While loafers are some of my favorite shoes for fall and winter, this pair comes in some very spring-like colors.
This Italian-made crinkled patent leather loafer has a flat sole, low stacked heel, and a metal chain along the vamp. The white and light blue versions will play nicely with other spring pastels — try them with a trending Easter-egg colored suit for a modern look. Basic black is also available for year-round versatility.
The Sasha Loafer from Bruno Magli is $375 at Nordstrom and is available in whole and half sizes 6–11 (most sizes only have a pair or two left).
For a white loafer on the more affordable side, try this shoe from Sam Edelman; it’s $150, also at Nordstrom.
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GCA says
Actual fashion question! Help me style this jumpsuit for a date night — on the dressier end of things, for Boston spring weather (i.e. wildly unpredictable). ‘Androgynous French ninja’ is my general style. Link to follow.
GCA says
https://metiseko.com/collections/mulberry-silk-women-clothing-jumpsuit/products/tamarind-midnight-blue
I have at my disposal: black faux-leather jacket; tan trench; standard-issue Ann Taylor long wool coat (RIP Filene’s Basement!); and an assortment of heels, flats and sneakers. We’re headed to dinner and the ballet with friends.
AIMS says
For ballet, I would do trench or wool coat, weather dependent, and either heels or flats, with some evening appropriate jewelry to dress it all up.
Anonymous says
I agree with this. If it were a black jumpsuit, I’d go for the leather jacket. But given the color I think tan trench is best. Unless you have a tan/brown shade leather or faux leather jacket. Then I’d do that.
AwayEmily says
That’s a fantastic jumpsuit. I’d go with chunky heels if you have them. I don’t love the heels it’s styled with in the photo (I mean, I like those heels fine for work but they seem to be a very different vibe from the jumpsuit).
Anonymous says
No solid advice: I’d do sneakers but I’m on a sneaker kick lately. But I died at “androgynous French ninja.” Thank you.
Anonymous says
Sneakers for dinner and a night out at the ballet? Non.
Anon says
Eh, things are wildly different now with kicks than they were like 10 years ago. Caveat though – on top of the style shift, I also live in a city with a lot of sneakerheads – so wearing Js with a button down and slacks or a dress isn’t seen as overly casual.
Anon says
Just because you can doesn’t mean you should. Sneakers, even cool kicks, aren’t appropriate for this
GCA says
Heh. I have no clue what is current but I do know that I would probably feel underdressed and awkward with sneakers. And I like the thought of chunky heels. (But thank you for validating that in today’s world, anything goes as long as you carry it off with confidence!)
Anonymous says
I’ve never heard of this brand — how is the quality and the sizing? Everything on the website looks so great!
GCA says
I have two of their cotton poplin shirtdresses, a cotton voile skirt, and the silk jumpsuit. The material is high-quality. As with most Asian brands (Uniqlo, Love Bonito, the random things I bought while wandering around Chiang Mai boutiques in my 20s) I go one to two sizes up from American mall-brand sizing.
anon says
I need to commiserate this morning. My mom heart hurts. I have a middle schooler who has just not found his people. Last night, he was upset and told me that it looks like everyone at school is having a great time except him. I know that isn’t true, because it’s middle school, but I completely believe that it feels that way to him. Many of his peers are doing intensive sports and have no time to hang out. He does other school activities and seems to enjoy them and the people, but he still feels like he’s on the outside looking in. It’s not like he doesn’t have friends, but all his friends have closer friends, so he’s often left on the fringes. I wish I could make it better for him. He is a wonderful kid but admittedly quirky, and quirky doesn’t always work in your favor when you’re that age. Also, his struggles are triggering my own stuff from when I was his age. I eventually found my way but it took a long time, and there are still times when I don’t feel very socially secure.
Anon says
You’ll know better whether this is actually appropriate for your situation, but I think that many kids today would benefit from learning that social skills aren’t a given, but actual skills that you need to work on to improve. Things like charisma, conversation, and eye contact can all be practiced (which I think Alison at Ask a Manager should remind her readers, tbh…). For your son, maybe there is some skill he could practice that would help him feel like more of an insider. The other thing would be to get involved in a regular activity that tends to bond more, like sports or band or drama club. Once a week of a musical instrument lesson or similar is probably not enough to form those casual bonds and be part of a group for real.
Anonymous says
And/or start inviting one person to do something together, vs a group. Video games, mall arcade, whatever. It can be a friend from his non sport activities. Can be as simple as grabbing dinner before/after the activity.
My sporty daughter only has team friends because they do dinners, lunches, etc together.
Anne-on says
+1 to this, my son has some social deficits and doing some in person social skills classes geared towards neurodiverse kids made a huge difference. He literally didn’t know how to ask reciprocal/follow up questions, how to introduce himself, etc. The classes focused on teaching those skills live in a super fun environment. A bunch of class time was literally playing switch games, which was weird to see but then they also discussed and modeled how to chose a game collaboratively, how to cheer on your friends, nicer versions of ‘trash talking’ (I know, I know, but it is so common amongst teen boys and they emphasized the difference between gentle teasing and being jerky). He got SO much more comfortable being in new groups/social situations whereas before he had panic attacks, so it was a big win for us.
Anon says
That’s so great they taught the kids how to ask follow-up questions. I can’t tell you how many adults I work with REALLY struggle with holding reciprocal conversations and it only becomes harder for other people to point out what needs to be worked on (in the professional setting, that is). One man at my company who struggles with that skill gets consistently dinged for soft skills in his performance evaluations and is thought of as “socially awkward,” although well-liked, and it’s because no one even knows how to broach that conversation with a grown adult. If I were his supervisor, I would try because it seems unfair to not, but alas. Far better to learn and practice in the formative teen years.
Clementine says
Oh friend. Love to you.
I’m going to share something that somebody said to me when I was about that age and really struggling to feel like I belonged: You haven’t peaked yet. You might not hit your peak in high school or college even! It might wait until you’re an adult. But just wait. Your best years probably won’t be middle school… but think of how exciting that is. You still have the best to look forward to. Imagine if this was your peak, then the entire time you’d spend looking back thinking of how amazing the past was and not knowing that the best was yet to come.
(And as an adult… I will never understand those people who look back at high school and think ‘Those were the days!’)
Anonymous says
+1 I had siblings with a larger age gap (7 and 10 years). They told me in middle school that non of this matters and college/adulthood is where it’s at. I had a Bad Thing happen when I was 14, at the end of freshman year, and it REALLY helped me think “eh, schools over in 2 weeks, no one will remember this in the fall”. I displayed amazing resiliency and I had zero friends to help during that time (part of the Bad Thing)
Anonymous says
It’s so hard. I have no advice, just commiseration. My oldest is very socially secure, and a year or two ago made “BFF” bracelets for all the girls in her second grade class (initially just her actual friends, but on my council she made enough for all the girls who could choose to wear them or not (most she wasn’t friends with chose not)).
Now my middle is in 1st grade. She really struggled to make friends in PK (pandemic) and kindergarten. This year she has a wonderful crew of girls in her class and they all play really well together. She made them all “bff” buttons at an event with a button maker over the weekend, but when she told one girl about the buttons, the girl replied “you not my BFF, you’re not even my second BFF. X is my BFF and Y is my second BFF.” Huge eye roll over here because that wasn’t the point. What’s worse is that this girl isn’t even like, someone she’d actually consider her “best” friend, it was just how she flat out rejected this token of friendship.
My oldest was horrified; you can clearly have many BFFs! In fact most of her friends are her BFFs! Yes she does have one friend in particular that is her bestie but she’d wear a BFF bracelet from any of her pals! She told Middle as much but middle was just so darn sad.
My youngest caught wind of things and declared Middle was her best friend (which is true) but it didn’t help.
Kids, man!!!
Anon says
that is just so so mean. can i also just say i despise the term “best friends” bc while i would agree that i have many besties, technically you an only have one, so my prek4 girls often come home upset that friend A and friend B are best friends. I wish i could abolish that term!
More Sleep Would Be Nice says
100% this.
“A best friend isn’t a person – it’s a tier.” – The Mindy Project
AIMS says
My 2nd grader’s BFF just broke up with her because they are no longer in the same class and she said she needs a BFF in her class. My heart breaks for my kid! And obviously she doesn’t share my “you do not need this person in your life” sentiment! But – and thank you for the recommendations – we have been reading books about friendship troubles and it helps. I think it normalizes it at least.
OP, my advice would be to lean into all the movies/shows/books about adolescence issues, which are plentiful, and share some stories about your own awkward moments and how you felt then and how you overcame them. You can’t always make things better but you can help put it into context and share examples of some happy endings.
Anon says
or not always happy endings, but just commiseration. i am guilty of this myself bc we all have the tendency to want to fix our kids’ problems, but sometimes things are just hard and remembering that they wont be that way forever, but that they might be for a little bit
AIMS says
Yes, I think this is what I meant by happy endings. Kind of like – I had a hard time with X and Y but then I ended up finding Z and it brings me joy and all the past led me to it.
More Sleep Would Be Nice says
A low-stakes question! DS #1 and I are going to the beach in a few weeks with a few other friends and kids. It’s a ~4 hour drive. Any tips for fun podcasts? He’s 5, and loves to learn about animals (especially apex predators…), dinosaurs, and travel to different countries.
I don’t think audiobooks will hold his attention, as we’ve tried before, but I’m up for being convinced otherwise :)
Chl says
Greeking Out!
GCA says
Brains On! and the Curious Kid podcast are both great!
AIMS says
“But Why” from Vermont Public Radio. Lots of great animal episodes and other kid friendly topics too.
Anon says
There’s a podcast called Spyology Squad that my kids love, though I find it a little grating…but the host also has a separate podcast all about animals. His name is Mr Jim and I think the podcast is called Kids Animal Stories? I’ve never listened myself but might be good
Anonymous says
Per his request, I’m buying a chambray shirt for my kindergartner from Old Navy. I’d like to get free shipping: is there anything else I should check out? The babies don’t need pjs…I don’t really need anything. Maybe some jeans?
Anonymous says
I like old navy work out clothes for myself. Their summer midi dresses are usually a good bet as well. I pick up a couple new ones every year and donate the last season’s ones.
AwayEmily says
I think their activewear leggings are legit great. The high-waisted Powersoft are fantastic for summer (super lightweight) and the side pockets fit phones.
Anon says
So I know it’ll sound random but I would recommend checking out their body suits. I stocked up last year on a couple from Old Navy body. I’d use them as my top under flowy skirts or loose shorts in summer. I wore them more than I realized I would. I especially like the ones with thick straps and some that look like t-shirts on top. So if you’re gearing up for Spring, might be worth the experiment.
Miz Swizz says
I just bought myself the high-waisted linen-blend wide-leg pants in Olive and am tempted to buy the chambray ones as well. I work a hybrid schedule in a fairly casual office so these will be workhorses for me this summer.
Miz Swizz says
link to the pants: https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=560834002
Anonymous says
I bought a similar version of these last year in both blue and black and they were absolute workhorses. And now I want the olive ones. What shoes do you wear with them? I have some cute sneaks I could wear but would also like to add some work-appropriate sandals (my work place is baseball-hat casual but I want something dressier than birks)
Anonymous says
I have these in brown and they’re great! I think they run a little bit big. Strappy leather sandals go well with them, or nice sneakers.
Clementine says
Man, last night I was catching up on the screens convo and realized how much guilt I carry that my kids do screen time so I can have a moment to get stuff done.
I decided to set blanket rules – no switch during the week, 30 minutes of TV (down from an hour total screens per day) on an approved streaming show. I’m just gonna work through the resistance and then I’ll have magically Montessori kids, right?
Anon says
I was the OP of that convo and enjoyed reading the responses, but I don’t think anyone was saying you should feel guilt if more screentime works for your family. If you find it works well to get a moment to yourself (which is so important) and there aren’t adverse consequences you can see, go for it! Or if you find that some screens are working to buy you time and others aren’t (like if allowing 30 minutes of YouTube only results in a prolonged tantrum that takes more time later), you could experiment with other types of screens. I do firmly believe that different methods work well for different families and their goals.
Clementine says
You’re totally correct that nobody was saying it, but in reading I realized that I feel a lot of guilt for the fact that I use it in a way that makes me feel selfish.
I am not going zero screens, but I do want to limit much more what is allowed during the week, particularly by my oldest. We’ve had babies for a long time and I find that I was letting him go watch TV so I could pay attention to the babies.
Anon says
I feel ya. I also have three, and I think our oldest boys are the same age (7)? I’m finding that I’m uncomfortable with our screen time creep. We actually don’t do any during the week (it’s totally possible and I love it!) but on the weekends it feels like we’ve been allowing way too much. Plus, I think I’m getting angsty thinking about boys and gaming and growing up, and I want to keep us in childhood land a little longer. There is so much beauty in their play and creativity on the weekdays that I want MORE of that.
Clementine says
Late but life – good memory, that’s the age of my oldest. And yeah… part of it is that he’s a negotiator. I need to keep it to firm guidelines and then we’re fine.
It’s a tech reset.
Anon says
Yeah but moms get to be a bit selfish too.
Anonymous says
I found vastly improved attitudes when we limited screen time. Limited amounts daily and youtube for a couple hours on weekends only – watching youtubers everyday was trashing their attitudes. I do not need my 8 year old saying ‘Dude, chill’ when I remind him to empty the dishwasher.
I could never do no screen time but limited amount on weekdays, with extras on weekends seems to be the right balance for us. Kinda like desserts/junk food – moderation is key.
Anon says
Oh boy, I know what you mean about YouTubers and attitude. Plus there are so many weirdos there…
Clementine says
Yeah, it feels like oldest kid has started choosing screens over outdoors which is where I draw the line. A beautiful 70 degree day and he was begging to go watch something? I feel like we slid too far with winter and sickness and mom working a lot.
Anon says
Oh yeah, I can understand that. Once it starts supplanting more valuable activities or outdoor time, it’s more of an issue IMO.
Anon says
We only do screen time after dinner or when it’s raining so that it’s never a replacement for outdoor time. We do about an hour of screen time a day, so this feels like a good compromise to us
Hmmm says
Or just let go of the guilt and do what’s right for your family? I don’t think the point of the thread was to make anyone feel guilty or defensive. Every kid is different and if this is working for you and for them, I give you permission not to change just because some internet strangers are taking a different approach.
If your kiddos are screen zombies or you have concerns based on their behavior, your pediatricians recommendations, etc, then what you said sounds like a reasonable approach.
Anonymous says
Nope you’ll have grumpy kids wondering why you suddenly banned something.
Anon says
Yah, at first. But if they don’t come around, that’s a sign you had an addiction problem and the detox was necessary! (Talking about small kids…yah a teenager will hold a grudge.)
Anonymous says
That’s interesting; I’ve basically flipped on screen time guilt. I feel like screen time is a tool and without it I wouldn’t be able to do things like make dinner. We’re not deep into video games yet though. I suppose I could flip again when my kids get interested in those.
Anon says
I really think there’s nothing wrong with an hour of TV a day. We do a similar amount + a movie on the weekends. I think it’s fine.
One rule we have though is we only watch TV when we can’t play outside (dark or bad weather) so it’s never TV instead of playing outside for us. Might that work as a compromise with your oldest?
We don’t have any video games or tablets yet so can’t comment on that.
I agree with the comments about YouTube, we don’t do YouTube in our house for a few reasons but one is definitely the attitudes that come with it. We only do real shows as opposed to clips.
AwayEmily says
Not quite a direct response but I really enjoyed reading all the comments on yesterday’s post. It’s just such a balm to read about how many different approaches can get you to the same place of having resilient, adaptable, (mostly) happy kids. A lovely illustration that there’s no one Right Way that works for every family. Glad a place on the internet exists where people can share their experiences without shouting and judging.
More Sleep Would Be Nice says
+1 Mil to this.
I have a colleague who has a 2-year-old and almost 4-year-old and does 0 screens. None. She and her DH don’t watch much and read a TON of non-fiction – they are so brainy! The only time the oldest kid watches screens is when they travel internationally to see family in the summer. Also, I’ve seen the 4-year-old guzzle down a can of cherry C*ke and she’s told me the kids have microwaved frozen pizza for dinner on the regular. Sounds to me like they are well-rounded.
Meanwhile, my 2-year-old askes for Peppa Pig (PEPPA!!!!) and Elmo (MELMO!!!!) while pointing at the TV, my 5-year-old has been parked in front of a screen daily since he was 2 for some reason (e.g. DH was getting ready in the AM or you know, pandemic which was easily ~6 hours of Daniel Tiger or Dinosaur Train). Meanwhile they only drink milk, water, with juice once in a blue moon and have produce with every meal. I think (?) they are well rounded, too.
Neither of us is right or wrong, we’re just doing what works.
Anon says
I have a 5 and 2.5 year old. My husband would give them a lot of screen time but my rule is 30 minutes on weekdays and they can choose to play a video game (the 5 year old plays and his brother watches) or a show. They almost always choose the game and I actually prefer that – they interact with it and like talking about and making up stories and drawings about the characters. We have a tendency to let them have more screen time on weekends so we can sleep in which I dislike in theory but…honestly I’m a lawyer mother of two and the extra hour in bed is helpful to our household sanity.
Miz Swizz says
Has anyone used the Freshly Picked diaper bag backpack? My kiddo is potty training and the extra pants/underwear, potty seat and wipes, etc are more than more normal bags can handle. I don’t like the diaper bag we registered for but haven’t found a good alternative. I would prefer a backpack if anyone has recs?
Clementine says
plain old Fjallraven Kanken.
Anon says
Caveat that i haven’t used this in the wild yet bc just received it two days ago, but i really like it –
https://statebags.com/products/lorimer-diaper-bag-nylon-navy?slv_rt=v1%7E1gt6ddo7r%7E5fcf1562-9e97-4d47-a3f1-96ac67745c38%7E7c8815dd-1f04-4162-becc-06c8d3c96faf%7E-hudq6p
Replacing existing bag bc toddler is potty training and we now have a newborn too.
AwayEmily says
I would just use any old backpack or a combo of backpack/canvas bag. This is a pretty short stage in the scheme of things (even though it feels like it is forever) so probably not worth dropping a lot of money on it.
anon says
I’m not as stylish as many but I bought a carhartt (Carhartt 27L Single-Compartment Backpack) backpack as my diaper bag on purpose. It has two water bottle sleeves, two front pockets, is structured, and has a vinyl bottom. YMMV but it’s great for anywhere I go with kids…park, zoo, picnic etc… I’m not taking it out on dates or to work.
Anon says
Look at hiking styles that zip open from the side. Makes it so much easier to pull one thing out from the bottom of the bag.
Anonymous says
Nap time question- My 4 year old was going to a mother’s day out that didn’t have naps so we switched her to not having naps which she was super happy about. For various childcare scheduling issues we had to switch her to a traditional daycare and she is deeply resisting naps. She has a Kindergarten sister and 1st grade brother so that’s part of it, she wants to be a “big kid” like them. Advice to help get her back into napping?
Anonymous says
Sadly I don’t think you can get a 4 year old back into napping once they’ve stopped…
Anonymous says
Sounds like daycares’ problem to solve not yours.
Anonymous says
+1, I think it’s pretty common for a 4-year-old to be done with naps. Our daycare has quiet time for all classes in the early afternoon (at least the classes with kids that nap once/day). Kids can choose to nap or do a quiet activity. Even in my kid’s 2-year-old class, there’s a coloring table set up for the kids who wake up earlier than the others, and they all know to go to the table if they don’t want to be quiet on their mats anymore.
ANon says
wow you had 3 kids close in age – no nap advice, can she look at a book, but you are super mom!
anonM says
book or play with a fidget spinner, which is apparently what my DD does most days at daycare. Everyone’s happy with that compromise.
Anon says
I don’t know that you can go back to naps once you’ve dropped them.
My low-sleep needs eldest stopped napping when she was 2ish but we enforced “quiet time in your room” for a while (for everyone’s sanity, especially since her sister was born shortly thereafter!). She ended up learning to read before kindergarten because during quiet time she had to stay in her bed but could play with stuffed animals and books.
She hated every second of quiet time at home and nap time at school (which they had through Kindergarten at her school, so she 5). She would frequently complain about being bored.
So, the fact that you had her napping til 4 at all is an accomplishment but I don’t think you’ll be able to get her to nap regularly again.
Anon says
She doesn’t have to nap. My child hasn’t napped at daycare since age 2, which is unusual, but 4 is a very normal age to drop naps. Well over half my kid’s pre-K doesn’t nap. They should provide her with something to do quietly on her cot if they don’t have a separate space for non-napping kids, and learning how to play independently and quietly while others sleep is a valuable life skill even if she doesn’t need a nap.
Anon says
+1. My kid gave up napping right at 2, so daycare let her read books in her cot, or let her go make the rounds with the director, or gave her some quiet coloring in the office, or whatever to keep her quiet, occupied, and safe. When my younger kid came along, they then let him and another go play with the older siblings’ class during nap time when there was space.
Just ask the teacher for ideas – “Hey I noticed Kid isn’t napping anymore. What options do you give for kids who don’t nap? She’ll probably like X or Y better of the ones you’ve listed, keep us posted on what works!” Or if they don’t have ideas, “I don’t want her to be disruptive during nap time, so I searched and found a couple options that might work. Do you think we could try A or B for a few weeks and see if that helps her stay quiet and safe when she doesn’t fall asleep?”
Anon says
I’d never in a million years want my 4yo to nap if her two siblings weren’t. She’ll be up til 10pm. Maybe tell her fantastical stories that she can lie there and “think about” or something to that effect instead?
Anon says
Yeah, we cut my daughter off from naps at age 3.5 (except when traveling – she seems to need more total sleep when crossing timezones) because it was leading to her jumping on the bed and scream-singing from 9 pm to 1 am. For us at least it was not a 1:1 correspondence. A two hour nap would push bedtime back 5 or 6 hours.
Anon says
I’m surprised that daycare expects a 4 year old to nap. They should have an alternate activity for her.
Anon says
Our catholic school has 5 year old Kindergartners nap. Apparently mine is one of the few who never nap, most kids nap some days but don’t others and the teacher says 4-5 kids reliably conk out every day.
Anonymous says
Per the recent comments about making friends, both as a kid and as an adult: I just wanted to share an example of how someone taking the lead can make a huge difference. We’re in a new city at a new school. At the start of the year, we had basically no friends. Well, there is a dad in my son’s class who is Mr Social Organizer. He invited us over for lunch and a playdate. He got us together for brunch with his family and another family from the class. He pulled my husband into a weekly drinks that he organizes for his dad friends, where they go to a different bar each week. We’re now going with his family and another family on a weekend trip in June. TBH, I have no idea whether we will be friends with this guy 10 years from now–there’s an age gap, and we don’t necessarily have a ton in common. But he and his wife (who is more shy) are really lovely, they are welcoming, and I am so thrilled for my husband that he now has a crew. Thanks to this one person, we sort of have a social life! The whole experience has been a great reminder to me how much of a difference it makes when someone steps up and sets things in motion. On the receiving end, you’re mostly just grateful! I’m not at a point in life where I’m picky about friends. They are nice people. I’m in. So if you’re on the fence about hosting, I would say–go for it!
Anonymous says
This. We had a guy like this who lived across the street from us. So much fun stuff happened – we were really bummed when they moved to another city. No one has really stepped up as the neighbourhood social leader in their absence.
anonM says
+1! My friend started First Fridays with four of us moms with similar aged kids, etc. We’ve all become really close now, thanks to First Fridays and our group text. It’s great.
anon says
What do you guys do on First Fridays? i’d love to host something like this, but im not sure what to do. It seems pricey to provide dinner for everyone every week?
anonM says
No, we usually just meet somewhere at about 6pm. The nice thing about it is that it’s a standing date — first friday of every month (not weekly). Those of us with partners can have them plan accordingly and with little excuses (it’s the same. day. every. month.) and my friend that is a single mom can schedule in advance for a sitter. If one person can’t make it the rest still meet. 4 is a good number IMO- we all get a chance to talk, etc. Usually, the week of we will text and pick a place/make a reservation, but we also have a backup option that is close by and easy if we forget/get busy/whatever.
Nina says
The thing is – yes I get that some people are more comfortable with this than others – but anyone can be Mr. Social Organizer. That couple sounds lovely, but it can also be annoying to always have to be the one who does the planning.
Anon says
my 5 year old twins have been fighting lately more than usual. both verbally being mean and physically. any tips to help get them out of this phase and back to playing nicely together (at least some of the time). the stuff they learn at school is awful – so much bad guys, jail, karate chops, killing etc. – and it is seeping into their play at home
Anonymous says
Try posting again tomorrow. I don’t really have any advice: mine are two and they get in physical altercations a lot. Sometimes older brother makes things better and sometimes he makes it worse.