks and understand that it may not make toddler wrangling any easier, but could they be tied around the head instead of as ear loops?

      • Anonymous says

        What are your tips for putting them on? My just turned 2 year old won’t even let me approach his face with a mask, even though he sees big sibling wearing one no problem and usually wants to do what sibling does. We don’t need for daycare as we’re using a nanny this year so he won’t get much practice, but does need occasionally for doctor trips, hiking if it’s more crowded than we expected etc.

          • Anonymous says

            Won’t put it on- just flings it away. He juuuust turned 2 so it’s tough. He’s pretty good with hats so I thought it might work better than this.

        • Anon says

          Maybe an unpopular opinion, but I wouldn’t force a 2 year old who hates masks to wear one on an outdoor hike. The risk outdoors is so low and in my area many preschoolers don’t wear masks even in situations in which adults and older children do (the age minimum for our state mask mandate is 8 but anecdotally it seems like most kids over the age of 4 wear them, but only a small percent of 2 and 3 year olds do). I would avoid taking him most indoor places, eg., grocery shopping. I’m not sure what to do about the doctor but I think all you can do is your best – if you put it on and he keeps ripping it off, I’m sure they will understand. Children under 2 can’t wear them so it’s not like he’ll be the only toddler there not in a mask.

          • Anonymous says

            Yeah we haven’t forced it yet. More just trying to get him accustomed to it in case we go somewhere he really needs it (like urgent care or something) or other unavoidable exposure.

    • Masks says

      Look at the Etsy shop Sewnbybunnies, in the toddler size. My 3 year old son has a petite face and these are the only ones that fit him (with a tiny bit of room to grow) and are also the only ones he will actually keep on longterm. They have stretchy ties, so no ear fatigue issues, and the prints are adorable. The price is reasonable, so I’ve purchased more than I’d like to admit from her.

    • Anon. says

      Etsy shop smiles48350 has them sized for littles. The 2-4 year old sizes for my 3 year old pretty well and they have multiple character or fabric options – super important for convincing my toddler to wear.

    • Sf says

      In case anyone is crafty- a friend made my small faced 3 year old a mask. These are the instructions (at a minimum maybe the dimensions will help you know what to look for)

      I just cut a 5 1/2” x 5” piece of fabric with a 1” inverted pleat in the middle. I also added a 3” pipe cleaner for the nose, although in hindsight I should’ve just cut the pipe cleaner as wide as the mask.

      • Anonymous says

        If you are into making your own masks, I have had the best luck with the Craft Passion pattern. It comes in several sizes.

    • anon. says

      Cub Coats! I do have to tie the sides to make them fit tightly. They’re perfect.

  7. Anon says

    I’ve been struggling a bit to cope during the COVID period and feel like I’m spiraling. I have a consultation with a therapist this afternoon – what do I need to say / think about to figure out if this will help me? Should I have specific objectives in mind?

    • Anne says

      No – just try to think after – is this someone I could come to trust? Does what this person say make sense to me? Do I get the sense that over time they could help me?

    • rosie says

      Good on you for taking this step. I agree to reflect afterwards on how you’re feeling. Did it feel good to talk to someone? Did it feel good to talk to someone, but maybe not this someone?

  8. New Mom says

    I didn’t get a chance to comment on the Snoo posts yesterday — but I would recommend getting the “Taking Cara Babies” newborn class. She discusses how to work with the Snoo and gives really good age/development-specific advice. If your baby is younger than 2 months, I would expect to see a huge improvement in how long he/she sleeps at the 2 month age. Although we rented a Snoo briefly, we never ended up using it because of where our baby was with the course — he started sleeping 7-8 hours a night right around when he was 2 months and has slept from 8pm-6am since he turned 3 months. He also has a great napping schedule. She has very good advice.

    • cbackson says

      Alas, he was sleeping beautifully – 5-7 hours per night, then another 2-3 after a feeding – until literally the day he hit 2 months. Now he wakes after 3-4 hours grunting loudly as he tries to fight his hands free of the Snoo sack. It’s tough after 6 weeks of great sleep…

      I’ve heard good things about TCB – I’ll check it out.

  9. Anonymous says

    My 4-year-old has a bit of a stuffy nose and is extra tired. He is usually in daycare W-F. Daycare only requires staying home for a cough or fever. Assuming he’s not chipper tomorrow, we should keep him home, right? I think his brother can still go, but if he passes the stuffy nose around, it will stress out and cause problems for other families. Thoughts?

    • Anon says

      I would probably keep him home for his sake so he can catch up on rest, but I wouldn’t feel an obligation to keep him home for the sake of other families. If the daycare rules allow children to attend with stuffy noses, lots of children will attend with stuffy noses. You have to follow the rules, but you don’t have a moral obligation to go above and beyond the rules.

  10. Anonymous says

    DC area mom who posted yesterday about finding an in person preschool! You mentioned you are starting swim- where are you doing that? I would really love to do some lessons for my soon to be 4 year old.

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