Finally Friday: Bassett Mine Wedge
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These well-reviewed 2.75″ wedges from Clarks look like just the thing for the almost-fall weather we’re having. I like the black, but they also come in brown. They’re $110. Clarks Bassett Mine
Sales of note for 3/21/25
(See all of the latest workwear sales at Corporette!)
- Nordstrom – Spring sale, up to 50% off: Free People, AllSaints, AG, and more
- Ann Taylor – 25% off suiting + 25% off tops & sweaters + extra 50% off sale
- Banana Republic Factory – 40% off everything + 20% off
- Eloquii – 50% off elevated essentials + extra 50% off sale
- J.Crew – 25% off select linen & cashmere + up to 50% off select styles + extra 40% off sale
- J.Crew Factory – Friends & Family Sale: Extra 15% off your purchase + extra 50% off clearance + 50-60% off spring faves
- M.M.LaFleur – Flash Sale: Get the Ultimate Jardigan for $198 on sale; use code CORPORETTE15 for 15% off
- Spanx – Lots of workwear on sale, some up to 70% off
- Talbots – Buy 1 get 1 50% off everything, includes markdowns
And — here are some of our latest threadjacks of interest – working mom questions asked by the commenters!!
- The concept of “backup care” is so stupid…
- I need tips on managing employees in BigLaw who have to leave for daycare pickup…
- I’m thinking of leaning out to spend more time with my family – how can I find the perfect job for that?
- I’m now a SAHM and my husband needs to step up…
- How can I change my thinking to better recognize some of my husband’s contributions as important, like organizing the shed?
- What are your tips to having a good weekend with kids, especially with little kids? Do you have a set routine or plan?
Not a mom, or even a mom to be yet, but I thought y’all would be the best to give advice here. When and/or why did you decide to have kids? For my husband and I, it is a very conscious decision to start trying as I’m on the pill. We’re both fairly young still (I 25, hubby is 27) but he is concerned about waiting as his brothers have all had problems (one was the brother’s fault, the other they aren’t sure) and my mom had a really hard time conceiving. I’ve also already had some abnormal cells in my cervix removed, though my doctors have said that won’t affect conception but it could affect going to term but it wasn’t a major concern. Between the family problems with conception and the fact that our parents are all in their 60s and showing signs of poor health, he really wants to start trying now.
I don’t have really any strong reasons to not want kids, especially considering we’ll be debt free excluding our mortgage in Jan. 2016 and have well paying, stable jobs in IT (and could very easily find another job should something happen to either of ours). A lot of friends have said that you’ll constantly come up with reasons to not have kids – and then never do. So, I wanted to hear if others had the same sorts of feelings, and what caused you do decide to have kids and if you would have changed anything. Thanks a ton, and my apologies if this is too personal for folks to talk about.
This is for Anon for this… above.
Totally normal. This sums up my experience perfectly: http://themomedit.com/2014/02/sex-after-baby/
It can vary from person to person and from pregnancy to pregnancy. Sometimes you bounce back, but sometimes (usually) you don’t. Weaning plays into it, but not entirely. I’ve always weaned around the same time (18-24 months) and have had vastly different experiences. Your physical recovery and mental / sleep status are really important, too.
In the post partum period when my drive is completely gone, I make sure it happens once a week for my husband’s sanity. It may not be romantic or mind blowing, but it happens. It’s a major part of what makes him feel loved and secure, so it’s very important for us. YMMV.
…because intensely personal. But here goes. After you gave birth, how long did it take for you and your husband/SO to start gardening again? I am asking because I am now 7 months postpartum and we have not done the deed once….and I don’t feel bad about it at all. In fact, I feel like I could not possibly fit it into my life. But I feel bad about feeling that way, and I’m sure it’s not good for our relationship. I’ve heard that some people don’t start gardening again until after weaning, so I am trying not to beat myself up about it. But am I completely off base? What has been your experience?
Hi Hoola. My partner and I both take a commuter bus to the city and the babies stay at a daycare in the suburbs near our home.
1. Yes, make friends with a parent from your daycare. My daycare mom-friend works south of the daycare (opposite of evening rush hour traffic) and she drives her car to work. I wish I had a SAHP-friend but I’m terrible at reaching out to people and I am quite the introvert.
2. When daycare calls me, I always let the call go to voice mail. I check the voice mail right away to assess whether it is an emergency (fever) or an admin call. If it is a fever call, I will immediately start wrapping up my work for the day and I will notify my supervisor that I must leave. This takes about 10 mins. THEN I call back daycare to let them know I just received the message and I am on my way (and the 1 hour clock will start ticking then). The commuter buses don’t run until the afternoon so I have practiced 2 different routes home (metro/taxi) so I am comfortable taking alternative transportation home.
3. I work for the fed gov and they are pushing employees to increase their telework. I am very thankful that I am allowed to work from home 2 days/week.
4. If the babies’ health is questionable that morning, I will ask to swap my telework day so I can be nearby in case I get THE CALL.
5. I go into work super early (0600-0630) so I can leave early and avoid some of the rush hour traffic and have plenty of time before daycare closes.
6. If there is a huge local emergency, you will not be the only one that will not be able to get to daycare. During a winter ice storm, the interstate was shut down and some people were not able to pick up their children until 9 pm. Our daycare did not charge anyone for the overtime and one daycare employee walked to a nearby McDonald’s to get the stranded children some dinner.
If your kids spend their day in a different city where you spend yours (ie, if you commute to work and they are in daycare/school at home), what do you do about emergencies or very bad traffic days?
We recently moved from the city (where we were all within ~10 min of each other and home) to the suburbs. Now my husband and I work ~45 min in standard rush hour traffic from home. A 60+ min evening isn’t unusual, though. The kids are in school/daycare near our home. We each drive our own cars, but our offices are relatively close by, so we have essentially the same commute.
We’re terrified of what would happen if the kids had an emergency and it would take us 45-70 min to get to them, or if there was a really horrible traffic day and we’re very late to pick them up from school or other activity. Daycare will stay (and charge) but I don’t know what would happen at school, etc. I figure many families have gone through this before, though. Do we make friends with parents who stay local (work in home town or SAH)? Should one of us find a new job closer to home (not ideal and of slim possibility)? Other options?
Me again – just got back from the midwife (had my regular appt this morning) who thinks it might be symphysis pubis dysfunction and has referred me to a PT who specializes in women’s issues. Of course, the PT can’t fit me in for a month (which I hope is a sign that she’s good!) so I’m still going to get a band and try some swimming – the only pregnant lady swim class offered by me is the same time as my beloved pre-natal yoga class, but our local indoor pool has free swim daily so I think I’ll just try that. Googling this condition was sort of an “aha” moment – the symptoms fit the pain I had last time to a T, so I’m a little annoyed that my OB didn’t do anything but tell me “it will go away after birth” last time, but oh well.
No idea about the band, but my cranial-sacral therapist gave me exercises that resolved my pelvic pain. Might be something to look into.
So sorry you’re suffering!
Has anyone used a pelvic support band for pelvic pain during pregnancy and found it helpful? If so, can you recommend what you used? I’m 25 weeks and have started having horrible, but intermittent, pain in the under-p**ic hair area. I had this with my first, although it started a little later, and it just spread and got worse and worse until it hurt to even walk during the last month, so I’m trying to avoid that extreme discomfort this time around. Thanks!!