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Moving with a toddler? says
Hi – Any helpful books or videos (amazon prime, netflix etc.) to prepare a 19 month old to move cities? We’re moving in May and it feels like it might be helpful to get her used to the idea. I was hoping there was a Daniel Tiger episode for this, but it looks like the population of his neighborhood stays the same.
BC says
I’m pretty sure that when my kids were 19 months old, they would have hardly noticed if we moved. Like, if we went on vacation, that became their new normal within 2 days and they would have lived the rest of their lives like that. If there are people she is attached to that you will be moving away from–and honestly, at that age, I think that grandparents/ aunts/ uncles/ nanny are likely among the few that would really affect her, I would just talk a bit about how they’ll be visiting, etc. But to answer your question, I think both Clifford the Big Red Dog and Curious George go from the city to the country.
mascot says
We moved with our kid around that age and I don’t remember doing much lead up or prep work. We tried to keep things relatively the same with the home routine and didn’t try to make any big developmental moves (this may not be the time to drop the pacifier, start potty training, etc). We’d already transitioned to the toddler bed so that was familiar, as was his bedding and room décor. I did a couple of trial days at the new daycare before I started my new job, but that’s probably not necessary. 19 months is still pretty young and you may be surprised at how easily she adapts. I feel like there is another bout of separation anxiety that comes in that 18-24 month period and that it’s developmentally normal so don’t worry if that pops up. You’d probably being seeing it even if you didn’t move.
AwayEmily says
Echoing what others said — we moved when my daughter was 15 months, and then again when she was 18 months, and both times were not that hard. I think keeping routines the same is the most important (and maybe introducing some new ones now if you don’t already have them in the morning and evening).
Anon in NYC says
The Berenstain Bears Moving Day book helped. My daughter was a bit older (slightly over 2), but we didn’t really start talking to her about the move until about a week beforehand. And then we just talked about going to our “new” home. She didn’t get upset at all. We moved within our neighborhood, so sometimes we pass by our “old” home and we’ll talk about it, but it’s not a big deal. I think what helped with the transition was sending her to school for the day, moving, and unpacking the big pieces for her room all on day 1. So, carpet was unrolled, crib was set up, dresser/glider/bookcase in place, all so that she could just come straight home and feel comfortable.
Moving with a toddler? says
Thanks all! Good to know!
NewMomAnon says
I moved houses with a toddler a couple times, and the advice I got was to introduce the new house thoughtfully – show kiddo where their toys will be, make sure they know where their food is in the new house, and try to keep their bedroom area similar to the old house. The advice I got was also to set up kiddo’s room before you introduce kiddo to the new house, if at all possible, so they have an organized, calm space right away.
Anonymous says
I’ve moved twice with toddlers (22 months and 20 months, different kids, different moves), and agree that they don’t need much prep and will acclimate quickly.
My advice: Do the transition to whatever your new normal is going to be as quickly as possible. For the 20-month-old, we flew from one city and that night we were sleeping in our new city. That transition was great. Even though our stuff was all in boxes and the house was new to him, we unboxed some toys and let him play (it helped that new house was much bigger and nicer than old tiny apartment!), and his bed and bedding were the same as in old house. If I recall correctly, DH actually drove down by himself a couple of days early and got that set up so that we could just show up.
The second move was more traumatic. Kid 1 was almost 4 and Kid 2 was 22 months and we were nomads for 2 months because of the timing of selling our house in old city, then traveling for vacation with family staying at different houses every night, and then flying to our new state to stay with other family and then driving to new city but staying in hotel while house hunting…anyway, it was 2 months between moving out of old house and moving into new house and while we were having fun and vacationing for much of it, it was very stressful for both kids to not have routine and to not have their own home or place of belonging. So my advice is strongly to avoid that kind of scenario.
OP says
Thanks! Very helpful.
Anonymous says
Our trip–definitely not a vacation–to visit my father in law is off to a rousing start. 5 year old managed to step in massive pile of dog poop walking from our apartment building to the cab, which got all over the car. Then he got carsick and puked all over himself and the seat. I gave the driver an extra $20 on top of the tip but I still feel bad.
anon says
Yikes! Sounds like a rough morning for you and your kid! I’m sure the $20 tip is more than the cab driver gets from drunken college students who do the exact same thing on Saturday night. Hope the rest of the visit goes better!
Anon in NYC says
Ugh! Well, it hopefully it will just get better from here!
Redux says
Paging Tummies:
Thank you for starting a great discussion yesterday. I happened upon a really helpful post from a blog I follow called “A Mighty Girl” (which I recommend!) on positive body messaging. You can find it on FB too. Link to follow.
Redux says
https://www.facebook.com/amightygirl/posts/1647236085312698
mascot says
Along those lines, I follow Pigtail Pals and Ballcap Buddies on FB- they have a blog as well and have articles on promoting positive body image in kids.
Tummies says
Thank you, I will look into these!
Anonymous says
reposting from main s*te –
Does anyone have recommendations for a doula in Philly? I’m not sure I even need/want one (can you have a doula if you’re planning for allllll the meds?) but don’t want to rule out any options yet.
Mama Llama says
I wasn’t planning on having any meds, but ended up having all the meds you can possibly have plus an emergency c section. I was so glad to have my doula there, as much for my poor traumatized husband as for me. We don’t have any family in the area, so having that extra person there with baby-delivering experience was really valuable for us.
NewMomAnon says
My doula was med-friendly and at least one time suggested an epidural during labor! Those doulas exist. It’s a good thing to ask about when interviewing them.
Pogo says
Ask your OB for a rec! That’s how I found my doula. The best part is then that doula knows the hospital and the doctors so they’re super helpful during labor. I also ended up getting all the drugs, but my doula was still so amazing.
Examples of things my doula did: went and fetched me popsicles from the common fridge, got the bath running and all set up for me to labor in, fetched me various props (birthing ball, stepstool, chair), advocated for me to the doctors about when to start various meds. These were all facilitated by her being familiar with the hospital – she knew where everything was located, she knew their procedures, and because I had her, my husband could stay by my side the whole time. They were also able to switch off and each get some sleep.
Seriously cannot recommend a doula enough!
NewMomAnon says
Other things my doula did – requested that the nurses crank up the blanket warmer for me toward the end of pushing so that I could have a heated blanket right away (amazing), called kiddo’s dad when he had left for dinner and pushing started, cried with kiddo’s dad when I was unexpectedly rushed into the OR, helped direct kiddo’s dad to follow our birth plan when kiddo was taken to NICU (our plan was for him to follow baby, doula to stay with me), and stayed with me while kiddo was in the NICU with her dad. Ex-husband was also not really functional during labor, so my doula did most of the things that a husband would usually be expected to do. It would have been really hard without her support.
I also requested a narcotic when the window for an epidural passed; the doctor wanted to do an IV, which would have kept me stuck in bed. My doula prompted me to negotiate administration with a regular shot. I would not have even known to start that conversation without her.
blueridge29 says
I did not have a doula, but if you do not have family in the area having an extra person in the hospital is really helpful if you end up having a c-section. Ideally someone is always with you in the hospital (at least the first 24 hours after surgery) and keeping an eye on you. After the baby is out the attention can shift away from the mother, which can quickly become dangerous. I also found it easier to nap in the hospital knowing somebody else was in the room with the baby. Good luck with your doula search!
AwayEmily says
I kind of wish I’d had a doula for my second baby. I think they would have noticed the deep incompetence of my nurse (who did not pick up on the fact that I was transitioning) and advocated on my behalf, which would have meant I would have had time to get the epidural I wanted instead of having to go through an unmedicated birth.
Which is to say, I think doulas are helpful in getting you the birth you want — whether that’s medicated or not.
Pogo says
I would just like to say a big thank you to this s1te for telling me to keep extra bottles at my office. In my eagerness to pack last night, I put my pump parts in my cooler bag but not my bottles (wtf, past me?!).
Luckily I had stashed two bottles here just in case. I might have to dump some to be able to pump a second time with only two bottles or cut the second session short but better than the alternative (pumping into water bottles I guess?).
And I was feeling so bad@$$ because yesterday I presented on a call to 140 people while pumping!
AwayEmily says
Woohoo! Glad it worked out. Another trick that has saved me several times: stash a couple of milk freezer bags in your pump bag, at your office, in the car, everywhere you might pump. That way if you ever need to store extra milk (for example, if you only brought enough bottles for one session but have to pump again), you’ll be able to.
Pogo says
I know, I’m kicking myself for not having extra freezer bags in my office – I keep them in my travel pump bag. I could put the extra milk in a water bottle. I usually pump around 12oz total which jusssst fits in two bottles so I should be OK.
Anon says
Do you have a water bottle that you could put some in so you don’t have to dump it?
NewMomAnon says
I once muled extra milk out of the office in a coffee cup from Starbucks when I ran out of bags….
GCA says
You *are* bad@$$! Hooray for having spare bottles at the office, too. You can always put what you’ve already pumped into a water bottle (bonus: drink all the water, extra hydration!) before you pump again.
Meg Murry says
Is anyone else in your office currently pumping? Can you send them a message and ask if they have any freezer bags with them? When I was pumping there were 4 of us at the office all doing so, and we all had an “OMG I forgot X does anyone have a spare” moment at least once. Which is how I wound up pumping with freezer bags rubber banded to my pump once, and pumping into mugs and then pouring into freezer bags a different time.
Pogo says
That’s awesome! No, nobody else pumping right now. Which is nice because the room is all mine but it does mean no one to fall back on!
Family Drama says
Hello nice women of the internet. Last night I found out via social media that I was not invited to a gathering in which several other of my family members attended. Admittedly, one of the family members and I had a falling out several years ago, but I thought I was friendly with everyone else. This feels like a punch in the gut. I’m trying really hard to accept that I’m just not close with these people anymore (we were once very close, at least I thought), but how can I move on from this? What can I do in the short term to make myself feel better?
NewMomAnon says
Can you reach out to a family member who wasn’t part of the falling out and ask if was a reason you were not invited? It might be that you are still welcome with part of the family, but that this event was organized by someone who doesn’t feel so comfortable, or who didn’t know that things had gotten better. It would just be sad to assume, without any communication, that you were not welcome with everyone if that isn’t the case.
Mama Llama says
I’m sorry, getting left out like that is really one of the worst feelings. I think there isn’t much to do to make yourself feel better other than the passage of time and investing yourself in relationships that are more reciprocal. Also, can you hide or block these people from your social media so you won’t get blindsided like this again? I think the less you know about what they are up to, the better.
Anonymous says
Who organized the gathering? If contentious family member organized, then that would explain why you weren’t invited.
Family Drama says
Thank you for responding; each of you have really good points to keep in mind.
Bedtime woes says
I’m looking for some bedtime advice. I have four year old twins. In the last couple of weeks, Twin A has started to get wild at bedtime. Won’t go to bed, won’t stay in bed. The conventional wisdom that I read is to at least keep her in the room by closing the door, which I am fine with. However, she shares a room with her twin and Twin B is scared to have the door closed. Twin A has also taken to harassing her sister in order to get our attention at bedtime (taking blankets/pillows/etc.) – which is another problem with having them both in there. They are in the process of transitioning from one nap to quiet time and this is probably part of the problem. This transition has been really hard and has lasted a couple of months already. Bedtime has become awful and I am losing my mind. I just want quiet time at the end of the day to sit on the couch and drool on myself while I gear up for the next long day.
I don’t have the space to put them in separate bedrooms. I could put Twin B (who generally needs less sleep) in our room until Twin A goes to sleep (ranges from 10 minutes to 2 hours) . I’m just a little concerned that once Twin B goes back to the bedroom, I will have to change the conditions by leaving the door open and Twin A will revert.
I’ve tried various methods of rewards and punishments. Any advice would be welcome. Thanks.
NewMomAnon says
My standard advice is earlier bedtime for Twin A. What time is Twin A usually going to bed? Now that kiddo is dropping her nap, I have moved bedtime up a full hour, and it’s 100% easier than it used to be.
NewMomAnon says
Have you tried giving Twin B a video monitor but reverse, so that she can see you even if the door is closed? Also, I would not have Twin B in the bedroom while you are doing earlier bedtime with Twin A, especially if Twin A is tormenting Twin B for attention. Siblings…
Bedtime woes says
The bedtime routine is that PJs go on at 6:45 and teeth are brushed. Then they watch about 25 minutes (one episode) of a TV show. Right now its often Daniel Tiger, but there’s a variety. I know this is contrary to standard advice of no TV, but it seems to help them calm down (for a while at least). They get each other pretty rowdy when they are playing. We then have a small amount of milk (2 ounces) and they each read a story. Storytime is in our bedroom because the bed accommodates all of us. When they were little, until about 2 and a half, we did separate storytime: each parent got one child. Then it’s potty and bedtime. I try to get them into their room between 7:30 and 7:45. They sleep until I wake them at 7:45 the next morning. They have always slept late. The amount of time it takes them to actually fall asleep varies. Twin B seems to want to wait for us to come to bed so she often doesn’t fall asleep until 9:30 – 10, which I think is too late and another problem we are having.
NewMomAnon says
Honestly, I would let Twin B watch the show, and start bedtime with Twin A during that time. Aim for lights out with Twin A by 7:15, if not earlier. I would explain it to Twin A in advance – “Bedtime has been really hard, and we need a new routine. We’re going to try this to see if bedtime gets easier.”
This sounds a lot like 4-year-old kiddo’s “way too tired” hyperactive defiance, which usually kicks in about 30 minutes after her “must go to bed now” moment.
Putting Twin B to bed in a separate room and transferring sounds like a good idea, if you can.
Meg Murry says
Do you have a baby gate still that you could put in the doorway instead of closing the door?
Spirograph says
No twins for me, but my 3 and 5 year old share a room. When they’ve gotten particularly bad at bedtime, I separate them. Eg, one goes in my bed, and we transfer her once they’re both asleep. We make it very clear that they cannot go to sleep in the same room if they can’t follow the rules, which is upsetting to them. (Heart-melt moment recently when we visited some friends whose kids do not share a room, and my kids were incredulous: “you mean you sleep alone? all the time? why?!”) After a couple days of cool-down period, we’ll let them try again. Sometimes we have to go through a couple rounds before they get it.
Bedtime woes says
Thanks – I am leaning toward trying this because it seems to be an idea that works for our house setup. When this first started, we would take Twin B out and read her a story while A acted up in the bedroom.
This worked for two nights. Then A wised up and starting destroying B’s bed during this time, which was upsetting to B who wanted to then get back in bed and A went back to being wild.
Anonynous says
I think punishing A by taking away a thing from her bed for each things she messes up on her sister’s bed is fair. As would making A “make amends” by remaking, re-decorating sister’s bed.
biglawanon says
I have 6 y/o twins. I found that the “recommended” bedtimes never worked for my kids after the infant stage. My kids also didn’t nap after their first birthday. Is it possible their bedtime is too early? I couldn’t imagine putting my 4 year olds to bed around 7pm, although I know that is in the recommended range. For reference, my 6 y/os go to bed around 9pm.
Anon says
Same here. My kids (3 and 5, and share a room) get up at 6:15am, and are in bed by 8pm but often don’t fall asleep until 8:30 or 9. No naps.
I’m an evangelist for letting kids play quietly in bed if they’re not tired. Can you get flashlights and books for their beds, so Twin A can “read” to a stuffed animal instead of tormenting Twin B?
Bedtime woes says
Thanks. I am really unsure if the bedtime is too early or too late. They had been at 8 and it became an obvious problem, so we backed it up to the 7:15 start time. But they were napping then so it’s a new ballgame now.
Can you expand on letting the kids play quietly – how does that work out for you? Do you ever go in an tell them to stop/settle down or do they get their on their own?
Thanks to everyone for their input on this thread.
Anon says
We have a specific script we say each night before I leave the room that goes “It’s bedtime, so what do you need to do? [Stay in bed and be quiet.] And what happens if you aren’t staying in bed or being quiet? [You take an animal away.] Right. Okay Mama is going downstairs, I love you!”
I usually give them one (shouted) warning that they’re too loud, and then I will take away one animal each time I need to remind them after that. I’m not afraid to also take away blankets and pillows and they know it because one time I did exactly that, and they still talk about the time they slept on a naked mattress. (I snuck in after they were asleep and covered them up, but the house is warm so they won’t freeze.)
I usually have to take away an animal about once a month at this point (it’s been a year and a half since they’ve been sharing a room and we started this rule) so I consider this pretty successful.
On the sleep thing, how have your kids compared to the guidelines so far? Mine have always been on the shorter end of the recommended sleep guidelines and dropped naps really early compared to others at daycare. If yours have been on the higher end, you might be right to think it’s too late. Good luck!
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Legally Brunette says
Never mind, I got too excited. They opened in Chelsea…in London.
Anonymous says
I also visited their site today and got similarly excited about the Chelsea location until I realized which Chelsea it was :)
TTC and travel says
We are newly TTC and I think I’m getting overly anxious about timing and travel. I travel about twice a month for work, 2-3 days at a time. My husband rarely travels for work. When he has a trip during go-time, i flew out to meet him for 2 days – unfortunately, he can’t reciprocate due to flying anxiety (his), which i’m not inclined to push.
I do have some flexibility over when i schedule trips, but part of me hates the notion of planning to still be trying X number of months down the road in order to schedule accordingly.
Essentially – have you been there and please help me be more rational!
Anonymous says
Since you are only newly TTC and don’t have known fertility issues, try not worrying about when you ovulate and just DTD every second day when you are together – including day you leave for trip and day you return. Per What to Expect When You Are Expecting this method has a pretty good success rate. I found ovulation tracking/testing crazy stressful and I basically developed so much anxiety about it and switched to this instead. It worked within 6 months on each pregnancy. I also stayed lying down with my hips evalvated for about 20 mins after (DH made fun of me for this but whatevs.), no science or book recommendation behind that though.
Anonymous says
The month I got pregnant my husband was out of town when I was actually ovulating. We did it right before he left town and it worked. You’re fertile for 4-5 days around ovulation because sp*rm can live that long in the body (and it’s at least an old wives tale that female sp*rm live longer so you’re more likely to have a girl if you do it several days prior to ovulation — I don’t know how supported it is by scientific evidence but I did have a girl). I wouldn’t worry about it too much unless your trips are consistently falling over your ovulation date and/or you’ve been trying for 6+ months without success. Try to relax! Stressing about this won’t help you conceive. Just do it every other day when you’re together and hope for the best.
CCLA says
I’ll offer a counterpoint – I am one of those people that is less stressed with more actionable info, so I really liked having OPKs (and, the second time around, I even did temping which I thought I never would but really liked having that info) and knowing when to focus on ttc. All that to say, OP, if you’re like that, I don’t think it’s unreasonable or crazy to plan trips around your peak fertility if you’re regular to the point where you can reasonably predict that and it eases your stress to do so. But if that stresses you out, or if you can’t predict your dates with any regularity, or if it’s otherwise negatively affecting your work or personal life, I’d echo prior posters and focus on frequency when you’re together.
Pogo says
Just wanted to say that I similarly freaked out about travel and TTC, and then eventually – IVF and TTC. I want to validate what you’re feeling because it can be so lonely and stressful. I do think it contributed to us having a hard time during IVF. I also got a lot of crap from the nurses because I was always asking how many days til X next step, because I had travel or husband had travel. One of them once said “if you travel this much how are you going to have a baby??” That hurt.
It may take longer than you want, but you can get pregnant even with tons of travel. We did it (my FET was less than 12 hours after getting back from a work trip! talk about cutting it close). And now we have a baby and we both travel and it’s also fine. Crazy, but fine. And worth it!
anon says
What is your favorite chocolate and/or baked goods shipping company? I would like to send some fun edible indulgences to a friend in northern California.
Mama Llama says
Zingermans!
NewMomAnon says
Great minds….
Legally Brunette says
Their magic brownies, especially.
NewMomAnon says
Zingermans Deli!
Blog post about post-term babies? says
This is a shot in the dark, but here goes.
My kiddo was ten days past her due date. Someone sent me an amazing blog post about handling the in-between time after your due date and before you deliver. I now have a friend in this position and I’ve been searching everywhere to find it again and coming up short! Can anyone help me find this again?
lala says
I’ll post the link below, but if you search “mothering” and “the last days of pregnancy” it should be the first one that pops up if we are thinking of the same one.
I was sent this one when I was overdue as well, and found it very helpful.
lala says
http://www.mothering.com/articles/the-last-days-of-pregnancy-a-place-of-in-between/
Frozen Peach says
This is it!! Thank you!!
G says
Hello all! I’m beginning a nanny search in NYC (LO was born in Feb) and wondering if anyone has tips/advice they can pass on. I’m reaching out through various channels, including a posting on Care.com. I’m talking to candidates by phone to get a sense of their vibe and the basics and then will follow up with an in person meeting. I’m still not loving the idea of someone else being with my baby, but I have to start the search sometime and maybe if I find someone amazing I’ll be able to relax for the rest of my leave (I don’t go back until July). Thanks in advance for any advice!!
Anon in NYC says
Check out Park Slope Parents. They have a guide to hiring a nanny that might be useful to go through. Also, join parenting networks for your neighborhood and you can ask around there – some families may be ending their relationship with their great nanny because their kids are in school full time and the nanny is looking to move to a new family.
S says
Do you have a neighborhood parents fb group or listserv to ask for referrals?
G says
I avoid FB (haven’t been on it in over a decade) but I do have a listserv I’ve reached out to with limited feedback so far. Also joining a mom’s group starting next week that I’ll check with. Beyond the “how to find one” question, I’m also interested in interview tips and “I wish I’d known…” advice.
Anonymous says
We found our nanny of almost four years through an agency. I highly recommend this route. The owner of the agency was very good at matching families with the right nanny. Before I decided to go the agency route, I interviewed candidates who looked wonderful on paper and who were promising in phone interviews, but who did not turn out to be good fits for our family when we interviewed them in person. My most important piece of advice is to meet the candidate in person and have them hold the baby! You can tell so much just by the way someone interacts with a baby for 5 minutes. Our nanny is incredibly loving and caring and that came through loud and clear when she met our daughter for the first time.
I also learned from the agency to be very upfront about the hours I needed from the nanny, and not to underestimate. Also be clear about expectations regarding meal preparation and other household chores. Really think through what you’d like the nanny to be doing in that regard. Our nanny does the kids’ laundry and prepares their breakfasts and lunch. It’s a lifesaver. She will also fold my clothes if they happen to be in the machine. She runs the dishwasher daily and leaves a clean kitchen at the end of the day.
RDC paging night terrors says
For the person dealing with night terrors – I posted very late yesterday, so re-posting today. My son had night terrors from about 8months – 2.5 or 3 years. What really helped was the Lully, available on amaz0n. The idea is that the terror is caused by the brain gettin stuck in a deep-sleep “rut,” so the Lully helps jolt them out of that rut and back into a normal sleep cycle. You can achieve the same thing by partially waking the child shortly before their terror usually happens – my sons were consistently 90-110 minutes after falling asleep, so around the 75-minute mark we would use the Lully or just go in and roll him over. Didn’t (usually) wake him completely, but nearly eliminated the terrors (probably a 90 percent reduction on days we used it, occasionally we forgot). He since outgrew them and we don’t have to do it any more. I’ve become a Lully evangelist because our pediatrician was no help and it pretty much solved the problem for us.
RDC paging night terrors says
Eta – I’m not a doctor, so I have no idea if the brain-science is accurate, but it did work in our case. Good luck!
night terrors says
THANK YOU. Last night was fine, but if they restart, I’m trying this! Glad to hear it worked for you!
Potty training says
Looking for potty training advice. We did the 3 day potty training method with my daughter about three weeks ago. It went okay. She went back to daycare and had no accidents all morning the first day, then had one or two in the afternoon. Since then she has had 4-5 accidents a day and has not been going #2 on potty. She wears a pull up for night time and nap and she usually just doesn’t go at all on the weekend or goes in her pull up. At daycare she usually has 1 or 2 poop accidents a day. Lately she has not been wanting to go on the potty for me. She cries and screams no. I’m considering throwing in the towel and going back to pull ups or diapers for a few months but part of me feels like we should keep going. I’m discouraged by the lack of progress and I don’t want her to be traumatized or think its normal to just go in her underwear. She just turned 2 on Sunday so she’s a bit young but she was showing all signs of readiness. Now I wish we would have waited a bit but I’m feeling kind of stuck now.
Ranon says
I bought the Ava bracelet for tracking and TTC. Temping was too stressful for me without the bracelet. It helped me to really understand when I ovulate because it wasn’t near day 14. I highly recommend it. I’m now 30 weeks. doesnt help with the travel but can help with your timing.
Ranon says
For TTC and travel above. I hate commenting from my phone