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Elle says
I need some advice. I’m 12 weeks pregnant and planning on telling my boss soon- we’re fully remote. I’m trying to think through the timing. We’re traveling to see a client during week 14 so I figured I would tell him the week before. The wrinkle is that my new three levels up boss started this week and my boss is meeting new big boss the day before we travel to our client meeting. My worry would be that the first thing big boss learns about me when they’re meeting is that I’m pregnant rather than my good reputation within the firm? Conversely, I’m still having morning sickness some days so I’m worried that if I need to step out of client meeting to throw up and haven’t told my boss- that’ll be a bad look. There will be almost no time when I’m alone with my boss in person before the client meeting. Would you tell before or after?
Anonymous says
Neither. I wouldn’t tell until week 18 or 20. No one needs to know you are stepping out to throw up! “Excuse me for a moment” and get up and leave, everyone will assume you’re using the bathroom and decent adults do not make further inquiries.
OOO says
+1. If you are showing now then I would tell your boss now, but if not then I would wait around week 20
NYCer says
+1. Unless you really want to tell him now, there is no need to mention it this early.
Anon says
I would probably tell him the week before the conference. I waited until 16 weeks because I wanted to hear the heartbeat at my 14 week appt and then my boss and/or I was traveling. It was pretty awkward, everyone was like “we were wondering when you were finally going to tell us!” (And fwiw I hadn’t gained much weight and was still in pre-preg clothing… there are changes to your face and breasts that make it pretty obvious to most people by 12 weeks even without a visible belly). I hated the idea of having to tell work about a potential loss and wanted to delay as much as possible for that reason, but I think if you see colleagues in person after 12 weeks and then lose the baby they’ll know what’s going on regardless of what you say or don’t say.
Anon says
I told my colleagues somewhere between 12-15w when we were on a business trip and they were all like “thank god, I was afraid I’d accidentally say something.”
Anonymous says
Yeah, pregnancy is obvious in your face quite early and people will know even though they are too polite to let on. If you want to keep up the fiction until the time when testing for genetic defects would come back (whether or not you are actually testing) it’s understandable, but past that point it’s kind of passive-aggressive to make people pretend they don’t notice.
Anon says
I may work at a more casual workplace, but if the boss a few levels up knows that you’re pregnant what do you think the impact might be? It may not really come up during your boss’s meeting with him or her. You know your workplace best, though.
anon says
Can you tell your boss that you are not telling people about the pregnancy right now, but just wanted them to know? When I told my boss they asked if they could tell other people at work and I said I didn’t want to share widely quite yet. Each workplace is different but I found no one was particularly interested in the state of my uterus until closer to the due date- or rather no one was ruse enough to be obviously interested- so it might not be as big a deal to others as it felt to me.
Anonymous says
I would do this. I told my immediate boss before I shared the news widely, and she was happy to keep it quiet. In my case this was due to past losses that she knew about, but I think the approach works in your situation as well. It means that your immediate boss will be understanding and can make accommodations if you aren’t feeling well or need to turn in early during your client visit, but it’s no one else’s concern.
Anon says
Can you tell your boss but say please don’t share this for a few weeks?
Anon says
I am the frustrated mom of the nearly 4 year old from yesterday reporting back with two wins to acknowledge that we are inching toward progress. Apparently at the park yesterday, he got really frustrated with another kid, and instead of throwing a huge tantrum, told our nanny he “needed a break,” and walked off by himself – apparently let out a HUGE yell, then came back all smiles. This morning, same thing happened – we didn’t have his preferred breakfast, and had a big fit, so I asked him if he wanted to take a break in his room or sit down and eat what we had. He choose his room, so I took him upstairs, snuggled him up in his bed with his favorite cars and stuffies, gave him a big hug, and he returned in 5 minutes, again all smiles and happily ate the food. So, I guess we are inching towards self-regulation? At least there is more self-awareness than there was several weeks ago when the tantrums were impossible to stop? Yeay for hopefully fewer tantrums post 4?
Vicky Austin says
That sounds AWESOME. I don’t think I have that level of self-regulation myself.
Anon says
Ha, me either. I have a temper, so my husband is always asking (in jest) why I’m surprised we have a tiny hothead….my husband is incredibly even-keeled so I was hoping those genes would win out, and maybe there is still a chance…
Anon says
That is amazing! Tantrums decreased dramatically around age 4 for us, but even at almost 6 I don’t think my kid has the self-awareness to walk away and scream and then come back happy.
anon says
wow this is amazinzg
Anon says
Things to do in mystic CT with little kids under 5?
AIMS says
The aquarium and Mystic Drawbridge Ice Cream are our two favorites.
Anon says
Not in Mystic, but Dinosaur Place is only about a 10-15 minutes drive and can be an all day event. My kids loved it.
Anon says
Aquarium for sure, mystic seaport is fun too, all the ice cream and donuts (youngbuns is my favorite for donuts), sift for cookies/croissants, there’s a playground across the street from the mystic river park that’s fenced in and not usually too busy.
Anon says
Do you do last day of school gifts for daycare teachers? We give money at the holidays but have not traditionally done anything for the end of the year, but my daughter has been in her current room for two full years now and wants to give her teachers homemade necklaces. I know this probably isn’t high on their list of things they want to receive, but it seems mean to deny my kid the chance to give her teachers the gift she made. I should add a gift card too, right?
AIMS says
My kids like to get their teachers flowers for the last day so we do that, a big box of Munchkins for the school staff to share and nice thank you cards for their teachers. I have done gift cards some times but not always (for example, for my oldest, end of school year is right after teacher appreciation when all the parents do a big class gift so I don’t know that another gift card is really necessary).
Boston Legal Eagle says
We generally do cards + cash at the holidays and during teacher appreciation week. We’ll probably do something for my younger one’s last day of daycare next summer, as he’ll have been with this pre-K class for two years. Elementary school has been a class gift and then a written thank you card from my kid.
Anonie says
I’d let the daughter give the necklace, and don’t feel obligated to give the gift card.
Mary Moo Cow says
I would let her make the necklaces, and if you like, send in a card of genuine thanks for all they’ve done for her for the past 2 years. If you want to go above and beyond, you could bring in treats or snacks on her last day. We’ve done that, with enthusiastic permission from the director, modeled on how the parents provide breakfast, snacks, or lunch during teacher appreciation week.
OOO says
We do card + cash for Xmas and last day in classroom. OP I would do necklace plus cash
Anonymous says
I work at an F500 and am applying to an exec level role with global responsibility (lots of travel, early mornings, late nights potentially with calls to Asia). What is the best childcare situation that you’ve found in similar scenarios?
My current role is basically the same but one level down, so I have felt ok declining/having screaming kids in the background/etc. But I’m wondering if this is when people switch to live-in nanny or au pair? We just don’t have the hours of coverage we need now that we commute again, and one of us is travelling, the other person can barely get 7 hours of work in.
I expect my comp package will enable us to do whatever we want in terms of help; we already outsource everything else. It’s really just pre-8am and after 5pm that becomes a struggle. We had an evening nanny for awhile when C*VID hours really restricted daycare, so that is something I’m considering.
Anonymous says
Are you talking adding a nanny or au pair in addition to your current full-time care situation? I think you would run into overtime issues asking a live-in nanny or au pair to handle daytime care plus mornings and evenings.
OP says
adding on. would scale back preschool to part time in that case.
Anon says
If your kids are younger, and depending on your spouse’s schedule, then a live-in nanny or nanny AND household manager. You really need to hire someone to act as the COO of your family and outsource the administrative functions of running your family, which would include managing food, doctor appointments, and other administrative items (signing up for classes, changing over clothing sizes, buying new shoes, managing schedules, etc.). I have an absolutely incredible, self-sufficient nanny, but we still have to assign her tasks and give her the schedule. I would not hire an au pair for this, as it exceeds the tasks they are legally supposed to take on. An au pair could work if your kids are older and just need driving assistance, but you’d still have to manage the operations yourself. For good friends who have similar jobs, they always say that they want to maximize the quality time they have with their families, not feel like any non-working time is spent managing the family.
Anonie says
Yep, evening nanny, for sure.
Anonymous says
In my world this is when the spouse would quit their job.
Anonymous says
Same. I know this is not the case for everyone but this level of stress over childcare is just not worth it for me/us. Unless it’s like, ONE year until everyone is in school full time and a “regular” nanny could work.
Anon says
Yeah two jobs like this seems incredibly hard.
Anon says
I’m married to someone with an intense job like this (but no travel) and even if I were to stay at home I still need help because we have small kids. I’m part time (attorney) and my oldest kid goes to daycare full time and we have a 4day/week nanny for the baby and I barely survive.
How old are your kids? At minimum you need a live in person to cover the AM (2hrs) and evenings (4 hrs) and possibly be on call during the day if they are sick/doctors appts. Or you need a healthy grandparent or relative who is on call for those daytime things but may not do mornings/evenings.
Good luck!
OP says
So the older one is in school and the younger one is in daycare/preschool. I think part of my stress is from the summer where the hours are so much less than during the school year, worrying about all the random holidays/professional days/etc… we’ve juggled it so far, but it feels like a lot. So maybe just adding a PT nanny to our current care would do it, I just like the idea of live-in for mornings/evenings/the random days off school.
Boston Legal Eagle says
A live in seems to make sense for your situation. As someone said above, someone who can manage the household too would be great. I believe Lagliv (biglaw partner with also busy but more flexible spouse) has something like this – you can check her blog.
NYCer says
I think you will struggle with just school/daycare and a PT nanny since you need coverage in the mornings and evenings. I mean this kindly, but school + PT nanny is a pretty “normal” care arrangement for working parents, and you are going to have a job that is definitely outside the norm.
Anon says
It depends where you live I guess but I don’t think school + nanny is the norm for working parents in many places. Most working parents I know just use aftercare. Nannies are reserved for people that are very wealthy and/or have very big jobs.
NYCer says
Ok, regardless of whether it is is common or not…. My point was that I think it is going to be hard for a part time babysitter to give OP the coverage she needs. I peripherally know plenty of people in NYC who have jobs like OP describes, and all of them have more childcare help than a part time babysitter on top of school.
NYCer says
I think you need two nannies. One regular full time nanny who starts on the earlier side (say, 7am – 3pm), and one who covers afternoons and evenings (230-830pm, or until whenever your kids are sleeping). You could also do a regular full time nanny, plus an au pair. I do not think that just an au pair will give you enough coverage.
OP says
oh for sure. Au pair would not cover it, would be in addition to what we have already out of the home.
Anonandon says
I think the answer depends a lot on 1) how old your kids are, 2) how consistent their routine is (meaning – can you bank on them being asleep at a certain time?), and 3) how often your spouse travels or works early/late.
I’m a senior exec at a F500 and have global responsibility. I don’t have a lot of travel requirements, but I do have calls with Asia and Europe regularly, in addition to NA and LATAM. Because my kids (both under 3) are good sleepers and predictable, and because I have decent control over my call schedule, we just have a nanny 9-5pm (I WFH). My husband works full time outside the home, is typically out of the house around 7am and home in time for dinner, and travels often. I schedule AP calls after the kids are in bed and Europe calls either at 9/930am or at 6am (kids are up for the day 730/8am).
Anonymous says
I am so impressed you can make that work. I am so many levels down from that at F500 and you better believe I need to be available way earlier than 9 (as in, ok to have kids in the background 7-8 am but the work day starts at 8 and I need to be 100 percent working by 8, often have formal senior leader or counsel presentations at 8.
Boston Legal Eagle says
I found that my hours and expectations were stricter when I was lower down v. my current more senior position. Of course, this is very dependent on your team and boss, and I’m very grateful for my flexibility now, even if it means I’m working nights (tend to leave at 4, get back on around 7) and occasional weekends.
Anonymous says
I would have thought that! But it’s definitely our most senior level folks scheduling those pre-8am calls and formal 8 am video calls.
OP says
Not to terrify you too much, but mine are now older than 3 (pre-K and young elementary) and they seem much less predictable now… the other night we were both on w/ Asia at 9pm and my older one was still awake!
Spouse travels much less now, but often needs to work early or late like I do.
Anon4this says
Biglaw partner married to Biglaw counsel here – we have a regular nanny and a part time evening/weekend nanny and its not quite enough when we are both slammed because we don’t have coverage before 8am or a couple nights a week for dinner /bedtime. Some friends have 2 au pairs, some 2 full time nannies (early and late) and the later seems to work better but its over 120k on childcare in my area (30/hr is common here).
OP says
omg, two au pairs! I guess that makes sense.
Thank you for validating that this is all even possible.
Anne-on says
How old is your child? I’m assuming you have a kid in full time daycare/school? If so I’d suggest a part time sitter to cover AM/PM hours OR an au-pair although their help for non-childcare tasks is limited. I strongly prefer our sitter though it is more $$ since I can ask them to take care of pets/run errands for me and our family vs. only kid chores. Our sitter is also happy to take on additional hours when I’m traveling – that’s something you will want to ask in your interviews. We also added a car when we got au pairs – if my husband is in the office and I’m parking at the commuter lot we needed something for them to drive the kid around in. We got a smaller but reliable car and that’s worked out well for us.
Anonymous says
How old are the kids? Mine are young elem and in your situation I’d hire either a live-in nanny whose comp was largely room & board + part time hours OR get an au pair to “bookend” daytime care.
Keep in mind that you’ll need an office away from whatever option you choose. That’s my biggest hurdle- there are very few places in my house to go where you can’t hear kids in the kitchen fighting.
OP says
yeah, good point. With a live-in, we’d have to use the lower level apartment for them to live in which is currently where DH works at home. So would need some rearranging of remaining rooms to create two sealed offices (for lack of a better term lol) when we both want/need to be at home. We have plenty of square footage, but as you point out, needs to be away from kids fighting.
that said, neither of us HAS to work from home – myself in particular. I have a very short commute (when not travelling) and really don’t mind going in.
Anonymous says
My job includes long-distance international travel and regular calls with people in other time zones. Here is the setup that works pretty well for us:
– Full-time daycare
– Babysitter in the evenings that I have calls
– Family comes to help when I’m on travel if possible
– I have the flexibility to be away from my desk during normal working hours given all of this (for example, I was on long call yesterday evening; today I am taking a long lunch break to go to a barre class and have lunch)
– On weekends and on weeknights that I don’t have calls, I try to give my spouse a break given that in practice they have to do bedtime solo pretty often. I take our kid in the jogging stroller and go for a run to a playground, and our kid gets wiggles out while my spouse catches up on work or just sleeps in.
There’s obviously a lot of privilege that makes all of the above work. Other people I know have regular morning sitters for a couple hours to get the kids up and ready for daycare/school, and a list of sitters for random holidays and teacher training days, but mornings don’t happen to be hard for us for some reason.
Anon says
So my daughter is in daycare three days a week and at her grandparents house two days a week. Almost every morning she asks if if we’re going to grandma and grandpa’s house and if I tell her no, we’re going to daycare, she starts crying and whining and getting droopy, and it’s a struggle to get her out the door. Once we’re in the car and at drop off it’s usually fine (although probably 1-2x month there’s also tears at the drop off), and I don’t suspect the daycare of anything more nefarious than her favorite teacher leaving, but it’s just instant and total disappointment when she hears that she’s not visiting grandma and grandpa. We’ve been trying to hype up daycare by mentioning her friends there, and she’s been taking dolls and blankets for comfort, but if anyone has any other suggestions, let me know. This whole routine makes the good mornings bad and the bad mornings awful. She’s two and a half, so she’s hard to reason with.
Anon says
I think the “some days at daycare, some days home with family” thing can be hard on a lot of preschoolers. My kid generally handled it ok, but I know a lot don’t. Would grandparents be amenable to doing early pickups on a regular basis instead of watching her two full days a week? That may be much easier on her.
Anon says
My 3.5 yo twins love their nanny, but they still get weepy on days when she is coming vs. a weekend day. Around 2, I started telling them after dinner but before their bedtime routine whether the next day is a nanny day or a weekend day. I try not to tell them right before bed as it results in a total meltdown, and if I tell them before dinner, it doesn’t sink in. I usually told them in the context of what the morning routine would look like (e.g., “Tomorrow, we’ll get up, eat X for breakfast, put your clothes on, and then [nanny will come or we’ll go to the park].”) Now that they are almost 4, they sometimes ask in the morning if she is coming or not, and when I tell them, they might cry for a minute and move on.
TheElms says
We do this with our 4 year old as well. It helps but doesn’t entirely fix the problem.
Anon says
My 3 year old does M-Tu with my mom and W-Th-F at daycare so a similar situation. We have a special folder in our kitchen where we keep a sheet of notebook paper and every day when he comes home, we write down the absolute best things that happened at school (played in the sandbox with Madison, learned a days of the week song, built a cool lego robot with only blue blocks, whatever). We also pick out his favorite projects he does over the course of the week to put in there. My mom does something similar with pictures and stories about what she does when she’s not watching him (mostly shopping and golf :) ). When they see each other again on Monday, they go over it and talk/hype up about how much fun school is and all of the cool things he gets to do there. We started doing this around 2 and it’s helped to reframe school days not as “non-Nana days” but instead as “cool things I can tell Nana about” days.
anonM says
Our kids have a set day with grandma every week. They love it. Maybe a visual schedule for her to see which days are which?
Mary Moo Cow says
I lived through this with both kids. It is terrible when you are in it, but if it helps, I had forgotten all about it until your post. DH and I would tell DD the morning of what day it was, let her whine/cry/dawdle, and then pack her up and drop her off. I really struggled to stay positive and upbeat and make a clean break, but if I waffled, kids smelled blood and it was so much worse. It didn’t necessarily get better, it just got to be routine and I expected it. It was an unpleasant stretch of time, and then I could rely on the rule that 3 and ups (I think — maybe 4) had to be in school 5 days a week, and we saved grandparent days for special, surprise Fridays. Hugs and good luck.
Anon says
Just commiseration- my 2 year old has full daycare days MWF and half days TuTh and clearly prefers the half days. Agree that preparation seems to help- she gets a cup of milk and snuggles the moment she wakes up and that’s when I tell her what kind of day it is.
Cb says
Summer camp success, despite my moans about my husband on the main page. We went abroad for 2 weeks of summer camp, staying in a Home Exchange. T had a friendly face there, his nursery bestie moved to the city a year ago and we coordinated with his parents so they both went to camp, but I think he’d have been fine (and made more friends) if he was solo. He really enjoyed city living, loved beeping his metro card each day, the meals were amazing (squid pasta for kindergarteners…), and I enjoyed an escape from village life. The daily swim lessons meant a year’s worth of weekly class progress in the first week.
I worked the first week, and took the 2nd as leave. Work wasn’t as efficient as I’d have liked but that was because I was negotiating a new job and was a bit distracted. But 5/5, would definitely do again. We’ve found a cool camp in Amsterdam for next summer.
Anon says
This is so cool and sounds like such a great experience for him! Would love insight into how to find English camps in European countries where English isn’t the native language. I work remotely and my husband’s a prof so I’ve been working on getting him to do a month in Europe in the summers but the camp thing is daunting.
Cb says
A lot of the British and American private schools do camps which are open to the public. I just googled a list of schools and then checked the website for camp.
They are so much cheaper than American camps, this was 50 euro a day for 9-5 care, including two hour swim lessons, meals, snacks, and two field trips.
Expat Facebook groups would have a tally of them but look now so you get a sense of options/dates for 2023.
Anon says
Ha that’s actually quite pricey to me but we live in a LCOL region of the US. The city run parks & rec camp here is 7-6 for $125/week. But it does sound like a really awesome camp!
Thanks for the info, I will look into it.
Anonymous says
No specific recommendations but I know there are summer camps for European kids to learn English and I suspect they would welcome native speakers. The Most European kids start learning English in school around age 9-10 so any ages older than that and the other kids would have at least some English.
Anon says
My kid is much younger and the country we’re most interested in (Italy) doesn’t have super high English fluency, so I think we really need a camp geared toward foreigners. Thanks though!
Anon says
Ooh! Does anyone have recommendations for doing this in France? My kids speak French, so doesn’t have to be a program in English.
Cb says
I think french camps are super common, I’d look at expat groups for advice.
Anon says
Ooh good idea! Thanks
Mary Moo Cow says
Ooooh, did you get a new job?!
Your note that he might have made more friends if he didn’t know anyone resonated with me, because I’m already doing a summer debrief and considering whether, next summer, DD would do an overnight camp with a BFF who did the camp this year and whether I can get her into a sewing day camp with a friend. Maybe I need to consider whether she really needs the crutch of knowing someone.
Cb says
Yep! Start 1 September! The stock prices of my local airline dropped upon hearing the news.
It’s not a great commute – bus, train, and bike but it isn’t bus bus plane bus and I won’t be paying rent and a mortgage.
Anonymous says
I am a fan of sending them to camps where they don’t know anyone, especially for sleepaway camp. I have seen existing friends get annoyed with each other at camp, and kids who go with a friend miss out on the fun experience of making intense new camp friendships.
Thanks, Coach says
I am getting tired of dealing with the mental load of coach’s gifts. I get that they are optional, totally, but still every time a request comes in, I have to think about, do we contribute, if so how much, will anyone know, what’s the right thing to do, etc. I am opposed to them in principle. For some of my kids’ sports, the coaches are paid, from the dues we pay for the league. So, ok, they should be all set. For volunteer coaches such as parents, none of us with busy lives and a million things going on are doing it in exchange for a $150 gift card at the end of the season, and I think it’s an unfortunate thing that a sincere “Thank you,” or someone volunteering for the sake of itself isn’t seen as enough.
Probably obvious that I’m leaning toward just making a blanket rule that we opt out, or making a blanket rule that we contribute X amount every time and just mentally tacking it onto the dues (which is what I wish they’d do in the first place, so I don’t have to worry about Venmo’ing mamalama99 by July 28, repeat for every league with different requirements).
How do you all handle coach’s gifts?
Anonymous says
All 3 of my kids play sports. I’ve been a coach, had countless parent volunteer coaches, and have had kids with paid coaches.
Paid coaches- all set there. Maybe a thank you or have their meal paid for at a team dinner.
Parent volunteers- THANK THEM! Get them a token gift card or flowers or whatever. I coached when my kids were young and ever since then I make sure that I do the group gift if nobody else is stepping up. It’s the least I can do. These parents take so much time out of their lives to coach that it’s important to thank them!
If you can’t be a volunteer parent coach, be a good team parent. Volunteer to coordinate snacks, organize rides, do paperwork- something. Or, at the very minimum, make sure your kid is at the practices and if you can’t make a game or practice let the coaches know so they can adjust the line-up.
Anonymous says
oh, and amounts. $10 per coach per kid if you need a number. less is fine, more is fine too. The amount doesn’t really matter, it’s the thought.
Anon says
We have not done much in the way of team sports. If there was an organized money collection, I would likely contribute something like $25 (assuming this is on an annual basis – if more frequent, then I’d give less). For activity teachers who are paid a salary, we typically just do a thank you card from kiddo at the end of the year. For volunteers (especially teens) I do Target gift cards.
Thanks, Coach says
It’s per season and per sport, so for any given coach it’s probably once a year, but for our family it ends up being 3x per year (fall, spring, summer leagues), 2-3x per kid.
Anonymous says
Yup. As it should be. Summer softball is ending. We have 4 parent coaches and we got them all a team visor, coozy in team colors and a bottle of something (wine, scotch).
They don’t do it for the money,
Obviously, but they should kick back and enjoy a glass on us. When we have coaches that may or may not enjoy alcohol they get flowers or coffee gift cards.
Anonymous says
My rule is that I don’t organize it or worry about it but immediately contribute the suggested contribution or $20 if someone else wants to organize.
anonM says
I guarantee you the volunteer coach and their whole family put in a large mental load for coaching, so tbh this comes across harsh to me. My parents coached for years and put their hearts into it (and shelled out for ice cream for all the kids at the end of every season, equipment for kids who couldn’t afford it, etc. Most people had no idea how much of their own money they spent on the team). I’d just make this a set amount and move on, and be grateful for volunteer coaches.
SOS! Last Minute Maternity Shopping? says
Help! I’m 25 weeks pregnant and just found out I’ll need to be in a suit for multiple days next week. None of my pre-pregnancy suits fit. I have one maternity dress that I can potentially layer with an unbuttoned blazer and get away with it, but I can’t rewear the same thing every day. Who sells maternity clothes in-store these days or where can I buy some online with super fast shipping? Trying to figure out how to solve this problem over the weekend. Eek!
TheElms says
Would any pre-pregnancy suits fit with pants or skirt unbuttoned and a stretchy belly band over the top? If so, amazon has the belly bands by Ingrid and Isabel with next day shipping. Target has some maternity in their larger stores but I think its all pretty casual clothing. Some Macy’s stores have maternity in store as well.
SOS! Last Minute Maternity Shopping? says
Thank you! Great suggestion. Of course I also don’t regularly wear suits anymore, so not only are the ones I own pre-pregnancy but also pre-covid weight gain…. But great idea to try a belly band! Will plan on hitting Macys this weekend too. Thanks!
TheElms says
The Calvin Klein Starburst dress which is available on Amazon and sometimes Macy’s worked for me at 36+ weeks pregnant in a size up. Its very stretchy. So that might be an option for one day with a blazer.
Also, I had a dress very similar to this one (in black) that I wore to court with a tweed blazer and while not ideal it worked.
https://www.amazon.com/Womens-Maternity-Bodycon-Causual-Dresses/dp/B01N9U3ROS/ref=is_sr_s_dp_2?crid=23OWAFWG9NE7C&keywords=maternity%2Bskirt&qid=1689964805&sprefix=maternity%2Bskirt%2Caps%2C75&sr=8-35&th=1&psc=1
Anon says
It’s not maternity, but I wore Norma Kamali dresses sort of like this one the whole way through: https://www.shopbop.com/long-sleeve-side-draped-dress/vp/v=1/1541483261.htm
Size range is limited but they are very stretchy and I think run big. They didn’t ride up in the front. The fabric is nice enough to throw a jacket over.
Anon says
Ask your friends or post in a local Facebook group or listserve for families or moms – I guarantee people have been there and will be happy to lend to you (see this all the time)
Anon says
My friend and I were discussing the recent article about anti-dopamine parenting that was in NPR: https://www.npr.org/2023/06/17/1182974637/anti-dopamine-parenting-can-curb-a-kids-craving-for-screens-or-sweets
I found this very interesting re: kids, but even more so for myself. I can totally see how dopamine is making me pick up my phone all the time, even though it makes me unhappy overall. I wanted to share this article because I found that it gave a name to a phenomenon that I was observing in myself – that it’s a compulsion to be drawn to the screens (and also to sugar sometimes) and that it’s a “hijacking of a neural pathway” rather than a conscious choice.
Anonie says
+10000000. Dopamine deficit is SO REAL. And btw guys, posting on Corporette is just as bad as any other social media.
Anonymous says
The concern over dopamine is overblown. https://www.nytimes.com/2023/06/30/well/mind/dopamine-brain-behavior.html
Anon says
Okay, I’m stumped on how to handle the fact that my twenty month old grabs and pulls out four year old’s hair when frustrated. We’ve been immediately removing her and telling her “we don’t pull out hair” and “no” and taking her away from the four year old, but it’s still happening and I’m somewhat worried about my four year old’s hair! Help on how to guide twenty month old behavior? Older sis is taking it very well.
Anonymous says
I think that’s the best you can do at that age. If your older kid is mature enough to just move herself away, that can help. It’s a phase.
Anonymous says
Embarrassing question, please be kind! A daycare teacher commented on the fact that my 5 year old’s teeth look quite yellow. She said we need to do a better job with oral hygiene. I’m embarrassed but not sure what else we should be doing. We do supervised brushing twice a day and she sees the dentist every six months. She’s never had a cavity and the dentist has never said anything negative about her teeth. I think unfortunately she’s just inherited my mom’s and my genetic tendency toward teeth that stain easily (although in my mom’s and my case, our copious tea consumption is no doubt a factor). She sees the dentist for a routine cleaning next month; is it reasonable to just talk to the dentist then?
Cb says
Yes definitely! I’m surprised the teacher said something?? She’s not a dentist in disguise and it feels really out of order. Our nurseries bring in a dentist for a brushing demo, give out brushes and pastes, but they wouldn’t comment on individual kids unless there was an issue?
NYCer says
+1. This seems like an odd comment from a daycare teacher.
Anonymous says
Yes, talking to the dentist then is reasonable. My understanding (which may be wrong) is that baby teeth just have a tendency to yellow.
Mary Moo Cow says
My dentist told me baby teeth have a tendency to be pure sparking white because they are almost pure enamel. He said it, I think, to remind me to be kinder about my older daughter’s yellowing adult teeth as compared to my younger daughter’s toothpaste ad teeth.
Either way, this is a weird comment from a daycare teacher. It doesn’t seem like it’s a safety or developmental concern, so I would have been ruffled, too.
Anonymous says
Agree. I coached 3rd grade soccer last year and it was easily 8-10 hours/week of my time for three months.m
3-4 hours of coach training pre season, coaches meetings every few weeks during the season.
Two hour long practices a week for the kids; coaches get there early and leave late to set up, Plus drive time and prep for the practices- that’s 4 hours a week.
One travel game per week, 2.5 hours (to, from, plus easily 1.5 hours at the game itself).
15-30 minutes per game doing prep work (rosters/positions).
Plus chasing parents and kids about admin stuff, having extra everything in the car for when your kid forgets their water, hair elastic, shin guard, snack, whatever. Oh, and communicating with parents, planning a team party, etc.
You should throw $5 at anyone who offers to coordinate the gift and if nobody does, step up and do it yourself.