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Week in the Life of a Working Mom: Legislative Staffer in Texas

Week in the Life of a Working Mom | professional working moms· working moms in the south· working moms of only children

For this week’s installment of our Week in the Life of a Working Mom series, I’m happy to introduce CorporetteMoms reader S, who lives in Texas with her husband and daughter and works as a legislative staffer. Our usual caveat applies: Please remember that this is is a real person who has feelings and isn’t gaining anything from this, unlike your usual friendly (soul-deadened, thick-skinned, cold-hearted, money-grubbing) blogger — so please be kind with any comments. Thank you! — Kat

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First, Some Basics About This Working Mom…

Name: S
Location: Live and work in suburban and rural Texas
Job: Legislative staffer working outside the Capitol
Age: 39
Home Situation: I live in a two-story suburban home with my government-employee husband and one school-age kid, with another kiddo on the way. 
Childcare Situation: My daughter attends school and we have occasional after-school child care, but not regular. We spend $300 a month for after-school activities.

How is the work-life balance in your industry in general? What are common ways of juggling responsibilities that you see your colleagues and coworkers doing? 
On the district/constituent services side, work/life balance is easier to achieve, and most do pretty well with a mix of school and child care for kids. It depends on combined incomes — legislative staff, even in district, don’t get huge paychecks, so a lot of us rely on flexibility from our bosses.

How do you handle household chores, such as laundry, grocery shopping, housecleaning, etc.? Who does what, and when — and how often? 
I handle most of the regular household chores with our kid beginning to pitch in regularly. Laundry happens as needed — “If you see it needs doing, you do it” is our casual policy. I use grocery delivery to take a major timesink off our schedules. As the weather improves, we’d like to add lawn service to our expenses but can’t make the budget stretch.

A Week in My Life

Sunday

10:00 a.m.–1:00 p.m. Church, where we have multiple duties; we take separate cars because husband has to be there earlier than I do. Afternoon resting for the week ahead, catching up on email or other mundane parts of our jobs. Kiddo occupied with books and tablet access.

Monday

Husband takes kiddo to school, I work from home for the day, catching up on constituent correspondence and taking calls. A quick stop in at a luncheon to give a legislative update, but back online immediately after. I go offline at 2:30 to pick up kid from school and take her to dance class. During the hour she’s in class, I work on responses and eat a late lunch/early dinner. Grocery delivery between 5:00 and 6:00 p.m., and laundry folding while I walk kiddo through reading homework. Husband gets home after 11:00 p.m., so dinner is a very casual convenience food affair for all. Kiddo in bed by 9:00 p.m.

Tuesday

I take kiddo to school at 7:20, then come home to get ready for meetings over coffee and lunch. I can dress fairly casually for informal meetings — a blessing, because I haven’t had time to shop for maternity wear yet. Kiddo has a special art class after school, at the school, so I have an extra hour and use it to pick up some maternity blouses and make some phone calls for the volunteer work I do. I pick up the kiddo at 4:00 and we head over for a vision therapy appointment she has. Dinner is light, husband home around 9:00 p.m. and kiddo in bed when he gets there.

Here is some more information from S about her volunteer work: 

I serve on the board of directors for a statewide political organization and have been on that board since 2011. It requires some travel, and I’m around a lot of women through it. Through the positions I’ve been in on the board, I’ve picked up or honed skills that help in my regular employment. I’ve organized large conference-style events, worked with multiple volunteers for a variety of campaign and advocacy needs, and I’ve had to work with individuals with a wide variety of backgrounds and in very different life stages than my own. The connections alone are invaluable. I think finding a volunteer outlet is a great idea for women who are interested in broadening their professional network and skill set, especially if that volunteer role ties back to your career in some way.

Wednesday

A much longer day. Kiddo and I run behind by ten minutes; she’s not late, but she misses walking in with friends. Internet down at home and at local coffee shop and restaurant options, so I spend a good portion of the day troubleshooting that. Run to district post office to pick up mail, answer media calls about district issues. Pick up kiddo on time. Pregnancy symptoms in high gear, so we make an early evening of it and homework goes untouched. Husband home late.

We asked S for more details about how her pregnancy is going — and also asked about her planned maternity leave: 

My pregnancy has been going pretty well; I’m due in September. I’m classified as “AMA” (advanced maternal age) so I have a few extra appointments and things to deal with. The biggest challenges in terms of work has been 1) finding affordable maternity workwear and 2) scheduling what can be rather long appointments around my work schedule, which is erratic some weeks, and my daughter’s schedule. I had to find an ob/gyn with a small practice and early hours, and thankfully did. For maternity leave, I can take the standard six weeks and work with my boss on flexibility after that. As of this writing, we haven’t had an in-depth discussion about those details, but I am going to rely on the ability to do some work remotely.

Thursday

On time today for school, then wait at home for internet service repairman. Find out there’s just a lag in service generally in the area, but it’s working fine by early afternoon. Break away for chamber of commerce ribbon cutting in district, one hour round-trip. Open inbox to find over 300 constituent emails waiting to be catalogued in system. Begin work on that before picking up kiddo, who comes home with a request for a parent-teacher conference. Start that process, then take kiddo out for a fast food dinner and shopping for this weekend’s class birthday parties. Help kiddo with reading homework for an hour. Another late night for husband, as we’re in legislative session and his job requires him to be at the Capitol late.

Friday

Husband’s day to take kiddo to school. Conference call with staff, first and only contact with them for the week. One hour. Then work on emails and correspondence before getting ready for a checkup at the ob/gyn. Spend a little time on shopping for work maternity wear online in between, and updating calendar for the coming week. Set social media posts for office for the next few days and prepare press releases for legislation. Kiddo has Scouts in the afternoon, so pick up late. Plan on dinner out as a family if husband home by 6:30, but otherwise be prepared with dinner at home.

Saturday

Early morning, kiddo watches cartoons while husband and I catch up on emails and household chores. It’s raining, but we have three birthday parties on the calendar, one of which is a family event, so we split up and cover all of them. Dinner is pizza, because we’re all exhausted, and it’s an early night.

Here’s what S had to say when we asked her to pass on advice about kids and chores: 

My daughter is elementary-school age. I consider the chores I give her to be what she does to contribute to the household, and have always talked about them that way. She is in charge of feeding our dog in the latter part of the day; if she’s not home to do it, or if something else gets in the way, I have her do something else to replace it. She is also in charge of putting away her own clothes, dusting furniture she can reach, and cleaning her bathroom. I’d like to better schedule it, but at this point in our busy lives, things happen when they happen, so I just include her when I’m doing things myself. Over the years, I got her ready for her own responsibilities by having her help me with mine whenever possible, and she sees both her father and me do work around the house. That example is crucial, but they also have to understand — everyone has a role to play and something to do.

Thanks so much to S for sharing a bit of her life as a working mom! Readers, what’s your biggest takeaway from her week of work as a legislative staffer as well as her general work/life balance?

Stock photo via Stencil.

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Comments

  1. anon says

    06/27/2019 at 12:29 pm

    love these posts! i know this isn’t part of the questionnaire, but i think it would be helpful to include info up top about HHI and commute length/type and anything that is outsourced.

    • Lana Del Raygun says

      06/27/2019 at 12:39 pm

      Agree!

    • Redux says

      06/28/2019 at 10:07 am

      same!

  2. Anon says

    06/27/2019 at 1:36 pm

    If you don’t mind sharing, what led to your choice (if it was a choice, which I realize it may not be) to have your kids relatively far apart in age? I was pretty sure I was one and done but am rethinking things now that DD is 5 and is much more self-sufficient. At the same time, most of my friends who had first babies around the same time are done having kids, and having a newborn again feels daunting. I’m a little younger than you but not much.

    • S says

      07/07/2019 at 12:18 am

      Hi! Thanks for reading. In answer to your question – there definitely wasn’t a decision made to have our kids so far apart in age. Kiddo #2 is a surprise to us – we weren’t trying to get pregnant. It is DEFINITELY daunting – none of my friends or colleagues are having kids right now, and in fact most took measures to prevent it happening again this late in the game. I’m more than a little shook up about starting over, but when I think about friends who had two under two (or, in the case of one friend, 3 under 3), or my own mom, who had four in five years, I think having a seven year old and a newborn is going to be a blessing. My daughter is a big help already in so many ways, and while I know the transition will be hard, I think it’s a great time in her life to have this happen. To each family their own – you know your daughter and your life situation best, and it may work for you. (My husband is 12 years older than his brother – there is no right or wrong way to do this, we think)

  3. Emily S. says

    06/27/2019 at 2:03 pm

    S., for maternity wear (especially late in the game, when you’re tired of everything you have but can’t stomach buying new), have you tried consignment or second hand shops? I had good luck with maternity clothes on Thred Up; most were only very gently worn (and I sold them back when I was done, so it felt like a small ROI.)

    • S says

      07/07/2019 at 12:30 am

      Thank you for reading, and thanks for the advice. I have had some limited success with ThredUp – finding the time to do brick-and-mortar shopping has been harder. I’m cutting back on commitments that might require me to be dressier than a pair of capris and a light blouse, in part because I just don’t want to spend the money and don’t have time to look very hard! But others whose jobs won’t allow them to cut back, or who need to be dressier every day, definitely look at consignment. Maternity wear, like all things baby-related, is a niche market where manufacturers and sellers can get away with highway robbery – the trick is finding a way around the game!

  4. rosie says

    06/27/2019 at 2:43 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing, S. I have some questions about your work schedule. Do you mostly work remotely? Are you part-time or full-time? I am trying to think through how I might find flexibility in my job vs going part-time and would appreciate any insight from S or others on this.

    • S says

      07/07/2019 at 12:26 am

      Hi! Thanks for reading!
      I am part-time, but only technically – it’s basically so our office can save some money, as the budget for legislative offices is capped and we have to stretch it to accommodate everything we need including staff salaries. I use my husband’s insurance, so the status part works for me. I am also mostly working remotely. I have an office, but the nature of my job is very mobile, so I’m set up to work basically anywhere I have internet. The majority of my job is personal interaction (meetings, lunches, events), so that’s part of why I’m out of the office as much as I am.

      The part-time status also lets me create my own schedule. For example, if I have a meeting-heavy week, I’m likely leaving a lot of my administrative tasks for whenever I can fit them in, allowing me to be online when I can be instead of squeezing it in and feeling overwhelmed. My boss also works with me on this. I generally can’t do a lot of evening events, as an example, or during the school year I try to be “offline” by 3pm so I can help my daughter with homework, do household chores, etc. I’m allowed to be flexible in part because of the field in which I work, which is very “feast or famine,” and because I set boundaries at the time of my employment.

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