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- I’m struggling to be compassionate with a SAHM friend who complains she doesn’t have enough hours of childcare.
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- Could I take my 4-yo and 8-yo on a 7-8 day trip to Paris, Lyon, and Madrid?
Anonymous says
My in-laws are 70+ and don’t live close (8+ hour drive). We’d like to visit them before we put the kid(s) (still trying to decide if it’s both) back in daycare. We’re trying to figure out the timing for that. I reviewed Emily Oster’s stuff and was thinking we’d be home and extra vigilant for a week before we go (we’re vigilant all the time), but I think they shouldn’t go to daycare for two weeks before (we have a high population of health care workers at our daycare). We feel like we can get there and home safely. We wouldn’t stay with them, but we’re worried that if we don’t do it now and the kids go back, we won’t go for months/a year.
Have any of you traveled for a visit? Any tips?
Anon says
My 70 year old parents drove to us a couple weeks ago (same logic about visiting before daycare) and they’re also an 8 hour drive. They packed their own food and wore gloves for the restroom. Once they were here they didn’t leave the house and DH and I only left for grocery/takeout pickup. No one got sick, and it was great to see them.
Anon says
My sisters both drove to stay with my parents for a few weeks. The 12 hour drive she did in one trip, packing her food so she only needed to stop for gas and bathroom (with gloves, hand washing, etc.). My other sister had 25 hours of driving and she camped in the back of her SUV in the driveway of her college friends’ houses when she had to do the overnights, and packed all of her own food as well.
New Here says
We just did the opposite of this – my parents live 6 hours away and came to see us for the first time in 3 months. For context, they live in a small town that has a low confirmed case count (under 100). My mom is retired and usually substitute teaches, so she’s been home since March and has just gone out for groceries. My dad goes into his office to work, but the bank is closed to the public, he wears a mask, enters through his side door and stays in his closed office all day. Other than that, they’ve been getting out about like we have – for supplies and takeout.
My dad got tested (negative) and then an antibody test (negative), so we decided it was okay. When they were here, we didn’t go anywhere minus a trip to Costco and Kroger. Lots of hand washing, always wearing masks.
We’re planning on visiting them for July 4th (we always do), but will be keeping an eye on things since they are in Georgia. Same plan – we’ll try and minimize our stops (hard to do with an infant though) and when we’re there, we don’t plan on going anywhere (which is our usual stay…just lounging at the pool). I have the same concerns as you once she goes back to daycare.
Anne says
I’m thinking of doing the same thing. It makes sense.
anon says
We keep thinking about driving 18+ hours to my in-laws. I just don’t think we can do it with a 2.5 and 5.5 year old. The alternative is to have MIL fly out, she is 70+ but is a healthcare professional and says she can do it.
Anonymous says
Stay in a hotel.
Anon says
Drive overnight. We used to do 12-14 (for traffic) to my dad’s mom’s. We’d get up at three in the morning get in the car and drive for 4-5 hours before breakfast. My parents would switch who drove and we’d drive another four hours, eat, switch drivers and get to grandma’s before dinner.
If we’d started at midnight or 11 we could have done 18 hours easily.
Anon DC says
We’re thinking about it too –we currently have a babysitter, but she may be getting a (virtual) office job (she’s a family friend who just graduated college). So if she is no longer available, I’m sorely tempted to decamp to my parents place for 4-5 weeks with my 5 year old, and then get into a more social child care situation. But, both my parents are high risk. It’s a 12-14 hr drive, no stopping for food, stopping for gas and restrooms as absolutely needed. We’d stay at home even more strictly for ~ 10-14 days before, then my husband may fly back and my daughter and I stay then take the AutoTrain back. So the risk is on the return, rather than going there.
I haven’t approached this with them, though, they may not be comfortable with it, but I’m also worried they won’t say no if they are, because they do want to see us (really the grandkid) and know I could use the break.
fallen says
Is anyone else finding it harder to maintain their weight during these times? Idk what it is but I find that now unless I am tracking what I am eating and being mindful about treats/being sure I exercise daily, my weight will be a few pounds over what it was pre-quarantine. Just wondering if anyone else is experiencing this and what you are doing to cope. It’s not a huge deal but just yet another annoying thing about quarantine.
Anonymous says
I have actually lost weight. I think part of it is reduced bloating because we are not eating out and I’m not traveling. Some of it also appears to be lost muscle mass because I have been too busy and stressed out to keep up my workout routine.
Cb says
I think I’ve lost muscle and it’s frustrating. I was doing 2-3 hot yoga classes a week and for the first time in my life, had the making of ab muscles and I just can’t seem to replicate the cardio experience at home.
AnotherAnon says
I miss hot yoga so much.
Anon says
I noticed I had gained about 7 pounds when I got on the scale last month. I’ve tried to be more mindful of the snacking (and limit the grocery ordering accordingly – I normally don’t keep snacks in the house because I’m not home much but had indulged as I treat for staying home), and I’m back down 4 pounds (so a net up 3, and on my 220lb 5’8″ frame, that’s just negligible). Work has been crazy busy, so not a lot of time for exercise other than housecleaning and chasing a toddler which I count, but I am expecting a slow down next month and hope to get some more toddler walks in. I just keep reminding myself to give myself grace – I have enough other stresses in my life than a few extra pounds. My admittedly high pre-pregnancy weight was 217, got down to about 170 with BFing, but once I quit BFing at 15 months (kiddo is now 2.5), I went right back up (within 3 months) to where I started and have stayed there ever since (minus a short drop after my miscarriage from skipping meals) despite various eating modifications and limited exercise regimen. I’ve just accepted (some days more graciously than others) that until we’re done having kids, this is where my body seems to be happy and I do not have the bandwidth to fight it. Frustrating though because DH is down over 50 pounds since January, almost entirely due to the lack of eating out (much needed, so happy for him – but a similar drop would have been great for me).
OP says
I guess I should mention that I also quit bfeeding earlier this year. I find it’s so easy to maintain my happy weight when BFeeding even if I am not exercising/eating lots of treats, it’s so much harder without.
Anon says
Yep I used to do IF (which didn’t help me lose but made it very easy to maintain) and I just can’t anymore.
Cb says
Me neither! I was just doing circadian rhythm (13 hours), with 2 long fasts a week on the days I was working late and just had a snack at 4 and didn’t eat again until the next am, but I can’t manage those long fasts since I don’t want to skip dinner in front of my son.
OP says
How did you do IF? I kind of do it (skip breakfast everyday, usually just eat lunch at 1-2 and then dinner at 8), maybe I should adhere to it more strictly to help.
Anon says
I used to do an 11-7 eating window, which was not difficult when I was going to bed (or at least getting in bed to read) by 10 pm. Now I’m staying up later and working in the evenings, and I can’t work when I’m hungry.
Two Cents says
I’m doing IF religiously and still have gained 7 pounds. So frustrating. I think it’s just comes from being so much less active these days. I try to take a walk every day but that doesn’t seem to be doing much except improving my mood.
Anon says
Mood improvement is good!
GCA says
I don’t have a scale, but my pants and shorts are tighter and I am grumpier; it’s a combo of sitting all day and sacrificing exercise/ outdoor time to catch up on work at night because work has been crazy. So +1 to lost muscle mass, too. I’m hoping work eases up a bit so I can get out more, and longer summer daylight hours will help.
Up 6 Pounds says
Me! I am up 6 pounds since a month ago. No one can see it, but I definitely feel it. I thought it was a hormone thing because it’s unusual for me to gain weight so quickly, but then I noticed how many extra snacks I was grabbing here and there. Starting this week I have been “packing my lunch,” just as I would have when I was going into the office so I have a definitive food stash for the day. I think it’s helping me cut down on the handfuls of popcorn here, a few crackers there, etc.
Anonymous says
COVID-15 is a thing. I think that with WFH I am really sedentary as it takes me 12 hours to get 8 hours of work done and I cook lunch at home (kids) vs walking out somewhere to fetch it at the office.
Anonymous says
Ugh can we just not with the Diet Culture? It’s a few pounds. It’s OK to gain a little weight during stressful times. It’s even OK to use food as a source of comfort during stressful times. You don’t need to add worrying about an additional 5lbs on top of everything. As everyone said, routines/food habits are out of sorts right now. But I just cannot listen anymore to people talking about the COVID-19 (weight) or how this is a chance to lose weight/do beach body/exercise subscription classss
Anonymous says
Thanks. Yes.
Anonymous says
So skip this post and move on. OP isn’t body shaming anyone. It’s totally reasonable to talk about how to maintain a healthy weight in the current situation as routines have changed significantly and maintaining their health is something many people are finding challenging.
The fact that you don’t want to read or talk about a subject on a public website doesn’t mean that other people can’t. I don’t like seeing CIO posts that are on here constantly so I just don’t read them. Take what benefits you from this community and leave the rest.
Anonymous says
I disagree. On some people, 5 pounds is an entire clothing size. Going from fit and self-confident to soft and flabby is a huge self-esteem blow that adds stress to an already stressful situation. I already feel like a hideous sack of garbage because I can’t get a haircut or a bikini wax or go to the gym. I don’t need to be told that I should just blithely accept weight gain and fitness loss too.
Anonymous says
You feel like a hideous sack of garbage because you can’t get a bikini wax or haircut!? I’m sorry but do we not all see how awful expectations of womens looks are that this is the reality? That gaining 5lbs is a crisis to our self esteem??
Anonymous says
Yeah I feel sorry for people like this.
Anonymous says
I engage in personal grooming because I have to live in my own body and look at myself in the mirror, not to meet anyone else’s standards. So yes, I am entitled to care how I look and feel.
Anonymous says
Sure. But hideous sack of garbage? Wow.
AnonLaywer says
Of course you are entitled to care how you look. But you don’t see how toxic it is to talk about feeling like a hideous sack of garbage because of a bikini wax? Whether that’s your standard or someone else’s, it’s pretty disturbing rhetoric.
Anonymous says
I understand and support you.
Anon says
The lack of small movement throughout the day really contributes to this. Try setting a timer for once an hour to do jumping jacks or something for 5 minutes. Even daily exercise can’t compensate for basically sitting for the entirety of the rest of the day.
Clementine says
I… I’m not sure? I rely on the scale at the gym to weigh myself. My clothes still fit and in fact I’m noticing that some things are looser…
But I also rely on repeated laps back and forth on our quiet neighborhood street with the kids to keep my sanity. I also have been using the peloton app (bike comes in a few weeks!) on my basement treadmill and been doing much more intense workouts than usual because it seems to be the only thing that helps with the stress.
Anonymous says
I get far, far less exercise on an average day when I’m working at home vs going into the office. Between that and the snacks, it’s not a good situation. I’m very intentional about keeping mostly fruit and vegetable nacks in the office, but at home we have all kinds of kid-friendly stuff and a refrigerator full of cheese calling my name.
Beth @ Parent Lightly says
It is interesting to see what happens when routines change. For me, I usually lose weight when I’m WFH and have during quarantine as well. My typical workouts are running, biking and lifting weights in my garage. So for me, there is really no change with gyms closing. I am MUCH more likely to fit a workout in when I’m WFH because I don’t have to change clothes, shower, etc. I also have more time because there’s no commute, bus stop, etc. I’ve been getting up early to run which really helps manage stress. An hour of quiet time with the dog and a podcast is heaven right now. I can’t always do that during “normal times” because my husband travels about 50%. Also we are eating out less and I don’t have the tempting office desserts to content with. So overall I’d say I’m a little healthier now and have maybe lost a little weight.
Anonymous says
I haven’t brought myself to get on the scale since this started. Kiddo goes back to daycare 6/8. I go back to pre-Covid activity levels and diet on 6/9. Skipping 6/8 because it is my birthday.
Anon says
yesterday many people (and rightfully so) were venting about their schools plan or lack there of for the fall. i know most of us (myself included) are not public health or education experts, but we are a group of smart women! I’m just kind of curious what your ideas would be if you were in charge of the school district, to try to maximize education, while minimizing risk, making contract tracing feasible, and make it easy to suddenly provide distance learning for all or some of the students in a class (like if a student’s family member is exposed or positive) taking into account thinks like school buses (for discussion sake let’s assume we aren’t in a place like nyc), the fact that in high school and middle school students generally have to switch classrooms because they might be in some, but not all AP/Honors classes and have different electives or foreign languages, the kids who have IEPs and get pulled out for special services, the teachers and administrators who are in high risk categories themselves or live with people who are, etc. what would be your ideas?
avocado says
I have a rising ninth-grader in an IB program. I would have the school install computers and ceiling-mounted cameras in all classrooms and allow families to choose between in-person and on-line attendance. This would reduce the number of students in the classroom. Teachers could also teach remotely as necessary. Students could switch between in-person and on-line participation at any time depending on individual circumstances (temporary quarantine due to exposure, parental concern about rising infection rates, etc.). This is not as far-fetched as it sounds. When I was in law school more than a decade ago, one student had a baby on mid-semester. She opted not to take maternity leave (insane!), so all of her course meetings were recorded using existing ceiling-mounted cameras.
You could go to a 4/10 schedule (4 days in person, 10 days off). Theoretically this would limit transmission because a person who picked up the virus on Day 1 of the rotation wouldn’t be contagious until he was at home on Day 5, but it would be of limited effectiveness if kids or their parents are leaving home during the 10-day “off” period. You would have to separate kids into cohorts in order for this to work–regular, honors/AP, IB. This would restrict cross-track enrollment to some degree.
I would drop electives and PE to shorten the school day so lunch would not be required. Classrooms would be sanitized regularly with hypochlorous acid (non-toxic, EPA-approved to kill coronavirus). Actual hand-washing would be required at regular intervals. Exhaust fans would be installed in bathrooms.
I’m not sure how you would deal with buses. Some of our buses already make multiple runs to the same school, leaving kids waiting around. I would improve traffic patterns to make it easier for parents to drop off and pick up their own children, which would reduce bus ridership and make it safer for those who still had to ride the bus.
Anonymous says
Good luck getting any of this past a teachers union.
avocado says
I think streaming live instruction would actually be attractive to a teachers’ union. Teachers would only be teaching the same number of classes with the same number of students as before. They wouldn’t have to prepare extra on-line content. They could also teach from home if they wanted or needed to.
Plans that simply reduce class size (and therefore increase the number of classes required to teach the same number of students) or create a separate on-line track will increase the work for teachers.
Anonymous says
Nope not at all. I regularly negotiate with them. Nearly uniformly teachers unions view this as a way to fire teachers. If you need 4 math teachers to teach in person but then 75% of kids can learn online, congrats you only need one in person instructor and the rest can be laid off.
These articles give a flavor:
https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/21/us/coronavirus-teachers-unions-school-home.html
https://www.aft.org/coronavirus/educators
And to be clear while professional I sit on the opposite side of the bargaining table, I absolutely think teachers have a point with this. Schools nationwide are going to have a dramatic funding crisis in the next two years. If they can cut staff, they will. They are mostly not going to be able to afford expensive proposals.
Anonymous says
That makes no sense. If you fired 75% of the teachers, then who would do all the grading? And if you have kids actively participating in instruction, you can’t reduce class sizes.
Anonymous says
If you are doing online instruction already, it seems like a short leap to electronic testing that would not need to be graded individually by hand by the teacher. Or there would be TAs like at universities. There are already para-educators at elementary schools in many capacities, and I assume they have lower salaries than the teachers themselves.
2 Cents says
Anonymous at 11:19: the admins don’t care who does the grading or when. Ask my DH who has 2x as many AP kids than recommended and frequently gets requests for “more essays.” Grading gets done on personal time all the time, holidays, weekends, after a 10-hour workday
Anon says
i work at a university and the first part of your plan (dual instruction/recording classes) is the plan for our reopening, but at least at my middle and high school the classes were generally more interactive, discussion based and not quite so lecture style. and they definitely were not at all lecture style in elementary school.
avocado says
I am thinking of middle school and high school, not elementary. My daughter took some of her classes at the high school this year and they were definitely interactive. Most of what they did could be handled very easily with Zoom breakout rooms.
I’ve taken two three-day stats workshops over Zoom during the pandemic. The instructors both said they were surprised by how easy it was to adapt their existing materials to the format. Discussions might have been somewhat more cumbersome to manage if some of the students had been present in the classroom, but it would be workable.
Anonymous says
I’m glad your two days of remote adult education make you feel like an expert. Please start attending your school Board meetings and participating in the public comment section. It is the best way to make your voice heard effectively.
avocado says
I am not saying I’m an expert, I’m saying that as a parent I think the actual experts need to be looking at options. Remote instruction is one option that actual experts are actually using.
So you think we should just throw up our hands, jam all the kids back into classrooms, and then shut down schools again when someone tests positive and the people in charge panic?
Anonymous says
No. I think the actual experts are looking at the problems. I think they’re doing nothing but try to find solutions.
You obviously hate your local district and should move or make other plans but nearly all schools are working very hard to try and figure this out.
Anonymous says
And I’m saying that every expert in the country on education is working on nothing but this. I don’t understand why you refuse to believe that because your local district is bad that no one is trying.
avocado says
Re. technology access: our district is relatively wealthy. Middle school kids are already being issued individual chromebooks starting in the fall. The high school has a lot of chromebooks for classroom use, and it would be pretty easy to distribute these to the few high school kids without computer access. Virtually everyone has high-speed internet. The district could provide wireless hotspots for the few students who don’t already have access.
Anonymous says
No one has these ideas! Our school leaders are trying as hard as they can to do an impossible task. Some people will never be satisfied. Some demand changes that aren’t feasible. Some don’t think we need any changes.
My idea is we reopen schools, require masks, and otherwise see how it goes. Some kids might be pulled out. Some teachers might take leave. I’m okay with that.
anon8 says
+1
I commented on the main site that my mom is an elementary school teacher and her district is trying to come with a plan for the fall. It’s a fairly large district with lots of busses and it really is a difficult task. Implementing true distance learning is not going to happen overnight and kids in difficult family situations are going to suffer. It’s a really difficult situation and people are going to be pissed no matter what the solution is.
Right now I just hate COVID and how it’s effed up every aspect of life.
Anon says
Yup. In our local paper they’re saying 10% of teachers don’t want to come back, but I imagine 10% of parents also don’t want to send their kids back. We need to at least try with masks. I’m so frustrated by the (increasingly likely, at least in my state) scenario that school will be canceled for the fall before we even attempt it.
I also wish we had been open to a shifted calendar. With everyone saying there will be a resurgence in the fall, why not start up in July and hope you can at least have a few months of school?
Anonymous says
Some districts in NY state are doing this.
Anon says
Starting in July? Or canceling the fall already? Originally Newsom in CA was gung-ho to start in July, but recently he seems more hesitant about it.
Anonymous says
Starting early with plans to end the fall semester at Thanksgiving.
anon says
He’s hesitant because there’s no money.
Anon says
Agree with this. I understand there are teachers that don’t want to come back but I don’t see how that’s different than any other business where employees don’t want to come back. Having some portion of teachers not want to come back/some parents not want to send their kids back is not a reason to keep schools closed for all.
Anonymous says
Same in NJ. We’ve had schools announce fall is starting remotely. Personally I think it’s much too early to make that call.
avocado says
I am so sick of people saying it’s impossible to make schools safer and ensure continuity of instruction, so we should just give up and stop trying. That guarantees that schools will be shut down again by October and no one will learn anything.
Anonymous says
That’s not remotely what I’m saying. I’m saying schools (aside from yours yes we can all agree yours is unique horrible) are working extremely hard on this and don’t have the answers yet. In part because no one really knows what the fall will be like, in part because the communities they serve have diametrically opposes preferences, and in part because this is an extremely hard issue to solve.
Clearly you have zero confidence in your schools. So move. Do that online charter you keep talking about.
But please stop asserting that no one is trying and the country has given up. It’s completely false and really disrespectful to our hard working educators.
anon8 says
+1
This is not an impossible task, but it is an incredibly complex and difficult problem to solve. No one ever has had to deal with changing school structure like this. I have faith that administrators are doing the best they can given limited time and resources. It is going to take time to come up with a viable long term solution. In the meantime, things are not going to be perfect and there are still unknowns about how cases will rise in the fall and winter. I hope there is good faith on both sides as school districts work through the solutions.
Anon says
+2
Realist says
I just feel like there are no good solutions and it makes me sick. I see no way to protect vulnerable children (who rely on school for food and safety), to protect at-risk school staff, and to also provide reliable schedules for working families. One or more of these groups will suffer, it seems, no matter which approach is taken. I don’t even think most school districts could begin to identify priorities without greatly upsetting one or more of these groups and putting them in a terrible situation.
anon says
Yes, this. I am sorry, but distance learning is not the freaking same thing as online learning, particularly for younger students. Can we stop pretending that it is? I am more worried about kids’ educations (at every economic level) being sacrificed for several years than I am about a widespread outbreak. Sanitize often, require masks, and eliminate the riskiest activities like assemblies or anything that will require close contact. I wish schools would consider a different academic calendar like many colleges are doing for fall — but it may be too late with teacher contracts, I’m not sure.
Let’s mitigate risk where we can but open the schools!
Anon says
+1. I’m frustrated because we can spout off COVID stats so whoever does that seems to “win”. But we can’t spout off stats about an entire generation of potentially lost education & the far reaching consequences, b/c those headlines will be in the future. But because of that, that seems to be ignored. In other words, the full risk/reward spectrum doesn’t seem to be assessed. Keeping everyone from getting COVID doesn’t happen in a vacuum without major, major consequences.
Anon says
Yes, the complications and deaths from the virus are obviously a huge harm but there are other very significant harms that are occurring or will be occurring soon due to shutdowns and school closures, but because they’re less immediate or less quantifiable, they’re being ignored. It’s incredibly frustrating to me and it’s not just with education, but also mental health, child abuse, domestic violence, financial devastation etc. Apparently keeping the Covid death counts down is the ONLY thing that matters. Who cares that child abuse is way up?
Realist says
-I like avocado’s suggestion of allowing the choice between in person or online classes.
-I would offer the option for an outdoor class that would allow homeschooling kids to join once a week.
-I would try to allow at-risk school faculty the opportunity to work remotely, probably as some sort of support for quarantined and homeschooled kids
-I would be raising noise to tax the heck out of any billionaires in my state (and in my city, if applicable) to get revenues for education. Ultra wealth tax at the state or local level. Sure, they could move and game the system but I would want to see it hard/annoying af for them to do so. Because that is the bottom line. There are ways to mitigate risks, but hardly any school has the resources to fund even basic, common sense measures (like smaller classrooms). Funding won’t come from the middle class right now. Billionaires (which is like 500 people in the US) have added over 400 billion to their wealth since the pandemic started. It is obscene while so many are struggling and schools are being asked to create magical plans and resources out of thin air.
Anonymous says
It isn’t hard for billionaires to shield their assets.
Realist says
It isn’t hard to go after the assets if you really want to. Most of the loopholes are written in on purpose. Regulatory schemes like FATCA are extremely effective if you make taxation a priority.
BAH says
I’m biased, because I have a young elementary school student, but I’d keep distance learning for neurotypical/non-ESL middle and high school students and decrease class size for elementary with a rotating half-day schedule, possibly using the middle and highschool spaces for older elementary kids. For at least 3 reasons 1) classroom switching -even if you were able to group kids so they’d all be in the same 4-5 classes a day, you still have the teachers switching in and out; 2) better able to do DL (yes, I know it sucks, but it’s still better for a NT tween/teen, than 5-8 year olds; and 3) science is still out, but younger kids seem to be less likely to transmit — hopefully, we’ll know more by the end of the summer.
I realize this is near impossible, especially with a huge school district, because of logistical issues around number of teachers and transportation, not to mention equity issues for kids with IEPs and ESL students.
There are no good solutions until we have some confidence in treatment, a vaccine, or transmission rates in kids, and it sucks.
Anonymous says
If you keep the students without special needs at home, you can more safely maintain in-person services for those with special needs.
BAH says
Agreed — there are students who just can’t learn through distance learning because of special needs, and do think they should be given priority to get in-person teaching at school.
What I’m seeing as the gray area, are the younger kids who aren’t special needs who are having issues with DL — no parental support at home to set it up and monitor it (especially in younger grades), struggling with keeping up with the online lessons, etc. This disparity seems to be happening along economic lines (shock!) — so is there a setup so the kids who may be eligible for FARMs (free and reduced lunch) have the first chance to go back to school?
Anonymous says
That’s entire school districts in many places.
Spirograph says
While I appreciate that there is maybe a more dire need to FARM kids to go back to school for their physical wellbeing, I would hate to see the community impact of this. My kids are safe and fed at home, sure, but I would be INCREDIBLY resentful that I was stuck attempting to balance a full time job with arranging childcare and monitoring distance learning for kids too young to do it themselves, so that the FARM kids could use the building. I know that’s “wrong,” but that’s how I would feel. There are plenty of kids like my son who have all their physical needs met at home, but are struggling a lot with isolation in ways that may be nearly as damaging in the long term. I’d probably be more restrained than many in how I acted on my Mama Bear anger over it. Class war aside, at a minimum it would undo all the work to integrate the student body and reduce visible markers of class difference (eg, no cash exchanged at lunch, all students offered free breakfast, etc)
Anon says
I don’t see any school distinct doing that. 1) It would horrible to publicly label the kids that way, it sort of goes against everything public education stands for and 2) it’s the rich parents that donate their time and money to the district so they can’t take a chance on upsetting them. In my district, they provided meals in the spring for kids who needed them (it was a curbside takeout kind of thing, so relatively safe) and decided to continue that over the summer, so at least kids who depended on school/camp for a hot meal were getting it. Of course there’s much more to school than just a meal, but at least getting kids fed is a start.
BAH says
Spirograph — I agree re: the downsides of only letting some kids go back — and would be very resentful myself AND be concerned with the disparity that would result. I was about to go into that “on the other hand” and realized my post would be WAY too long if I touched on all my thoughts.
There’s no way to come up with a solution that treats some grades/needs differently without upsetting someone, and I’m worried that the younger students, ESL students, and students with IEPs are the ones who are going to be at the greatest disadvantage if they continue with only distance learning, which they may do to avoid complaints of things being unfair.
Basically, back to this whole thing sucks, and is only highlighting the weaknesses inequality in our educational system.
Anonymous says
BAH, I don’t think any school district will be on-line only to prevent complaints about inequities–it will be the opposite. Robust on-line instruction will not be provided out of fear of leaving some students behind.
Anonymous says
I like this the best of options presented. imho,there is just no way to make distance/remote learning appropriate or effective for teaching K-3 kids without heavy parental involvement. My mom teaches 4th grade and said her students have adapted decently, but she also teaches the gifted class. The other 4th grade teachers are apparently having a tough time, especially with students who struggle academically.
If distance learning is the best they can come up with, I’d just as soon forget instruction entirely and do outdoor-based montessori with picnic lunches.
I’m sure there is some kind of equal access reason why this can’t happen, but why not give students and teachers the choice? As someone else pointed out, there is a % of teachers who will not want to come back to a classroom, and there is a % of parents who will not want their kids going back. Match them up! Some teachers can be remote learning specialists and tailor their planning accordingly, and students whose parents prefer that option go into their classes.
anon says
A few for my school district:
— Our county decided not to engage with online learning this spring with the expectation that we could play catch up in the fall. That now seems to be a bad decision b/c there is a large risk that kids won’t be back in classrooms. This summer the district needs to get devices and internet to all students so they are prepared for remote learning and/or a shut down. They can’t wait for the governor to make a call before starting this process.
— Our county has been providing food to many kids. There can’t be an expectation that kids will supply their own masks. They need to be ordering masks, sanitizer and thermometers now. Even if we are likely to be remote in the fall, there is almost zero chance we can go back in 2020 if these aren’t available. Don’t wait to purchase these.
— Online learning can’t be driven by the county as a whole. Thus far all learning materials for our county for elementary students have come out of the central office with zero differentiation or classroom teacher input. This is ridiculous b/c some first graders are reading Harry Potter and others can’t read at all. The packet serves only a very narrow group of students, leaving all others without instruction. Elementary teachers need to break their class into reading and math groups and differentiate for each group. Meet with groups of 3-5 students at a time.
— Class meetings need to occur at the same time every week. It’s crazy that we have different calls at different times on different days every week. There needs to be a schedule and consistency instead of complete chaos.
anon says
One more:
–Even if distance learning, they need to figure out how to get library books to kids. It’s been hard to get enough reading material for my kids without the school or public libraries (and total reliance on screens doesn’t work for us). There has to be a way to do this safely.
avocado says
The local library in the town where I work is doing curbside pickup. You place an on-line hold on the books you want, and the librarians bring your books to your car.
Realist says
This article is a few days old but I just came across it. Basically, no easy answers, budget cuts make solutions hard, inequities likely to be amplified, and we might see different approaches across the country. Article also notes the impact of keeping kids out of school, similar to some above pointing out that could do as much damage as Covid. https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2020/06/01/the-complex-question-of-reopening-schools
anon says
Are you renting a vacation house this summer? We are in DC in a condo and I keep dreaming of renting a house with a yard where the kids can just run around. The city grind is just getting to me and I could use a change of scenery. Any ideas of where to look near DC? We don’t usually vacation around here.
Anon says
The whole world has had this idea. I was so thrilled a couple weeks ago when my husband suggested it (he’s normally not into travel, and he’s more risk-averse than me as far as Covid goes) but we couldn’t find anything even halfway decent and affordable in any area we would want to visit.
Spirograph says
West Virginia!
anon says
We have rented a house at Smith Mountain Lake so we can swim off the dock without needed to be near people at all. It’s about 4 hours south from DC in Virginia. We’ve gone for several years and really enjoy our time there. The water is lovely and it’s very isolated.
Anonymous says
Yes. We are in MA and we have had a house on Cape Cod booked for 2 weeks in August since pre-pandemic. We contacted the owners and extended for the entire month of August. We reached out in March to see if it was a possibility and they talked to the family renting for one of those weeks and apparently it all worked out (other family was out of state and wanted to bail but didn’t want to lose the money) and now we are going for the whole month.
Anon says
Nice! We are supposedly going to cape cod in 3.5 weeks (private beach, will stay sequestered). Fingers crossed MA enters phase II soon…
Anonanonanon says
In the DC area and trying to talk my husband into agreeing for us to buy a weekend place in Maryland. Looking in Talbot County, it’s only about 2 hours away and I think that’s realistic to actually take the kids down on a Friday and come back Sunday evening, or for me to take the kids down a bit early and telework and my husband to join us on the weekends, etc.
He is not as into the idea as I am.
Nightmares says
Help with a 5 year old waking up / having nightmares and needing parents multiple times through the night, multiple days a week? Child has 2 nightlights (one motion-sensor) and a string of christmas lights to help with the “dark” factor, but it hasn’t solved the issue.
Anything that worked for your 5ish year olds?
CPA Lady says
The book Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents by Lynn Lyons is really good. Basically the point is that the more you “give in” to and accommodate your child’s anxiety the more you strengthen and enforce it by showing them that you think they can’t handle it. This is completely against my natural instincts as an anxious parent who was an anxious kid (my instinct is to do everything I can to try to “help”– nightlights, etc).
But being forced to face your fear is actually what my therapist made me do when I was dealing with some severe anxiety and panic attacks in my early/mid 20s. She forced me to go outside and do things that made me scared. Now, there is a compassionate way to do this and a horrible, damaging way to do this, which is why I suggest you read the book, since it helps you understand the compassionate way to teach your child to face their fears.
luluaj says
My 5 year old sleeps with his bedside light on (it’s pretty bright). He started after some nightmares about a year ago.
Realist says
We’ve had mixed success with “dream potion” that we tell kiddo helps you have good dreams. We use a small glass of warm water with a little honey. Placebo magic.
Nightlights can interfere with deep sleep, so we use a timer so the nightlight is off by 10pm. An orange/amber nightlight (which won’t interfere with sleep) stays on all night so it isn’t completely dark if kid wakes up.
If it works for your schedule, a warm bath every night can help promote good sleep, and you can experiment to see if adding some aromatherapy (lavender, etc) seems to help.
This situation is so stressful for kids, so anything you can do during the day to help manage stress/anxiety might help nighttime sleep.
Anon says
i’ve heard people have success with putting a sleeping bag next to the parents bed and that the kid is allowed to come in and sleep in the sleeping bag whenever they want, but cannot wake the parents.
Carpool... says
My kids day camp is opening this summer (part of their preschool) and I am sending them. Here’s the question – the preschool is big on carpool and many people do it. Our regular carpool assumed we’d be back to carpooling for this but I’m torn. On the one hand, they’re going to get exposed to kids at the camp (although in theory protocols will be in place to limit exposure). On the other hand, it seems like opting out of carpool would be an easy way to mitigate risk. Socially, am concerned about annoying the other parents we carpool with during the regular normal times school year, but I am still willing to back out! Weirdly the others (3 families – 3 kids) don’t seem at all phased? Not in a hotspot clearly.
Has anyone seen anything discussing risks of cars and carpooling? I assume cars are risky, but also would be the kids and not us in the car – or when we drive we will wear masks and just be driving kids. Agh.
Anon says
the carpool thing hadn’t even crossed my mind. but interesting point. are the kids the same age/in the same group? how long is the drive? can you drive with the windows down? how old are the kids? can all the kids also wear a mask in the car?
OP says
Kids are 4 and 5. Drive is short but sometimes have to wait to be dropped off so could be 20 minutes? Windows open is a good idea for when one of us drives! School isn’t requiring masks so getting kids to wear them would be tricky because they’d have to leave them in the car then put them back on and not sure they all have them… (my kids do though!) Good questions! Thanks!
Anonymous says
Skipping carpool but still sending them makes no real difference in terms of covid risk at all.
AnotherAnon says
Provided that day camp is following the suggested protocols of the CDC – temperature monitoring, masks for adults, increased hand washing, and maintaining social distancing (all things my day care has implemented), I think skipping carpool does make a significant difference in terms of covid risk.
Anonymous says
Yeah, especially if the daycare is substantially outdoors, which is the plan for ones around here.
Anon says
I wouldn’t worry about the carpool. If you’re *that* concerned about catching Covid then don’t send your kid to camp. I guess I’m of the mindset that many of us are going to catch it eventually, and I’ve made my peace with that (while still following all rules and guidelines, etc). I honestly want school to resume more or less as normal within the classroom, and when we send our kids out to things like camp and class we just have to accept that this cohort is now part of our circle.
NYCer says
+1. I would not worry about the carpool.
1 hour glucose test says
Just found out I failed my 1 hour glucose test (141; 135 cutoff). Did anyone else have this experience? Now I have to sit for the 3-hour… I’ve gained a normal amount of weight thus far (28 weeks) and eat a fairly healthy/whole foods diet (of course I’ve indulged in a sweet treat a few times a week, but not even daily). Ugh.
Been there says
Ha I think half this board has had this experience? I’ve had gestational diabetes twice and I’m a healthy eater who doesn’t gain much weight. Don’t feel guilty if you do fail the three hour. Don’t try to game it but don’t eat a piece of coffee cake going in. If you do have GD, It’s often controlled with diet and really not that bad! Makes you an even healthier eater!
Pogo says
It is not totally linked to your weight gain and whether you are healthy. Please don’t feel bad. I know people who are legit skinny who have had it.
Clementine says
FWIW, GD is more genetic than anything else. Honestly, it’s nothing you did – it’s just how it goes sometimes.
I know this goes without saying, but better to know now than to have complications from undiagnosed GD!
Side note: anecdotally I know women who had very large first babies (like 9.5 lbs + who were subsequently diagnosed with GD for later pregnancies. Anyone else have this happen?
anon says
+1 to genetics. I am 23 weeks along with my second, have a BMI of about 18 pre-pregnancy, but both parents have diabetes and so I knew it was a near certainty I would get it (I’m also AMA). I had to go on insulin for my first pregnancy but thus far have avoided it in this pregnancy. Don’t feel bad if you end up getting diagnosed (though with a 141 there’s a good chance you’ll pass the 3 hour) and know that the vast majority of women are diet/exercise controlled. Good luck!!
Emily S. says
Yup. By one point. Mine was after I ate a salad with fruit for lunch. I passed the 3 hour, I think, because I ate almost no fruit, carbs, or sweets for 3 days before the test. I was worried I was gaming the system, but I did it anyway.
tk says
Yup, mine was insanely high on the first test (189? Could that be right?) I hadn’t eaten much for breakfast the day of and had a sugar-filled granola bar right beforehand … I don’t recommend that approach.
3-hour test went fine, and it still stands as the record for longest time out of the house since COVID lock-down! I read a book, alone, for 3 hours. Didn’t check in at work or at home. It was awesome.
Anonymous says
This is why my OB’s office recommends fasting for even the 1-hour test.
Anonymous says
Yup. I had 3 kids. I failed the 1 hour with one of them but passed the 3 hour with flying colors.
anon says
Another one! I failed the 1 hour and 3 hour with my first, and was managed entirely by diet and checking my blood glucose 2-4x day. I also made it a rule that I walked after every meal for at least 10 mins, usually 30 -even if it meant lapping a hallway. For my second I failed the 1 hr, my OB tests you twice if you have a history, so I took the 3 hr twice (12 + 28 weeks) and passed both times.
I’m overweight and managed to gain around 10lbs during pregnancy – which was supported by my OB both babies were 8lbs 2oz.
Hope this helps!
AnonATL says
I had my 1 hour a couple weeks and passed (thank goodness), but I have heard that a consistent low-carb diet can actually backfire and cause you to fail the 1 hour but not actually have GD because your body isn’t used to that insulin spike. Not a doctor, so it could be complete nonsense.
When I checked with my doctor at my appointment before my glucose test, his suggestion was you are more likely to pass if you do it first thing in the morning after fasting. I ate my normal foods (minus ice cream and super sweets) for a few days before and then dinner the night before was fairly low carb. Fasted in the morning, no coffee and just sips of water during the test, and I felt fine the whole test and passed.
I know there are extra rules for the 3 hour, but I would ask your doctor what they suggest. If you fail, you fail and you probably do have GD but you can also be totally fine and just weren’t told to prep properly which is maddening. I’m not suggesting you somehow cheat, but there are just way too many people that fail the 1 hour and pass the 2 or 3 hour.
I’ve also heard the three hour can be pretty uncomfortable, and you will be starving afterward so plan for a good snack and loads of water!
NYCer says
I failed the one hour test during my most recent pregnancy and then passed the three hour, so there is hope for you too. I didn’t do anything special before the three hour test (changing diet, etc.).
FWIW, I am extremely thin and gained a low/normal amount of weight during pregnancy.
KatieWolf says
I failed my 1 hour test with my first and felt very disappointed in myself, despite knowing that all types of people get gestational diabetes. So 1, I understand your “ugh”. Before my 1-hour, I had a piece of toast and an egg, and I think not fasting was what did me in. I fasted for my 3 hour and passed. Fasted for my 1-hour with baby two and passed. So (1) just fast and see if that helps, and (2) don’t fret too much if you end up being diagnosed with GD. It happens!
OP says
Thanks all – I did fast overnight for the 1-hour, but hopeful the 3-hour will turn out ok, and if not, thanks for the kind words/encouragement that it’s not my fault :)
Anonymouse says
Not what you want to hear, but as a data point here’s my experience:
I also failed the one hour, and my ob opted to skip the three hour as we’re in a hot spot and she didn’t want me sitting in the lab for 3 hours, esp because mine was so high they’d want to test twice. So I skipped right to testing and maintenance. Six weeks into that, my blood sugars after meals are fine (had to cut out all fruit, simple carbs, and sugar, which is tricky to balance with grocery shopping only 1 or 2/month) but my fasting sugar in the morning is still too high, so they keep upping the insulin. So I’m pricking my finger 4/day and my husband has to give me insulin shots (in the arm) every night. (Supposedly it’s easy to do yourself, but I couldn’t get it to work.) It definitely sucks, but has become just part of the daily routine. The first week was the worst between the mental adjustment from eating what I wanted (and what was easy) and physical ick (if you’ve ever tried a super low-carb diet, they refer to the first few days as the detox flu – I had absolutely no energy, headaches, etc.) I now eat eggs or greek yogurt for breakfast, and protein (eggs / meat / canned beans) + fat (avocado / cheese / nuts) + frozen veggies for lunch and dinner. Hopefully all of this means a normal sized baby who doesn’t have sugar issues, and it will be a higher priority to maintain healthier lifestyle afterwards as I’ll be at increased risk for developing regular diabetes.
Anon for this says
Did y’all ever take early pregnancy tests or wait until missed period? I kind of think I’m pregnant and I’m six days away from my period – the internet tells me I can take an early test!
Don’t really mind a false negative. Wouldn’t alter my behavior. A positive would be nice to know. Would be disappointed if ended up being a chemical pregnancy that I wouldn’t have otherwise detected!
Anonymous says
If you’d be disappointed then wait.
Anon says
I always took them early, but also struggled with infertility and tried for a long time… so I became a bit test crazy :) I’ve had 2 pregnancies: one (successful pregnancy) I had a positive a few days before missed period and second (early miscarriage) I had a positive only after my missed period. Not sure there’s any correlation tho as I’ve heard things across the board.
Good luck and fingers crossed for you!
anonn says
I did this on cycle day 24, it was negative then I got crazy period cramps later in the day, cried and cried, picked a fight with my husband about how he wasn’t trying hard enough, all the TTC effort was on me, blah blah blah. But my period never came and 6 days later I took a test and it was positive. totally freaked me out! I guess those cramps were implantation?
OP says
hahaha I would totally do this.
Anonymous says
I did with both (successful) pregnancies. I also had symptoms by that point with both kids. With DD I had been tired, with DS I just “knew” I was pregnant and got insanely hungry and went “oh crap I’m pregnant”. DD was a STRONG positive and I subsequently had horrendous morning sickness. I think my HCG was sky high with her. DS was an insanely faint positive, but I learned that “any positive is a positive” and he’s now 10 months old. So anyways, yes you can, but you can also wait! Test first thing in the morning, or your first pee, when HCG will be most concentrated.
OP says
Totally going to test tomorrow morning. Thanks all, I don’t feel crazy. I do have symptoms – I felt like I was going to fall asleep standing up yesterday, which was an early sign of pregnancy with my first.
For all those having fertility issues right now, I’m sorry if my hopeful stage is at all triggering, and newly preg (no more), my heart goes out to you. Definitely grieve. But hold on to some hope out there too.
newlypreg (no more) says
not remotely! hoping for the best for you!
OP says
Aw thanks! Hoping for the best for you too, soon!
Anonymous says
Oh no if this is your second and you suspect your pregnant then you prob are. But that’s me. I think women’s intuition is really strong.
Anonymous says
I tried early, pretty much every day first thing in the morning, and they didn’t detect anything. The cheapy easy @ home test strips detected it before the First Response and other early detection tests… I think maybe ~2 days before my missed period.
Beth @ Parent Lightly says
I like data so I tend to take it when I feel symptoms.
newlypreg (no more) says
I posted yesterday to say I’d found out I was pregnant over the weekend… only to wake up to quite a bit of bleeding this morning. Sadly, seems that this pregnancy is not meant to be. Trying to look on the bright side, but right now just feeling sad.
Boston Legal Eagle says
I’m sorry. You don’t need to look on the bright side if you don’t want to. This just sucks.
AnotherAnon says
That sucks. I’m really sorry you’re going through this.
Anon says
I’m sorry. Let yourself feel all the feelings And know there is no set time on those feelings. I had a miscarriage at 9w in the fall and I’m still feeling all the feelings (less often of course), but friends having second babies, each month I fail to get pregnant, etc. can all be triggers for me even seven months later.
anon says
I have been there, too. It hurts and it’s hard, and yes, the triggers are everywhere. I’m thinking of you!
anon says
I am really sorry. Many hugs; this just s*cks.
More Sleep Would Be Nice says
I’m sorry. You don’t have to find a bright side. I hope you do something lovely for yourself and can just…be for a bit.
2 Cents says
I’m so sorry. All the internet hugs to you.
Right here with you says
I had a miscarriage a month ago and it sucks. Just wanted to let you know I understand and I am so so sorry for your loss. It’s really hard.
DLC says
Does anyone have anecdotal experience with hormonal shifts when transitioning to solids? Is this even a thing? Last week was really hard and I felt like I was just angry about everything- like yelling at every small offense. My 8 month old has been on solids for a few months so we’re nursing less, and yesterday I had a thought that maybe this might be contributing to why I’m so rage filled? I used to be able to dismiss my partner’s idiot moments, but I feel like these days I’m more likely to devolve into a shouting rage and I don’t like this reaction. Or I might just be stressed from quarantining with three kids and being unemployed. What’s helping you these days?
Anonymous says
Yeah I don’t think it’s the solid food.
Anonanonanon says
Fwiw, the two times I have ended up on antidepressants (including currently), rage was my main depression symptom. Like… everyone around me was a total idiot and doing nothing right and I couldn’t take it type rage. With both of my children this seemed to really show up around 10 months PP.
Anonymom says
Weaning (even if not completely) will trigger significant hormonal shifts. It’s more extreme when you stop completely but I’d think even a substantial cutback might do the trick. Weaning can trigger PPD/PPA – so if its manageable now you’ll want to keep an eye on it whenever you fully wean and seek help if needed.
2 Cents says
I was ragey, depressed and anxious. Prozac changed my life. Talk to your doctor or (if you have one) therapist about the changes in your mood.
Anonymous says
I’m 9 months pp and have had crazy hormonal surges over the last couple months. It’s been truly awful. It’s hard to say why because after 6 months we started solids, my period came back, and I started back at work so there were lots of changes at the same time. More sleep has been helping. My husband has been taking one for the team and doing the night wake ups.
Anonymous says
My son has been on solids for 7 years and I am having this problem. (So are my husband and the 7 year old). I think it is cumulative stress catching up with us. You certainly could be having hormonal issues too, but I think irritability is extremely common right now.
Anon says
Weaning was awful for my mental health. Definitely call your OB. I wish I’d made plans to deal with the mental health effects in advance (scheduled therapy, discussed meds).
When to tell work about pregnancy? says
I am a Biglaw associate currently working remotely and 12 weeks pregnant.
Under normal circumstances, I would probably wait until I was starting to show to tell my boss.
With Covid, I am concerned about layoffs. Our work has slowed way down. I am one of 8 associates in the group, several of whom are my year, and am usually an average to above-average biller. I am one of two women associates. Between working from home and chronic nausea/exhaustion in the first trimester, I would characterize my last few months’ performance as slightly below average.
A few people I know have recommended that I tell my boss about the pregnancy as soon as possible so if there are layoffs, I will be less likely to be laid off because the firm will not want to appear to be illegally discriminating against me due to pregnancy.
This goes against the conventional thinking that being pregnant could be held against me (perhaps subconsciously).
I am not trying to use pregnancy as an excuse. Just terrified of losing my job/benefits/guaranteed paid maternity leave.
Any thoughts? Am I making too much or this?
Anonymous says
I think anyone who is telling you that being pregnant will make you less likely to lose a big law job doesn’t know the field very well.
When to tell work about pregnancy? says
Thank you for your response. That was my initial reaction as well.
Anon for this says
From my extensive experience working in BigLaw, I would tell now; your instincts are good.
Eek says
I’m not convinced that having disclosed a pregnancy will protect you in the event of layoffs. I think it’s equally as likely to hurt you as help. I would wait to disclose, personally.
Anon says
I think it depends on your firm. What’s your gut about your firm?
When to tell work about pregnancy? says
Thank you for your response. That was my initial reaction as well. I will be in my 2nd trimester next week and think I will disclose then.