Do you fit in with the moms at your kids’ school? Do you feel like whether you fit in or not has an effect on your child’s social life? Readers on Corporette had a great discussion recently about feeling frumpy around SAHMs as a working mom. The whole conversation is terrific (seriously, check it out here), but this one comment really stood out to me:
I live in a fancy ’hood in the SEUS, but lived there for 15 years as a single BigLaw lawyer (in suits) before abruptly getting married and having 2 kids in 20 months. Then I encountered a different world that had been here all long once my kids entered the local kindergarten: women who don’t work (and yet still have fancy houses). I had never even set eyes on them, and at my first school “beginners day” I was shocked. I turned up in May looking like the Office Goth: black with black accessories and skin that hasn’t seen sunlight during the weekdays since the 1980s. Everyone else was in cute colored outfits. They looked relaxed. I looked OMG so tense. BUT our office has gone casual and I’ve gone up a size, so as I restocked my closet, I made sure to add things that let me blend in a bit more easily.
I love this idea of the Office Goth, and I’ve definitely attended events like this where I just felt totally out of place and completely frumpy compared to the women around me. I thought it would be a great discussion over here at CorporetteMoms: Is there a big divide where you live between the way the working moms dress and the way the SAHMs dress? Have you tried to upgrade your weekend wardrobe to fit in (whether it’s buying brightly colored Lilly Pulitzer-type stuff or Brooklyn Mom-approved clogs, for example!), or have you just (as other moms in that comment thread advised) sought out moms who dressed like you and/or didn’t care quite so much about “fitting in”? Do you feel like your child’s social life suffers if you don’t “fit in”?
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