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Morning sickness fading says
Has vitamin B6 ever actually worked for anyone for morning sickness? I’m 9 weeks pregnant and I’ve been nauseas and miserable since about 6 weeks. The last couple of days I have feel pretty good and while this should be a good thing, instead it has me worried. I did start taking B6 about a week and a half ago, so I’m holding onto hope that maybe that is just now kicking in. I am going to wait another day or two before I call the doctor but in the meantime, ugh.
AwayEmily says
Yes, though only when combined with Unisom. I took half a unisom + b6 and it made a big difference. Didn’t eliminate the nausea entirely but helped a lot.
anon says
Same here. A full Unisom made me sleepy, but a half dose was really helpful. You can also adjust when you take it to avoid being as sleepy.
Be warned that it can take a few days to be effective. Don’t judge the combo on day 1–it may be more effective on day 5 or 6.
Anonymous says
This helped me a TON, and I was a total skeptic. I actually ended up dropping the B6 (mostly out of laziness) and just doing the half unisom and couldn’t live without it until I hit 13 weeks.
Emma says
Can’t speak to vitamin B6 but just wanted to say my morning sickness was all over the place- it was horrible, then I was totally fine for a while and thought oh great this is over, and then bam it was back with a vengeance. It lasted until about 16 weeks on and off (ugh). Diclectin helped but made me drowsy.
Anonymous says
+1 to this. Didn’t try Zofran, but B6/Unisom didn’t work for me. However, I definitely had stretches of a couple days where I finally felt ok only to have the nausea and vomiting (at minimum, every night at 7 pm on the dot!) return with a vengeance off and on until around 22 weeks.
Hi says
It didn’t help me, I did the Unisom (Doxylamine Succinate) and b6 combo (this is essentially the same as Diclegis) but ended up only taking the Unisom as that alone curbed the nausea. It did make me feel drowsy but still preferable to having excruciating nausea. If I have another pregnancy, I may ask for Zofran.
OP says
Thanks for this. I’m hoping that’s all it is and nothing is wrong but I am nervous.
OP says
I responded in the wrong place, sorry
Anon says
My nausea was all over the place with both pregnancies too and was not in any way a sign of anything being wrong. And nausea was much worse with my second pregnancy, also not a sign of anything.
Barring any other symptoms I wouldn’t worry about this.
Anon says
Nope. I had to for insurance reasons try it with unisom and if by eliminating nausea you mean causing me to sleep for 14 hours every day (14 hours in which I was not vomiting, so I guess, a win) which was incompatible with my job. I tried the B6 by itself too and it did nothing. Diclegis though was life changing for my pregnancy, in that I was only vomiting once a day the entire 9 months rather than multiple times a day, and I think the difference was the extended release, which did not cause the extreme drowsiness and total zonk out that unisom did.
Anonanonanon says
^this. It made me so sleepy I was much less functional than I was without it. I wasn’t vomiting but I wasn’t conscious either. Mine wouldn’t give me diclegis
Anonymous says
Not sure when your experience was — I think diclegis is more available now (maybe generic?). My 2017 pregnancy I had to fight tooth and nail after trying b6 + unisom to get diclegis, then in 2020 it was much easier to get and less expensive. I did find that the extended release combined version in diclegis helped more than just the individual components, so would urge OP to try it and hope insurance isn’t a huge hassle.
Anonymous says
+1 to Diclegis being life-changing. Meant I only vomited every other day instead of 1-2x daily.
Cb says
Three weeks until school starts and breakfast club/aftercare spots have yet to been allocated… freaking out over here. How can they possibly be so disorganised? It’s a private company that uses the facilities of a public school.
On a positive side, my son insisted on trying on his uniform this weekend and wore it around town all day on Saturday telling everyone that he was nearly 5 and was starting school soon! Yep, bud, they can tell from the way you’re sporting that polo shirt :)
anon says
Oh man, that is stressful and terrible. I’m also wondering how they don’t know yet? The YMCA runs our before/after care program (at school), and everything is booked and settled by March so you know if you have a spot in the program. I’m wondering if staffing issues are the problem in your situation.
Cb says
Rumour is that there is some sort of changeover in the head office. They said we’d know by the end of May! It’s the only programme in town, and I’m sitting over here wondering how you create an aftercare pod/coop.
Loads of really difficult stories of moms not knowing whether they can keep their job if they can’t get a spot.
AwayEmily says
Our after-school program (run by the school district) doesn’t start until October (!), doesn’t run on Fridays (!!), and has not yet opened up registration. Sigh.
Cb says
Wha…
We only have school from 9-12 on Fridays, which is its own special type of hell. I don’t normally teach on Fridays, but will have 5 weeks of Friday teaching next term and am going to have to call in all the favours.
anon says
School only from 9-12?! Why? How does the school even meet its instructional day requirements with a schedule like that? Do you guys have really long days from M-TH? And what a massive pain for anyone who works.
Cb says
It’s 25 institution hours in primary, 27 hours in secondary school. They go 9-3 Mon-Thursday, 9-12 on Friday. I think it’s due to union limits but it is so, so hard on working parents. Most women I know don’t work on Fridays (either 80% or compressed schedules)
Anonymous says
It’s due to government cuts in financing of schools not union limits.
anon says
Those seem like super short days. We have the fewest instructional hours in our area and elementary runs from 9-3:40 M-F.
Anon318 says
Our school district (FL) has half day Mondays, every Monday. One of the many reasons my kids are in private school…
anonamommy says
That’s so cute about the uniform!
It’s possible that the aftercare is still hiring staff and wants to get that sorted so they know how many kids they can take? Not ideal, but hiring has been a mess everywhere this year…. fingers crossed for you!
Cb says
Phew… my rant must have triggered a reply from the universe. We got breakfast club 5 days, and aftercare Monday, Wednesday, Thursday, so not ideal but doable as my husband WFH Monday and Tuesday so that should be okay. I am gone Monday -Wednesday during uni term time (our university teaching schedule is also shorter than the US, 10 weeks per term) so I was a bit worried that he’d be juggling multiple days.
But loads of families got NOTHING or one day.
GCA says
Oof. Glad you got *something* at least! What a stressful nightmare. I can’t imagine trying to work outside the home with that kind of unpredictability. (And that’s just the days there IS aftercare at all. So many school holidays.) What will you do for Fridays?
Quarantining says
Currently quarantining with my two kiddos as husband tested positive for Covid over the weekend. What have the symptoms been for those who have had this strain? I’ve been feeling crappy – headache, stomach ache, exhausted.
Anonymous says
Yup those symptoms right there. I’d get a PCR today so at least you can loop your husband back into duty if you’re already positive.
Anon says
I had it last week. Started with scratchy throat. Then stuffy nose and wet chesty cough. With gastro issues throughout. Mostly diarrhea anytime I ate and vomited a few times.
Husband had scratchy throat, stuffy nose, then lost taste and smell. We both had fevers for like one night and achey for a day or two.
Toddler had a cough and runny nose, no fever, and bounced off the walls the whole time
Anon says
Fwiw, a week out from our first positive and we are totally back to normal. Husband still can’t really taste but otherwise all healthy.
Anon says
Husband and I both felt achy (what I’d describe as flu-like) and tired. Husband had a fever but I never did. My kiddo was exhausted and nauseous. I was nauseous off and on. For us, home antigen tests didn’t show positive on our first day of symptoms. It showed positive for DH his second day of symptoms. Kiddo and I got PCR tests my second day of symptoms and his first day, but I was still testing negative on home tests that day. Also, we wore masks, used air purifiers and stayed outside as much as we could and my other kiddo hasn’t caught it so far (and it’s been over a week), so it’s worth trying if you want to stop the spread in your house. Hoping you are negative!
GCA says
I had Covid a few weeks ago. It started with body aches, fatigue, general malaise & then descended into 1.5 days of sleeping off a fever, followed by a week of exhaustion and slight cold symptoms. By the time I felt sick at all, I was instantly testing positive on rapids. I’d test yourself & kids.
Anon says
Looking for recommendations for a rug for under our kitchen table–eating with a loud, echoing toddler is getting to me! While I initially thought of Ruggable as The Name in the category of rugs that won’t get ruined if you spill on them, they’re expensive and TBH I’m not sure how often we’d actually machine wash it since that would involve moving the table and all the chairs, carefully replacing it, etc. (so, why pay the premium for a feature we likely won’t use that much). Has anyone else figured out the magic solution?
AwayEmily says
We had an ikea outdoor rug (the Hodde) under our table and it worked great. Hides a lot of stains, easy to clean.
Anonymous says
+1. Not Ikea, but we have a similar outdoor rug from Overstock or Wayfair under our table and put a waterproof rug pad under it for extra cushioning/floor protection.
I thought about Ruggable, but between the price and having to move everything off the rug to wash it, I decided it wasn’t going to work for us.
Cb says
Once we got artwork up on the wall in the dining room, the echo was dramatically reduced, so that might be an option as well (we’re too messy for a rug)
Anon says
Would heavier drapes and either pillows or cushions on the seats help? Maybe a textile-based artwork or fabric wall hanging? Thinking softer materials to help absorb echos.
Spirograph says
We have a traditional persian-style rug under our dining table. It’s low pile and has a dark, complex pattern. After 10 years of kids eating on it, it still looks good! We address spills quickly as they happen and we did get the rug professionally cleaned a few years ago. The worst offenders for potential stains are pomegranate and blueberries, and those colors are in the design, which definitely helps.
anonM says
I don’t love my Ruggable. The cute design I got gets dirty so fast, and it honestly doesn’t seem like it will hold up as well as I had hoped. My kids spill so much I would avoid any rug under the table.
Seafinch says
Same. I bought one that was too light (my mistake) but the edges furl and it is a huge pain to get up and down to wash. Wouldn’t buy again for the dining room. Maybe somewhere low traffic.
Anom says
NYC moms – I’m trying to find a new job for my current full time nanny. Where do you look for full time nannies? I’ve tried posting a recommendation for her on some FB groups, but not getting many bites. Any advice on where to post a reference for her? Or where she should look?
She’s been with us for 9 years, so I have not gone through the process recently and my network is mostly outgrown the need for full time help. She’s so capable and kind and warm that any family would be crazy lucky to hire her.
Nyc says
Mommybites might be a good option. I’ll see if any of my friends are looking too and circle back if so
NYCer says
Have you tried the FB group called Have a Nanny, Need a Nanny? I have known a few people who have found new jobs for their nanny through that group. Same for UES Mommas and UWS Mommas, which I suspect you may have already tried.
buffybot says
ParkSlope Parents?
OP says
I really want to post on Park Slope Parents bc she wants a job in Brooklyn. But I don’t live in Brooklyn and don’t know anyone who is a member of PSP. If you are and are willing to post for me, I’d love to send you my reference for her (ie, to a burner email)! And would be indebted!
Anonymous says
There is also a Park Slope Moms FB group!
Esquinkle says
There are a variety of brooklyn-specific list serves where I often see postings. If you send a description to [email protected] I’m happy to post it to several (though I don’t pay for ParkSlope Parents!)
anonamommy says
WWYD? We received an invitation, to the family, for my cousin’s wedding. It’s being held at an adults-only resort, so my family can’t stay there and we will need to buy day passes to attend. That’s a sign that they don’t actually want us there, right? My aunt keeps saying that she can’t wait to see us but I feel like the message from her son and his fiance is pretty clear.
Anne-on says
Huh, are you sure guests of an event need to buy day passes? That seems pretty strange to me, perhaps worth calling to ask? I guess the bigger question is do YOU want to go? You’ve got a pretty good out if you don’t, or you could treat it as a mini-vacation and only go with your husband if his parents can watch the kids. An invitation is not a summons so I’d decide on what you want and go from there.
Anon says
Have you discussed this with your aunt? It seems super weird for a resort to require day passes for people who are only there for a wedding – you’re not using the facilities. Are you sure that’s the only option?
anonamommy says
The children do not need day passes but the adults do — I guess because of the open bars all over the property? It’s unclear exactly but included on the couple’s wedding website that if you are not staying at the resort you have to buy a day pass.
I’m not super close to my cousin but am to many people on that side of the family. It would be a good opportunity to see them, but since we are not staying at the resort I’m not sure how much we would be able to catch up outside of wedding festivities.
Anonymous says
I would have the spouse who is related by blood attend and stay at the resort, and the other stay home with the kids. Sorry I couldn’t bring the kids so you could see them for two minutes, auntie! The resort is adults-only.
anon says
Gosh, that is just so tacky to me. I was just thinking it would be a clueless oversight if they were of an age where they didn’t have many friends with kids. I would be paying for those day passes for my invitees with children in their shoes. You have my permission not to go and to just tell your aunt that it’s too challenging since you’ll have to stay off-property and won’t be able to visit with family other than day-of due to the pass requirement.
Anonymous says
I think it’s really tacky to have a wedding at a venue that charges your guests for admission. The couple should be covering the day passes for anyone who is not staying at the resort.
Also, I thought the point of a destination wedding at a resort was that you only invited your immediate family and your best friends. Like 10 – 15 guests total. Not your cousins.
Anon says
I’ve been to plenty of destination weddings with 50+ guests, and I arguably had one (it was in the US at a place we had a connection to, but not either of our hometowns or where we lived at the time) with 120 guests. They’re not typically huge but I’ve never heard of needing to limit it to 15 guests.
I fully agree though it’s very very tacky for guests to have to pay to attend a wedding. Our venue included parking for guests staying offsite, otherwise we would have paid it. And having to buy a resort day pass is a lot worse than a small parking fee.
Anonanonanon says
It seems to me it’s worth clarifying whether they are open to having children at the wedding.
Anonymous says
They want you to leave your kids at home and come spend a lot of money to party with them at this resort.
Anon says
Yup, this. And I would not do it, fwiw.
anonM says
This. Also, FWIW, to be frugal DH and I, pre-kid, stayed off-resort at a destination wedding (one I stood up in, even). We had a great time, bought 1 or 2 day passes, and felt like we got our money worth much more than actually staying at the resort the whole time. The times were pretty liberal for the guest pass, so I think we did one beach/drink day, and then the actual wedding day. Wedding day I think was included but that may have been just for me as part of the bridal party, I don’t remember.
anona says
Ugh, that had not occurred to me. We don’t have any family who could help out with childcare (and half of them will be at the wedding anyway!).
SC says
Honestly, I would read this as the couple wants you there, but doesn’t want your kids there. Even if that’s not exactly right, it’s not going to be worth the cost of attending if your family has to stay at another resort and needs day passes to attend the wedding or event to interact with the relatives staying at the all-inclusive on days surrounding the wedding.
I think your best options are to (1) go and leave the kids at home with a responsible caretaker, (2) send the spouse most closely related to the couple and have the other stay home, or (3) skip this wedding and send a card or gift.
anon says
It sounds like your aunt isn’t on the same page as her kid. Your aunt isn’t down with the no-kids destination wedding, but that’s what is being planned. I’d skip speaking with the aunt and contact the bride or groom.
Anonymous says
Did they invite your kids? It doesn’t sound like kids are invite. There are a million resorts that allow kids, they picked one that does not.
Anonymous says
Yeah what did they invite say?
ElisaR says
i wouldn’t say that it’s a sign they don’t want you there. I would say they prioritized where they wanted to have their wedding and not whether or not it would be convenient to you. I agree with others that said they wouldn’t go. While I wouldn’t go, I would try to not take it personally. Weddings are hard and their choice isn’t about you– it’s just hard and people really don’t understand when they are not in the thick of it with kids. (meaning your aunt does want to see you but she forgets how life is with young children and the cousin will probably learn soon enough).
Spirograph says
Yes. Unless it’s a small guest list, I doubt they thought about any individual family’s ability to attend. They may or may not have connected the dots that a destination wedding where kids aren’t allowed to stay at the resort is pretty limiting for parents (if they mentioned that kids don’t need a day pass, it sounds like kids may be invited to the festivities?), but I would not make the leap to “they don’t want me at their wedding.”
If you want to go, you can definitely make it work. If you don’t, send your regrets and look forward to catching up another time.
Anon says
Agree with all of this.
Anonymous says
Looking for food and activity recommendations for an upcoming trip to Chicago in August with a three year old. We will be staying at a hotel in River North (Westin Michigan Ave) (I guess? I’m not 100% on my Chicago neighborhood names!). We have the zoo on our list, and possibly the children’s museum, as well as walking down to navy pier, millennium park and are looking into a river architecture tour. The three year old is a really good sport, traveler and is (thankfully!) not a picky eater. For food, we’re not looking for anything fancy, but I’d love to hear about your favorite places that you’d take your kiddos that you as an adult also enjoy. TIA!!
CHL says
Go to Maggie Daley park in Millennium Park – it’s a great playground for kids! Field Museum and Shedd are also great for kids. Arch. tour is great but if that’s too long/structured for your kid, you can also take a ferry/water taxi from Navy Pier to right by the Shedd Aquarium which is still fun! for a little kid but a lot less of a commitment. Have fun!
EDAnon says
We just went to Maggie Daley for the playground and it was super fun!
EDAnon says
My kids are 3 & 5 as a note. The 5yo could do everything – some stuff was off limits for the 3yo. But everyone had fun.
anon says
It could be very hot and humid in August (or rainy), so I second the Field museum and Shedd. I haven’t been to Chicago in ages so not sure about restaurants, but I might try Greek town for a fun ethnic food experience.
Anon says
My daughter liked the Field Museum, Peggy Notebaert Nature Museum (right near the zoo) and Shedd aquarium at that age. If you have ASTC membership options near you, it’s probably worth getting, because the former two are on the subscription list and a membership at a cheaper local museum might be less than the cost of day passes at each. ASTC membership would also allow you to pop into Museum of science and industry for free if it interests you, although it’s definitely aimed more at older kids and is not close to where you’re staying.
Stan’s Donuts is a favorite of my kid.
Anonymous says
This may be a pedestrian recommendation, but there’s a fast-casual place downtown called Flat Top Grill where you put together your own noodle bowl and they will cook it to order on the flat top. It’s great for groups with different preferences because you can make your own deal, and it’s fun to watch the chefs cook it up!
Anonymous says
I just got back from Chicago with my two 7 year old daughters. You have good recommendations already, but i also wanted to recommend an early dinner at Francesca’s on Chestnut. They were very sweet to my children and we had a great dinner. It is not the new hip place, but we had great food and it is the old Chicago vibe.
Anonymous says
My husband’s parents are having a hard time (fighting, alcohol abuse, etc.) it’s causing a lot of stress and drama. I want to provide support to both my husband and his little brother (who is closer to the parents and seems to be bearing the brunt of it) but I’m not sure how. We had BIL over for dinner this weekend and I basically told both DH and BIL that I’m happy to be a sounding board if they want to vent. Is there anything else I can do for them?
anonM says
Maybe help them look into/suggest al anon? Letting them vent is good, and try your best to avoid bashing the in laws too much, it is def one of those odd things where the adult children can criticize their parents but in law children may need to tread lightly. For my marriage, tough times with one side or other means a giving a lot of grace and understanding, especially with different communication styles. (Ex, DH and I have to go through this thing where DH gets cranky but claims to be “fine” and then right when I’m super tired and about to fall asleep he wants to have a heart to heart…I’ve learned to try to carve out some time before I’m super exhausted so I can actually be supportive and listen, and to ignore as much of the crankiness as I can in the short term.) And BIL may also have even different communication style, so maybe all he will want is to go see a movie with you guys and enjoy the calm. Everyone is so different in the face of these things!
anon says
This sounds tough, but I’m not sure anyone can offer much advice without knowing a lot more. I guess I’d try to be supportive of whatever boundaries he chooses to draw.
As generic advice, Al anon is always one option for family members, or private therapy.
Anon says
I’m taking my kids (2 and 4.5) on their first beach trip in August. I am looking for recommendations for a beach tent to provide shade for all of us (and ideally big enough for my parents too, who will also be with us). I’m finding a lot that are geared for kids, but I need something big enough for the grown ups too. Any recommendations?
And, any other must have beach supplies? I haven’t been on a beach trip since my honeymoon, and this is my first beach trip with the kids.
Anon says
There was a post on this the other day; I will see if I can find it. On beach tent, check the local regulations. A lot of the beaches near me prohibit large tents and have very limited restrictions for what qualifies as a “baby tent”.
Anonymous says
+1 I bought a big tent and then couldn’t use it at Bethany Beach.
Anon says
+2
anon says
I think you would want a pop-up shade canopy. Everyone I know has the kelty beach tent, but it’s pretty small – we put a two seater in there and that’s about it.
Anon says
We did a trip recently with a shade from Cool Cabanas. It worked great and provided lots of shade.
Muslin blankets like from Adan & Anais are amazing for getting sand off kids so I’d bring those, plus more snacks than you can imagine – kids eat a ton at the beaxh
Anon says
I posted below but we have the same one and love it! Baby powder is great for getting sand off. I also bring the kids another suit to change into since we drive to/from the beach and then they are ready for the pool as soon as we get home
Anonymous says
We go out on the beach for a couple of hours first thing in the morning and another couple of hours in late afternoon/early evening. This eliminates the need for a tent and reduces the amount of other stuff we have to haul. We do other activities that are shaded or at least partially indoors during the heat of the day.
Anon says
This is our strategy too. Even older kids who don’t nap benefit from some quiet time in the middle of the day and it helps you avoid the worst of the heat and sun exposure.
Anon says
Same. First in the morning and late in the afternoon.
We have a small pop up beach tent my mom got from wayfair that comes in a tiny bag. Kid loves playing in the water so it’s more for mom/dad to take a break if needed.
We also had a Coleman one that was good size but a pole snapped after like a year 🤷🏻♀️
CHL says
Baby powder helps get sand off of kids (or adults I guess).
Walnut says
We have this Coleman Beach Shade and it fits two adults and three littles well.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0009PUTIE
Anon says
We are at my in-laws beach house and sent them
a large ‘coolcabana’ in advance of our trip. It is sooo easy to put up, has held up in wind, etc. they have a lot of sales so follow them on social media. We got $99 off. (I promise i have zero affiliation with the company, it’s just been great for us)
GCA says
Extremely low-stakes question: if you have a preschooler who dislikes the organized nature of group activities, what activities do you do with them? My 4yo is like this – it’s a combination of being overwhelmed by too many new people, and preferring to march to the beat of her own drum. In a familiar environment like daycare she is fine, but she absolutely refused to go in the pool each week at swim class earlier this year, and recently flat out refused to participate in trial dance and gymnastics classes.
It’s clearly not the activity per se, as she loves swimming with us, dancing at home, running around the park, kicking a ball around with her brother, etc — just the organized nature of the activity. We’re doing private swim class instead as it’s reasonably affordable and knowing how to swim is important to our family. I could save myself a bunch of money and grumbling by simply not enrolling her in anything else till she asks to do it, but I feel a smidge bad that she’s missing out on the opportunity to sample activities she might really enjoy. WWYD, or what did you do until they outgrew it? (Other info: age gap with brother is wide enough that they would be in different groups for soccer, dance etc; she would probably be happy to do an activity with her BFF, but BFF’s family has a different schedule due to younger kid + family commitments.)
SC says
I would accept it for now and not enroll her in any organized activities for a while. In a year or so, if there’s something she might like, try to sign her up for a free trial class. If that doesn’t stick, try again every 6 months or so, as her interests change and opportunities present themselves. 4 is really young, so I wouldn’t feel bad about her not being able to try things she may like. There’s plenty of time. For now, keep her active in unstructured play.
Anonymous says
I would wait a year and try again. It is likely that in K or grade 1 she will want to do all the activities her school friends are doing. Also, classes for 4-year-olds tend to be boring, especially for kids who pay attention well and have to wait around for the teacher to corral the other kids. At age 5 my daughter demanded to be bumped up to more “serious” classes for this reason. If by age 7 or so she still refuses to participate in group activities, I’d try a solo activity like freestyle figure skating or piano. But not private lessons on a band or orchestra instrument!
anonM says
My aunt is a preschool teacher/childcare expert and would definitely tell you LO has plenty of structured time for a 4yo as she is in daycare and swim class! Permission to drop mom guilt on this one granted. She is always reminding me of the benefits of free play for kids — time to develop problem-solving skills and imaginations!
GCA says
Thanks all! And that is a really good point – she does have plenty of structured time already, and a big imagination during unstructured play time. Mom guilt assuaged!
Anon says
I would accept it and try again in a year. Kids change so fast and activities are really totally optional at this age. My 4 year old has done nothing except a couple short soccer sessions and one session of ninja, which she quit.
Anon says
I know people on here like to complain about Dr Becky, but she had a great podcast episode about this – and the conclusion was that different people are ready for different things at different times.