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- What are your tips to having a good weekend with kids, especially with little kids? Do you have a set routine or plan?
AEK says
Anyone get third-trimester nausea / vomiting? I am about 34 weeks and had my first sick night last night (never threw up in first trimester)— just got super nauseated and threw up out of the blue, then again an hour later. Am waiting for a callback from my OB, but I’m at work and feeling fine now, so I think it’s probably more pregnancy-related than viral or anything. I know everyone is different but just wondering if I might have more of that to look forward to?
mascot says
I had nausea in the third tri. I think it was mostly related to everything being so crowded as the baby grew. Spreading out my food intake over smaller, more frequent meals helped.
anon says
Me. Today. Blech.
Quailison says
I’m 29 weeks and have been feeling sick lately too. I also switched to smaller, more frequent meals and it seemed to help. Hope you feel better soon!
Do I Have A Right To Be Annoyed says
DH’s family lives 4.5 hours away. We are both in the Midwest. We traditionally go to their house for Thanksgiving. We did not go last year because DS2 was a preemie and was not allowed out of the house until spring. DH has basically been refusing to make a plan because he hates the sleeping options at his parents’ house. DS1 is on a pull-out couch in the office. DS2 and I share a room with him in a pack and play and me in a full size bed. DH sleep in the basement on a broken futon. Sleeping accommodations suck all around.
Since DS2 was a preemie, DH took DS1 for a lot of solo trips to his parents’. All his siblings live in the town as well. DH has not been able to make a decision about whether or not we will go to his parents for Thanksgiving. Now this morning he tells me that there is a 50/50 chance that he will just take DS1 and leave DS2 and me home alone because it it too much of a pain to pack us and the cat up and find places for us to sleep. In theory I agree, but the thought of being alone on Thanksgiving with DS2 is a real bummer. He is 1, and I don’t have any friends in the town where we live. Suggestions?
Anon says
My suggestion is to drop the “D” because your H is acting like a jerk.
It is a pain to “pack up my wife and other son” (and cat) and spend Thanksgiving as a family?
BS.
Also, he doesn’t need to “find a place for you to sleep”. You and he can share the full size bed and your 1 year old son can sleep in the pack & play in the same room.
What am I missing here?
(former) preg 3L says
+1. Your H is acting like a jerk. You don’t have to spend Thanksgiving alone.
Spirograph says
This. I’m really confused by all the “barriers” to you all going as a family. Those sleeping arrangements sound fine. If there’s something I’m missing, you get a motel/hotel for a couple nights.
Put some extra food and water out for your cat and leave it home (unless your cat needs some kind of daily medication or special care, in which case, please board it at the vet); the whole point of cats is that they’re largely self-sufficient! I’ve left my cats home alone for 3-4 days at a time, and even longer if I have someone come check on them and refresh their food every few days.
MomAnon4This says
Yeah, why NOT a hotel? Their sleeping accomodations don’t accomodate you – they probably don’t want to sleep with a toddler and a 1-year-old, either. Everyone will be happier in a hotel. If you can managed to get packed up and in the car…?
Lyssa says
I agree. I don’t understand why you can’t just share the full bed, but if that’s not possible, perhaps DS1 can switch with DH and sleep on the futon or just in a sleeping bag on the floor (kids usually don’t care). Either way, though, I’d tell him that him and DS1 leaving you and DS2 alone is not an acceptable alternative. You are a family and celebrate together; here or there.
RR says
Agreed. You guys should be together as a family at Thanksgiving. If that doesn’t make sense at his parents, hang out at your house. He doesn’t get to leave you alone so he can have a good Thanksgiving. WTH?
Meg Murry says
Although, to try to see it from his side, I can see my husband offering to take one of our kids to his family events and leave me with only one at home, thinking he’s “sparing” me from his family since they aren’t my favorite people in the world. I could especially see this coming after me sighing and saying something sarcastic implying I wasn’t looking forward to thanksgiving with them – his response of “I’ll just pack up one kid and spend time with my family and leave you at home with the other then” would be typical, and him thinking he’s giving me what I want. Or if I had made a comment about not looking forward to making a 4.5 drive with 2 kids (that could easily turn into 6 or 7 if weather, potty training, or breastfeeding come in to play).
But overall,vent here, but TALK to your husband. Tell him that you prioritize spending Thanksgiving together, and one or two nights in less than ideal sleeping arrangements is not the end of the world OR you can all stay home together, but that you don’t want to split up.
NewMomAnon says
It sounds like you are actually sad about possibly spending Thanksgiving alone and lonely, which might be a more productive way to approach your husband. Perhaps volunteer that either he stays home with you, or all of you find a hotel for the overnight? Or, my family sometimes will do a 4 hour drive roundtrip in one day – leave 6 am, there by 11 am, leave by 5 pm, home by 10 pm. Probably no more disruptive than sleeping in a strange house. You could probably leave the cat at home then too.
CHJ says
What? Why is this his decision alone? What’s missing from your question is a sense of what you want to do. Do you want to go to his parents’ house for Thanksgiving? If so, do you want to stay in a hotel instead of dealing with the weird sleeping arrangements? Is it too much of a hassle at this late date and you’d rather stay home with your little family? I think you should decide what you want, and give it to him straight: “Look, I don’t like this whole plan of splitting up our family for Thanksgiving. We’re all going / It’s too late to go, so we’re all staying home.”
Sarabeth says
Yes! Is this how the two of you usually make decisions as a couple – he gets to decide and you get no input? That’s…not a healthy dynamic. If this situation is an anomaly, he should be open to hearing you tell him that you do not want to spend Thanksgiving apart. If not, I’d start looking for a good marriage counselor.
mascot says
What to tell the husband- “the thought of being alone on Thanksgiving with DS2 is a real bummer” Either we all go together or we all stay home.
If he hates the sleeping arrangements that much, perhaps an air mattress. Or a sleeping bag for the older child. Or a hotel with neighbor to check on the cat.
Maddie Ross says
Frankly, except for your H sleeping in the basement, I’m completely missing what sucks about those sleeping arrangements. That actually seems pretty decent for a guest setup at parents’/in-laws’. Your H needs to grow up. If it’s that awful for him, then he needs to get a hotel room for y’all (maybe an embassy suite? which honestly sounds like an identical set up, except for a slighly larger bed). If that is untenable, tell him you all stay home.
AEK says
Is hotel/motel close to DH-family an option? One night in a room with two doubles or queens might be worth the investment; you & DH in one bed, DS1 in the other, DS2 in pack & play or rent-a-crib? Cat will be OK home overnight. (I have and love my cat, and would not suggest that lightly!)
I would be really frustrated and hurt to have this idea suggested so close to the holiday; if that’s how you feel, I would tell DH and ask him to help you brainstorm alternatives that would keep you together for the holiday and also bring DS2 into the family loop.
ETA: YES you have a right to be annoyed. But problem-solving is priority # 1 right now; let DH know how he made you feel at some point, though.
Meg Murry says
Can you not share the full bed because he is tall or baby winds up in bed with you at some point in the night? Is there room on the floor somewhere for an air mattress? Because you can order this aerobed to ship to you inlaws now, and pay an extra $12 shipping to have it there tomorrow. Boom, sleeping arrangements closer to solved. I have friends that bought this air mattress as a temporary bed, and they are still using it several years later because they find it so comfortable. http://www.amazon.com/AeroBed-Classic-Double-High-Mattress-Queen/dp/B006FTIXPY/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1416938128&sr=8-3&keywords=aerobed&pebp=1416938142210
Alternately, do any of his brothers or sisters have a guest room for you? PnP for baby plus sleeping bag on floor – done.
But I hear you on the husband pain-in-the-neck ness. My husband is only now getting around to telling me his family Thanksgiving is a different day than he originally told me – a day I just agreed to work. Ugh, husbands.
Lorelai Gilmore says
I also totally agree with Meg Murry (not surprising since she is my childhood literary hero). You do not have to just rely on whatever sleeping arrangements are at the house. Get a hotel room, bring your own air mattress, buy his parents a new futon. This is basically a problem that money can solve (and not even a lot of money!).
Pogo says
Ugh, I hate coming up with sleeping arrangements for the holidays. But I agree with others that those arrangements are pretty standard. It sucks having to figure this out, not to mention dealing with the cat, etc. But again, that’s all pretty standard.
I think you have a right to be annoyed but the main issue is you need to talk about it, and preferably in the future, not the day before you’d need to leave! We have similar issues in our family with people not wanting to decide where the holiday is (since no one wants to be the family to pack everything up/find a sitter for the cat/etc). But sometimes you just have to bite the bullet. Tell him you are annoyed that he’s left you out of the decision, and that you don’t want to be alone.
Lorelai Gilmore says
UGH. Totally unacceptable – both the hemming and hawing about the plan for the weekend, AND the idea that he’d go off and leave you alone when you don’t want to be left alone. Is your husband normally like this? Is there some other issue going on in your marriage right now? I don’t want to speculate, but this just seems so awful and unacceptable that I wonder if it’s a symptom of some deeper issue.
Do I Have A Right To Be Annoyed says
Thanks for the advice and commiseration. Unfortunately, no room at siblings house for various reasons. I have tried to convince husband to do the hotel thing, but he thinks it is a waste of money. Air bed is out due to potential cat puncture (she actually punctured one in the past).
Anyway, I told him that my position is that we go as a family or not at all. After some heated conversation he said that weather permitting he was going to leave with DS1 tomorrow and that DS2 and I could go or not. I am still annoyed.
In response to some of the comments above, his whole family hates planning and does everything spontaneously. Obviously, this drives me absolutely crazy, and I try to combat it at every pass. I was trying to not be upset about the non-planning at Thanksgiving because I have already made the request to DH and in-laws that we have Christmas eve early in in-laws town so that I can get the kids home in time to wake up at our house for Christmas morning.
I still don’t know what I am going to do. I think it is ridiculous to split up for Thanksgiving, but I also hate the fact that now DH has made me feel like DS2 and I are a burden for the trip. I told him splitting up for the holiday is not a good lesson for the kids. Ugh.
ml says
Not sure if you’re still checking, but a hotel room at Thanksgiving is the best use of money ever. My family has packed 15+ people into my grandparents’ house with one bathroom for as long as I can remember. When my oldest was an infant, we used “we don’t want to wake up the whole family if he has a bad night” as an excuse to get a hotel, and we’ve never looked back. Being able to go somewhere else at the end of the day, unwind, get a good night’s sleep, kvetch about annoying relatives without worrying they’ll overhear, and get ready in the morning without having to wait in line for the sink and shower is priceless.
Lorelai Gilmore says
Oh honey, leave the cat at home with a catsitter or a kennel, buy an airbed for the in-laws’ house, and find a marriage counselor or an individual counselor. This is completely terrible behavior on your husband’s part and I would be both angry and deeply hurt. Does he even understand how offensive this is? Alternatively, keep both of your sons and let him go by himself. He is treating you very, very poorly.
My husband and his family also loathe planning. But a strong dislike for planning does not translate into a strong dislike for ME – and while my husband has definitely postponed a holiday decision until the last possible moment, there’s never been this kind of a situation where he basically tells me that he’s not bringing me with him. Is there some reason why he wants to be on this trip without you? Please forgive me if I’m totally off base, but is he having an affair/using his parents’ house as a base for other shady activities?
Nan says
“He thinks it is a waste of money” CANNOT be the final word. This needs to be discussed and compromised. “He thinks” is such a small part of that. What YOU think matters, what you two can actually afford matters, and family time matters.
Also, with love, you are letting cat issues have WAY TOO MUCH SWAY.
(former) preg 3L says
It seems the stress of the divorce and being away from the baby every other weekend is causing my milk to dry up. I’m devastated. I’m eating oatmeal and almonds, adding a pumping session (or two) daily, but what else can I do? Any advice/commiseration?
NewMomAnon says
I’m worried about that too with my little one spending time away with her dad…I’ve had to be conscious of drinking a lot more water and eating more than I usually would when stressed. I’ve also had to be careful to keep the late-night pumping sessions at about the same time as my kiddo would wake up if she were with me. But even having done all that, I’m still struggling sometimes.
I think your baby is about the same age as mine, too – around 9-10 months? They also start drinking less milk around this age as they ramp up the solid foods. Your body could be adjusting to that.
But just hugs, it’s really hard.
Anon says
I have no advice because I’m not a mom yet. However, I will say that, if your milk does dry up, I know you’ll be upset but please also know that you are a rockstar for b-feeding as long as you have and despite all of the turmoil in your life during all of the months of your daughter’s life. B-feeding was (is) very important to you, and you made it work, and that rocks. Seriously. So make sure you give yourself a hug/high-five, okay?
(This is not a pro b-feeding message, this is a pro “she wanted to do something and she did it and she should be proud of it” message. Ain’t nothing wrong with feeding your baby however makes the most sense for you. Just warding off potential negative backlash here!)
Anonymous says
I had supply problems throughout the 11 months I breastfed. I used various herbs which helped a little. after a 3-day stomach flu followed by a trial with no pumping breaks, I also got a prescription for domperidone. The latter is the only thing that made an appreciable difference, but it only worked for the couple weeks I took it.
ECR says
I also had supply problems. I had to drink tons and tons of water to keep up my supply. I measured how much I was drinking and usually had about 3 liters of water a day. Do you have a way to keep track of your fluid intake? When I am stressed or busy, I often forget to drink. Carrying around a water bottle helps remind me.
Also, I found Mother’s Milk tea (sold at Whole Foods and other places) to be really helpful and relaxing.
ELL says
+1 to the Mother’s Milk tea. I was skeptical that it would make any difference. But it really does, to the extent that I have to be careful about when and how often I drink it.
Spirograph says
I had supply issues starting around 7-8 months because of business travel and stress, so first of all hugs to you because I know exactly how frustrating it is. On top of everything else you have going on right now, I totally understand why you feel devastated. Oatmeal and drinking more water helped me a little, as did making an effort to keep my pumping schedule more consistent and adding a session or two. But really, my best advice is to try to let go of the emotional attachment to BFing. I know it’s hard, and it’s a big change, and there are a lot of feelings… but weaning happens, and you can only do so much (also, stressing about it makes a vicious cycle). Try to adjust your mindset to be happy that you can still share that bond with your daughter without attaching any value to quantity, and remember that nursing is not all-or-nothing. FWIW, I kept nursing for several more months (with supplemental formula) even though my supply never really recovered, so this definitely does not mean you need to wean your daughter now.
Lorelai Gilmore says
If you want to increase your supply, you can try taking fenugreek, goats rue, or domperidone. Domperidone is not authorized for sale in the US so you have to get it either with a prescription from your doctor at a compounding pharmacy (there is at least one in NYC) or online from New Zealand or someplace else. There is a great book by Diana West called Making More MIlk that I highly recommend.
Dr. Mona Gabbay in Westchester is very good with breastfeeding issues and may be able to give you in-person, specific advice.
The other advice for increasing supply is to increase your pumping sessions. I generally found this to be unsustainable.
HOWEVER, it may just be that your baby is getting older and needs more solids, less milk. This is a normal part of raising your baby! Some babies want to breastfeed until they are 2 years old, but some babies quit earlier. You can’t control it. If breastfeeding is naturally tapering off, then I want to encourage you to celebrate how hard you’ve worked and what a wonderful job you’ve done. You’ve fed and nurtured your baby. That’s the whole point. Great work.
(former) preg 3L says
Thanks everyone. I’m stressed because Baby seems to enjoy BFing so much. Hopefully increasing pumping sessions helps.
mascot says
Even if you can’t completely maintain a full supply, you may still be able to combo feed and stretch out the weaning. 1-2 nursing sessions a day would still give both of you that BFing bonding time.
Meg Murry says
Didn’t you also recently drop night feedings with her? If so, your body may be reacting to the overall drop in demand with no night feedings.
If its only been a few days, you could also either be about to come down with something or about to get your period – I always experienced a drop in supply just before either happened. I also had supply drops when I wasn’t getting enough calories or sleep.
I’d add another pumping session or two, and for an even bigger boost you can pump after she nurses when you are home – you may not get much more milk, but you’ll be sending the “demand” signal to your body.
How is her milk intake at daycare compared to your pumping output? Ask if she’s actively drinking down what you are sending or if they have to encourage her to finish the last ounce or two – often when I had drop offs in supply and freaked out, daycare told me baby hadnt been drinking as much anyway and my body actually was making the appropriate amount.
MomAnon4This says
Mother’s milk tea helps, as do those oatmeal cookies from Kashi with so much milk-stimulating stuff in them… these can both be found in regular grocery stores.
Have seen a Yahoo! Group called Pump Moms? It is really really really helpful. It’s a listserve, or it was awhile ago, so if I were you I’d sign up for the daily digest so you don’t get a billion emails but it’s full of advice.
Good luck.