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- What are your tips to having a good weekend with kids, especially with little kids? Do you have a set routine or plan?
Cb says
We do cloth diapers during the day but have been using disposables during the night. I need to think about making the switch to cloth during the overnight nappy change, for some reason I find disposables much more difficult to get on a squirmy baby in the middle of the night.
Patty Mayonnaise says
Recs for a “sprinkle” gift for a 2nd time mom? I haven’t been to one of these before and the baby is the same sex as the older sibling, so baby clothes don’t seem like a great option. Any moms of 2+ have things that would be super helpful/appreciated for a new baby? Thanks, ladies!
PinkKeyboard says
I definitely needed more bibs and swaddle blankets. Bibs because the old ones were destroyed and gross and swaddle blankets because my toddler sleeps in a nest of all of hers and wouldn’t surrender them.
AIMS says
+1. I really felt silly buying new burp cloths for no. 2 since technically we still had the ones from no. 1 but they were definitely a bit past their prime and I really appreciated new versions or this sort of stuff.
J says
I only have one, but I think we would need new socks, bottle nipples, and pacis for a new kiddo. Small size diapers would always be appreciated too. Maybe some bath toys/supplies. Those get gross, so we tend to cycle through them. And washcloths. The baby washcloths we have got tons of use and wouldn’t make it through another kiddo.
Anonymous says
I would still like a few new clothes for a new baby. But size 1/2 diapers, wipes, boogie wipes.
Anonymous says
This. Especially onesies or cute little bro/big bro shirts.
Books are always great.
anon says
I really appreciated activities that would keep the older one busy (e.g., craft kits) and special objects for the baby like lovies or stuffies. Even though mine were both the same gender, I ended up needing some new clothes in the first year because they were completely off season from one another. Oh, I also loved getting some new pop up books for no. 2, as no.1 had mangled ours.
If you’re going in for a group gift, you could consider getting the mom a new carrier in a style that she doesn’t have. It’s nice to be able to baby wear when supervising a toddler.
AwayEmily says
Yes, socks!!! And ditto on “stuff to keep the older one busy.” Personally the last thing I wanted was more stuffed animals. We have SO many already — every couple of weeks I sneak one out to Goodwill and hope nobody notices it’s gone.
shortperson says
i wanted new hooded towels bc my big one did not want to share hers. and matching clothes. my big one and i are both into having the two of them match, so we do buy some new baby clothes for that purpose.
EB0220 says
I totally agree with the other suggestions! One other idea is personalized items for baby #2 if you know the name. My oldest child got so many cute things with her name on them, and younger child only got a few.
Jen says
Books, matching sibling outfits, cute outfit for baby 2 (I’m on my 3rd girl, and they were all born in the same season– I have bought a couple outfits for #3 just so she has something new/unique!), picture frames/nursery art type stuff (may depend on the recipient and how well you know them, but my 2nd’s nursery was a lot less…elaborate…than my first)ri.
if the oldest is still using a crib, new crib sheets. New cups/bowls/plates because 2 kids = double the eaters.
Disposables: diapers, wipes, shampoo/conditioner/baby soap, sunscreen.
Sposies. Changed. Our. Lives. says
Good pick.
EB says
samesies
Anonymous says
We just use a Poise pad — same thing but cheaper.
Royal baby says
Ugh we got royaled. Our baby Louis was born three months ago…
Cb says
Oh dear! A friend had her heart set on Arthur and breathed a sigh of relief this morning. I was just glad (as an American in the UK) that I picked a name which is increasingly popular but definitely has a tinge of American to it.
anon says
Oh no. Do you pronounce it LOO-EE like the royals or LOO-ESS like most Americans?
OP says
The American way (LOO-ESS), which I guess at least differentiates it somewhat? Or alternatively will make things even more confusing for my American Louis.
anon says
It certainly makes it sound different in conversation!
Redux says
My husband washed and dried (on high heat!) a dry-clean only dress. My favorite, and a recent splurge. It’s ruined. I am so sad. I know the answer is that I shouldn’t have put it in the hamper, but I usually do the laundry and pick out the dry clean items (which are very few) and set them aside. I can’t be mad at him for doing the laundry but I am mad at him for ruining my dress and mad at me for putting the dress in the hamper. Whaaaaa.
Anonymous says
That’s the worst! When that happened a couple of times, I told DH not to add any of my dresses, pants or sweaters if he was doing laundry even if they are in the hamper. He’s never good at reading labels so I just went with garment type. Pretty much everything else I have will surive at least the occasional dryer cycle.
If it’s wool, can you try washing it again on cold and then stretching it to dry flat?
Redux says
It’s ponte, so rayon, nylon, spandex blend. Which I think means the buckled seams are just straight-up ruined. Boooooo.
Meg Murry says
Ugh, I’m sorry. In our first year of marriage my husband and I each ruined quite a bit of each others clothing by trying to be “helpful”. Our truce position now is that we are each 100% responsible for our own laundry, and we do not combine loads. We don’t even move clothes from the washer to dryer or dryer to laundry basket without specifically asking the other. The only exception to this rule is if significant time has passed since you’ve reminded the other person to deal with their laundry – and even then only as a last resort.
I joke that the “I do my laundry, you do yours, neither the twain shall mix” rule is the secret to our marriage (and sanity).
AwayEmily says
This has happened to me MANY times. It is so frustrating. And not being able to be annoyed is perhaps the worst part.
AIMS says
That sucks. I once lost a favorite cashmere sweater this way. I now have two hampers: a big one for regular stuff and a smaller basket for hand wash and dry clean only stuff.
AwayEmily says
This is a great idea.
NewMomAnon says
While married, ex did laundry and shrunk a few items that I usually air dried. I started putting dry clean only stuff or “do not dry” stuff in lingerie bags that I hung off the side of the hamper. The “do not put in dryer” bags could go in the washer and then he could fish them out before transferring to the dryer.
anne-on says
+1 – I’ve even gotten my husband used to properly sorting. Left side is delicate wash (bras/undies/sweaters/blouses/workout clothes) and right side is regular socks/pjs/etc. He knows he can do the laundry on the right side but not on the left. Saves SO many fights sick he never learned to do delicate laundry (he used to send out dirty clothing when we were in the city).
Em says
I got angry and sad on your behalf just reading this. Laundry has been the biggest point of contention in my marriage. My husband once ruined not expensive pants I just bought, as well as a couple not expensive shirts, and I was still incredibly mad.
avocado says
Ugh. This is why, although my husband does the laundry, I do the sorting. And why all dry-clean-only items go straight into a designated laundry bag, never the laundry basket.
anon says
+1 to this. Our marriage has benefited from a near-militaristic sorting regime. We have multiple baskets which is both ridiculous and 100% worth it.
Anon says
My mom did this to my sister. Was visiting and trying to help out. Saw a pile of clothes and washed them. All work clothes. All went into the dryer. Mostly ruined. My sister never told my mom but was pretty disappointed. My mom doesn’t really own clothes that are dry clean only. The only thing she’d think to take to the cleaner is a suit. I purposely own so few clothes these days that if that happened to me, I very seriously might have to go shopping immediately to get through a week of work.
biglawanon says
Gosh I feel for you. So annoying. This is why I do my own laundry and no one else in my household (5 male humans) is allowed to touch it.
KateMiddletown says
This is exactly why I just bought another SEPERATE hamper specifically for things that I don’t want him touching. It’s rare that he throws in a load of laundry, but this way anything hand/delicate/drip dry/athleisure does NOT go in the same bin. Best $15 I ever spent (thanks TJ Maxx.)
Anon says
This has happened in my house plenty of times. My husband just doesn’t pay any attention to what he’s throwing in the washer and dryer, apparently. We have an agreement that I do my laundry and the kids’ laundry, and he does his own laundry. Still, accidents happen, and if I liked the garment enough and it’s still available, I just buy it again, which I think is what you should do in this situation.
Cb says
9 months of all-day sickness, 36 hours of labour, a failed epidural, and 8 months and counting of breastfeeding and today my son turned to my husband, gave him a grin, and said ‘Dada’. Thanks, kiddo!
Leatty says
Same here. So not fair! To top it off, my daughter looks just like my husband and nothing like me.
Cb says
Ditto! People go on and on about it.
Marilla says
Totally normal!! I read somewhere that babies “name” their dads earlier than their moms because they actually take longer to differentiate mama as a person from themselves – as in, they know that they are a person and dad is a person, but they sort of mush mama in with their own identity and think you’re one combined being.
Anonymous says
this – plus the ‘d’ sound is one of the earliest that babies can say. The ‘m’ sound comes later.
Anonymous says
This is so disturbing, freaky, and accurate! Aren’t their little baby brains/thought processes so weird???
Marilla says
I seriously love baby and toddler thinking. It’s so fascinating and fun to watch.
GCA says
So true. We’re trying to teach the concept of bodily autonomy and respecting other people’s wishes about their bodies, and so far kiddo (almost 3) has been great at recognizing other people’s bodily autonomy…except when it comes to *me*. If I’m putting him to bed, he has to fall asleep touching some part of me, like my arm or tummy, like, ‘what do you mean respect your body? aren’t you just an extension of me mom?’
SC says
My kid did the same thing. But then he mixed up his “d” and “c” sounds, so he spent a few months calling my husband “caca.” Which I find hilarious looking back on it. DH did a good job taking it with humor, but he was pretty exasperated.
Jen says
My two kids had “da” as the first word. My first clearly meant “dog.” My second meant “dad.” They got around to MAMAMAMAMAMAMMA eventually and haven’t shut up since, so don’t worry too much!
Anonymous says
My husband was a huge jerk about this and made me cry. He kept going on and on about how it meant the baby loved him so much, etc. I ended up looking up the science mentioned above (that babies think their mom is an extension of themselves but recognize dad as a separate person) and showing it to him to get him to shut up, but two years later I’m still annoyed by how much he gloated about the first word being ‘dada’. It also didn’t help that his entire family wouldn’t stop talking about how the baby looked JUST like him and nothing like me (all my friends and family think she looks like both of us).
lsw says
We used these for a while but WOW they caused the worst diaper rash and irritation ever in our son after about two weeks. I don’t know what it was about them. It was a shame because they worked so well. And a shame because the rash was so bad there was bleeding! Our ped recommended nighttime diapers, which I had assumed were a scam, but work super well. We use Seventh Generation in a size up from what he wears and they work great.
lsw says
in mod but these gave my son crazy diaper rash
AIMS says
A friend of mine uses regular super maxis for this same purpose. Cheaper and maybe wouldn’t irritate?
This seems like a good idea but I’m always a wee suspicious of products specifically marketed for men/women/babies and then marked up.
Anon says
I know someone who used adult incontinence pads. Probably cheaper. The nice thing about the Sposies compared to a maxi (and presumably an incontinence pad) is that they have no “bottom”. So the liquid can pass through to the diaper. They’re also much softer than any maxi pad I’ve ever used. They’re kind of a mess with poo though. But luckily we rarely have to deal with that.
lsw says
We considered trying those too, but fortunately overnight diapers worked for us. I didn’t believe the hype but our ped suggested it when we took our baby in for the aforementioned terrible rash. We use Seventh Generation overnights in a size larger and they work great! It must have been something about how the pads were holding more moisture closer to his skin or something like that. It was so awful!
Anon for this says
I could use some good vibes if you have some. I recently found out my boss, who I thought really liked me, said some critical things about me to our big boss. I think I do great work, but in case that has any merit, I’ve been trying to step it up at work. I just came back from maternity leave and have a five month old who wakes (every single night) at 2:00 and then at 5:00. I’m nursing and have relatively low supply so have to pump every two hours at work. My two year old has hand foot mouth and had to miss two days of daycare, so I had to miss yesterday at work (husband has him today thankfully). I found out this week my parents, who have been married for forty years, are getting a divorce.
I’m worried about work, I’m exhausted, I’m pumping all the time, I’m probably about to get hand foot mouth, my infant is probably about to get hand foot mouth, my mom is in emotional shambles….. I was keeping it mostly together until this morning when I got behind a bad wreck that added an hour to my commute (and made me an hour late for the job that I’m worried about). I just feel like I cannot handle any of this. Sorry to come here and complain but thank you for letting me vent.
Patty Mayonnaise says
Ugh so sorry you’re going through this. Sending good vibes. <3
Jeffiner says
Hugs. Hopefully you only have to make it through today, and then can recover this weekend.
Anonymous says
That is a lot. All the hugs. Hang in there and call in your village. Do not hesitate to ask for help. I have three kids and I’m busy but if a friend was going through this, I would find a way to help even if it’s just bringing over dinner a couple times.
And put on your own oxygen mask first. Ask your sibling(s) to lean in as the emotional support for your mom right now. Ask friends for babysitter references so you can work from home while someone helps with the kids if they are sick next week.
avocado says
Hugs. This is a lot to get slammed with all at the same time. This is the time to call on all your support systems and to prioritize. If you can get some rest, all the other issues will seem a little less daunting. Perhaps a family PJ-and-screen-time weekend with takeout food is in order. And maybe dad can handle the 2:00 feeding one night so you can grab some extra shuteye. Sending all the good vibes your way.
AnotherAnon says
This is a LOT. 1) maybe you and baby won’t get HFM. 2) Do you have the ability to address what was said to your boss’ boss? Basically: do what you can to mitigate but don’t run yourself ragged at work and try not to worry (easier said than done believe me I know). I bet you’re killing it. Don’t feel guilty for pumping (unless you want to stop then stop). No one gets fired for their boss being dissatisfied with them once. Second to push your mom onto siblings if possible. I know you love her but you do not have the emotional capacity to be her rock right now. Ask for help and get some self care: have DH watch the kids while you take a nap/go get your nails done/have a drink/whatever energizes you.
Mama Llama says
This is SO much for anyone to handle. If you need it, you have my permission to do WHATEVER you need to do to get through this. Want to cut down on pumping and supplement with some formula? Great! Do that! (Or don’t if you don’t want to.) Want to eat cereal and frozen pizza for dinner for the next couple of weeks? Or order new underwe@r from Amazon so you can go another week without doing laundry? Want to tell your mom that you care about her and her problems, but you can only do X to help her (e.g. talk on the phone twice a week and not every day)? Want to take a sick day and sleep all day? Do those things. And a big YES to the above advice to ask for help. Activate Team You to whatever extent you can for help with chores, baby care, sympathy, a listening ear, a workout buddy. etc. Hugs.
lsw says
I echo this. And ask your husband to take on extra duties right now. And, stop pumping and supplement if you want to. This is temporary! It’s temporary. You got this. When I feel overwhelmed I escalate majorly and start stressing about things that are not at all important right now (ex., AND I never get my car oil changed! and that broken table is still in the basement!), so I find it helpful to write down absolutely everything that is making me crazy and just cross a line through everything that doesn’t need to be addressed Right Now. And then I go through it a second time and cross out a few things because, actually, the dishes are not something that needs to be done Right Now. We can have dirty dishes for a few days. Whatever it is. You are doing an amazing job and you’re going to get through this.
KateMiddletown says
Yes – I hate to inject my feelings about EBF since yours may be different, but this is when I started supplementing. I just. couldn’t. cope. So many hugs.
BC says
And I bet that if your critical boss had to deal with all of that, he/she would be crying in a corner somewhere. Take care of yourself.
Boston Legal Eagle says
So many hugs from me as well. That is so much for one person to handle, all at once. Agree with the advice to lean on your support system as much as you can. Also, not sure of your relationship, but can you tell your boss everything that’s going on and let him/her know that you need a little time to regroup for now? I know some bosses would say to suck it up, but a place that doesn’t treat me like a human being is not a place I would want to be long term.
Anonymous says
Every two hours? Stop pumping!
Anonymous says
I don’t think this comment is helpful. She may enjoy nursing and it may be worth it to her to continue a difficult pumping regime. It was for me. Or even if she isn’t interested in continuing, to just go from pumping every two hours to not pumping is likely to cause a hormone crash that will not necessarily make things easier for her.
OP – If you do want to cut back on pumping, that might be an option to get you more time. If you want to extend your pumping intervals, try a hospital grade pump. They are a hassle to drag back and forth everyday but you might have an option to leave at your office during the week. I had much more success with the hospital grade pump vs other kinds.
KateMiddletown says
Not to mention leaky and full boobs at work. But do consider tapering. And try cotton pads and disposable pads if you do – I had to double down sometimes when I couldn’t stop in the middle of a project to switch them out. Super poor hygiene but we do what we must.
shortperson says
it’s a know your office thing, but in my west coast biglaw office, it would be better to front these issues to the partners and just ask for some time off or lighter duty for a few weeks than try to power through at less than 100% capacity. IME people are super understanding when there’s a reason to be.
Spirograph says
All the hugs. You’ve gotten some good advice already, but I’ll just foot-stomp giving yourself permission to let some things go. It is hard, but you have to do it. I felt like I could still keep most of the balls in the air with one kid, but with a toddler and a baby, I had to adjust, triage, call in reinforcements.
FWIW, when my 2 year old got HFM a couple years ago, neither the baby nor I got it! So there’s hope. :)
NewMomAnon says
My annual review is coming up and reading my evaluations makes me feel so bad about myself and so hopeless about my future in the current job. I’m not sure my feelings are justified – the evaluations are generally fine and borderline great, but I feel like I’ve been relegated to a backburner role and would need “great bordering on out of this world” evaluations across the board to be put back on an advancement track. I don’t even know if that would do it, and I also know that I don’t have it in me to make that effort.
What would you do? I have incredible flexibility over my schedule, but my compensation is 2/3 of what I would expect given my years of experience and expertise. I feel like I’m always looking over my shoulder worried that some small error will get me fired. And I suspect that the nature of my job (lots of random calls from lots of random people who ask me lots of random questions) doesn’t play well with some of my time-management and organizational weaknesses; a more structured job would be an easier place for me to excel. But…that would require looking for a new job, and then excelling in a new job, and taking the hit on flexibility.
Anonymous says
I think it can’t hurt to at least casually look and see what else is out there – maybe you are wrong about having to loose the flexibility?
Anon for this says
Up until a few weeks ago I was in a very similar position–did not see a path for advancement, stuck doing tasks that were not an optimal fit for my skills and interests, etc. I also felt trapped in my current job because what I do is incredibly specialized and finding a new position in the same field would require relocating, which I am not interested in doing right now.
Then a bunch of things happened in quick succession. First, I discovered that my skills are transferable into a different field with more job opportunities. I made and began executing a plan to improve my marketability in the new field so I wouldn’t be trapped any longer, and that alone made everything so much easier to bear. Then there was an organizational shakeup that opened up all kinds of new possibilities and opportunities, and just a few weeks later I am energized and leaning way in to my current job.
The point of this long story is to encourage you to figure out how you can stop feeling trapped in a job where you aren’t happy. Look around and see what else is out there for you. A fresh start might be what you need. Perhaps you could trade off flexibility for a job with more structure that would make you less stressed, and replace that flexibility with more paid help. That tradeoff just might leave you happier. Even making a plan to find a new job at some future point in time might help.
Anon says
Do you use your flexibility? A coworker and I have been talking about this lately. We have tons of flexibility to work whenever we want, but logistically it doesn’t make sense to actually use a bunch of the flexibility we actually have. We work regular hours because of school/daycare anyway. So we can’t figure out why we’re so attached to something we never actually take advantage of.
Anon says
Wow, that’s a lot of “actually”.
NewMomAnon says
Hahaha. I do take advantage of the daytime flexibility – I usually am “at work” 8-9 hours a day, but frequently take the time to get lunch with professional connections, stop at the pharmacy, do personal errands, doctor’s visits, take a walk, leave early, come in late, etc. And having the ability to do laid-back mornings with 8:30 am drop off and then getting myself ready, instead of rushing around trying to get both of us ready and out the door by 7:30 am, makes my life a lot easier. But I know those are luxuries.
Marilla says
So, a lot of this depends on your organization. For me, “generally fine and borderline great” means you don’t need to worry that a small error will get you fired. It means you can keep on doing what you’re doing – not everyone needs to be the rockstar in their org. But it never hurts to look around and see what else is out there – you don’t have to take something that won’t work for you.
NewMomAnon says
I don’t really know what “fine borderline great” means at my organization for everyone, but for me it means exhaustive nitpicking of my deficiencies, regular check-ins to monitor my improvement, and bringing them back up year after year with notes that I have “not made significant improvement” even though I “am excellent in other facets of my performance.” I might have the courage this year to ask what the impact of my “failure to improve” those areas would be – I feel like some reassurance that they aren’t fireable offenses would be comforting.
For yesterday's poster with clogged duct says
Hope it’s not too late in the day for this. The only thing that helped me was dangle feeding or dangle pumping. You want gravity to work for you. If BFing, literally get on all fours above kiddo. If pumping, stand and bend over a table. It works!