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anon4this says
to anyone from the NYC burbs, talk to me about greenwich vs. scarsdale/bronxville vs. other towns that are NYC commuter towns. mostly concerned about schools and the community there. will be working in the bronx (driving – likely only need to be in the office 50% of the time and can WFH the rest). husband will be driving the opposite direction – will work in the Mt Kisco area. We are leaning greenwich because of the savings on taxes, but I am a little afraid about my commute with traffic.. I am honestly not even sure we can afford to live in Westchester!
also tempted to just live in the city and have husband take the metro north because I love the city so much, but probably a terrible idea with kids and way more expensive – but if anyone has done that, feel free to chime in.
Anon says
I lived in southern westchester for many years and the commute to the Bronx is super easy. The convenience of southern westchester, including proximity to the city, can’t be beat. Commuting to Mt. Kisco would also be decent. Greenwich to the Bronx is quite a lot longer. Metro North from the city to Mt. Kisco is a haul.
New Rochelle has some variety of housing prices, but schools are not as good as Scarsdale, which are considered among the best in the country. Scarsdale would be a similar commute as New Rochelle. Don’t be tempted by the good prices on gorgeous old houses in Yonkers or Mt Vernon unless you are willing to commit to private school.
Clementine says
General real estate tip: you can have your realtor set up an MLS search by school district rather than just by town name. This is really useful when you have towns/villages that might have different school districts between them. For example: my mailing address is Pawnee but I’m in the Eagleton school district.
(FWIW, I know a handful of successful adults who went to Yonkers public high schools. About half of them went to parochial schools for the younger grades, but the district is big enough to have a lot of options.)
Realist says
I know a family in the New Rochelle school district and they are very happy with it (elementary grades). FWIW, it is a wealthier white family that is glad to have their kids exposed to kids at school that aren’t also exclusively the children of other wealthy white families.
Anon says
i know some successful adults who attended ivy league and other top tier schools who graduated from New Rochelle high school. Personally I think Greenwich and CT in general is much prettier than Westchester, but you obviously can’t choose a place to live just based on that and while i realize these are not the nicest terms to use, I would say Greenwich is more waspy and Scarsdale more jappy.
anon says
Currently live in Westchester and a few thoughts:
1) If you want Scarsdale schools without the Scarsdale price, look at Edgemont (“cheaper” houses). Some parts of Mamaroneck also feed into Scarsdale schools. As mentioned by Clementine, pay very close attention to which school the house is zoned for as it doesn’t always match up with your town.
2) New Rochelle is a very large city compared to other Westchester suburbs and also has a more diverse population (both in terms of race and class). There are some very nice parts of New Rochelle and other parts that are not as nice. They are really trying to revitalize the downtown area but it’s not exactly hopping. There are a lot of new luxury apartments going up near the train station/NewRoc City exit off of I-95, so it is an easy commute into the city and to Mt. Kisco if you live there. FWIW, New Rochelle High School is very large (3000+ students) and had only 4 national merit semifinalists this year.
3) Metro North: New Rochelle is on the New Haven line, which has a stop in Fordham. Not all the New Haven line trains into the city stop at Fordham. Bronxville is on the Harlem line and has more stops in the Bronx. If you’re commuting via train into the Bronx, it may be a *better* commute if you’re on the Harlem line depending on where in the Bx you have to get to.
4) Bronxville is a very nice/bougie town and also very white (even by Westchester standards). It’s very expensive, even a small apartment. Their downtown is very nice, but you don’t have to live in Bronxville to enjoy their downtown :)
5) Concur with Anon at 9:01 re: Mt Vernon and Yonkers. Also, Yonkers has an extra Yonkers tax.
6) You could also consider White Plains, which is a big commuter town and further north so a bit closer to Mt. Kisco. There are lots of apartments there, so you could rent for a year and decide where to settle down. Pelham also has good schools, close to the Bronx and maybe a 30-40 minute commute to Mt. Kisco. A bit cheaper than Bronxville/Scarsdale, but it’s still Westchester, so not “cheap.” Hastings-on-Hudson is also a nice town on the western side of Westchester, but maybe not the best commute for either of you. Lots of former Brooklynites have moved there.
We moved to Westchester because 1) did not want to pay the tolls from NJ going into the city (considered Bergen County), 2) didn’t want to pay NYC taxes, 3) wanted more space for our growing family. I don’t think we will stay very long here because Westchester is so expensive and property taxes are through the roof (I think the mean income in Scarsdale is over $500k??). Happy to answer more questions!
anon says
This is was so incredibly helpful, thank you!! I am commuting by car most likely as I have parking and where I am at (Albert Einstein College of Medicine/Montefiore area) there is no good metro situation. I have a few follow-up question.
1. How is the traffic? I can be somewhat flexible with my hours (can go in later, could possibly leave earlier on some days) to avoid but not always. I am trying to understand what my commute by car would be from Greenwich vs. Scarsdale/etc.
2. What are the prices for houses there, and what would be the tax differences of CT vs. Westchester? If we do the 2.5-3x income for house we can swing 1.5-2MM, but really don’t want to go above the 2M mark if at all possible, just hate spending such a ridiculous amount on house but so unavoidable here.
3. Any thoughts on doing the white plains + private school route? I know some people do that. Again hate throwing money away for private school but honestly may be cheaper with the housing prices in the good school districts
4. What are the schools like in Greenwich and Scarsdale? I think based on my experiences with these wealthier neighborhoods in the part of the country where I grew up the education is amazing but the environment not so good (e.g., drugs an issue in high school? social environment being tough? academic competition being super cutthroat?) And I also want to avoid pretentious cities/focused a lot on keeping up with the Joneses etc and I am just afraid thats what Greenwich/Scarsdale may be like.
Anon says
Your point 4 is a good one to think about. As I plan to move to CT I’m discerning similarly. A lot of the “best” schools in southern CT are pressure cookers – high schoolers are having panic attacks over the workload and the incredibly high standards (I have several cousins there). There is also a toxic white/male privilege culture, for sure. I do not want that for my kids and so am actively looking for “decent/safe but not excellent” schools. I think Greenwich is maaaybe okay…places like Darien are really awful.
Anonymous says
Anecdotally, I think dr*gs are big among teens in Greenwich. Although my info is based on my peers, not my kids, and is almost 20 years old at this point.
anon says
I’ll mostly comment on 1 and 4 because I think other ladies may have better insight into the other questions (and you may want to use zillow to get a better sense of some of the prices/property taxes for various towns/school districts).
1. If you’re commuting to Moses, the worst part of the commute back into Westchester is Gun Hill Road/trying to get onto the Bronx River Parkway (the left turn from Monte/Gun Hill onto Bronx River Parkway is designed terribly). Gun Hill Rd can be backed up a lot in the mornings near school drop off times, but has been OK lately because no schools have been open. If you live close enough to the Bronx River Parkway in Scarsdale, your commute is probably 30; 40 minutes on a bad day. If you’re going to the Hutch/Weiler, the commute is so much easier since it’s off of I-95, in which case I’d seriously look at living in Pelham, Mamaroneck, Rye, etc for the easiest commute to both Mt. Kisco and the Bronx (although, Mamaroneck school district has a civil rights suit against them for racial discrimination so…).
4. Anecdotally…my perception is that kids here do a million extracurricular activities (music, art, dance, three sports), are under a lot of stress/anxiety, have so much homework, and have a ton of pressure to keep up with other kids in terms of outer appearance (example: teenage girls in Scarsdale with Cartier bracelets–I don’t think I knew what those were until my 20s). I guess the goal of all that stress/work is to get your kids into top colleges, but from what I can tell, the amount of anxiety/stress/activities that these kids are doing does not necessarily translate into success in college admissions.
Anon says
I am in Westchester now and we like it a lot. In Mt Kisco and surrounding areas (Katonah) your money will go a little farther, and it still wouldn’t be a bad commute to the Bronx. White Plains also has some lovely neighborhoods and most of the schools are absolutely fine (or better). I have a friend there that did a lot of research and uses public schools.
I am in a little town next to Scarsdale called Hartsdale and it is great! Easy access to highways and shopping. Re: schools, we really like them. They are not rated as well as the surrounding areas, but let’s be honest: it’s because a lot of students are black or lower income, and the rumors are spread by people who never gave them a shot. The teachers are excellent and if you talk to any current parents you will likely get great reviews. I also like the diversity, especially now. Don’t judge by ratings alone! I personally would never want to live in Scarsdale…
All that said, we are likely moving to CT before long. Westchester taxes are killer, and lots are quite small. CT is also closer to family for us. I am sad at the thought of leaving my current town and schools, though!
TZ says
A lot of good advice here. I’m in the river towns near the TZ (still can’t use the new name) bridge and generally enjoy the area. You definitely want to pay attention to property taxes as they are not cheap and typically usually only go up. And yes, look by school district as the town lines don’t intersect with school district, or even postal codes, evenly. I chose my side of Westchester because I have family across the bridge in Rockland, the commute is easy (and lovely) on the Hudson Line, and it has a slightly more laid back vibe than Bronxville/Scarsdale. I’d also suggest taking a look at Tarrytown – good, but slightly more diverse schools and a mix of housing stock. However you might also want to map your route and see if there’s a town that puts you on your preferred highway for both of your commutes – I can’t say what that would be off the top of my head.
Anon says
I agree – the river towns are really nice! They might fit your budget well, OP
anon says
Any rec’s for grippy socks for new walker, that also work with shoes? baby socks are the effing worst.
Anonymous says
Old Navy. The trick is to look for thin socks with grippy things. The grippy things take up space inside the shoe, so thick sock + grippy things won’t fit.
Anon says
I gave up and use different socks. Of the grippy socks we have the LA Active brand (bought on Amazon) seem like the thinnest but they’re not super thin.
rosie says
H&M and Old Navy both have very thin socks w/grippies. The Hanes socks from Target are good as well, although I didn’t buy those until we were in the 2T-3T range so not sure about the smaller sizes.
Anonymous says
Do you have a girl? If yes, skirts &’tights. Socks are the worst.
katy says
if by any chance you are Canadian, ROOTS socks are best (the one that look like adorable hiking socks). Also got some from Nordstrom that worked.
Anon says
My 2 year old is bright, happy and social, but she likes everything in a certain order and can get upset when she has to deviate from the (many) routines she has set up. I don’t mean general routines like bath/book/bed, but more like she has a specific order for hugging her family members at bedtime and she tells us off if anyone tries to hug her “out of turn.” She’s also very into putting everything in a certain place and matching things up to their counterparts, eg., if we roll up one shirtsleeve we have to roll up the other one. Or another example is she likes her plates to be the same color as her food, eg., she wants her yellow plate for eating eggs and her red plate for eating strawberries. Is this normal? At first I thought it was typical toddler behavior, but I feel like it’s been increasing in intensity lately and when I g00gled I found a lot of people saying this kind of behavior could be ASD or OCD.
NYCer says
This seems very normal to me.
Anonymous says
This is normal. Read “Red is Best’. They don’t have a lot of control in their little worlds and everything is new and a lot for them to learn so doing things in a certain order or a certain way gives them structure and stability. If she was 12 I’d be worried about OCD, at 2 it’s fine. Even as adults we have a favorite coffee mug where the coffee just seems to taste better or we have a set morning routine like whether you do breakfast, shower, dress, makeup or shower, breakfast, dress, makeup etc. It’s just as adults we have more resilience and more control over the order of things. She has to ask you to have the yellow plate for eggs, you don’t have to ask anyone to have your favorite mug for coffee.
Anon says
That makes a lot of sense, thanks.
Anonymous says
This is the kind of thing you really need to discuss with your pediatrician. It’s not uncommon behavior though.
Anon says
On that subject, how do people discuss potential issues or concerns with a pediatrician once your child is old enough to understand? It feels very weird to me to discuss her in front of her now that she can understand what I’m saying. But I never see my pediatrician without my child present.
Audrey III says
By phone – my pediatrician practice has morning phone time from 8 – 8:45 where, on the days she is in the office, I can call the office and speak directly to her. If it is a day she’s not there, I’ll get put through to another pediatrician. I try to do calls like this a day or so in advance of the in person appointment. For example, we want my pediatrician to examine my son’s belly-button hernia at his next appointment but we don’t want him to know she’s specifically doing it. I’ll call on Friday for his Monday appointment. If your pediatrician doesn’t have phone hours, I’d call and leave a message so that he or she can call you back.
Clementine says
Yes. For more complicated issues, I’ll call and give the nurse a heads up that we want to discuss X, when I come in they already have it in the chart and will confirm that I want to discuss X when I see the doctor, then my doc is really good about incorporating it in an age appropriate way. Any bigger discussions she follows up with a phone call.
(Also, parents to be who are picking pediatricians! Ask about how they handle phone calls/questions via phone. This is going to come up! Our office has a nurse (a very experienced RN who used to do children’s critical care and knows what’s UP) who handles the phone line but also has set check in times with the docs during the day to get their input on questions parents have. It’s awesome.)
Anon says
Definitely monitor as she grows and talk to your ped, but this seems normal. Ex. My toddler does not allow anyone but her to shut a door. Every day when I drop her off at daycare, she moves the director out of the way so she can shut the door. There are other examples, but I live this one every morning and it’s funny to witness.
Anonymous says
Keep an eye on it, but at 2, this is normal. My 3 girls all went through it, with various degrees of insistence. Talk to your ped.
Anon. says
I think it’s pretty normal. Another entertaining example: My three-year-old had/has preferred hands for his toys. As in, if he is playing with the cow and the horse, the cow MUST be in the left hand and the horse in the right. Similar for the t-rex and the triceratops. If you hand them to him so that he must grab wrong he will put them down and switch.
SC says
As a counterpoint, while the behavior sounds normal, pay attention to the intensity, persistence, and reaction to attempts to redirect. My son is 5 and has behavioral issues around rigidity–he has ADHD, likely with some combination of ASD or OCD. At 2 and 3, he had a lot of behaviors that were normal for his age (lining up toys, wanting tracks or building toys or train cars to be a certain way), but his teachers and the daycare teacher recommended an outside evaluation because of the intensity. We didn’t see the intensity as much at home because he’s an only child, and nobody interfered with him wanting to line up 100 cars just so, or with making sure his train cars were in a certain order (we didn’t even know they were in a certain order for a while). At daycare, his teachers saw much more frequently how he reacted when another kid tried to play with the same toys or when it was time to clean up, etc.
Anon says
Thanks, I appreciate this perspective. Daycare teachers have never mentioned any issues and when I mentioned to them recently some of the things she does at home, they were surprised because I guess at school she doesn’t do this (as much, anyway). So it seems to be worse at home (where we basically let her do what she wants, within reason), which I’m guessing is a good sign?
SC says
It sounds like she’s able to adapt in a socially appropriate way at daycare, which is probably a good sign.
Cb says
Thanks everyone for the advice about how to talk about people who passed away. My son is obsessed with this album that my MIL made for my husband’s birthday, and asking lots of questions about when he can meet various people. I used the ‘sometimes, peoples bodies stop working and they aren’t with us any more, but we’ll always keep them in our memories’ and he seemed to accept this. My husband and I definitely had a good cry though, his sister passed away at age 50 right a few weeks before lockdown. My son saw that we were sad and gave us a cuddle, and we talked about how it is okay to be sad.
anne-on says
A personal rec for the Cabidor – we just put one in the closet door in our mudroom and it is making me SO freaking happy that the sunglasses (I swear my husband has 8 pairs), water bottles, wallets, keys, etc. all have a place to live that is easily accessible and out of sight instead of cluttering up our storage-challenged kitchen. We did the inside the door mount as I felt it was more stable for kids.
https://www.cabidor.com/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMI4-fcsbD66wIVC-DICh2mywyfEAAYASAAEgJVofD_BwE
Realist says
Oooh, I really love this. Did you or DH install yourself? How long have you had it? Is it or the door sagging at all?
anne-on says
We just put it in on Friday. Our contractor is doing other work for us currently so he put it in in-between other projects but said it was very simple so I’m sure it would be a pretty easy DIY.
Anon says
Love it! Seriously considering getting one, too.
rosie says
Anyone else having a *Monday* so far? Just me?
Cb says
Ugh, yes! A bit at loose ends workwise and then for some reason, my husband and son are playing in the sitting room (where my desk is). Kiddo and I had an amazing AM but I feel like it’s 3pm and I haven’t really gotten any work done.
Tea/Coffee says
Yeah… I’m not sure if it’s the change in the weather or what, but DH and I are just in that “wear fleece, eat carbs, take naps” mode which we unfortunately can’t indulge in :-(
And this morning I tried to send some good updates on a group project of sorts and am getting all kinds of pushback from people who have no idea what they’re talking about. But I cant let the project go off the rails (bc I’m attached) and I can’t bow out (specifically requested to work on this). Argh.
And I think I have fall Allergies. Sniffly and PND and this very weird itchy rash on my torso.
Pigpen's Mama says
Yep — my minor princessy complaint — the ear piece on my wireless headset broke and the other ones I have are too big for my ears and today is the day my husband is working from home taking calls loudly in the other part of the basement, so even though my door is closed and I have a white noise machine on, I can here his colleagues droaning on and on and on and on…..
Also, I hate how much mental energy I have that’s taken up because COVID changed how we do everything…
anon says
Yep. I’ve gotten a few things done, but I am so tired I can barely stand it even though I slept fine last night. (I think?) I just want to crawl under the covers, but alas.
Anonymous says
YES. My LO crawled into our bed last night (maybe the 5th time EVER)… i couldn’t get him out. he basically slept on top of me, in seasonally inappropriate fleece jammies. i finally passed out a little after getting him water at 1 AM / moved him around around 3:30. turned off my alarm (set to have time to do a yoga video) and of COURSE we were WAY late for morning routine….
Thanks for the space to rent.
Also for your morning laugh… my kiddo wants to be a “paver” when i grows up. I “get” to be the person that holds the stop sign. Looks like a have a new career ahead of me when this whole corporate strategy thing comes crashing down.
AnotherAnon says
This morning kiddo (3.5) and I were perusing the aquarium web site, discussing the different kinds of fish. Our aquarium web site also features a photo of a white tiger reclining next to a statue of Buddha. Kiddo looked at the Buddha and said “Is that George Washington?” I almost died. Kids are so weird and great.
Anonymous says
Related: my kids love doing handyman stuff with Dad. My 4 year old calls “washers” “Washingtons” and refuses to be corrected although she knows better.
Overheard last week:
Husband: where are all the Washingtons???
Me: WTF?
Husband: the Washingtons!
4 y/o: they are over there in the bag, Dad.
AnotherAnon says
Love this!
Anon says
I feel almost embarrassed to ask this but asking in case anyone else has been there. I have the weirdest weekend-type hangover every Monday. I don’t understand it – my kids are small and difficult and most of the weekend I’m counting down until it’s over. But on Monday’s I am always very sad and unfocused and missing my kids. It absolutely kills my productivity to feel this way. I usually snap back into my productive self by Tuesday but I’m tired of having a whole day each week that I’m in a funk. Anyone else been there? Tips?
Cb says
I find that if I really plan my Monday/my week on Friday PM, it helps a lot. I’ll give myself a few tick box tasks to get started and then something a bit more substantive. I didn’t do it this Friday and am spiralling today.
Realist says
In this situation I would do 3 things:
(1) make a plan for something on the weekend that you will look forward to that you don’t do during the week. Whether this is visiting the park on Saturday afternoon, or trying to bake a recipe with the kids, or having family movie time or yoga time scheduled, or whatever. Or even just doing something different with DH on Friday or Saturday night that isn’t part of your usual routine if you can’t quite get excited about a family activity with the kids. But there should be a “highlight” activity for you over the weekend.
(2) Have a Sunday afternoon or evening ritual to helps you prepare for the week and be ready for Monday. In our house, on Sunday afternoon we all do 1-2 hours of cleaning right after lunch and the whole house is clean top to bottom on Monday morning. This was not possible when our child was younger, so YMMV. But you could do something as simple as changing the sheets or a cleaning a bathroom. When we were childless, we usually went out to eat on Sunday night to get ready for the week. So consider take out for Sunday dinner. Or maybe Sunday night is when you sit down and plan out your week or make a meal plan or whatever. But I think it helps to have a ritual on Sunday that closes out the week, and it is helpful if the ritual starts the next week off on the right foot.
(3) If you try a few things and the Monday hangover continues, just accept it. Can you work with it so that it doesn’t set your week back too much? For example, is there something you could do on Monday morning that won’t require you to be your usual productive self but would still check things off your list (online grocery ordering, making your meal plan, returning phone calls, clearing your inbox, texting friends you had been meaning to catch up with, getting some holiday shopping done, whatever it is that would be somewhat mindless but also productive). Monday morning blahs might just be part of your season of life right now and if you can’t change it, work with it.
Anonymous says
Yes – when you have zero time without responsibilities, it’s hard to flip the switch on Monday morning. Try a soothing routine on Sunday evening to ease into the week – hot bubble bath, special tea with dark chocolate etc.
Not sure says
After 12 years of unprotected sex and fertility issues (did IVF to have our almost 4 year old son) just found out that I am 5 weeks pregnant. I am 40 and my husband is 43. We are totally freaking out. I have balanced translocation which makes it likely that I will miscarry. My husband had the idea of us contacting the Reproductive Endocrinologist that we worked with to have our son. Just looking for advise for anyone that has been in a similar circumstance, etc. Thanks in advance!
Anon says
No advice but thinking of you. I’m sure you are experiencing a whole lot of complex emotions. I also cannot get naturally pregnant and was saying post RBG’s passing, “well, at least I’m infertile.” Goes to show you can’t rely on that. If I was to suddenly become pregnant I would have all of the feels too. It’s a particular kick in the shins when you have really wanted kid(s) but now you have structured your life around the fact that you weren’t having one/more and now everything has to be adjusted. But you don’t want to get excited yet because you know from experience how this may end. Ugh. All the hugs. I’ll be checking back for updates.
anon says
While taking a break from a series of unsuccessful fertility treatments, I did unexpectedly get pregnant naturally. We contacted our RE, who provided early pregnancy support by testing/supplementing estrogen and progesterone levels and performed early ultrasounds. Unfortunately, I had a blighted ovum, but the support and advice from the RE helped us through that time. Thinking of you — I know how stressful this can be!
Anon for this says
I got pregnant naturally with my third after needing IVF for the first and going straight to FET for the second. We were open to having a 3rd, but had just to decided to live with the idea of only 2 and waiting to see for a few months when we found out. Lots and lots of complex feelings, which didn’t fully resolve until the baby arrived. On a more practical note-I did contact my RE right away and they provided all the usual early pregnancy support that they would have had they been involved from the beginning. I found it hugely reassuring, even as I had ambivalent feelings about the pregnancy. Definitely recommend reaching out to yours.
Good luck with however it goes.
Runner says
Question on bikes — we are about to get our first ones, kids are 22 months. Balance bikes seem like the obvious choice, but son has low muscle tone (“low to low normal”) and at PT they put him on a tricycle. I think the idea is that pedaling will help him develop muscle. Anybody have experience with this and thinks a tricycle is way better?
mascot says
We did tricycle, bike with training wheels, bike with coaster brakes, bike with handbrakes,and now my kid rides a “real” bike with gears and handbrakes. I know balance bikes are really popular and maybe for good reason, but if the tricycle works better for him now, sounds like the pedaling is a benefit.
rakma says
No experience with the low muscle tone, but we had both a tricycle and a balance bike. Both kids used them pretty interchangeably, and it really set the 6yo up for her ‘big girl bike’.
I realize that buying 4 bikes is probably not the answer you were looking for. I feel like the trikes got more use at first, and then the balance bike was more popular as they got older, so I could see starting with trikes and moving to the balance bike in a year or so.
rosie says
These sorts of things are always coming up on my local buy nothing group or for pretty cheap on FB marketplace and are also nice bigger ticket gift items. We are fortunate to have family who wanted to gift a scooter and balance bike; we also have a 12” bike w/training wheels, tricycle, and another scooter on which I spent $20 total. If you have storage constraints, this approach may not work.
Cb says
I’d do a trike for now or a micro-mini scooter with the seat? We started a balance bike at 2.5 and my son took to it, but I don’t think he’d have managed it earlier.
anon says
I have a 3.5 yo with low tone who has been in PT since she was 5 months old. We went with a trike, at the request of our PT and I do think it’s developing important gross motor skills affected by the low tone more than a balance bike would for our kiddo. Our PT really pushed us to get this obscene expensive tricycle but we went with one of the radio flyer ones with a handlebar and it’s been great.
Anonymous says
It sounds like you have twins? I’d get one tricycle and one balance bike and have them trade off to get the benefits of both.
Anon says
My soon to be 6 year old asked for Chuck E Cheese birthday party. I told him that it wasn’t in the cards, and he said ”No Mommy! I watched the ad (on YouTube) they clean the tables and even give you a mask!” I went into the pantry and cried. He loves Chuck E Cheese. During his last birthday party, our ‘party coordinator’ was a young black college student who said the job was how she put herself through school. She was so amazing, I tipped her out $100 at the end of the party. I’m sad. For my kid. For the jobs lost. For the lives we will never get back. I fully appreciate that this is a silly little thing, but I’m just so sad.
anon says
Oh man, that is rough. :( All of this is terrible and sad. Sometimes it’s the small stuff like this that feels like it’s going to break you.
Anon says
My four year old wanted a birthday party at Chuck E Cheese too :(
And instead he got… dinner with his grandparents. Ugh, this sucks.
I’m sorry – I had that breaking point about a week ago when my DD’s kindergarten teacher resigned (update there – apparently contract negotiations fell apart that week, four weeks into school? No heads up there was anything in the air to us though – school has told us “yeah it’s really bad – we’re working on it”)
I give you permission to cry. And buy extra toys or whatever might make you feel better – I figured since our DS didn’t get a party I could spend more on him!
Anonymous says
You can’t seriously expect school to let you know they’re in active negotiations!
Anon says
My school district lets us know when their in active negotiations and our local hospital announces when negotiations might break down and lead to a strike. I don’t see why that wouldn’t be public information.
Earlier P says
It would have been nice to know the teacher who kept telling our kids she’d love them and meet them soon didn’t have a contract for the year, yeah. We wouldn’t have spent the past four weeks saying “yes dd everything is terrible but at least you have Mrs [insert name] for kindergarten! You are so lucky!”
Spirograph says
Oh that is tough, and I’m sorry. My daughter asked about bounce house place where she has done her last couple birthday parties — a quick internet search told me that the franchise location completely closed up shop. In a lot of ways, for me, things feel like they’re getting a little closer to normal (albeit with masks), but then something like this just reminds you that there is such a long way still go to, especially outside the white collar job bubble.
My oldest son has a spring birthday, so obviously he had no party at all this year. He asked yesterday if he could do mini-golf with some friends as a half-birthday celebration. This seems doable. I hope you find a good alternative for your son, too.
Anon says
Yeah I’m so frustrated about people who say life is back to normal because they’re now comfortable going out to bars with friends and traveling. Half the kids in this country aren’t in school! And even the kids that are in school are missing all kinds of special events, activities and parties. It’s cool that so many people have decided we’re in a post-Covid world I guess, but life is a long way from normal for most kids.
Anonymous says
Yeah, I work in NYC theater and the unemployment rate locally in the performing arts sector is like 73%. It’s really bad and there’s a good chance we can’t reopen for another year.
Toddler Independent Time says
At what age did you allow alone playtime in a kid’s bedroom?
DD is 2.5 and loves playing in her bedroom. It’s a split level house so on more than one occasion recently we’ve turned around to find her headed up the half-staircase on her own to her room. She plays with dolls, sometimes sits in her rocking chair to “read books” – honestly it’s really constructive, much needed quiet time for an otherwise wild-child 2.5 year old. She won’t replicate it on the main level or in her playroom, only in her bedroom and really wants to be alone, asking us (kindly) to leave. I generally go into the next room to do laundry but sometimes I’m just out of reasons to be upstairs with her and would rather be prepping dinner, for example.
To me, 2.5 feels too young to be playing alone on a floor of a house, but she’s my only/we’re struggling for #2, and sometimes I find that I infantilize her probably as a result. We have a camera that allows us to see +/-80% of the room. I can stand at the bottom of the stairs and see directly into her room at the end of the hall. If we go through and seriously ‘baby proof’ for independent play, does that seem reasonable?
No Face says
My 2 cents: she is old enough to play by herself in her room. I was definitely letting my kid do her own thing in her room while I cooked or had my own quiet time at that age. I live in a split level (high five) and can hear her door open from my kitchen and living room.
I also think the camera is unnecessary, but I’ve never had cameras in my house so I could be an outlier there.
As for as baby proofing, make sure the furniture is anchored to the wall. I don’t know what else you would need to do.
Lily says
How awesome she wants to play independently at 2.5! This seems totally reasonable. If you are truly worried, you could always put a audio baby monitor in there and listen while prepping dinner etc. My 3 year old often plays by himself in the basement while I deal with the baby upstairs. We had an issue this morning when he used an entire roll of blue tape to “do construction” but never has attempted anything dangerous.
Lily says
Editing to add we attempted independent playtime once he was a little more than 2 but he would only stay for a few minutes until he was closer to 3.
Anonanonanon says
Definitely reasonable, especially with a camera in there! I think I’m slightly more conservative than average for this stuff judging by this board, and I think it’s reasonable provided the furniture is bolted into the wall, nothing heavy on shelves or dresser surfaces she could pull down on herself (like a lamp) etc.
Anonymous says
Oh I think 2.5 is totally fine, just check on her every 10-15 mins. We live in a split level and I can hear if there’s an issue. I mean it depends on the kid, but my DD generally doesn’t get into too much mischief.
FWIW – I’m currently a SAHM (former working mom) and I find that SAHMs are a little more comfortable with independent/lightly supervised play due to pure necessity of needing to get stuff done around the house.
Anonymous says
Is there a concern other than independent use of the stairs? My older child couldn’t be trusted on the stairs till more like 3, but current child can pretty much be trusted at 24 months and I’m sure will be fine by 2.5. Is the other concern getting into mischief in other rooms? You will find with that, it really varies by the child and the changes as the kid ages. Like my older child is incredibly cautious, and at that age was unbelievably rule following and would NEVER have occurred to him to mess with grown up stuff. But at 5.5, he’s more into mischief and will go intentionally grab stuff or try to cook something or paint his hair or stuff like that, so honestly in some ways he was easier to leave alone at 2.5 ?.
Anon says
Yeah I’ve been surprised by how much of a rule follower my 2.5 year old is! You hear all this stuff about how hard this age is, but some kids don’t really display that much defiance.
Realist says
Seems totally reasonable, but I would childproof the room very well. Remove any heavy furniture and other items that could lead to damage to her or the house (free access to markers will eventually lead to marked up walls or furniture, for example). Any large items that could fall on her and that she could not lift off of herself should be removed or secured. This could include things like a large dollhouse, tall lamps, or other items that you might not normally think of as something you have to childproof. Childproof cords, outlets, windows, etc. (Can you tell that I had a child that would automatically be attracted to the most dangerous thing in the room and start interacting with it in the most dangerous way possible, with absolutely no sense for self survival?) An audio monitor would seem to be more useful than a video camera. If I’m busy doing other things, I would be much more likely to notice if it suddenly goes quiet (usually a bad sign) than to remember to keep looking at a video screen. Encouraging independent play is definitely a good thing and you should be happy to have her taking this up on her own at age 2.5!
Spirograph says
Oh yes, 100% remove coloring implements if you do not want your walls decorated. Also, stickers. It was not my original intention, but gave up on preventing unsanctioned art on the kids’ room walls and figure we’ll repaint within the next year, now that they’re all old enough to know better (in theory!).
Anonymous says
Yeah the second they wanted to was fine by me
Anonymous says
+1 – he’s 8 and I’m still waiting
Spirograph says
It seems reasonable to me even without the camera. I definitely let my youngest play alone in his bedroom at that age (not that he had a ton of opportunity to play alone with 2 older siblings). Granted, that’s the lazy parenting of a third kid, but the kids’ room is babyproofed in that it has furniture anchored and no dangling strings for the blinds, and I figured that he’d yell loudly enough for me to hear if anything bad happened. I guess the older kids’ toys might have presented some choking hazards, but mostly he would just sit up there and build train tracks or block towers, or look at books. I’d peek in every once in a while and call it good.
The kids bedroom was on the main floor of the house when my older kids were that age, so within clear earshot and a few steps of the kitchen. I also let them play alone in their room with only occasional peeks, but I know that’s not really the same as being on a different level of the house.
Anon says
My 2.5 year old won’t play alone but if she would I’d be absolutely delighted. We didn’t even do any baby-proofing, other than anchoring her dresser to the wall.
Anon. says
Same. Oh how I wish my three-year-old would engage in more play alone.
OP says
Thanks, all! Sounds like I really need to embrace it, and I will. She’s defiant in every other way but maybe this quiet time will do her some good.
Pogo says
I think we started allowing it around 2y8mo, when my son transitioned to his big boy room. Everything is anchored and otherwise babyproofed in his room. I put a childproof lock on the other rooms that I don’t want him going into on that floor. He does have access to the bathroom, so if it’s TOO quiet I go check that he isn’t unrolling the toilet. He has never tried to flush a toy but that’s my other big concern. I can totally see him be like “but mommy the dino just wanted to go fwimming!” as our bathroom floods with water.
Anon Lawyer says
I vaguely remember someone here recommending a book on only childrern/being one and done. Does anyone remember the name or author? Or have something you’d recommend?
anne-on says
One and Only I think? It’s rather academic so if you’re looking for more on how to parent an only child then it likely isn’t for you.
Anon says
One and Only by Lauren Sandler is the one that’s always recommended. Fwiw, I’m a really happy only child (seriously, I had the BEST childhood and wouldn’t change a thing) and am 99% sure I’ll be one and done myself, so I expected to find that book validating and comforting, but I did not. It actually made me feel kind of bad about being/having an only. I feel like someone else said the same thing here recently. So I would recommend a diversity of perspectives and especially talking to people who are or have only children, not just reading that book.
Anon Lawyer says
Thank you! I’m still in the decisional phase. I have a brother with whom I have a good, albeit not BFF, relationship. Probably time to set up some virtual coffee dates with friends who are only children or have them. :-)
Anon says
i think just like most things in life, there are pros and cons to all situations. no one “right” choice and obviously so dependent on the individual personalities of the parents, the children and other life circumstances that get thrown your way. i have a sibling who had a lot of behavioral issues and often wished i was an only child, but now that we are adults and dealing with a host of aging parent issues i am glad to have one. i once asked my mom if she wished she had stopped at one child (i’m older) knowing the issues that my sibling presented and i have the kind of relationship with my mom where she would be comfortable being totally honest and she said she still would’ve had a second bc she didn’t feel complete until she had one and always envisioned having more than one, even though it made parts of her life much more challenging. that being said, DH and I strongly considered being one and done, but ended up with twins, so the decision was made for us. i see a lot of positives to being an only child and/or only having one child.
Anon says
A lot of my friends are only children (anecdotally, we seem to find each other) and in the interests of full disclosure most of them are not as happy about it as I was. But a caveat is that none of their parents chose to stop at one. They either had fertility issues or were affected by China’s one child policy. Apparently stopping at one by choice like my parents did was very unusual in the 1980s. I think kids are more intuitive than we give them credit for, so if you feel that not having a second child is a loss, your kid may too. But if it’s a choice you make and you pitch it as a positive thing, your child will likely feel that way too. Just something to keep in mind if you’re going to interview people about their experiences.
Boston Legal Eagle says
This is so true, on whether the parents chose to stop at one or not. I too am an only child and know that my parents (well mom more) wanted just one. The other only children that I know (yes, we do seem to find each other!) are just as happy as other people that I know. Everyone has their struggles, but no more or less due to being an only child. And while siblings are built in family for better or for worse, we only children can still have spouses to rely on and close friends as well. I’ll caveat this by saying that I have two kids, but we wanted more than 1.
Postpartum workout says
I was recently cleared to start exercising again postpartum. Pre-pregnancy I ran and did the BBG workouts both of which I enjoyed.
I’m a little concerned about starting any high impact exercise so soon because I had a somewhat physically traumatic birth with a significant tear. I don’t have any incontinence issues luckily, but have heard that high impact workouts like running so soon can cause more damage. No evidence of severe diastasis recti.
Does anyone have suggestions for specific workouts or videos that are good for postpartum? It goes without saying that I need to do them at home and ideally less than 30 minutes. Im thinking about just starting the BBG workouts again and doing low impact modifications for the cardio, but it does get boring. I have a mat and a set of the adjustable dumbbells
Anonanonanon says
Love Melissa Wood Health workouts. She has a whole pre/post-partum series. Workouts range from 7 minutes to 30, just arms or just abs to whole body. Sort of a pilates meets yoga vibe but is the only workout I actually feel energized after doing and you’ll be surprised how sore you’ll be the next day!
Anon says
I did pilates but that may not be what you are looking for.
Anonymous says
You might want to check out Moms Into Fitness as a starting point. For a reasonable subscription price you get a pretty decent library of workouts, many of which are specifically for pregnancy or post-partum. I had a bad tear as well during my first birth and it’s the option that has felt most safe to me now, during my second pregnancy. The overall vibe is little bit suburban housewife, but the actual content is pretty good.
FVNC says
+1. Someone on this s i te recommended Lindsay Brin after my now-7 yr old was born. I still have an old dvd of her bootcamp program, and it’s totally cheesy, but I liked her sweet encouragement and the workouts were great. I don’t use it much as I don’t have a dvd player anymore other than on a 10+ year old mac!
strollerstrike says
Check out bodyfit by Amy on youtube. I love her workouts, she has different levels for postpartum. I didnt have diastasis rectis either but I liked her abs videos just to be sure and ease into it.
Also BBG has a postpartum series in her sweat app. I found it to be a little too slow though.
Pogo says
FWIW I did start running around 6w PP with my first after a super tough birth (30 hours, 5 hours of which was pushing out an almost 9lber….) and never had pelvic floor issues. See how you feel and trust your body! It’s not a 1:1 correlation – my SIL has two easy births and was very slow to ramp back up to any kind of exercise, and 6 years PP she needs a pad when she jumps on a trampoline. I think there’s a genetic component/how your body is built that determines if you’ll have issues or not. Another friend only had 1 C section and had terrible pelvic floor tightness that I never had either. I think it’s great we are shedding more light on pelvic floor recovery, but it doesn’t mean everyone had issues OR that if you had a tough birth with tearing that you’re doomed.
GCA says
Responding (very) late. I’m a runner and used ReCORE Fitness for core and pelvic floor work. It’s a paid program (video download) but well worth it. Even if you don’t have diastasis recti or incontinence, you may still have a weakened pelvic floor, and I really wanted to get back to running safely.
Anon says
Why am I not rich? On days like today I think I’d be a great stay at home mom.
Anon Lawyer says
I’ve decided that working 3 days a week and having 4 days of childcare would be ideal.
Anon says
YES! This is exactly what I’d want in a perfect world too. Three day weekends with my family and a fourth day just for myself.
Anon says
I think we will never feel rich enough. My family has a lot more money than most of the country (but much less than much of this board) and objectively probably are rich, but it’s hard to feel that way – “rich” are always the people a step above you, right? Anyhow, I’m a SAHM anyway because you only live once and, realistically, we make more than enough money for our needs
Anon says
That’s interesting. I know that some very rich women stay home, but I’ve never thought of SAHMs as a group as rich. In my area it’s the lower middle class families that typically have the mom stay home, because childcare is too expensive (especially since they often have 3+ kids) and would more than cancel out the salary a second working parent would bring in. The doctors/lawyers/engineers are way more likely to be in two working parent families, because the family can afford to pay for childcare.
Anonymous says
This is like my area in Canada. If women are making less than 50K a year they tend to stay home after kid #2 or 3 because the child tax benefits offset the lost income and daycare costs. Working moms are super common in the upper middle class set, and then the wealthiest moms tend to work only part-time – think like family doctor working 2 days a week or yoga teacher who teaches 3 classes a week while kids in school.
Anonymous says
Where we live the SAHMs are not rich, and more educated women are more likely to be able to afford to continue working. However, I suspect that OP feels the same way that I do: *I* personally would have to be quite rich to be comfortable quitting my job, whether or not the SAHMs around me are rich.
Anon says
yea i am well educated, but work in a low paying field and can only afford to do so because of what DH earns. and honestly id be miserable as a SAHM with two toddlers, particularly during covid. if we were uber rich and could afford part time childcare with me not working, that sounds tempting
No Face says
I want the rich version of SAHM, not the normal version. In the rich version, you can afford someone to do all the cleaning, childcare for part/all of the week, all the activities you want for yourself and your children, etc. Some of my friends’ moms lived that life and I would take that in a HEART BEAT now.
Anon says
Fair enough. I joke in earnest that I work to fund my luxury vacation habit, so I suppose I would probably stop working too if I became independently wealthy.
Anon. says
Same. I frequently comment that we could live on my husband’s salary alone, so mine (which is larger than his) is purely to fund vacations.
Anon says
Oh yeah, lots of SAHMs I know stay home because they feel like it’s not worth it to work based on the profit they can earn. I make way more than my husband and we couldn’t survive on his income alone, sadly. In my SAHM fantasy I’m a super rich so that we could both stay home.
Anonymous says
In my SAHM fantasy we are super rich, but my husband still goes to the office every day.
Very anon for this says
I’m essentially a SAHM. My work is extremely flexible, but I don’t know when, if ever, I’ll make substantial income from it. I’m the primary parent for sick days, school closures, and pandemic schooling.
I’m grateful I can mostly put aside work as needed, and not have to put forth the hurculean effort that would be required if I was still in big law during the pandemic (or frankly, big law before the pandemic with young kids).
However, especially without much time to work in 2020, I feel my identity slipping away. I miss lawyering and being on top of my really interesting practice area. I miss getting paid to advise on significant decisions. I don’t know if I’ll be marketable, or if my skills will be beyond rusty, when I’m ready to work again.
I really wish meaningful truly part-time work was available to me.
Boston Legal Eagle says
After Friday’s news, I’ve even more inspired to stay in the workforce. I need way more sleep than apparently RBG did (I literally don’t know how she did it), but I hope that my difficult days now will make the future easier for the next generation.
Anonymous says
I’m actually more discouraged. Every time I think about RBG I realize what a waste my own career is, and that the world would have been better off if I’d stayed home to focus on my kid instead of running myself ragged being mediocre and inconsequential at work and as a parent.
Anon says
Same. I feel more discouraged when I think about RBG. My career is completely unimportant (not just like “not-a-Supreme-Court-justice-unimportant” but *really* unimportant), I’m not that great at it and I think I’d be a happier person and better mom and wife if I weren’t half-a$$ing both work and home life.
Anon says
Yes, I had a female mentor asking if I had read Lean In and I was thinking that I bet she had some serious regrets after her husband died, but imagine how much deeper those regrets would have been if she had been stuck in middle management at some bland corporation. I know in the big picture of things that’s it’s important for society for women to be everywhere, even working boring jobs, but it doesn’t feel exciting to be just another worker bee in a sea of millions.
ElisaR says
has anyone ever made a claim on an umbrella policy? just curious what types of things get covered?
Anonforthis says
It depends upon the wording of the policy, but most umbrella policies provide additional liability coverage for automobile accidents, injuries at your home, boating accidents, dog bites, defamation/libel lawsuits, ect. Just make sure you have the correct underlying policy limits typically minimum of $250k in underlying coverage, but check your policy requirements.
Done Pumping? says
Will someone please give me permission to stop pumping for my 8.5 month old? I know I’m being ridiculous, but sometimes you just need some validation that it’s going to be okay.
With my first I pumped for 10ish months (I think?) and completely stopped nursing after a year. This time around I’m just over it. She’s getting combo bottles already at daycare and is happy to drink formula when offered. We still nurse in the morning, but even that is starting to get old as she’s hardcore teething and has never been a peaceful eater. I wanted to BF as long as possible to keep the antibodies flowing as we hit cold/flu season and maybe to assuage my (unfounded) guilt of sending her to daycare amidst a pandemic.
So I needed to vent/whine. And maybe hear it from someone that I’m not a terribly selfish mother if I give up on pumping for no good reason other than I’m just over it. Why is this such an emotional decision?!
Anon says
Lol I felt the same a couple months ago when I stopped pumping but in hindsight I should have stopped sooner. Pumping is the worst and it sounds like your baby doens’t gaf either way. On the bright side, I think my daycare had been way more focused on keeping things clean and not mixing the kids together so we haven’t gotten sick at all recently.
Anonymous says
Internet stranger permission granted. Seriously though, don’t torture yourself over this. Stop 100% if you want, baby will be fine. Or, stop pumping and then reassess. Once you take off the pumping pressure, you may find you’d like to keep nursing morning and evening, or you may decide to stop entirely. Separating the stopping pumping from the stopping entirely also helps with the hormone drop because it stretches out the drop a little. In my experience you usually get 3-4 months max out of morning/evening feeds if you are not pumping during the day. But YMMV of course.
Anon says
Do it! I went back to work around 4 months and stopped pumping around 6 months (?) I think. I just hated it so much and my kid was totally happy with formula. We kept nursing morning/evening/weekend until almost 18 months, but even if you choose to stop nursing completely, you’ve given your baby so much breastmilk already. And, yes, another vote that the daycare Covid precautions are effective against illness in general. We’ve been back two months without so much as a runny nose, knock on wood. Last year in September we had croup and a cold that turned into an ear infection, and that kicked off a very long winter that included RSV, the flu (despite getting the shot), and lots and lots of ear infections. I’m crossing my fingers that we’ll have a lot less of that this year – one small silver lining of the pandemic, I suppose.
layered bob says
Yep, stop pumping. FWIW, I hated pumping but after I decided to stop, I found I didn’t hate it nearly as much when I pumped just once a day and only on days I felt like it/wasn’t too busy, and ended up continuing to do that for about 6 weeks after I had decided to stop. I also enjoyed nursing more without the pumping pressure and would nurse once during the day on weekends in addition to am/pm, and that was enough to keep up my supply for another year (not saying you have to nurse for another year or another minute, that’s just what worked for me).
Anon says
I felt the same way when cold/flu season was approaching and i was so over pumping for my twins who were around 6 months at the time. My pumping got messed up when we flew which was a blessing in disguise bc i was sooo much happier once u stopped. My bff is a pediatrician and she sent me studies showing that breastmilk makes the most difference in the first four months and after that not as much, which made me feel better at the time
Anonymous says
Permission granted to stop. my pediatrician also said the first four months were the most critical in terms of breastmilk.
Anonymous says
I know it’s a bit late in the day, but I am searching for recommendations for toddler boys bibs. My son was a happy spitter/major drooler as a tiny infant (major drool especially as teeth came in). We had a whole drawer of bibs, and loved the green sprouts ones the best. Now we appear to be in another teething phase and there’s lots of drool, but all the baby bibs are too small. I got some of the green sprouts toddler bibs, but am not liking them as much as the baby ones. What are people’s favorite cloth bibs for toddlers?
Internet is bringing up either waterproof ones for eating, or bandana style ones. I really don’t care for the look of the bandana ones, and we don’t need the waterproof food ones. Thank you!
Anon says
We have some Tommee Tippee ones with extra fabric at the neck which was awesome for drool. I found the bandana ones worthless, possibly because my first was very small so they would hang down too much and he’d spill food all over his clothes.
The waterproof ones are also good for drool and hold up well.