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News Roundup

News update - moms leaving the workforceSome of the articles of interest to working mothers that we’ve seen around the web recently…

  • Jessica Grose’s post on Slate’s XX Factor blog can be summed up by the caption to the photo used in the piece: “Mothers drop out because they lack maternity leave and child care, not because they’re obsessed with babies.”
  • Fortune says that the decision of former MongoDB CEO Max Schireson to step down into a less demanding role at the company is an important step toward making the “having it all” discussion not just about women (via the Broadsheet).
  • Thanks to HuffPost Parents, we now know about the Tumblr blog Places I Have Pumped, where a working mom chronicles the various places she’s used her breast pump, from her own home while watching a webinar for work to the Acela.
  • Remember that story about the parents of twins who gave fellow airplane passengers little goody bags because the babies were likely to do some crying during the flight? Mike Julianelle (DadandBuried blogger) doesn’t think traveling parents should feel guilty about their kids acting like, well, KIDS.

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Have You Sought Out New Mom Friends?

Working Mothers and Mom FriendsHow are you doing on your mom friendships? One of my best friends, who was now a SAHM, asked me that question when both of our kids were about 6 months old. She had actively been trying to make friends with neighborhood moms at the playgrounds and local gym classes, both to schedule playdates and build a support system. Some of the friendships, she found, were kind of forced; others were going well.

My response: huh? I had friends. Some of them were moms. Why did I need local mom friends — new friends where the only thing we had in common was locality and the fact that we got pregnant around the same time? If a friendship happened naturally, great, but I wasn’t going to seek it out (and I certainly wasn’t going to try to force it). In addition to being a lifelong introvert, my reasoning at the time was that she was a SAHM and needed a support system and a schedule — as a WAHM mom I already had a schedule, and I preferred to spend my limited kid-time either focused on the kid or as a family. Besides, I figured, mom friends would come about naturally once my child started making friends.

I’ve thought a lot about that conversation, though, and am curious what other working moms have done. Did you prioritize finding new “mom friends,” even if just for maternity leave? (Have you kept in touch after you went back to work?) Have you naturally made new mom friends? For those readers with older kids, have your mom friendships changed through the years?

Pictured: Onehundred and fiftythree, originally uploaded to Flickr by Roxanne Milward.

Weekly Recs/Open Thread

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News Roundup

News roundup - The NightlightSome of the articles of interest to working mothers that we’ve seen around the web recently…

  • Just launched: The Nightlight, a blog that offers guides to buying the best baby gear.
  • In the NYT, Yael Chatav Schonbrun shares her efforts to combine motherhood and academia.
  • In another NYT opinion piece, Courtney E. Martin writes about the difficulty American parents face in finding quality, affordable child care.
  • The Muse tells moms to quit five bad habits that just add more stress to our lives. (What do you think of this advice?)
  • Apartment Therapy (via Lifehacker) gives you three easy ways to declutter that don’t take much time at all.

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Family Dinners and Working Parents

family dinners and working parentsToday’s fun topic: how does your family navigate dinnertime with two parents working outside the home? Are you able to be together for family dinners on weeknights? Who cooks, who plans, who shops? (Or, who picks up takeout?) How early do you start dinner to negotiate bedtime rituals like a bath and storytime? More fun questions about family dinners and working parents:

  • does one parent always work late? both?
  • does one parent have an unpredictable schedule that leaves the other parent guessing?
  • do you have an agreement, like “if you’re not home by 6:30, the kids and I are going to start eating” or “I will call by 6:00 if I think I’m going to be working late tonight”?
  • does one parent come home to eat with the family and then return to the office to continue working?
  • are there certain days of the week when you make sure to have a family dinner?
  • do you have any mealtime “rituals,” like “what was the best/worst part of your day?”?
  • do you make and freeze food ahead of time to make dinnertime easier, or maybe a nanny helps get food ready?
  • how has dinnertime changed since your days pre-kids?

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