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Cb says
Friday gratitude check?
I am grateful this week for my nursery for being amazing caregivers. My son split his lip and gave himself a bloody nose at nursery, they called but said he was fine after some cuddles. I am not sure if I didn’t love/trust his teachers so much, I would have felt comfortable leaving him until the end of day.
Anonanonanon says
I’m grateful for my husband’s ability to not “keep score”, which can be difficult in a marriage when you have small kids and demanding careers and everyone is tired. We have a very “from each according to their ability, to each according to their needs” approach to our marriage that allows us each to lean in or out of home duties as necessary to balance other things (health, career, etc.)
I’m also grateful that I have a job I love in a career I love with a salary I love, which is relatively flexible in terms of hours and WFH, and I boss I respect who I feel respects me.
H13 says
This is really inspiring. Thank you for sharing!
mascot says
I am grateful for my son’s reading teacher who is doing a bang-up job of fostering a genuine enjoyment of reading in him. He’s coming around to the idea that a good book is an answer to boredom. We snuggled in bed the other night, each reading our own books and it was awesome.
ALC says
I am also grateful for my kid’s daycare, which is way better than I expected! We’re only two months in but it’s such a load off my mind that I know he’s happy and well taken care of there during the day.
Anon says
We are 8 months in, but same! We had a nanny before daycare and it was not great for a variety of reasons. It is SUCH a relief to see how much my daughter loves daycare and how much she’s learning there academically, socially and emotionally. I was on the brink of quitting my job before we found this daycare. I still think if I were being completely selfish, I would choose to be a SAHM, but am glad I didn’t quit because a) my salary really adds to our family’s financial comfort and b) my daughter really gets a lot developmentally out of this daycare and we couldn’t afford it if I didn’t work.
lsw says
SO grateful for daycare. He learns so much, loves it, and I don’t worry about him at all while he’s there. I also could not be a stay at home parent, so I am really grateful that this option exists.
There is stress in my job, for sure, but I am extremely grateful to be paid well and to have so much flexibility. It has also been awesome to work with some other parents with children in daycare.
Echoing the first response w/r/t my husband. He is an absolutely equal partner and I couldn’t be doing this without him.
Grateful for my son. I never knew if I would have children. He brings stress and chaos but also laughter and joy. I’m still laughing today at last night’s game before bed where he threw himself on the ground and said, “I’m a fossil! Brush me!”
FVNC says
I am grateful for my neighbors on this ice day when schools are closed. Between my high school-aged neighbor and a work-from-home mom neighbor, I’ve managed to cobble together coverage for basically all day. Also extremely grateful that my son’s daycare opened even though public schools are closed!
Boston Legal Eagle says
Like a lot of the responses, I’m grateful that I’ve never questioned my decision to marry my husband and that we were lucky to find each other. Parenting little ones, taking care of a house and dealing with work are all hard hard hard but it makes it so much better knowing that he’s my partner in all of this and that we’ve got the same values.
Grateful for my kids’ daycare caregivers who really should be paid more but hopefully know how valued they are. Also grateful for my parents who come by to babysit almost every weekend and make our lives easier.
Finally, I’m grateful that both my husband and I have MLK off while daycare is still open!!
Anon says
Yay meeeEEeee!
Pogo says
Grateful for our babysitter and her entire family, who serve as my LO’s bonus family. I’m glad he has so many people in his life who care for him and who he loves, too.
The other day I was cajoling him into going to her house and I said, “Baby E is there today – you love baby E!” and he responded, “oh yeah, I love Baby E. And I love [other kid babysitter watches]. I love [babysitter]. I love [babysitter’s daughter]!” When we leave her house everyday he tells me whose car is whose (babysitter’s husband and daughters) and where they are. It cracks me up.
HSAL says
Help me with room planning: currently the 4 year old girl is in her own room in a toddler bed that converts to a full (although I’ll have to buy a kit for that). The 19 month old boy-girl twins are in cribs in their own room. I’m thinking that this summer we’ll move the girls into the twins’ current room and put a twin over full bunk bed in there. The full will give us extra guest space, as well as room for their brother. He’ll go into the 4 year old’s current room, but should I go ahead and switch him to a full or just leave it as a toddler bed for awhile longer? Other ideas? I’m also trying to decide whether to go steps or ladder for the bunk – the ones with steps take up more space but they do have some storage and seem a little safer. Recommendations there?
I could leave everyone where they are, but the four year old will be outgrowing her toddler bed soon so at minimum I’ll need to convert to the full which will require some furniture shuffling. I’d rather not get her a twin.
Anonanonanon says
Sorry, I’m a bit confused. For the twin-over-full bunk, who is going where? is that the only bed in there? Or is the girl twin’s crib going too. Once girl twin outgrows a crib, are you converting it to the toddler bed?
Do you mind explaining why you don’t want to get the 4 yo a twin-sized bed? Will that room fit two full beds easily? If not, I’d be concerned in a few years when she has a full and the girl twin only gets a twin-sized bed. Kids notice and demand explanations for those things. If it fits two full beds, can you do two full beds in there and a twin bed with a pull-out trundle underneath in the boy’s room in case a sister needs to bunk with him when a guest comes?
Alternatively, I would do two twin-sized beds in the girls’ room, one with a trundle underneath that pulls out for brother to sleep on when a guest comes, and have a full-sized bed in his room that a guest can use when necessary. Then, you’re only displacing one kid for a guest instead of two.
It’s really hard to say without knowing how big your rooms are. We’re in a HCOL with teeny bedrooms, so my son’s full-sized bed takes up the majority of his room.
HSAL says
I would put the four year old on the top bunk and the twin girl would get the full. You make a good point about the four year old eventually wondering why the twins each have a full and she has a twin, but I don’t think that would be an issue for the next few years, and we’ll likely be in a new house by then. They do make full over full bunk beds, so that’s an option as well. The room could have two separate beds, but were trying to set it up to leave a bigger play space in there.
Getting a trundle is also a good thing to consider, so thanks!
Anonymous says
Why would you get either twin a full I don’t get it at all. Your older daughter will notice all of this right now. She’s getting shafted
avocado says
I would not be comfortable giving a two-year-old access to a top bunk. I’d get a twin bunk bed and set it up as two twins in the girls’ room, a full in the boy’s room, and either a trundle or an airbed for the boy to sleep on in the girls’ room when you have guests. You can bunk the girls’ beds later on when they are older.
I would not give the girls different-sized beds. It makes sense to give the boy a bigger bed because he will have to give up his room for guests, but it doesn’t seem fair for one of the girls to have a larger bed. Also, as the girls get older and need desks and/or more storage in their bedroom, even a twin-over-full bunk will take up a lot of space and limit your options. My 12-year-old desperately wants a full-sized bed, but she’d have to give up both her dresser and her tiny desk in order for that to work due to the room’s size and configuration.
NYCer says
Any reason you want to separate the twins so soon? If it were me, I wouldn’t separate them yet at 2 years old. Eventually I agree it probably makes more sense for the two girls to share a room and the boy to have his own room, but that shouldn’t matter for several years.
(I don’t have twins, but my sister in law and various other friends do so this comment is based on that only not personal experience. All their twins LOVE playing/being together at that age, even more so than playing with other older siblings.)
Anonymous says
This. My 5 year old twins would not sleep if I put them in separate rooms and they adore their big sister so whoever didn’t get to share with the big sister would think they are being punished.
I would also be super super reluctant to take twins out of cribs unless they are climbing out. You have twice the chance that one will refuse to stay in bed. Plus the risk that they teach the compliant twin to get up.
I’d either get a twin bed and mattress from ikea for older kid (they have some cute reasonably priced kids options) and make bigger changes down the road, or turn the 4 year old’s bed into a full.
Anonymous says
+1 My twins are only 3, but the absolute best threat to get them to settle down and go to sleep is saying that whoever talks next will have to go sleep in a different room for the night. They absolutely hate the idea of not being in the same bedroom.
Anon says
my twins are only 20 months and are just really starting to notice each other, but i hope that they are like this one day!
Anonymous says
Keep the twins in their crib and buy two twin beds for the girls but don’t move girl twin in with her sister yet. Is there a reason you’re rushing to get the twins in real beds? My almost 3 year old is still in her crib and she’s tall. Everyone I know who moved their kids out of their cribs right around two regrets it.
TheElms says
I would leave twins in cribs or if needed convert to toddler beds in current room and convert 4 year old’s bed to a full bed. 4 year old can share with twins on an air mattress when guests come. If you move to a new house down the road you can pick furniture that is best for that house and the age of your kids at that time.
HSAL says
Thanks everyone, this is super helpful. The reason I’m trying to plan ahead is because I’m pretty sure at least one of the twins will be climbing out by then, probably both. And I was hoping to reclaim some play space in the twins’ room by bunking the beds, but you’re probably right that the two year olds shouldn’t have access to a bunk yet (one broke her leg at 13 months falling out of the toddler bed, so clearly I should know better). We’ll probably go ahead and switch the 4 year old to a full and see how long I can keep the twins in their cribs – I think Anon at 9:17 is right that they wouldn’t want to be separated yet.
HSAL says
Oh, and apparently the CPSC says no kids under 6 in top bunks, so I’ll just put this plan on hold for a couple years.
Anonymous says
I’ve heard age 4 as an acceptable guideline for top bunks, so I think I’d be pretty okay with that.
SC says
We bought a twin-over-full bunk bed for my 4-year-old, and he is fine in the top bunk. He climbs up and down safely, and I’m the only person who’s gotten hurt (pulled a hamstring climbing down).
Anonymous says
My son got a top bunk at 5 and my 3 year old climbs up and down safely enough that I’m ok with him having unsupervised access. I have 2 boys and a girl (7,5,3) sharing a room and they are all very happy with the arrangement. Twin over twin bunk for the boys, girl (5) is a night owl so she gets her own twin in an alcove where her reading by nightlight won’t keep the boys awake too much.
Anyway, I’d keep the two s together longer, or even put all of them together if there’s space and the 4 year old likes the idea!
Coach Laura says
The blogger Lag Liv has a twin over double bed for her girls. It has a stair contraption on the side instead of a ladder and she got it for a good price. Post link to follow.
Coach Laura says
http://lagliv.blogspot.com/2018/06/an-updated-girls-room-and-table-for-8.html
Anonymous says
I’d leave the twins together. No reason boy twin needs his own room at this life stage.
Anon says
Yesterday people shared some great book recs for when mom goes out of town for work, but does anyone have any book recs that involve mom and dad just going out and a babysitter coming over?
mascot says
Not a book obv., but I’m sure that our lord and saviour Daniel Tiger has a grown-ups come back episode, complete with catchy jingle.
anne-on says
+1 and oh dear lord do I hate the ‘grow-oh-nup’s come baaaack’ song as much as I respect the message and the ability to share that with kiddos.
Pogo says
yup, grownnnnnupppsss come back!
Allie says
There is a Daniel Tiger book from this episode. It worked wonders.
Cate says
There’s an early reader book called The Best Little Monkeys in the World where the kids get into trouble but then clean up the house while the babysitter is oblivious – my kids think it’s funny.
If a grandparent is babysitting, there’s How to Babysit a Grandpa or How to Babysit a Grandma.
We have another but I’m blanking!
ElisaR says
probably the same author – my son loves 5 little monkeys play hide and seek by eileen christelow…. mama goes out dancing and lulu the babysitter has to put them 5 monkeys to bed. thanks for the reminder – this book is due back at the library!
Anonymous says
The Cat in the Hat?
Anonymous says
The Cat in the Hat should prepare the kids very well.
Anon says
This is exactly what I was thinking!
Katy says
Late reply…. but I really like “Evening at Alfie’s” – the point isn’t at all that that mum and dad are leaving, but in the story he has an adventure while mom and dad are out and the babysitter is there. And everything turns out fine.
Also a plug for ALL the Alfie books. They are british, from the 80s (search Shirley Hughes), so not super common in North America. The whole series is gentle, everyday events. I love them because (I) they seem to really capture the emotions of little ones, (ii) the illustrations are lovely (iii) exposure to different vocab – pushchair vs. stroller and (iv) the harried mom is illustrated looking very “mom-chic” for the 80s. Our two year old loves these books. (Also, nostalgia as I read them growing up…).
Anon4This says
Going off BC (mostly because my Rx is up + we moved + don’t feel like being on it), and hoping to really start “trying” in a few months for #2, knowing that it could happen earlier because we pulled the goalie, or later because, life.
Any recommendations on ovulation apps? Just want to track to know what days I should be more careful and use backup contraception.
Anon says
If you’re not using backup contraception every time, you’re trying for a baby.
Anon says
Not true. If you track your cycle you can absolutely pinpoint your fertile window. I use no contraception and my youngest is 2.5. You do have to be conservative while starting out, and you do have accept there is a possibility of pregnancy (which OP does – and that possibly is also always there with contraception!), but it is scaremongering and, frankly, a disservice to women to imply fertility is a huge mystery and contraception is the only solution. You can learn a ton about your physical and mental health through tracking your cycles. That said, you do have to do a little research to know what you should be tracking.
T says
+1, stopped BC 18 months before intentionally getting pregnant, very successfully did not get pregnant during this time. Completely agree that it is a disservice to women to imply that they are rampantly fertile at all times and to suggest medication as a solution to that. I’ve never felt better about my body, and will not be going back on medication birth control after having this baby.
Anon says
There is non-hormonal birth control, I never said taking pills is the only way to prevent a baby. She said she’s using no contraception.
Anon says
I liked Glow. there is a lot of noise in it, not the least of which is an obnoxious forum, but if you just skip over all of that the calendar tracker is great.
Scilady says
I like Natural Cycles. I used it when I went off birth control pills before trying to conceive. I then used it to help conceive my first and am using it again now that we’re trying for a second.
Anonymous says
Ugh I vote for none of them, because they’ll all sell your data. Use a paper calendar.
Anonanonanon says
I think I’ve let too much of my husband’s West Wing rewatch slip into my consciousness, because I was just looking for cashmere twinsets online for work. With the exception of everlane, they are not easy to find and I am not buying any
I think the twinset should come back.
avocado says
Back then, I thought twinsets were the height of sophistication and owned several. I think that means I am too old to wear them if they ever do come back into style. They just feel dated to me.
I also used to imagine that I would look good in the CJ Cregg uniform of pantsuit + collared shirt left open + cami underneath. Alas, I have never been 5’12” like Allison Janney, and the outfit made me look like a little kid playing dress-up.
Anonanonanon says
I feel like I would look like a teen boy if I tried the collared shirt left open over a cardigan look with suit pants look!!
So many weird things are coming back in style, just give me the twinset, society!
In all seriousness, I can’t decide if fashion has come full circle, if their looks were timeless, or if DC (where I live) just hasn’t moved on fashion-wise since the 90s so it all looks normal to me!
Anon says
Same! I have never been one to wear a collared shirt and blazer because I feel too Italian Mobster in it. I do love a good shell/sweater combo though
anon says
Haha, one of my DGAF cold day outfits is what I call my Donna Moss outfit–a turtleneck sweater and pencil skirt, which I realize isn’t super fashionable but it ticks the boxes for work appropriate attire. It works with my tights when I wear my knee high snow boots on my commute. What always cracks me up is that my colleague who started his professional life during that era (I’m a little younger) without fail tells me how I look so nice on those days.
Pogo says
oh man, I too thought Donna Moss was the height of office fashion. She rocked a twinset and pearls in addition to the turtleneck, too.
Jeffiner says
I have a silky pullover blouse and a cardigan in the same color, and I think they look like a good “twin set.” I haven’t been moved to try the sweater shell with the cardigan, although I do own the matching set and will wear the sweater shell over button-up shirts.
ElisaR says
i miss the twinsets! man i had a lot of them but they were only for “casual day” at my old job because they were so darn conservative.
Anon says
Wearing a twinset today. Land’s End sells them. Try prying them out of warm dead hands!
anon says
My kids (ages 2 and 5) are starting to like salads, but still not reliably. What are your tips for getting them to eat leafy greens? The only way I can think of is with dressing or maybe they will eat them in an omlette/frittata. Any other ideas?
avocado says
I chop up baby spinach and wilt it into pasta sauce. If you chop it up small enough, it’s hard for them to pick out.
As far as salads go, I’ve had the best luck with crispy romaine hearts, chopped very small. Coleslaw is also well tolerated, unless you have a kid who hates creamy dressings. I replace most of the mayo in the dressing with full-fat Greek yogurt.
Anonymous says
We serve it at dinner and usually offer a choice of dressings. Sometimes they only eat one not thank you ‘ bite, other days they eat it all. Letting them help pick the toppings also helps. Mostly seeing us eat salad regularly seems to have helped them think of it as a normal part of dinner.
The key for us to doing salad regularly is keeping it simple – lettuce or spinach and one or two chopped veggies.
AwayEmily says
My 2yo loves greens sauteed with beans and garlic. Lots and lots of garlic. The one thing that STOPS my kids from eating greens (raw or cooked) is when the pieces are too big, so I make sure to chop it super, super small.
Anonymous says
Various dressings to choose from and an adult fork that can actually stab the greens. My kiddo loves salad (4 years old), and it all started when she was really young after she helped me make a green smoothie. She loves smoothies, was helping me make one, and asked to just eat the spinach. She’s loved salad ever since.
Anonymous says
I want to know where one gets one of these exotic children. The notion that dressing or garlic (GARLIC! my son won’t eat noodles with butter if there is garlic involved) would help is amazing to me. Of course, I didn’t learn to like salad or salad dressing until, um, college, so perhaps I am getting my just desserts.
AwayEmily says
I have to say, I think it is 99% luck. We did ALL the “recommended” stuff for our older kid (exposed her to a wide range of tastes/textures! always ate together! no pressure around food! let her pick out new foods at the store! let her help us cook!) and she turned into a mac-n-cheese-only-please kid. With my second, we were way too exhausted for all that and so we fed him on pouches and cheerios and our leftover pizza, and now he is like “MOAR KALE PLZ.” so, who knows.
Boston Legal Eagle says
Once again, AwayEmily, your kids remind me of mine :) Well, minus the loving kale part for the youngest, but maybe in a year? The second currently gets an assortment of pouches and cheerios and whatever big brother doesn’t eat…
CCLA says
Thanks for this much needed laugh and reality check on picky eaters!
GCA says
Don’t worry, it is totally luck of the draw! I have one of these children (he recently devoured a few sticks of celery and an entire sliced pepper as part of dinner, and will frequently beg for my salad) – but the flip side is he didn’t sleep through the night till age 2. Second kid is a far better sleeper and a ‘normal’ degree of picky.
ElisaR says
same
blueridge29 says
Same.
My pickier eater does love green smoothies so I try to make these with spinach a few times a week as a snack. Of course, green smoothies is the ONE thing my more adventurous eater will not eat so I end up making a pink smoothie and a green smoothie.
Anon says
Funny – kiddo (2.5) normally does eat anything other than yogurt, chicken nuggets, bread and grapes, but every now and then she surprises me. Bibimbap ground beef (as far as I can tell, basically ground beef cooked in a nose clearing amount of garlic, ginger and soy sauce according to my probably inauthentic recipe) mixed with plain white jasmine rice gets shoveled in, but the sky will fall if a vegetable gets mixed in.
anon says
My kids (young elementary age) are generally good about veggies (love broccoli and peas in particular) but really don’t like leafy greens. Sometimes they’ll tolerate spinach in fruit smoothies, but otherwise I just don’t push it. I didn’t like spinach as a kid even though I ate lots of other veggies, and came around as an adult.
mascot says
I remember gagging on cooked greens as a kid, particularly spinach. Cooked mustard, turnip, and collard greens were slightly more palatable, but it wasn’t until I got older that I reliably liked them. My 9 year old has the same texture aversion so we have him try small bites regularly with the idea that eventually he may come around. If not, he eats lots of other veggies and loves salads so I’m not pushing cooked greens.
DLC says
I chop up spinach and put it into pasta or stir fries, quiche, or smoothies. Also- my kids (8 and 3) are more likely to eat salad made from cabbage, kale, carrots (i.e. Crunchy greens) than salad made from lettuce. They also really like choosing and making the bagged salad mixes from the store and that encourages them to eat it.
Anonymous says
My similar-aged kids love most veggies, but are meh on raw leafy greens. If we’re eating salads, we’ll usually just give them mostly tomatoes and peppers on their plates, with a couple pieces of lettuce to taste. Occasionally they’ll finish their lettuce and ask for more, but they mostly prefer the other veggies.
We do give them cooked frozen spinach a lot. The most common ways are in eggs, in quesedillas, or just as a plain side dish (sometimes with butter for extra fat/calories).
Beth @ Parent Lightly says
My 5 year old likes to dunk baby spinach in balsamic vinegar. I’m surprised she likes it but whatever works.
Anonymous says
Ha. Vinegar also gets my 4 year old to eat a lot of stuff he wouldn’t otherwise.
IHeartBacon says
When you give them raw leafy greens, chop them up really small, almost like you’re making coleslaw. That way, they’re easier to eat (with a spoon) and they don’t have the texture of a big flat leaf in their mouth.
For cooked leafy greens, chop it up small and put it in your spaghetti sauce, omelettes, etc. if you’re making meatballs, meatloaf, hamburger patties, or taco meat, add it to the ground meat. Use/try all the different leafy greens when you’re hiding them inside food: spinach, kale, Swiss chard, collard greens, Chinese broccoli, bok choy, watercress, arugula, etc.
ElisaR says
spinach in smoothies is literally the ONLY veggie my 3 yr old every gets
Anon says
Don’t feel bad, the only veggie my 2 year old gets is butternut squash maybe once a week or so (because she’s very particular about how it’s made and we don’t have time to make it that way more than once/week, and of course she won’t eat leftovers).
More Sleep Would Be Nice says
C.J. Cregg is a VISION on that show! I’m okay with them coming back, it’s a way to look polished without a blazer.
Jessamyn says
Lazy mom hack of the week — ordering my daughter a 2nd leotard off of Amazon (for $12) to sick in her dance bag while the one she used last week is still in the laundry, so I don’t have to do a special load just to wash the leotard. Anyone else cutting some corners this week that they’d like to share?
Anonymous says
I astounded one of my coworkers earlier this week by saying that we have 2 bento lunch boxes for each kid, so I can pack lunch after dinner but before we run the dishwasher. Totally worth the extra $40 on a spare set (even for a budget-conscious family like ours)!
Anonymous says
We use these, they are $14 for a set of three and have lasted us several years. https://www.amazon.com/EasyLunchboxes-3-Compartment-Bento-Containers-Classic/dp/B004S129AQ. I definitely like having at least 3; we don’t run the dishwasher daily.
Jessamyn says
Love it! That’s exactly what I’m talking about :)
rosie says
Even with 2, I find it takes a little planning to make sure that there is 1 clean & dry midweek (we don’t run the dishwasher every night).
Pogo says
Oh we for sure have two bento boxes!
shortperson says
we have 8 planetboxes for 2 kids. and we get down to the last one almost every week between forgotten lunches, lazy dishwashing, etc
lsw says
I bought the pre-cooked grilled chicken strips at Costco last weekend, and all week I’ve been packing them in my son’s lunch, adding them to dinners, and encouraging my stepdaughter to eat them as snacks.
HSAL says
Are they the ones that come in individual 3 ounce portions? I got those last time and I’m obsessed.
lsw says
Oooo, no, I haven’t seen those! They come in two vacuum-sealed, resealable packs.
Anonanonanon says
My 2yo girl only has one type of socks (white with a little ruffle at the top), that I buy in bulk, so the socks always match and there are always enough. I also buy hair clips in a bulk bag that has more than one set of each color. Eliminates running around looking for matching socks and hair clips.
This week specifically I’ve relied a lot on steam-in-the-microwave frozen veggies for the kids and otherwise easy dinners. (The trader joe’s version of spaghetti o’s is organic, so that with fresh fruit and steamed veggies is OK, right? is to me!) I’ve had hummus and pretzels for dinner every night and I am fine with that.
Preschooler-friendly dishes says
My 3-year-old twins are still eating off plastic IKEA plates, but I’d really like to replace them with something a) non plastic and b) all the same color so we don’t have screaming fits over who gets blue tonight.
Our normal dishes are grandparent handmedowns that are super fragile, so I’m not willing to give them to a preschooler who still occasionally drops plates between the table and the dishwasher. Anyone have recommendations for something non-plastic but still somewhat durable? I think I’ve seen Corelle recommended here before, but anything else people love?
AwayEmily says
Yes, we have a bunch of plain white Corelle plates (the smaller kind) that we use for kid dinner, and sometimes adult dinner too if we’re eating smaller portions. We got a LOT of them, so we also use them when (for example) we have friends over for pizza night.
Preschooler-friendly dishes says
The 8.5″ ones?
AwayEmily says
Yup, those ones.
anon says
+1 Love these (the bowls too) – and we somehow haven’t broken any? We have the divided plates or the regular ones, depending on what we’re serving. I love them and I’m kind of a snob about dishware (like we occasionally use our wedding china)
ElisaR says
one of my early memories as a kid was my dad holding a corelle plate and saying to me “the good thing about these plates is when you drop them…..” (he dropped the plate on the floor and it broke in half to his surprise) “…..they break.”
anon says
haha love this. and i’m one of the +1s here.
Spirograph says
+1 to Corelle. My grandma has place settings for probably 30+ of Corelle. It all fits in the cupboard because they’re so thin. (We only have 4, but will probably get another set and save Ikea plates only for things that need the higher sides. I’m tired of everyone fighting about what colors they get)
DLC says
We use metal plates and bowls (Caveman brand on Amazon) because we like to encourage the kids to clear their plates after meals, but my 2 year old kept tossing them into the sink and breaking them. I decided it was easier at that age to change the plates than to correct the behaviour. They are slightly heavy, but very durable.
Anonymous says
Whole family uses Corelle until the savages are tamed
Anonymous says
Haha, and at what age does that magically happen??
Sarabeth says
We have always used whatever the plain target ceramic stuff is. It mostly doesn’t break, and it’s cheap & easy to replace if it does. Having it be breakable has also helped teach my kids not to just throw it wherever – I think they each broke one plate before they realized that wasn’t a great idea.
Io says
We have Homer Laughlin. They’re advertised as Diner dishes. They ate heavy and relatively plain, but really are sturdy (at least with wooden floors). My kid has never broken one. You can pay a lot and get them from Fishes Eddy. Or you can pay about half that if you’re willing to buy sets of 12.
Girl Scout cookies says
Is there any way or nice language to use to let parents know that I will happily buy Girl Scout Cookies if their child asks me themselves? We are getting a lot of email solicitations from friends asking us to buy Girl Scout Cookies for their daughters, and I feel like, on principal, the Girl Scout herself should be doing the asking and taking the lead on the project. I thought selling cookies was supposed to be empowering and beneficial to the girls, and having parents just send out an email seems to be taking away from that. Or, has the process and expectations of selling Girl Scout Cookies changed vastly from when I was younger? I would love to hear insights into this because I feel like such a curmudgeon that this has been bothering me lately.
avocado says
The girls are theoretically supposed to do the selling themselves, but there are so many restrictions and rules designed to protect the girls’ safety that the parents are now the ones who really end up doing the selling. The recent push for on-line sales further removes the girls from the process.
The girls still take the lead at in-person booth sales. If you want kids directly involved in the transaction, I’d ask the parents for the times and locations of the booth sales and make your purchase in person.
Signed,
I got tired of selling cookies and now just donate directly to the troop
Go for it says
100% agree its part of the learning as a Scout. How do they learn to adult if the grownups strip them of the opportunity to practice!
My response to this stuff has always been light, yet clear….”sure, have X call me and I will place an order with X directly”. If there was parental pushback, I’d repeat.
Jessamyn says
I don’t think you should “tell” your acquaintances you don’t approve of their solicitation email in response to a mass message or posting. If they reach out to you directly, then maybe you say, “Oh, I prefer to give the money directly to the scout if you can have Ava reach out to me!”
I simply ignore the online requests from the parents, and buy my cookies from the girls sitting outside of the grocery store.
Anon says
+1 this is what I do. I was in a similar organization and I remember feeling like it took guts for my shy self to stand outside a grocery store and approach strangers, so I want to reward those girls.
Anon says
Yup, same.
Anonymous says
I am so with you. Nothing annoys me more than the sheets for whatever the sale of the week is being left out in our work break room. I’ll literally buy from any kid who comes to me directly (be it at home or in my office), but never from parents (except my sister for my nephew on some fundraising stuff).
anne-on says
I think it VASTLY depends on the age/goals of the scout and troop. I know some (but not all) troops are now issuing badges for coding/marketing – the girls themselves are helping to build the sites and put together the email language. I’ve seen some acquaintances share those custom sites on my social media feeds.
However, if that is NOT the case, I agree with you – the point of this exercise is to teach the kids selling/making change/speaking with adults/etc.
Pogo says
I agree with you but I also recall other girls in my troop sending the sheet in with their dad to work (back when it was all on paper) to rack up sales at the office, and I felt like this was cheating – so it’s not new. The e-mail or FB posts feel even less genuine on the part of the scout.
Anonymous says
At a small business I once worked for that had a sales conponent, the owner had a policy that kids of employees were always allowed to come in and sell for fundraisers, but there was a hard prohibition on parents asking on their behalf, or leaving order sheets in the break room. I thought that was pretty fair. I always buy from kids going door to door, I hated doing that SO much as a kid, and want to reward their slog.
Anonymous says
Omg no get off your high horse. Buy cookies or don’t but no there’s no way to say this that isn’t awful. Honestly the nonsense some people come up with.
Anonymous says
I see at as more of a PSA, because some of us really need that Samoa hook-up. A lot of the kids involved in my case are too young to email. One coworker had her tween daughter create the form and type the email, and then her mom sent it, which I thought was a good compromise for work.
Jeffiner says
I just found out my current pregnancy will be a miscarriage, again. My first pregnancy was normal and resulted in a healthy baby, but since then I’ve had two miscarriages, some failed IUIs, and some failed IVF rounds. The only explanation the doctors can offer is my age (I’m 39, was 37 when we started trying for number 2). Has anyone’s RE done any immunologic testing for fertility issues? A coworker and his wife successfully did Leukocyte Immunization Therapy (LIT), does anyone else have experience with that?
Anon says
No advice, but I’m so sorry. Hugs <3
Go for it says
+2
rosie says
No real advice, but hugs and I am sorry for your losses. The only things I would ask is if you are doing any testing of the embryos pre-transfer? Or are the IVF cycles failing before you can to transfer? If you have a d&c, can you have testing on the fetal material to try to gather more information?
Jeffiner says
Thank you. We didn’t do any special testing on the IVF embryos, but they were all of good quality. However, all 3 of my pregnancies have occurred the old fashioned way. I didn’t have a d&c the first time, but I am definitely asking for one this time.
More Sleep Would Be Nice says
No answers, but sending good vibes of love and support.
buffybot says
I’m very sorry for your loss – that is so hard. I’m assuming you’ve done the standard recurrent loss testing and found nothing? If you’re doing IVF, are the embryos PGS tested? If not, I would assume that would be the first thing to try.
I never had an identified miscarriage, just a stubborn inability to get pregnant (IUI and a few failed IVF transfers of PGS normal embryos). My RE recommended on the basis of some genetic testing that I see a reproductive immunologist. I know there’s a fair deal of skepticism, but the doctor did a panoply of tests and came to the conclusion that I was (in his words), “so, so autoimmune”. Then stuck me on the protocol that everyone seems to get put on — steroids, a bunch of vitamins, baby aspirin (and later lovenox), intralipid infusions, and then IVIG. The lack of true customization and the fact that insurance of course NEVER pays for these things gave me a healthy dose of skepticism — but at that point, I was willing to give anything a try that didn’t have a notable risk. Whether it was the protocol or sheer luck, that transfer stuck and I now have a 2 year old son. The doctor seems to have quite a lot of patients with similar success stories, but I don’t know that the clinical numbers really support the treatment outside of just anecdotal reputation. It comes down to resources and emotional capacity, I think — for me, it was worth a try because frankly I was willing to try anything.
Jeffiner says
Thank you. We actually aren’t doing IVF anymore, and I don’t think I want to try that again. We’ve had more success without it, and none of it was covered by my insurance. When my RE did my HSG, she told me she couldn’t give me any medical reasoning, but she knew that a significant percentage of her patients got pregnant simply by having the HSG done. Its so frustrating that doctors really know very little about how this all works.
lsw says
I’m so sorry and wish I could help.
Anon says
all the hugs. if you aren’t already, now might be a good time to find a therapist who specializes in fertility issues
Pogo says
So many hugs. There are no words for how powerless these things make you feel.
If it were me I would start looking at other options, like PGT and early pregnancy support like low-dose aspirin and progesterone. Contrary to what someone on here told me recently, my RE confirmed that the progesterone I’m on is really an abundance of caution because I do have two corpus luteum cysts supporting my pregnancy. It totally depends on which RE you get how cautious they want to be with offering things like progesterone and low-dose aspirin to help things “stick”, even when there’s no scientific evidence that it helps. There is probably way more that I don’t know about, those are just the two meds that I take.
On the aspirin front – have you been worked up for bleeding/clotting disorders? That’s why I’m on the aspiring, I have a known clotting issue which can cause miscarriages.
Jeffiner says
Thank you. We never had PGT done on the IVF embryos, but all my pregnancies have occurred the old fashioned way. My OB has been monitoring me since I was 6 weeks and had me on progesterone. The hormone levels initially looked good, but the ultrasound yesterday showed the fetus stopped growing about 2 weeks ago.
Anon says
All the hugs. Been there. Might check for clotting issues as someone recommended above. I’ve got some mutations that make me higher risk.
anon says
Echoing everyone above – so sorry for your loss. I know you don’t want to do IVF again, but if you do, I highly recommend PGS (now called PGT-A). I did it for a fresh cycle at 39, and got pregnant with my son (only one out of my three blasts was normal). There are many legitimate criticisms of PGS (including the potential fact that abnormal embryos may self correct, and PGS could cause damage to a delicate embryo), but at our age, the biggest hurdle to a successful pregnancy is egg quality. If you aren’t going to do IVF, in addition to the immunological testing recommended upthread, you may want to consider supplements (such as ubiquinol) if you aren’t on them already. They can help even for natural pregnancies. Best of luck, this road is hard and long. :(
potty q says
Potty training question. My daughter is 2y8m. She has been showing signs of readiness for training for awhile. We got pull ups a couple of weeks ago and offered them no pressure, and she did great both home & preschool, although very resistant to sitting on the potty to try before going out of the house or leaving preschool, and she asked for a diaper to poop. She has borderline constipation issues so we definitely do not want to mess up pooping further. A few issues with the pull ups: (1) we made a mistake trying to rush her to the potty when she announced she was going to pee in her pull up, and then we weren’t mad or anything, but we tried to explain that when she had a pull up on, she needed to try to get the pee in the potty, and I think that upset her (I really regret that we did this and have apologized to her); (2) one day at preschool her pants were rubbing on the side closure a lot and she got a small cut. Mostly since (2) happened, she hasn’t wanted to wear pull ups again, even though she has healed and we put cream on her hips and offer her bandaids just in case it rubs again.
I made a quick sticker chart this morning, and that seems very motivating for her. But she wanted a diaper after peeing in the potty. Do we…go to underwear? We have read about oh crap method and aren’t that enthusiastic, but does that seem like what we need to do? Ideas?
Anonymous says
Pull-ups are just diapers with a different closure. For potty-training, you need underwear. You can put a pull-up or diaper on over the underwear to contain accidents if necessary.
potty q says
Oh, this sounds like a good approach if we absolutely cannot get her to try before getting in car/stroller/bus and she is in underwear.
AnotherAnon says
What specifically upset her when you rushed her to the potty? My kid is a boy, so your experience will be very different, but once he started realizing “I need to pee”, I had to rush him to the potty pretty consistently for at least two weeks (Daniel Tiger is great for this – when you have to go potty stop and go right away!) He refused to use the kid potty I bought him, but she might respond to that. Just a sidenote: I did not like the Oh Crap method. It seemed like a bunch of parent shaming and no real advice on how to help your child realize BEFORE they have gone to the bathroom, that they need to go. What did help was establishing a routine: we go potty (or try): when we wake, every time we leave the house, after lunch, when we get home, before bed, etc. If my kid didn’t need to go, I didn’t force it, but I could pretty quickly tell when he needed to. Also, he would pee almost 100% of the time he “tried.” Of course there were tears and tantums “I don’t need to go!” I’ll be honest; sometimes we didn’t get to leave the house because “You must try to use the potty before we leave.” That only happened a couple times before he realized: try the potty or we’re not leaving. WRT constipation: we failed at potty training twice because of this. Just get the miralax. Just do it. It’s just a bowel stimulator (senna is the same), so it won’t dehydrate her or cause her to become more constipated once she stops using it. Consistent use of miralax made poop potty training possible for us. Good luck!
potty q says
Thanks, we have miralax already & instructions from our pediatrician on dosage, good reminder that we were planning to try it this weekend for her. It’s funny that she totally knows the DT “stop and go right away” and if I’m playing with her and tell her I need to go, she tells me to stop and go right away. Hopefully it will click soon.
ElisaR says
hmmm we did the oh crap method. I see why some people might be turned off by it but there are certain aspects that i think are valid. The no pull ups, no underwear until they are ready thing really made sense for us. we did it at 27 months and it took longer than 3 days but not a full week.
AwayEmily says
+1
anonn says
+1 to the Oh Crap method. Also we really pushed fluids and let our daughter have 1/2 juice 1/2 water for the first naked day to get her more wins (in the potty). that might help with the constipation too.
Anonymous says
The Oh Crap method worked like a charm for us. It doesn’t tell parents how to “teach” their child to know when they’re about to pee because that’s an internal feeling a child has to recognize in themselves. The racing to the potty as soon as the peeing starts is how you connect the feeling of peeing (and later the feeling of needing to pee) with the action of rushing to the potty. The book encourages framing the rushing as exciting (“woohoo! To the potty!”) rather than scary (“oh no! To the potty!”) which made a huge difference for our kid.
Anon says
We’ve done oh crap twice. And my kids are rockstars in the potty training department. What turned you off about it? One of them took like 5 days, one only about 2 (and then they didn’t have accidents unless we’d really screwed up something or one was sick). Oh and they were 24 and 28 months old. I think I’d focus less on the process here and more on the result. Any traumatizing you avoid by approaching this super gently will come back to you when they have accidents.
Sorry, will get off my soapbox, but we had so many friends with partially potty trained kids come to visit who’d have to always have a change of undies and occasionally rush off to deal with accidents and such. We took it super seriously for a weekend, followed oh crap (with the addition of bribes) and I think my kids have super healthy potty habits now?
For the record, we are terrible at sleep training. This success is isolated!
Anonymous says
Also depends on the kid. Oh Crap would never have worked with my second.
Anonymous says
Why not just try underwear or old fashioned training pants? We didn’t do Oh Crap – I’m not a joiner but also couldn’t imagine spending 3 straight days in our apartment – but also didn’t really rely on pullups when we started. It sounds like you don’t need to worry about poop accidents, which are the worst.
potty q says
This is what we are leaning. We also don’t really want to spend all the time at home, we have a lot of stuff to get done with #2 on the way. We honestly weren’t really going to push potty training before new baby with the assumption there would be some regression but she’s clearly interested and I feel bad for just being lazy about it.
Anonymous says
To me it sounds like she might not quite be ready. Especially if she’s stressed out, can you drop it for a few weeks and try again? I couldn’t figure out the purpose of pull ups so we did a modified oh crap method – dated home a weekend in just undies, tons of beverages , and took to the toilet every 15-30 min. Our kid legit had no idea when he was peeing before that but going so often helped him figure it out. He already had bms under control though. It was something like 30 bathroom trips the first day, 20 something the sec d day, and then we did hourly after that. Sent him to school in undies after the 3 day weekend.
LadyNFS says
Talk to me about toddler shampoo. My 2.5 year old’s hair seems to need more cleansing than what I’ve been using and have tried lately (combo shampoo/bodywash from Babyganics, Burts Bee’s, and Honest Co). I’m thinking it’s time to switch to an actual shampoo that will be “stronger” for her hair, but I’d still like something tear free and “clean” (i.e. free of parabens, endocrine disuptors, etc.) that won’t leave her hair feeling greasy as it is now. Would appreciate any suggestions as to others use with success (or not)!
Anonymous says
We also switched to using an actual shampoo instead of the baby bodywash around the same age. What we currently have is Suave 2-in-1 shampoo and conditioner (Frozen themed) which is tear-free, but might not meet your “clean” requirement.
rosie says
I like the Cantu Kids and Shea Moisture kids products. I suspect you could also try a shampoo only from the brands you already use and like and see how that goes. Also, any chance you are washing it too often?
anon says
No idea how “clean” it is, but we’ve had very good luck with the Paul Mitchell kids’ shampoo for my daughter’s hair. It doesn’t take much and lasts a long time.
ElisaR says
i use free & clear shampoo for myself… i have used it as a back up for my sons but it’s not really tear-free. My 2 year old was either fussy that day for no reason or the shampoo got in his eyes… not sure which one but it’s a good clean shampoo.
Anonymous says
We use Fairy Tales shampoo and conditioner. I’m guessing we switched to it at some point when she was 3. Kiddo’s hair really needs conditioner; that is why we made the switch.
blueridge29 says
We use the Fairy Tales detangling conditioner that works on tangles and it is a life saver. We also used the Fairy Tales Life Guard shampoo in the summer when both kids were swimming in the pool 5 days a week. My youngest was around 3 when we started using these and we previously used the Burt’s Bee combo.
CCLA says
We use these too. I only wash 3 yo’s hair once a week, with a rinse in between. We only recently started conditioning in the bath but we have used the conditioning detangler spray for post-bath brushing for awhile. We also have the SoCozy kids wash and conditioner. It may just be luck, but when they had an outbreak of lice in her classroom and she came out unscathed, I was more committed than ever to our only-weekly wash routine and using the fairy tales products.
Pogo says
Once you can convince them to tightly close their eyes, tear-free becomes less of an issue. My 2yo has been insisting on conditioner (bc mommy and daddy use it), and he doesn’t complain about it stinging – he just knows he has to really close his eyes. It does seem to make his hair much softer than just using the burt’s bees combo, which sometimes made it feel straw-like. So I think a 2 in 1 or adding a conditioner could help.
LadyNFS says
Thanks, everyone!
Anon says
We use the J and J no more tangles tear free separate shampoo and separate conditioner. And I just picked up a new “curl defining” shampoo from them I am going to try when we run out – I have a dark brown haired annie.
H13 says
Just wanted to share some good news as an update to my post yesterday about feeling overwhelmed. I went to the event with my CEO and rocked it AND finalized a deal this morning. I have my annual review this afternoon which has me jangly but at least I am heading into with two wins under my belt this morning.
Thank you for the words of encouragement yesterday!
lsw says
Killed it! Hope you can do something to celebrate this weekend.
Boston Legal Eagle says
Woo! Great job!
ANon says
I knew you’d do great!! Way to go. Glad to hear it.
ElisaR says
yay happy to hear the update!
Pogo says
Yay! I love these updates and I love the women on this board for rocking it at work and at home.
anon says
My sister shared some upsetting news with me last night. She is very close to asking my BIL for a separation. I can’t say it comes as a total surprise, as they’ve been having problems for a long time. The tipping point is that their oldest kid has started picking up on the amount of arguing/fighting at home and asked BIL why he’s always so mean to mom. :( They have three little kids ages 6 and under. Whatever she decides to do, it’s going to be rough. They do not have the income to maintain two households and she knows it. Some of the stuff she shared with me was really disturbing. The marriage has clearly turned toxic and emotionally manipulative. Her complaints used to be more in the “he’s not pulling his weight as a partner” vein. However, he recently accused her of cheating, which is completely baffling in every way. (To quote her: “When the he!! would I even have time to do that? Also, I hate all men right now.”) The conflict in their relationship is taking a toll on her self-esteem because he turns the problems back on her, which is heartbreaking. And astounding … honest to g*d, I never would’ve predicted this from him, and I am a skeptic at the core.
As her sister, how do I best support her? I’ve been very careful to not to talk badly about him or their relationship and focused on letting her know that I’m 100% in her corner and will support whatever she decides to do. I’ve validated that what she’s describing sounds terrible. I’ve encouraged her to seek a counselor for herself only. (Previous attempts at marriage counseling have not worked well.) But it doesn’t seem like enough. She is *very* concerned about how our parents might react if she follows through. Is it overstepping my boundaries to tell them — our mom especially — that things are not as great as they look on the surface and that sister isn’t being unreasonable, should she decide to separate from him? BIL is this nice, easygoing guy who apparently is acting very differently at home — whether it’s on purpose or not is up for debate, but does it even matter?. They adore him, and I think they’d be shocked if they knew even half the stuff she’s shared with me. BIL is a good dad, but he’s been a sh!tty husband and seems to be completely in denial about the state of the marriage, even though my sister has been very clear about how she views things. I’d be considering leaving, too.
Anon says
Why don’t you ask your sister what she’s comfortable with you telling your parents? I would follow her lead.
Anonanonanon says
Is your sister local to you? That would make a difference in the type of support I would suggest.
Also, being a bad husband in the ways you’ve described means he is NOT a good dad.
Anonymous says
+1000 if he’s a crappy husband in those ways then he’s not a good dad. My husbands sister is in an extremely toxic relationship with the father of her children yet everyone says “oh but he’s so good to the kids”. Verbally abusing their mother is not being a good father,
So Anon says
I think my sister could have written this post about 18 months ago, so I will share what I can from my perspective (divorced last May to a guy that my mom adores – yes, still – and looked like an amazing guy and dad to the outside world).
In general, I would validate your sister’s viewpoint without condemning her or BIL. Statements like, “I never liked him anyway” or “I can’t believe that he would do that” or “if it’s that bad, why are you still in the relationship” are not helpful (not saying you have said these – but they are things I have heard). The first statement undermines your sister’s choice of this guy as her partner and dad to her kids. Chances are he has some redeeming qualities, even if the relationship has turned toxic. As for the second statement, if your sister has experienced any gaslighting, this will only make her further question her own perceptions. If BIL is engaging in emotional abuse, which he may be from the statements you shared above, that can really take a toll on your sister’s confidence and sense of self. It leads you to question your own judgment and perception. She will need a cheerleader who is solidly on team her. The third statement is the core of why women who are in abusive relationships do not leave, part of which is trauma bonding. I honestly could not see how bad my relationship was until I was out of it for a long while. I knew that things were not ok, but I could not see how abusive his behavior truly was.
If she does separate, she will need logistical help, but she will also need validation, to process and emotional support. My sister has been my rock, and it is things like running parenting stuff by her and sharing pieces of my day. I could never have predicted how much I would question my decision to leave, even though I know to my core it was the right thing to do. If she leaves, she will grieve the loss of a relationship and what she thought the future would look like. She may need to know that she is welcome at your place for a holiday or sleepover if her kids are with her ex. And yes, all the counseling and consider a divorce coach. Kate Anthony has a podcast and is a divorce coach and is just amazing.
As to your parents – ask your sister if you should bring the topic up with your parents. Either way, if she separates and after they know, I think it is ok to have a discussion that they need to be firmly behind your sister. They can vent to you and ask you all the, “I don’t understand __.” questions, but to her, for a while, nothing but support. My mom adored my ex and viewed him “like the son she never had.” So she has gone through her own grieving process, which is fine, until she tries to tell me how hard my divorce is on her. I have finally gotten to a point (thank you therapy) where I tell her that she needs to talk to someone else about it. I did disclose some of the awful things my ex did, and it took my mom a while to come around to my side and see that it was not ok. The in between time where she was acting like these things were normal was confusing and hurtful to me. To be honest, I am still working through how she could urge me to stay in a relationship where I was called a “needy b&tch” for asking for help with the kids when I was sick. She still tells me when she sees my ex and that they chat, which is incredibly hurtful to me.
anon says
This is really helpful. I’m sorry you’ve experienced all of it, and I can only imagine how infuriating it is to have your mom side with the ex, miss him so much, yadayadayada. I’ve been very careful in choosing my words, thankfully, and will continue to do so. Ultimately this has to be her decision, and I mean it when I say I’m with her 100%, no matter what she decides. We talk to each other about parenting and life stuff all the time, so I’ll make sure to continue with that type of support. Thankfully she’s local and we’re able to spend a lot of time together.
Anon says
I’m sorry. So much pain and suffering. Husbands can really go ballistic and not understand their spouse’s perspective.
AnotherAnon says
My 2020 goal is to save the majority of my salary that’s not already allocated to essentials. I’ve been doing well so far (17 days haha, sigh) but I need someone to convince me I shouldn’t buy any of the Loft sale items.
H13 says
Don’t do it unless you really need something. I say put it in your cart and close your browser. Or pin it to a board and if you really love it, you can buy it later. Would you buy it if it weren’t on sale? If being on sale is the biggest reason you are buying something, it isn’t a good enough reason. And unsubscribe from the email list!
(I use all of the tactics and it has cut wayyyy down on mindless shopping.)
Io says
I have a shopping gm@!l account so all my coupons and sale offers go there. If I need something I can go and look.
TheElms says
Think of the reason behind your goal to save. Its probably a really good one that will bring you a lot of happiness when you achieve it. The Loft sale items might not fit correctly and need to be returned, which is a pain, or even if they do and you keep them when you wear them it will be a reminder that you didn’t achieve your goal wrt to their purchase.
Anonymous says
Reading reviews often convinces me I don’t really want the item.
SC says
Same. I always go to the one- and two-star reviews first :-)
Anonymous says
That is genius!
anon says
I just got a strong positive pregnancy test from my last transfer of two 5-day blasts about a week ago. I go in for beta tomorrow. I’m so so nervous (esp since the last FET failed) but trying to stay positive and keep myself busy for now. Agh!
ALC says
Sending good thoughts!
rosie says
Sending good thoughts and sticky vibes!