Nursing Tuesday: Two-Pocket Drape Front Cardigan

nursing cardigan with pocketsWhen I was nursing, it seemed like a never ending search to find cardigans that were soft, machine washable, didn’t have zippers (I didn’t want them rubbing against the baby’s face), but were also functional and warm and brought a wee bit of color and style to my life. Some women swear by this cardigan (try this link to see all the colors it comes in right now and the many many positive reviews), but it felt a bit too close to the cardigan equivalent of sweatpants to me, so I gravitated more towards waterfall cardigans like the one pictured here. Bonus: this particular cardigan even has pockets and is on sale. Of course I like the navy or the red, but it’s also available in black, white, or gray. It’s $39.90, but was originally $58. Bobeau Two-Pocket Drape Front Cardigan (Regular & Petite)



  1. I didn’t like open cardigans for nursing because although they were easy during nursing, they were a pain to wear when doing anything else— particularly the really waterfall-y styles. It was just too much fabric to get in the way when doing chores. I preferred some kind of closure. (I never had trouble maiming the baby with zippers, but I suppose it’s a possibility!) Also for keeping my post-partum belly covered when I felt self conscious about that whole situation; I didn’t like being in just a clingy nursing tank under there.

    Unrelated question— tips on weaning? My son is 15MO and we’re down to morning & bedtime nursing only. I have a medication issue and also am just becoming ready (for my husband to do bedtime, lol) but how to I start? Just cut out one feeding then the other? My book says “don’t offer, don’t refuse” but it feels like it would be really sudden to just completely change an established routine.

    • NewMomAnon says:

      My kiddo was about 6 months older, but I started talking about it a few days before, how we were going to say bye bye to nursing and then no more nursing! But then she could sing with me at bed time, and I would tell her a story every night, and wouldn’t that be great! And then on the night I had chosen, we waved “bye bye” to nursing and totally stopped. The next morning, she asked and I reminded her that we had said bye bye so no more nursing. She was a little teary the first morning, but otherwise it was no big deal.

      • NewMomAnon says:

        And I should have added – my kiddo LOVED nursing, so I was expecting some serious tantrums. It was a huge relief when she just accepted the new ritual with no problems.

    • EB0220 says:

      I weaned my kiddo around that age. I used a version of Dr Jay Gordon’s night weaning method and was very happy with it. I’ll put the link in a reply. She was only nursing at night when I weaned. I followed the method for all night wakings including bedtime. I spent longer than three days doing the “nurse a little, then cuddle” phase, too. I talked her through each step. Then when I was ready, we progressed to “cuddle only” and so on. She handled it well, and she was a nursing fiend (although generally takes change pretty well).

  2. I also hated open cardigans for nursing – I just wanted to cover up my front when not actively nursing!

    Please recommend your toddler sunglasses — our 1.5 year old needs a pair and, once again, analysis paralysis has set in…

    • Oshkosh had all theirs on sale for $8 recently; I ordered a pair of the wrap-style. I am not cool enough for Babiators.

    • NewMomAnon says:

      Identify favorite book/cartoon character, search Amazon for sunglasses featuring said book/cartoon character, order same? Apply big floppy hat for additional sun protection.

    • Spirograph says:

      I had no luck getting kiddo to wear sunglasses at that age. My only suggestion is to get ones with a strap to slow down the removal process. And a hat with a chinstrap as well.

      • NewMomAnon says:

        This is probably a personality thing, but I’ve found that if the sunglasses are a “toy” and kiddo can play with them on her own and see me wear them, she is super eager to wear hers. I had no luck getting her to wear sunglasses when I imposed them on her; she picked out her own cartoon character sunnies and now wears them everywhere and it’s absolutely adorable.

    • My six month old wears Baby Banz and I was surprised at how tolerant she was of the head strap (she haaaaates hats). They’re adjustable so I imagine they’d fit a 1 1/2 year old just fine.

    • Anonymous says:

      Julbo Looping

    • Thanks! Mostly concerned about them staying on… he tolerates hats okay if they have a strap. Maybe we need some with both a band and pictures of trucks on them.

  3. I’m thinking of starting to cut back on nursing. I pump three times a day at work and at night when my husband gives her a bottle when we go to bed. Should I cut out a session at work (10 and 2 instead of 9, 12, and 3) or just shorten the sessions? Should I cut out the night pump since milk is lowest then? Suggestions? We made my six month goal so I expect that I’ll soon be ready to go down to morning and bedtime nursing (though I’m fine with that longer term).

    • Cut out which ever one is most inconvenient and/or generates least milk (if answer is same, there you go!). I only pumped 2x day at max ( 11 and 3). I ultimately dropped the 3 o clock when I was getting very little in return for my efforts. I bumped the 11 to 12 most days for convenience. Then I dropped the 12 last week and it has been so amazingly freeing. You can just stop and then pump only the minimum necessary to relieve discomfort if you have any. If you aren’t getting much at the pumping session anyway, you can probably just stop with minimal discomfort. I had no problem, but I was getting like 2 oz per session when I dropped it.

    • EB0220 says:

      Yep, I agree with MDMom. I would start cutting sessions. Personally, I would drop the night session first because I hated pumping in the evening or overnight. When I pumped, I did do a post kid bedtime pump for a while when I was trying to increase my supply, but it was the first to go when she started solids. Then, I dropped from 3 to 2 sessions at work (10 am/1 pm/3 pm) to (10 am/1 pm). My body never politely handled going below two pumping sessions at work,so I kept it that way until I weaned completely around 16 mo.

    • Anonymous says:

      I would cut a daytime session because that will really give you some of your work day back. But I would pump a little longer at the two remaining sessions – so instead of 15 mins at 9/12/3, I would do 20 mins at 10/2. I’d keep the night session while you initially drop one day session, then reevaluate when you can see the effect on nursing supply. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. You can do two sessions at work most days and then pump three times on Wednesday and nurse more on weekends.

      Your daughter may start taking less milk as well once she starts on solids so the night session can drop away when the night bottle does.

      Agree with EBO220 that it is hard to drop below two daytime sessions and maintain supply.

  4. Momata says:

    Gift idea for a girl turning 12? She does gymnastics and is an excellent student, although not a big recreational reader. Her fashion sense is rocker / hipster. She is going to sleepaway camp this summer for 6 weeks.

    • NewMomAnon says:

      I remember getting a curling iron (ok, I’ll admit – it was a crimping iron), a manicure set with a bunch of bottles of nail polish, and a jewelry organizer around that time, and I was so excited about all of them. Does she have a phone? Nice speakers for her to play music are probably the modern equivalent of the stereo system I treasured as a kid.

      Otherwise, I hear that Justice is the big store for tween girls (but I avoid it because it smells like teen angst). A Sephora gift card might also go over well?

      My last suggestion, if she truly is “hipster,” is a subscription to McSweeneys or some other hipster-ish magazine? I cannot speak to the age-appropriateness of McSweeneys, fyi.

    • mascot says:

      Lava lamp. I found it mesmerizing/relaxing to watch in my room and it’s vintage enough to meet your hipster criteria. Or maybe no, I was a pretty straight laced prep both as a teen and as an adult.

  5. Meg Murry says:

    After 2 visits to a local urgent care in the last 2 months, I tried to be a responsible adult and schedule myself for an annual physical, and the next available appointment with my PCP is in December! So I asked when the next appointment for a physical is with any doctor and was offered an appointment in August.

    Jiminy Christmas, and they wonder why people with chronic conditions end up in the ER. This is the same facility that had to schedule my “6 month follw-up” with a specialist for 9 months later. Ugh, what a mess.

    • Would it be possible to switch practices? That seems like a long wait for a physical. I was able to get one within a few weeks in my suburban area as a new patient. my OBGYN annual was about a 3 week wait too.

    • That was the situation I found when I lived in the city (large urban area on the East Coast) – doctors were just too busy. If that’s your issue, can you look to the suburbs? Do you have a car or way to get there?

      If you’re already in the suburbs, I would definitely shop around. I was able to get seen for both a PCP and OBGYN as a new patient within a few months when I first moved here. It’s insane that you’re ALREADY a patient and the wait is 8 months!

      • Anonymous says:

        Also get yourself on the cancellation list. But defiantly start looking elsewhere.

        If you need a non-checkup appointment what kind of wait is there? If it’s awful is expedite the search for a new practice.

        • Meg Murry says:

          The crazy part is that I called this morning at 7 am and got an appointment for 8:30 the same day. The overall problem is that there are 2 giant health systems in my area and one smaller one. My kids pediatrician is through the small one and I like him, but I don’t really like their primary doctors all that well, and their facilities are pretty meh. The giant systems are world class and where you would want to be if you had a major medical problem, but they have crazy long waits and are more expensive, plus the main campus of one of them isn’t covered by my insurance.

          I actually think I’m going to try to “double dip” and stay in the giant system by keeping that physical appointment for months from now (since you can’t get a same day emergency appointment in that system if you don’t have a PCP in that system) while trying to get some other minor issues dealt with from the small system that I am “meh” about.

  6. hoola hoopa says:

    I also preferred a closure, but otherwise the same criteria, hence why I own three of the one-button bobeau! You can even nurse with it closed, so it’s a nursing cover too!

    • Robin Hood says:

      I have the one-button bobeau in a dark green color and feel like Robin Hood every time I wear it. Fun for around the house … not so much for out and about!

  7. non-religious godparent ideas? says:

    My dearest friend is going to serve as the “godmother” to my baby (due July). I put it in quotes because there’s probably a better word for it since we aren’t doing any of the religious aspects of it, and neither of us are Catholic so the word itself doesn’t mean anything specific to us. Not interested on comments on why this is a bad idea or something like that – there are a lot of reasons why I want her to be involved closely with my beeb and why I want it to be sorta formalized. Has anyone done anything like this? Another good name to call it? Fun ways to acknowledge?

    I’m thinking of approaching it like she’s an honorary aunt (I only have one sibling, a brother). She lives out of state and we see each other about four times a year. She is an amazing photographer and already wants to do a bunch of photos for us. I’m trying to brainstorm fun things we can do to keep her feeling involved with the baby’s life. CCing her on emails with pictures, etc, that I am sending to my parents and brother (who also do not live close to me)? I want to not have just an honorary title but actually make this a thing.

    • I don’t think you need a name for it, but I would just say that you consider her the baby’s aunt. I have plenty of close family friends that I called “auntie” and definitely see them as real aunts.

      You can include on emails as you say, skype with her, talk about her to the little one. Basically treat her as a family member – I’m sure she’ll reciprocate by sending kiddo presents on her birthday, etc and even though you’re not physically close she will be part of your lives.

    • Godparents or Guardians says:

      We both have done this for our kid and have been asked to do this for friends’ kids (we actually lifted the idea from them). One nice thing both friends did was a kind of “welcome ceremony” at their home where they invited family and the godparents/guardians (the term one set of parents have chosen to use). The parents spoke a little and the godparents were each asked to say something-either a reading they chose or something they’d written. Followed by tea and cake or lunch. Both times were really lovely and touching. In terms of staying in touch and being part of each other’s lives (we live across an ocean from our godsons and three of our kid’s four godparents live an ocean or a continent away), lots of texting and sending pictures regularly, even if it’s really mundane or silly. One friend uses a postcard app on their phone and we get lovely notes with pictures of the kids from time to time. As to what people are called-we refer to the role as non-religious godparents; one set of friends who are religious but don’t want the role to be for spiritual guidance use the word guardian. And we refer to the people as Auntie and Uncle when talking about them with our kid.

    • Maddie Ross says:

      I don’t think you need a special word or title. Growing up, my siblings and I referred to my parents’ best friends as “aunt” and “uncle” and we saw them way more some of my actual blood relatives. I agree with Pogo – treat her as a special family member, and she’ll likely reciprocate in kind.

      • Sorry for late response, but thank you to all of you – this is really great and got my gears whirring.

  8. Anonymous says:

    I have a 2.5 year old girl that has a wide variety of interests. She’s all about princesses/ballet/makeup/sparking pink things but also loves dinosaurs, robots, and trucks. She has several shirts and PJ sets with Dinos and robots on them, but they are all boys (as neutral as I could find but still navy/grey). Are there any cute girl clothes with robots or Dinos? Or even totally gender neutral clothes.

    I keep waiting for mini Boden (which I love) to make this happen for me but no luck yet.

  9. Just stopping by to complain again about my non-functional ovaries (sobbing face emoji). They decided to take a vacation this month.

    My RE just bumped up my Clomid, and I have to take it again this cycle – which I’ve read is not unheard of, but it’s super frustrating nonetheless. Hormones are terrible. I guess this is good practice for when I finally get pregnant?

    Does anyone have any tips on how to stay sane during the whole infertility process? So far I have:
    1) Being thankful I have really good insurance
    2) Rewarding myself with coffee and a fun podcast every time I have to drive to the clinic (so I associate it with something positive, lol)
    3) I have really good veins, so blood draws don’t usually hurt
    4) Enjoying all my childfree time and telling myself I’ll really miss it someday

    It seems like such a “first world” problem to obsess over, but I think almost every person who got married at the same time as us, and most people who got married after us, have kids now and it is just. killing. me.

    • pockets says:

      My ovaries are non functional too! Be thankful that you have an RE that will let you do Clomid cycles back to back without having a (progesterone-induced) “period” in between. It saves you two weeks! My first dose of Clomid also did nothing, but the second dose (taken right after the first) worked and I got pregnant that cycle (unlike my innards, my husband’s innards seem to work just fine).

      I also went a little insane, and it was completely unwarranted in hindsight because I got pregnant so quickly and if anything I wish I had waited longer to have kids.

      Something that also helped me – if this was 100 years ago (or more), we wouldn’t be the women who were trapped at home with the 8 kids they birthed in 10 years. We would have had manageable family sizes and could have pursued outside interests, like managing the family store, writing, or fighting for the right to vote and own property.

      • thanks :) Those are exactly the kind of bizarrely helpful things I like to think of to make myself feel better.

        • NewMomAnon says:

          You also probably would have lived longer, because child birth had an incredibly high fatality rate. So in a cruel twist, you would have been more likely to see your friends’ kids grow up, get married, etc. than their own mothers.

          All the other comforting things I could say had to do with the abyss that is potty training, a joy I nonetheless hope you get to experience. Good luck.

    • I went through exactly the same thing. Ultimately we found that Clomid didn’t work for me at all, but Letrozole did (brand name is Femara). Now I have a 6-month old! You can talk to your RE about how many Clomid cycles they will let you do. At my clinic, I think it was three before moving on to other stuff. Also, it’s not at all a first-world problem. Infertility really sucks, full stop.

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