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If I’m going to wear office-appropriate pants, they better be comfortable and flattering. The Jackie Slim Boot from Paire might check both boxes.
These mid-rise pants have front pockets, a hidden elastic back waistband, and four-way stretch fabric. The slight flare and vertical seams elongate your legs — perfect for all those heeled fall booties. It comes several office-friendly colors (like black and slate) and best of all, there are three inseams available: 28, 30, and 32 inches, so those who are petite, tall, or in between can find their perfect pair!
These pants from Paire are $245 and available in sizes 0–14.
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Anonymous says
$245 for synthetic pants with an elastic waistband and a cut from 15 years ago? Pass.
octagon says
They don’t even fit the model very well. She’s standing straight and they are too tight in the hips.
Anon says
Plus they recommend 32” for people 5’5” and above. So it’s like they have short, extra short, and regular. Not for tall people.
test run says
Yeah, 32″ hits just above the ankle bone for me. For this cut, a true “tall” needs to be at least 34″ if not 36″ to allow for tailoring.
Anonymous says
Ha, yes. I’m 5’5″ with short legs and hem pants like these at 31 or 32 inches.
anne-on says
This. I picked up two pairs of washable ‘work’ pants at Talbots recently that looked similar but fit much better for about $75 each, multiple lengths and sizes from 0-22. I’ve been pleasantly surprised at the quality of their workwear options especially as Ann Taylor and Jcrew have gone downhill and my local banana republic closed.
More Sleep Would Be Nice says
This reminds me of my “going out fashun” from the late 90’s/early 00s.
Pogo says
do not forget your sparkly tank top from express!! and make sure to layer them!
Anonymous says
And wear with high heels!
anon says
+1, these remind me of an overpriced version of my Theory Max C’s that I wore to death in the mid-00s. What a terrible rec.
Cb says
Even a sea between us cannot save me from pretend play. Kiddo and I were having our nightly video chat and he wanted to play reindeer rescue, so phone me was on a mountain, awaiting the arrival of rescue unicorn with his medical kit. Of course, my housemates walked in while I was making sad reindeer noises and holding my hurt hoof.
Anonymous says
I would love to have a roommate as awesome as this. :)
Anon says
My daughter (4) does a lot of video chats with extended family, and one thing she really gets a kick out of are what we call “face masks”. I’m not sure how she found them (at 3 she was navigating my phone better than me), but they are virtual reality like backgrounds that move with you and your face sticks out; for example she can be a frog and when she opens her mouth wide, the frog licks for a fly, or she was a skiing penguin or riding a dolphin or had leopard spots on her face. She cycles through them with her grandparents and aunts and everyone gets a good laugh.
Anonymous says
My 3 year old calls these “smile faces” and loves them! haha.
SC says
You’re a hero.
Supporting mom-to-be of twins says
My cousin just found out she’s expecting twins, and while I am so excited for her I also know that money will be an issue. She was a bartender but has been on bed rest, which has been a loss of income, and she probably won’t be able to go back to work. She has limited health insurance and won’t be able to get on her husband’s plan until January. Space will be an issue too, they live in a small condo right now and her husband works from home, they haven’t had luck finding a larger home. Their parents live out-of-state. I live a couple hours away. What would be the best way to support them? I was thinking of setting up a calendar where friends and family can sign up to help with cleaning, laundry, meals, babysitting, etc. Anyone know of good websites for setting up something like that? Should I get folks to pitch in on getting her a postpartum doula with experience caring for multiples? Any other ideas?
Anonymous says
Honestly, I’d send cash (unless you know she’d react negatively to that).
Anonymous says
A big gift card to someplace you know she will shop for necessities (Target?) may be more palatable if she’d react negatively to cash.
Anon says
100%, or amazon gift card. something along those lines maybe with a token baby toy/newborn outfit.
Anonymous says
Cash. A postpartum dula is a luxury service and she needs help with basics.
SC says
I’ve had family members organize a meal train using http://www.mealtrain.com, and it seemed to be easy. I looked at the site, and it appears to have options to sign up for other tasks, give gift cards to things like door dash instead of making your own meal, and donating cash.
anon says
Seconding meal trains or gift cards/cash. Having dinner show up a couple times a week the first month or so of our twins’ lives was AMAZING. Twins are wonderful, but two newborns is exhausting.
Anonymous says
I would do cash or a gift card to Target/Amazon and then ask if there’s anything else you can do to help, like organize meals, etc. Saying this as someone who lives in a very small house with both adults WFH, if they’re in a small condo, and her husband WFH, they might not actually want help with cleaning because it would be too disruptive to his work. However, there might be something else they’d appreciate help with to free up his time for cleaning.
Anonymous says
I would start by asking her what she needs/wants, and also yes to a meal train (they’re very easy to set up). As a twin mom, if my house were on fire I would save my TwinZ pillow. I think she could also use a double stroller for taking them to the pediatrician by herself; that could be a good gift from family. Good luck to her! They will figure it out.
Curious says
Yes! Use the meal train website. We have loooved being recipients!
Anon4This says
+1 to meal train site. My colleagues organized one when I was 9 months pregnant and a parent unexpectedly passed away. It was a spot of comfort in a very harsh time.
anon says
So my 3rd grader asked me to give advice on play yard drama for the first time ever. She says two girls keep following her around telling her that she’s a bully because she trips them every morning and then runs away laughing. She swears it isn’t true and says she has no idea why they keep bothering her. She says they follow her around all of recess calling her a bully. She says she’s been running away, but they won’t leave her alone. (Ironically next week is bullying prevention week–I think some kids have missed the point.)
As background, she’s very young for her grade and developmentally is still more into pretend play than girl drama. She has other friends who also do pretend play with her at recess. I know the other two girls (and their moms) and they’ve been into girl drama for a couple of years now. My kid is also slightly verbally delayed, especially when overwhelmed, so she isn’t able to spar verbally; she’s more likely to run away, push or hit than to be able to discuss or deliver a rejoinder.
Suggestions? What would you do?
Cb says
Are the kids masked? Could they have her mistaken for someone else? I read something recently (maybe here?) about how kids are struggling to tell one kid from the next, so it’s harder to figure out who your friends are/point out kids being bullies?
Anonymous says
I wouldn’t give these kids the benefit of the doubt. If these kids were truly being bullied by someone, they would avoid, not confront, that person.
Anonymous says
3-year-olds, maybe. Not third-graders. They know exactly who is who and what they are doing.
anon says
OP here, the kids have all known each other for years and aren’t masked on the playground. These are girls on her soccer team and in girl scouts with her. No mistaken identity. I think just differences in development–these girls find girl drama interesting and my daughter doesn’t get it yet. Prior to them picking on my daughter, they were all in a kerfuffle about one of the girls liking some boy and were following him around. I hear about it from the moms, as my daughter is off busy playing pretend games and has zero awareness.
Anonymous says
Ugh, there was a pack of girls in my daughter’s third-grade class who were into this sort of thing, down to chasing the boys around. They seemed to have learned it from their older sisters.
EDAnon says
For me, it was 4th grade and I completely lost some of my closest friends who got swept up in it. It’s been a lifetime of me trying to avoid that crap. I am sorry for your daughter.
I found that ignoring people works well. If they don’t get a reaction, it gets boring. That doesn’t work in all cases though. And it sounds like their lives are really intertwined.
One thing that worked well for me was playing on sports teams with kids that went to other schools. That way, if one group sucked, I could spend time with the other one. I used that strategy through high school!
Anon says
I still don’t get this kind of nonsense, so maybe I missed this developmental stage.
Anonymous says
This is kind of smug. Not all girls participate, but it happens in every class and all kids will be exposed to it.
Anon says
I guess my point is that I think OP is being way too kind by characterizing this as the outcome of being “into girl drama.” This isn’t “being interested in gossip”; it’s hounding someone completely unnecessarily who they probably perceive as vulnerable.
2:07 says
Ah, totally agree that this is beyond just “girls gossiping and chasing boys on the playground.” But I also do think this type of bullying behavior goes on in every class.
Anonymous says
I don’t usually like to bring playground issues to the teacher, but in this case I would set up a conference because 1) your daughter seems to be at a significant disadvantage when dealing with these girls and 2) bullying prevention week is likely to egg these girls on if they’ve figured out that calling someone else a bully is a strategic move. I would do this mainly to proactively insulate her if these girls decide to go to the teacher with false accusations that your daughter is bullying them, not because I think the teacher will be inclined or able to stop them from harassing her on the playground.
I would go in asking questions: “Daughter has been telling me there have been issues with some other girls on the playground. I’d like to get your perspective on what’s going on.” Be aware that the teacher will not want to name names and will be happier if you don’t either. Keep it in terms of “two other girls.” After you’ve heard what the teacher has or has not observed, then explain what your daughter is telling you in neutral terms. Your first paragraph is on target, just leave out the parenthetical note. Then ask the teacher “how can we address this?” The teacher is not likely to be able to do much, but you will have gotten your daughter’s story out there.
anon says
I was actually debating reaching out to the guidance counselor to see if she could work this into her presentation next week. It seemed like a non-confrontational way of delivering the message.
I can talk to the teacher, but teachers don’t do lunch or recess duty so she probably isn’t seeing the behavior. There is a revolving cast of aids, temporary helpers and parent volunteers who are supervising outdoor lunch a recess at the moment because of COVID.
DLC says
At my kids’ school, the guidance counselors will go out at recess and observe if a parent or guardian asks for it or reports certain dynamics. They don’t necessarily do anything about it, but their observations can be insightful.
We have also had our then-second grader’s teacher incorporate “empathy/respect lessons” into the class social-emotional learning units after we reported incessant mean behavior and teasing. I don’t have a lot of faith that it changes behavior, but i do think it’s good that the teachers know so they can keep an eye on things and separate kids if they feel the need.
Also- our school has closed circuit tvs on the school yard and one time our third grader was threatened at recess and the principal was able to pull the footage to confirm that there was an incident. They then put our child and the other child into a counseling session. Again, I don’t think the other child became a paragon of kindness, but i think it was really good for my child to see that her concerns were taken seriously and the counseling session was conducted in a way that was actually very empowering for her.
I guess I’m saying that your school can definitely be used as a resource for your child. Schools seem to be very invested in students’ socio-emotional well being these days, moreso than when I was this age. I mean nothing is going to change the behavior of the mean kids, but we can focus our efforts on giving our child confidence and the tools to handle the situation.
Good luck. With my daughter’s class the mean girl routine started in first grade and it makes me so sick and angry.
Anonymous says
There is an American Girl book “Stand Up for Yourself and Your Friends” that provides decent, practical advice for this age group.
anon says
Thanks so much. I’m going to get this from the library ASAP.
Anonymous says
My kid is an old 2nd grader (already 8) so she’s on the emotionally-mature side of the grade. When she had some kids bothering her, I coached her to be calm, kind, and direct.
Boy who is poking her: “I don’t like it when you poke me. Do you want to play tag instead?” (Boy got attention he was seeking, no more poking.)
Friends who are doing annoying things (copy-catting, following her around, etc): “I don’t want to be around you when you copy me. Can we do something else please?”
For your kiddo, if these girls are her friends: “you are hurting my feelings. Let’s [insert activity] together.” Or “I don’t want to play with you when you make up stories like that.”
I’m not sure if that’s as easy to carry out of she’s at the socio-emotional disadvantage.
Anonymous says
“That’s not true. Leave me alone.” Repeat. Disengage – they are looking for a reaction. Stick close to her other friends. Use “That’s not true. Leave US alone” when other kids are nearby because this reframes it to engage bystanders which is an important anti-bulling strategy.
I’d get out ahead of this by emailing the teacher. But depends on your relationship with the teacher. I wouldn’t hesitate to share exactly what your daughter had told you but ask the teacher not to specifically reference it with the other girls.
Anokha says
Anyone else HATE planning outfits for family photos? Anyone? (It doesn’t help that I don’t feel great about my body, and my fashion sense for the past year has been limited to finding zoom-appropriate shirts I can wear with sweats.)
Boston Legal Eagle says
I don’t hate it but we don’t really deviate from our standard jeans + top look from year to year. I tend to pick some color top and then try to get the kids’ sweaters in some similar or complimentary color palette.
Anokha says
Honestly, I should do this. Last year, I put the girls in matching outfits because I was too lazy to figure out two complementary outfits. I feel like it just scratches all of my itches about not being very fashionable!
Anon says
@ Boston Legal Eagle- I posted last week about family photo styling fatigue, and I meant to go back and thank you for your comment about jeans and sweaters! It was kind of an “aha!” moment for me that looking nice for family photos does not have to mean being in our Sunday best. That opened up a whole new world while keeping things simple!
Boston Legal Eagle says
Glad it helped! Our style is such that we really only wear dresses and shirt/tie and nice pants for weddings or other formal events. I like that our family photos capture us as we are (with a slight step up from our athleisure from the past year!)
Anon says
We do this too but I’m struggling with the sweater colors this year. We did plum, white and gray in the past and I feel like we’ve exhausted every color combination involving navy.
SC says
I absolutely hate it. I’m skipping formal family photos this year. I just don’t feel like it. My photographer moved away, and I don’t feel like spending the time to find someone new. We budget for it, but it’s expensive, and the money can be used elsewhere. I don’t feel like picking out clothes, or dragging my family out of the house on a weekend morning, or sorting through photos to pick out a few we like. So I’m freeing myself. DH seemed a little disappointed we weren’t doing it, but he didn’t offer to pick up the slack.
I do like sending Christmas cards, so I may send old-fashioned, non-photo cards this year.
Anonymous says
We don’t get professional photos, but we still usually do photo cards. If we don’t have one good shot of the whole family, we choose a collage-style card design and put in a bunch of tiny photos so you can’t see people’s weird smiles etc. We didn’t do cards at all last year because all of our photos were of the dog or of things we had cooked. We have even fewer photos this year, so we’ll probably skip cards again.
anon says
I find it stressful, especially finding something for myself! I doubt I’ll do it any time soon to be honest. We had a photographer, a friend of a friend we were comfortable with, come to the house to make it as easy as possible and it still was stressful! Not sure I’ll do it again. I take lots of pictures of the kids, so not having a formal one every year is ok to me. Might pick back up the low-key Santa pics when the toy store near us starts those up again post-covid, but the last set was hard for me and I don’t look forward to doing it again.
Anon says
I love having family photos but coordinating the outfits (which I’m doing right now) is the literal worst. I hate it with the passion of a thousand fiery suns and dread doing it every year, yet I love having (the only) nice photos of the four of us I get all year. I put way too much pressure on myself to have perfectly coordinated yet not matchy-matchy outfits for each of us and should probably just relax a bit. ;)
Anokha says
Honestly, I would pay someone like $50-$100 to just do it for me. (Pick outfits that complement each other.)
Anon at 12:39 PM says
Totally agree! I would gladly outsource this if I could. Something to consider for next year… :)
Anon says
My photographer actually offers this service but I don’t use it because she wants women to wear long dresses (she says it’s the most flattering). She may be right but I want to look like me, and real life me does not wear long dresses except to weddings and other formal events. I feel like I’d be cosplaying Laura Ingalls Wilder if I wore what my photographer wants me to wear.
anon says
I feel like so many photographers push the long dress idea, and just, ugh. It’s just not my personal style, especially when it’s chilly. Give me boots, jeans, and sweaters.
Anon says
Yes! Like I don’t doubt that it’s flattering but I want to look like me and my style is boots, jeans and sweaters.
anon says
Same. I love having the photos, but the outfit conundrum is REAL. Especially because I’m cheap and don’t want to buy new clothes for everyone. I also need to relax …
TheElms says
So I’ve only done this a couple times, so take my advice with that caveat, but I just don’t coordinate outfits. I make sure we don’t obviously clash ( so for me that’s no orange and hot pink) but that’s it. I try to go for more plain things as well because that lessens the chance of obvious clashing. Last year we all wore jeans and sweaters because it was December and we didn’t want to freeze – our toddler only had a bright pink sweater at that time that fit, the sweater that fit me best (thanks Covid weight gain) was grey and black polka dots and I think DH wore a navy half zip. It was fine. If the colors don’t end up being the best, you can always make the photo black and white.
Anon says
Thank you for giving me permission to do this. I think I’m going to say eff it to trying to coordinate this year. I just don’t have the bandwidth.
Anon says
I don’t mind it but I also don’t try to make us look matchy matchy. Just try to make us complement each other/not clash. And, I feel most comfortable in dresses and tights. Sometimes I wear the same navy blue dress year to year. It’s plain and no one cares. Last, I think of a few options depending on the possible weather that day, and, this is key–I pick my outfit first and have my fam’s outfits complement those. Having a few non-clashing options without doing something super matching alleviates this.
But, we like getting fam photos (b/c it’s the only way to get a nice picture of all of us) and missed out last year due to COVID. If you don’t want to do it, please don’t feel pressured! My rule for the holidays is “if it feels more like an obligation/habit than a festive, fun thing, skip it!” Sometimes we go all out with the decorations, and sometimes we have a tree with a handful of ornaments. Do you!
Anokha says
This is good advice. I think the crux of it is that I HATE the process of doing photos, but love getting them. I have last year’s photo hung up and it makes me smile every time I see it. And I would HAPPILY wear the same dress every year, but it’s not worth it for my mom’s comments….
Anonymous says
I hate it so much. Plus I live in the Midwest and it can be 80 or 30 in late October when we do photos. So I have to either shop the week before or make various contingency plans.
octagon says
Does anyone have a Turing Tumble who could comment on how well you like it? I am contemplating it for my 6 yo who likes logic and puzzles, but am a bit worried it’s a one-trick pony. Are there enough different ways to set it up to keep a kid engaged?
GCA says
I don’t, but I did just crowdsource from parent friends a few recs for my math and logic-loving 6yo:
Games and puzzles:
Tangrams
Set
Swish (6yo loves this one but occasionally requires a handicap)
Mastermind (a classic!)
Sleeping Queens
Bohnanza (perhaps easier for older kids to grasp)
Dragomino (kid and cousins have played this and enjoy it)
With a regular deck of cards, War
Sudoku, KenKen and similar puzzles
Robot Turtles (maybe better for younger kids – I can set up any problem for 6yo and he demolishes it)
Catan Jr
Apps and websites:
Bedtime Math
Greg Tang math games
Everyday life skills that require math:
Cooking
Carpentry/ making and building things; in the same vein, crocheting and sewing
Grocery shopping (use cash!)
Playing an instrument
Just for fun, we’ve also explored negative numbers, Mobius strips, platonic solids (using a variety of dice from DH’s tabletop gaming days, lol) and origami.
Spirograph says
I love Tangrams, Set, and Sudoku, but hadn’t heard of many of these others! Thanks, will have to check them out.
A couple more:
24. It comes in a few difficulty levels, depending on how many math functions are allowed.
Racko
Snap Circuits
Anon says
This is my go to source for STEM gifts for kids: https://engineering.purdue.edu/INSPIRE/EngineeringGiftGuide
They update it every year so there should be a new one soon.
Anonymous says
Are side effects from COVID boosters comparable to the first two rounds? Any chance they’re more mild?
Anonymous says
Like the first rounds, it varies widely.
Anon says
Mine was more mild (i.e., akin to a flu shot with a sore arm for my third but nothing else vs. essentially sleeping for 12 hours and a terrible headache for my second), but I am also on immunosuppressants now (was not for my first two shots). DH gets his this weekend, so TBD.
Anon says
Husband had zero rxns to Pfizer the first two times. Third time for the booster he had a fever and chills. He was so happy about it—“it’s working!” Was fine the next morning. He is in very good health—needed the booster bc he is a doctor and got the first dose in Jan.
Anonymous says
I’ve heard a range of response including more mild, worse than dose 2, and no major side effects but horrible arm pain. So I think it really varies a ton by person, just like the first round.
AwayEmily says
Both my husband and I had milder effects with the Pfizer booster than we did from our second dose (mine were almost non-existent).
anon says
My booster reaction was much milder than my first two shots.
Anon says
Moderna booster was better for me than dose 2 but worse than dose 1. I had a headache and pretty bad muscle aches but less fatigue and nausea/dizziness compared to dose 2. My dad had no reaction to any of the three doses and my mom had horrible reactions (high fever and vomiting) to both #2 and #3. So I would say expect it to be like your second dose, maybe a bit better maybe a bit worse.
CHS says
I thought the Moderna booster wasn’t available yet? Would love to hear if it was!
Anon says
It’s not for most people. I’m high risk and I got it on the advice of my doctor. My teacher husband is still eagerly awaiting it. Hopefully soon!
Anonymous says
It isn’t officially available. Only the third dose in the primary series for immunocompromised people. Where I live, there is no way you could get a Moderna booster from a pharmacy or a public vaccination site. I am assuming people who are getting Moderna boosters are getting them off-label from their doctors, but I don’t know how that works with insurance.
Anon says
Off label medicines are used all the time. I take an antihistamine off label for anxiety, for example. It shouldn’t affect insurance. I also suspect many doctors are just checking (or telling their patients to check) the immunocompromised box since it’s not like the pharmacy demands proof of that.
EB says
Tips to teach a 2 year old how to wear a mask? We’re flying at the end of the month. We’re kind of at the stage where if she sees me wearing one, she wants to wear one too, but only for 5-10 mins max. Anyone work on this with a similar-aged kid and have any strategies? My older son wears his no problem, but he can be reasoned with. Little one, not so much, so I am thinking something like wearing at home for increasingly longer periods? Thank you!!
Boston Legal Eagle says
Is she closer to 2 or 3? I’ve found, with my youngest at least, that he’s a lot better wearing his mask at almost 3 now than when he was 2. I just am not sure if 2 year olds are ready/capable of understanding that yet. He just kept pulling his mask down around his chin. I’m guessing the airline won’t be enforcing this too much for a 2 year old.
Anonymous says
You’d be guessing wrong based on my recent experience
Anon says
I’ve flown quite a few times since the pandemic began and have never seen them enforce masks on a kid younger than about 6. I know there are news stories about toddlers getting thrown off planes for not mask wearing, but they are in the news precisely because they are so rare. The vast majority of flight attendants don’t care.
On a recent American flight I was fighting with my 3 year old about her mask (she’s fine with masks but ripped it off as part of an unrelated meltdown) and the FA says to me “don’t worry about it. It’s cruel to mask kids.” They are pretty strict with enforcement for adults/teens but even then you really only have to wear one when they do their cabin checks.
NYCer says
I have also flown quite a few times during the pandemic, and not one flight attendant has been strict about kids wearing masks.
Allie says
I wouldn’t wear it at home because she know’s she doesn’t have to wear it at home all the time. I’d just start always wearing a mask to do certain things — go to CVS, play on the playground etc. If she takes the mask off the activity has to immediately end and you have to actually be willing and able to end it. She should associate a mask with an activity and then the plane can just be added to that. I like to think of a mask like shoes – if you’re kid refused to wear shoes at CVS you’d probably immediately carry him to the car. Just do that with masks.
Allie says
*ahhh your “your kid”
Anon says
+1 yup this is the approach we took with our newly 2 year old at the beginning of the pandemic and it worked well. It’s part of getting dressed to leave the house like hat, shoes and sunscreen.
Anon says
Practice! My 2 year old did great on our flight and here’s what we did. First, we practiced with short outings, like the library. She loves the library, so masking was fine there. We also put masks on stuffed animals and pretend to take them places. If the mask got uncomfortable on the plane, I gave a sip of water or a snack, or a walk to the bathroom. There was lots of praise for proper mask wearing. I also had a couple masks in case one got wet, dirty, etc.
anon says
We also practiced “flying” in general. Set chairs in “rows” in the house, went through fake “security,” etc. Kids loved it and still play pretend airplane, complete with taking off shoes and putting their backpacks under the (kitchen table chairs) seats. Great for prepping them in general, and you’re just adding masks as one element and signaling that it is nbd, just one part of flying.
AnonATL says
Would you be willing to try a face shield? I’ve seen some bucket hats with face shields on toddlers when I’m out and about. We are flying for Thanksgiving with a 16mo and I’m seriously considering one for him. No way he will wear a mask.
Anonymous says
A face shield is just eye protection. It doesn’t provide any protection against breathing the virus in or out.
Anonymous says
That’s not permitted by airlines for 2+
Anon says
The odds are extremely high the flight attendant won’t care about a 2 year old. But in the unlikely event they do care, a face shield isn’t a substitute for a mask just FYI.
Anonymous says
I’m going to a baby shower for a former colleague (I got laid off: no hard feelings). I sent her gift directly to her house: should I also bring a little something to the shower? I was thinking the pacis off her registry. My mom said no, but it feels weird showing up empty handed. Bring a card?
Anonymous says
You sent a gift so you are covered.
anon says
I usually bring a card and print a picture of what was sent. It’ll help them keep track of who sent what as well.
Allie says
This.
Personal vs Professional - Update says
Just a quick follow up from yesterday. Thank you for all the kind words and excellent advice. I’m taking it all to heart and also, frankly, letting my hormones and emotions settle before making any decisions. I’ve had some really low lows lately, and I don’t want to make decisions when I’m in that headspace.
I’m going to keep going through the motions in the meantime related to this possible promotion – doing the bare minimum to continue to convey interest, regardless of whether I ultimately bow out. From a long term perspective, I do think that internally it’s important for them to see I want more than what I currently have, even if I opt out of this process (or if I simply don’t get the job), for another week or two anyway.
Thanks, again. This place can be great sometimes.
Pogo says
Oh thank you for checking back in! Was thinking of you.
The IVF journey is so incredibly brutal. During stim for my first retrieval I was so bloated (I have PCOS and ended up with OHSS..fun times) a coworker said, “Congratulations!” and I was like “for what?” Yeah… I looked pregnant. And I was very much not. I think I cried in the bathroom. Anyway, the pain of that really sticks with me and I was not going through the professional stuff you are right now! Hang in there.
Toddler sled? says
Any recs for a good toddler sled?
Anonymous says
I don’t have any, but misread as “toddler shed” and had a good laugh. TBH my toddler could use a shed for his various garden implements and outdoor toys that are currently strewn around the yard in the rain.
Anonymous says
For pulling the kid around in, one of the cheap flat plastic ones with a rope. For sliding down hills, a snow tube.
EDAnon says
I found mine on Craigslist for $5. I recommend that because you can ask questions. And also, the use is so short that mine was in excellent condition.
Anonymous says
Alas, people seem to run all of their outdoor toys into the ground in my area, and I’ve had absolutely no luck finding anything outdoorsy on CL or FB Marketplace.
Curious says
Should I stop breastfeeding?
Baby is one month today. She had a posterior tongue tie that we snipped 2.5 weeks ago and was jaundiced at birth, so we supplemented with formula for the first 3 weeks. Since then I’ve been exclusively breastfeeding. She’s easily filling the right number of diapers, but my husband is convinced that she’s not getting enough to eat (in part because she fusses at night and will gulp down a formula bottle with 1-2 oz). She sleeps 10-2 and 3-5:30 pretty consistently. I’m now stressed all the time about is she latched well / is she sucking enough/ is she falling asleep / do I need to switch sides. What used to feel miraculous is now an anxiety trigger.
What I want to know is — if I can stick with it 2 more weeks, is it likely to get a lot better? I don’t have an issue with formula feeding but would love to stick with breastfeeding if it’s likely she’ll get stronger and eat better soon. We are already back to supplementing with 1-2 oz formula again each night, but I have a feeling doing more will mess with my supply (even more?).
Sorry for the novel. Happy for any and all advice.
Anonymous says
I found that BFing got much easier at 6 weeks, so if it’s truly important to you sticking it out for a couple more weeks may be worthwhile. But if you are ready to be done, this internet stranger gives you permission. I BF’d for 10 months until baby self-weaned, and not going 100% formula early on is one of my biggest regrets.
Curious says
If you see this — why do you regret it? Just the freedom you’d have had?
Anonymous says
I found BFing to be a violation of my bodily integrity and intensely disliked it. Not everyone feels the same way.
Anon says
+1 million, and honestly you’re the first person I’ve found that felt the same way, Anonymous at 2:04.
It made me feel like a legitimate animal and my existence felt fully reduced to my ability to produce and provide milk. It did not offer any extra connection to/with my baby. It was absolutely horrible for me. I toughed it our 4 months because I felt so much pressure to do so and was an emotional wreck, felt so much guilt when I stopped, thinking I failed my baby. Next time? Maybe 4-6 weeks while on leave but full stop thereafter – but also maybe not at all. I still don’t know if the memory was quite as bad as it actually was. DD is now 3.5 and “advanced” per her preschool teacher, whatever that means. But it means I did not damage by giving her formula (I mean, duh, but in case you need to hear that).
Good luck. This stuff is hard. Either option will leave your baby well cared for, please know that.
Anonymous says
I think more people feel this way than are willing to admit it. Admitting it makes you a selfish, bad mom in the eyes of the BFing establishment.
Anon says
You could always do a combo! My supply was just not enough for my LO so I breastfed (now pump) and supplement with formula. It took the pressure off me to produce enough but still allows for that bonding time and the immune benefits to be passed to him.
If you want to exclusively breastfeed, your pediatrician would be the best resource to know if your LO is gaining weight appropriately. If they are and they’re not displaying hunger cues that you can’t satisfy with breastfeeding, then it seems like you’re doing exactly what you need to be!
Pogo says
It sounds like this is really taking a toll on you, and for that alone, by all means – do what will help you keep your head above water!
However, I do think it gets much much easier after the first month – they get bigger and better at eating, your supply regulates, you heal more from delivery. Could you try continuing to combo feed (basically give a bottle whenever you feel like it) and see if that reduces some anxiety? Many people (myself included) found it helped to not be the “sole source” of food.
If you’re still really struggling, I’d also encourage you to reach out to your OB about meds. My PPA could not be managed just with behavior changes or talk therapy.
I also found a lot of help this time around w/ a virtual La Leche League meeting. It really helped with the pandemic isolation and while they’re not certified lactation consultants, the leaders are super knowledgeable. Plus the other moms on the call have great suggestions, and it just helps not to feel alone.
Curious says
Oh, I like the La Leche League suggestion. I would love to just have someone to talk to about the frustration.
Anonymous says
I would be wary of LLL and lactation consultants. They will tell you not to supplement, combo feed, or switch to formula.
Anonymous says
This is not true at all. My lactation consultant at the hospital was the one who encouraged me to use formula to supplement when I was struggling.
Anon says
Yes avoid LLL. They believe combo feeding doesn’t exist and your choices are poison your child with formula or let nothing touch your child’s mouth except your perfect nipp!e. Combo feeding worked splendidly for me and many others and I hate that I almost gave up on nursing because I believed their lies. My ped says “it’s the presence of breastmilk that matters, not the absence of formula” and that was a much better mantra for me.
Curious says
Uh oh. That wouldn’t be right for us. The LLL resources are what make me worried about supply if we add more formula — they call it “the beginning of the end” because you’re not giving enough demand to replace supply. Sounds like maybe that’s not true?
Anonymous says
Not true at all. Combo feeding is what actually allows many women to continue BFing.
Fun fact: The LLL was founded by a group of Catholic housewives as a way to keep mothers in the home.
Anon says
Not true at all. Not my experience and it’s also been disproven. It’s criminal that they scare hormonal new moms with misinfo.
Pogo says
That wasn’t my experience with LLL, but I am probably in a very liberal bubble?
I really wanted to be able to talk to other moms and be real – there were moms who cried and were like, “I can’t do it” and everyone was like “It’s OK, youre a great mom! Your baby just needs you to love her!” Sometimes you just need to hear that.
Anon says
Have you had your one month check up already? I’d discuss with your pediatrician.
Fwiw my kids have never breastfed the amount they should (eating seven times a day rather than 8-12, for example, or not staying on as long as most say) and grown fine. So it was really checking weight and overall health that supported exclusive breastfeeding.
There’s other reasons baby may be fussy – could they be gassy? But I think he’s on to something to at least watch not hungry. That being said 1-2 ounces supplementing at one month is very little percentage wise.
Curious says
We had 2 weeks and then don’t go back til 2 months! Maybe we will just go weigh her for peace of mind.
anon says
It does get easier at 6 weeks and then again at 8 weeks.
If it makes you and your husband feel better, there is no harm to giving her 2 oz before bed. Clusterfeed in the evening on demand, but then top up with formula before you go to bed to get as much in her so she will sleep as long as possible. Supply is always lowest in the evening. One small bottle shouldn’t impact your supply since it isn’t really replacing a feeding.
FYI – I don’t think gulping down a bottle means anything. They are less work than bf and 2 oz goes down pretty easily.
Anon says
Other than the 1-2oz bottle to top her off at night, why else is your husband convinced she isn’t getting enough to eat? Just based on what you’ve said here, as long as there isn’t something else glaring, it sounds like you and the baby are doing great. If YOU want to continue, do it!!! You’re doing so wonderfully and I’m proud of you. If YOU want to stop, do it. You don’t need anyone’s permission, and I’m proud of you.
TheElms says
Do you want to stop breastfeeding? You can always choose to combo feed as opposed to stopping breastfeeding all together. Breastfeeding doesn’t have to be all or nothing. If baby is gaining weight and making enough wet diapers she is getting enough food. It is generally easier for a baby to drink from a bottle than nurse, so that is often why they guzzle formula. One thing we did to be “sure” baby was getting enough was to make the “bedtime” feed a bottle of pumped milk or formula if I didn’t have enough pumped milk and to make it 1-2 oz bigger than what kiddo normally drank during the day. I think both DH and I found it comforting to know that kiddo had drank 6 oz (or whatever it was at the time) at bedtime. This internet stranger who struggled a lot to breastfeed thinks you are doing great!
Curious says
This is so good to hear, since it’s basically what we are doing. Thank you.
Anonymous says
Mine was terrible at latching so I pumped and combo fed, but at 3-4 months he finally got the hang of it and we BFed after that until 10 months. So I would say it is likely to get better, but maybe not within 6 weeks.
Curious says
Ok, good to know the range of what we might be facing.
Anon says
I would add more formula but continue nursing. My daughter had about 2-4 oz of formula a day until she was maybe 8 weeks old and we went on to nurse for a year and a half. She slept like a dream but I don’t know if the formula bottle gets the credit for that or if it was just luck/genetics. I’m definitely not telling you that you have to keep BFing if you hate it, but if you just feel like your baby isn’t getting enough food I think adding formula is the logical first step and won’t end the nursing relationship.
Curious says
Thank you for confirming this. We were worried it would somehow hurt supply.
anon in brooklyn says
There is so much information out there that if you give formula, it means the end of breastfeeding. Not at all the case. I really wish I’d supplemented all along—I would have been much happier.
Boston Legal Eagle says
I agree with everyone else that your well visit should let you know whether she’s gaining weight appropriately. My first lost more weight than the docs wanted at first, so they gave us some formula supplements. I then resumed exclusive b-feeding (but you don’t have to – combo feeding is great too!) Sleeping 4 hours at a time at 1 month is pretty great so it sounds like she’s not overly hungry then.
Anonymous says
This. His sleep expectations don’t sound realistic. It’s unusual to have more than 4 hours at this age. They need to eat regularly because their bellies are tiny.
Curious says
Oh he’s going off of how much she’s fussing at night, not the sleep! But it’s a good point that if she’s sleeping that long she’s probably not horribly hungry.
Curious says
And by fussing at night, I mean crying from 7-10, which I know is pretty normal — but if we *can* feed her enough that she doesn’t scream on and off for 3 hours, that seems worth it.
Anonymous says
That fussing is called the witching hour, and it’s not always related to hunger. They usually grow out of it within a few weeks. It gets a lot easier when you accept that they just need to cry and there is no way to stop it, and that’s OK.
Anon says
Oh that’s totally normal and I don’t think it has anything to do with hunger. My daughter screamed every night from 9 pm to 1 am at that age. But it tired her out and then she slept 8 hours straight so we considered it a win on balance. She was very chunky and we supplemented with formula (and I had oversupply as well) so it wasn’t a hunger issue.
Anonymous says
I wouldn’t let your husband’s comment stop you. Newborns wake regularly. She should be fussing at night and feeding every 3-4 hours at this stage. Try cluster feeding in the evening but if you are getting a 4 hour stretch starting at 10pm that’s great. I found nursing got much easier around 6 weeks when baby was big enough to nurse sidelying and could latch well.
What are his sleep expectations? Does he think if you switch the baby will start sleeping through the night? That is not at all realistic. And remind him that crying peaks at 6-8 weeks.
Anonymous says
In making a similar determination for myself, factors I considered were weight gain and my own pain level. You might also pump and see how much you produce. One of my children was making wet diapers (although later I realized I might have been counting as wet diapers that weren’t truly wet) but wasn’t gaining weight appropriately. For that child, I also never could pump more than 1-3 oz at a time (whereas normal for my previous infant was 4-8). For the child struggling with weight gain, I supplemented for a bit and then switched to formula because all that fuss with nurse-bottle-pump and a huge amount of pain for what was like 1 oz of milk wasn’t worth it to me.
My older child had a VERY significant tongue tie. While he could nurse well enough after getting it cut to gain weight, he never learned to do so in a way that wasn’t just total agony and I ultimately decided to switch to formula for that reason.
Anon says
I weaned my kid fully at around 6ish weeks because BFing never got better for me. I power pumped, had starchy food to increase supply, tried supplements, etc. Never saw any improvement with pain or supply (and the lactation consultant said I had an excellent latch). At the advice of the LC,I was even waking up, breastfeeding, then feeding formula, then pumping–every 2-3 hours. IT. NEVER. WORKED.
I found out later that my mom never had much milk either. I also found it extremely painful but I suspect I had some sort of nipple vasospasm. Sometimes, it just doesn’t work out, and that’s ok. My only regret was not stopping that cycle of suck sooner. Some women have great success at first, or later. And there are plenty of women who don’t, and that’s fine too. I’d say if you want to stop, then stop. Formula is great, keeps baby full longer, and is basically like a vitamin smoothie! Do what keeps you sane and happy–that will lead to a better outcome for the fam. Best of luck <3!
Curious says
Oh my that’s horrid. We tried to do that early on. Triple feeding seriously needs to come with a mental health warning label. I’m glad you didn’t try to keep that up. Thank you for sharing that story.
More Sleep Would Be Nice says
+1 million. I did the triple feed for DS #1. Was miserable. Def perpetuated PPA. They should really put a huge warning label on this “recommendation”. EBFed and then introduced formula supplementation at 10 months. WAY too late. Weaned at one year.
DS #2 was <6 lbs (not a preemie, just a small baby), so I was fine with supplementing with formula from day 1 so he could gain weight. He gained weight fine, but not enough for our (now former) ped. That same ped suggested the triple feed but…I refused, and just topped him off with formula. Same ped also suggested I wake him to feed at 3 AM once I was back at work at 3 months. People be loco. He's almost 10 months now, and I am still nursing in the AM only, and I plan to wean fully next week!
Curious says
Congratulations! It sounds like you did a great job navigating the second time (and I’m sorry about the PPA :(). The whole thing is just much more fraught than I expected.
Curious says
As usual, so impressed by the generosity of this community. Thank you. This is so reassuring and helpful.
Anon says
Everyone is right in that it does get easier. I remember tearfully asking the internet and someone told me that it got easy around 8 weeks but I was only a couple weeks in and it was just overwhelming to see that long road in front of me. I ended up pumping at night (it’s a learned skill, remember that!) and bottle feeding which my kid gulped down – always way more than whatever the charts recommended. I wouldn’t hesitate to feed more formula (and feed even more than 1-2 oz if the kid is gulping it down) if I were you — I felt weird about it at the time but it’s truly no big deal. I’m having my second kid soon and I’m definitely going to have formula on hand because now I’d feel way more comfortable giving it. And for what it’s worth, I saw lactation consultants including one at the pediatrician’s office and I felt like they were all full of it. Their advice was like the same paragraph taken out of any lactation book, so disheartening.
Anon Lawyer says
Has anyone hired someone (a teenager maybe?) to come over every other week or so to fold and put away laundry? I have a cleaning service but that’s not something they do and they’re having staffing problems so trying to get them to add it would be a no go. Thinking about my life, this is one of those tasks where I think outsourcing it would make a big difference, but not sure how to go about it.
Anonymous says
This is a great job for a younger teen. You may be able to find someone through your neighborhood social media groups or HOA newsletter, or by asking around among the local moms. Even if all your mom friends have small kids, someone will know someone with older kids who can spread the word among that crowd.
Anon Lawyer says
Thanks! My mom friends do all have younger kids but there are some robust neighborhood networks it might be worth trying.
anon says
It’s not quite the same, but our au pair washes and puts away kid clothing. Things are always ended up in the wrong drawer and misplaced. It is a help, but not a help, if you get what I mean.
Anon says
How old is your kid? My daughter has put away laundry since she was 2.5 or so. The folding is definitely not great but I don’t really care about that.
Anon Lawyer says
Oh, that’s interesting – she’s about to turn 2. I had kind of assumed it would be a long time before she could help, but I also don’t really care about how good the folding is and she does like to help with that kind of stuff.
Anonymous says
They require a lot of help with folding and putting away at that age. If they are given folded laundry they can put it away pretty well by themselves at age 5-ish.
Anon says
5 seems really old to me for this. My very average, definitely not a genius 3 year old can put away laundry fine. Most preschoolers love to sort things by category and put them in the correct drawer and can do it accurately. And honestly if a pair of pants ends up in the shirt drawer is it really that big a deal? I gather I have lower housekeeping standards than many here though.
Anonymous says
By age 5 I mean that you can put a basket of folded laundry in their room and leave the room and it will be put away in such a way that it can be found when needed and does not jam any drawers or closet doors. Not “helping” or “doing” it while you sit there and direct them.
Anon says
Oh. My 3 year old does that now and like I said I don’t think she’s extraordinary. We don’t fold though, and I’m often in the room (but doing something else so I don’t consider it chore time).
TheElms says
My two year old can put away her folded laundry. She knows where stuff goes in her dresser and knows to hang the things on hangers in her closet. Mind you it takes ages (as you might guess!) She can also fold shorts but so far that’s it. Pants and shirts are too frustrating and she ends up crying or tantruming because she wants to do it but can’t quite yet.
Anon says
Mine “helped” at 2 but I don’t think it saved me much time. But now at 3.5 she puts away all of her own laundry. I help her get it out of the dryer and into the bag because she still doesn’t have the motor skills to do that without getting frustrated, but after that she does it completely on her own.
She doesn’t fold and I don’t care. I barely fold my own clothes, I definitely don’t care about kid clothes being folded.
Anonymous says
I think it depends on what your expectations are. I konmari fold because I like organized drawers as I find it a million times easier to see what clothes is available. But mine were like 7 before they were able to reliably do that so I had help with laundry etc when they were younger.
anon says
DD does her laundry, 3.5 YO. She just learned how to properly-ish put dresses on hangers. It’s actually really fun with her and she loves it. She’s been doing it in some form or fashion since about 2.5.
Ashley says
Mine definitely helps at 3.5. I also do.not.fold. kid clothes. They just get tossed in the drawer. I stopped folding when my kid was about 1.5 and his favorite hobby was to empty every draw her could reach. I’ve never looked back! It’s freeing!
AwayEmily says
Laundry is SUCH a time suck. My kids (5 and 3) help because I think it’s good for them but it definitely does NOT make it go any faster. I don’t have hiring-someone advice (though think it’s a GREAT idea) but as a fellow laundry-disliker here are some things that have helped speed the process in the meantime.
– separate hampers/cycles for kids/parent 1/parent 2/sheets&towels, to minimize sorting.
– divide the process of putting away laundry into three stages: (1) sorting into “like” piles (e.g. t-shirts), (2) folding “like” piles, (3) putting piles away. Each stage takes about ten minutes, so I can fit a single stage between other things.
– divide between partners if possible. My husband does all sheets/towels plus his own laundry, and I do mine and the kids. We share the actual putting-in-and-transferring duties.
anon says
Ok, about to make my kids put away laundry starting yesterday! And, about to go label a separate towel laundry basket. I don’t know if I can get buy-in from DH on this, but I’ll try. Great ideas thanks for the laundry “hacks”!
Anon says
Yes have the kids do this. Mine are 6 and 8 and have been doing their own laundry for a while now. I hate folding laundry – it’s one of those deeply unpleasant tasks that just never stops coming. In our house everyone is responsible for their own laundry, and then we alternate who also does the sheets/towels for the week.
Some tips:
– Figure out how to program the washer/dryer so they just have to hit one or two buttons. This is esp helpful when they’re young, so they can just hit On and then Play.
– Use separate hampers for each kid so they’re only in charge of their own clothes.
– Label their drawers/ closet for a while. We used sharpie on painters tape to label the drawer for undies, for socks, the bar for shirts, etc. (Before they could read, so we drew a very easy picture.)
– Simplify putting away. Undies don’t get folded at all, socks don’t get matched (they just pick out two that match each night when they pick out their clothes), pants just get folded in half, etc. I think the kids were around 3 or 3.5 when they were able to hang shirts on hangers consistently.
– Set a guideline for when to put things away. I let the kids take two days to do it all – they can wash/dry on one day and sort/put away on the next. But at the end of the two days, they don’t get screen time anymore until it’s put away.
Then get your husband/ partner to own the towels and sheets. (If you’re married to a man who likes to pretend it’s too hard, this is a great opportunity for him to get practice and own ALL of the household laundry until he figures it out.) Once the kids turn about 5, they can be added into the towels and sheets rotation. It still takes two people to fold our sheets, but that’s true for when any of us do it.
You’ll still have to do your own laundry, and a week per month of towels/sheets, but it’s so. much. less. than when you’re doing everyone else’s too.
Anonymous says
On a practical level, I don’t know how a young child could unload an HE washing machine, especially a top-loader, without falling in! I am 5’6″ and can barely reach the bottom of our HE top-loader standing on my toes. If I were any shorter, I’d have to stand on a stepstool and literally stick my head into the tub.
Anon says
Fair point. I have and love front-loaders specifically because I’m 5’3″ and can barely reach the bottom of top-loaders (and I’ve never had a mold or smell issue). So while I haven’t done it in practice, I can’t imagine I’d change much other than an adult would have to help them get it from the washer to the dryer, which is still less work than the whole process.
Anon Lawyer says
It’s true – I’m 5’3″ and it’s my least favorite task. But I work at home full time even when it’s not a Pandemic, so tossing in and changing a load is quick – it’s the folding and putting away that kills me.
Anon says
So get a step stool? It’s not that complicated.
Anon Lawyer says
It doesn’t really solve the issue because your arms still have to reach from the top of the washer to the bottom which is hard if you have short arms!
That said, it’s fine – just not something a small child will be able to do even with a step stool. (Also not clear why you felt the need to be kind of mean about it.)
Anon says
i have my kids help load the washing machine, but i have no interest in having my 3.5 year old twins helping me with all the folding/hanging. one has much better fine motor skills than the other and that can be an issue. and then they are going to want to climb on the step stool and i’d just rather do it myself. maybe if it was only one of them i would try it, but i think having them help would actually make it much harder
anon says
Seriously. I don’t know who these unicorn children are who can handle laundry duty at ages 2-3, but that would’ve been the opposite of helpful to me.
Anon says
I added the folding to my cleaning service and it has been life changing. I put it away because I don’t want them digging through my drawers but the folding is a task I detest. So good luck!
Anon says
Anyone want to find my 3.5 year old a cute dress for family photos? She wears a size 7-8 and girl clothes are so much less cute than toddler clothes :( Her day to day wardrobe is mostly Primary, a lot of solid colors, but I want something more fun for the pictures. Not necessarily a print but at least a style that feels more exciting than a plain cotton swing dress from Primary. Last year she wore an off white cableknit dress and the photos came out really cute.
TheElms says
Hanna Andersson has some cute plaid dress options that might be fun for pictures.
Mary Moo Cow says
What about a print from Primary, like the double knit heart dress? Or layer one of the tulle skirts over an existing dress? If the weather cooperates, a puffer vest or a jacket in a fun, complimentary color could liven up an existing outfit. (Perhaps I’m biased, but one of my favorite family photos is of my kids in bright pink Primary cozy dresses and grass green leggings. Solid color that popped in the photo!) Other than that, Hanna Andersson?
Anon says
what kind of color scheme are you going for? what about a corduroy jumper style dress (old navy and gap and zara have them) with a shirt underneath? i don’t know your style or budget, but here are some suggestions of other places to look: Alex and Nova, Smocked Auctions, Maisonette, Mini Boden, JCrew
anon says
Carter’s often carries similar styles in both toddler sizes and girls’ sizes, so you may something that looks cuter/more age-appropriate.
shortperson says
tea collection, rylee & cru, noralee have lots of options. so does zara.
anon says
Any recommendations for zoom webcam? I’ve been using my laptop + a headset, but I want to be able to use my desktop now. Also, any standing desk recommendations? I would need one that is an add-on that sits on top of the desk, because I have a large L-shaped desk I’m not willing to part with. Thanks!
anonamama says
Logitech c920 series! I’m very pleased with the picture, adjustability and price.
Anon says
Yes – I have this one as well and love it.