Blog about Your Work/Life Balance

guest worklife blogger.indexedI’ve always been fascinated by work/life balance — although it’s a problem for everyone, working mothers in particular have to navigate the trials and tribulations of pregnancy and maternity leave, and then return to work, often with a new set of personal expectations (and often amidst extreme exhaustion).  I think it all too often ends up feeling like you have to reinvent the wheel, and I’d love to get a group of REAL women blogging about their specific experiences.  Click here to find out more about what’s involved — we’d love to have you!

Update: Email address fixed!

Blog Your Maternity Style!

guest fashion bloggerEvery woman carries differently, so it seemed like a great idea to ask different women to blog their pregnancy outfits!  If you’re pregnant and trying to dress professionally and with style, we’d love to have you guest blog — click here to see what’s involved!

Welcome to CorporetteMoms!

Welcome to CorporetteMoms!Congratulations!  Wherever you are in your mom journey — thinking about getting pregnant, trying to conceive, pregnant already, a new mom, or well entrenched in mommydom, hopefully this newsletter and site will be helpful to you in your journey.

If you’re pregnant, please check out our guide to maternity style (a free download when you sign up for our newsletter), and consider signing up to be a CorporetteMoms maternity style blogger.  If you’re past the pregnancy and already back at work, we’d LOVE to hear about your juggle — please consider signing up to blog about your work life balance.

Some of this has run on our main site, Corporette — but most of it has not.  Keep an eye out for two emails per week:  one post with advice or thoughts on pregnancy/pregnancy style/babies/parenting/maternity leave, and a second one rounding up news that may be of interest to you, as well as suggesting maternity clothes and accessories (similar to the TPS reports, but for maternity-wear).

Oh, and a piece of advice from the get-go:  no matter how good a deal it is, now is not the time to make any serious shoe or non-maternity clothing investments — you’ll see why in our free eBook on Professional Maternity Style (available for free download after you sign up for the newsletter and confirm your email address).

Pictured: balloons, originally uploaded to Flickr by Ilario Prospero.

The Pregnancy Corridor

The Pregnancy Corridor | CorporetteMomsWelcome to what I like to call “the pregnancy corridor”! If you’re already pregnant, you’ve been here since you started trying to conceive (TTC) — and you’ll likely be here until your youngest child is weaned (if you’re planning to nurse). What does this mean? It means that your body is no longer your own, at least for a little while. It also means that these are going to be trying times to interview for new jobs or otherwise “lean in.” That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t interview for new jobs — or shouldn’t lean in — I’m just warning you, you need a plan of attack. Now, before the baby arrives, you may want to sit down and write out your own career plan for the next five years or so — what skills or accolades do you want to acquire? What salary do you want? Be specific, and try to be realistic — it’ll help guide you through the next few years. (It’s also fine, IMHO, to recline during this time period — it’s a really, really trying time for most women between the hormones, sleep deprivation, childcare commitments, and general life shifts.)

On the body side of things, you may want to talk with your doctor about some of the issues below. I haven’t read it yet, but I’m told Emily Oster’s book, Expecting Better: Why the Conventional Pregnancy Wisdom is Wrong, may be a great way to help you better evaluate the information and risks regarding pregnancy — the whole premise of her book is that much of general pregnancy wisdom (from doctors and the general public alike) is based on poorly-conducted studies. (A good counterpoint: this Motherlode article from the NYT (registration may be req’d).) You’re going to make your own choices here, but I would say that if you’re of the opinion that you’re too busy to MAKE a decision, the default might be to just “avoid until I’m not pregnant/nursing/in the corridor.” (Honestly, that’s been my own non-decision decision.)

A few things that you should talk with your doctor about:

  • Vitamins. Buy your prenatals in bulk — you’ll be taking them while pregnant, if you nurse, and while you’re TTC (if you want multiple children). Your doctor may ask you to stop taking other vitamins during this time period (or at least check ingredients, such as looking at the mercury content if you’re taking omega-3 pills).
  • Medicines. Some medicines (prescription and OTC) are considered harmful to a developing fetus; in a perfect world some doctors even suggest you stop months before you’re trying to conceive so that the drugs can clear your system. One doctor even told me that I should stop taking Advil a month or two before we started trying to get pregnant.
  • Topical skin treatments. Some topical treatments such as retinoids and salicylic acid are very harmful to the developing fetus — ask your doctor whether you should make any change in your skincare system (including sun protection). I’ll share my own pregnancy skincare routine in a later post, but I’m no expert — again, talk to your doctor.
  • X-rays and lasers. If you’re not yet pregnant, go to the dentist and get your yearly dental X-ray, because you probably won’t be able to do it when you’re pregnant (and may not want to when you’re nursing either). If you’ve been getting laser hair removal (or are in the habit of getting a yearly touch-up), try to finish your appointments before you get pregnant, or at least talk with your hair removal person about whether he or she can work on you while you’re pregnant or nursing. If you may be due for a mammogram (or might want a “baseline” one), try to get it done before you start trying to get pregnant.
  • Hair dyes and chemical treatments. Talk to your doctor about this — depending on what chemicals are in the dye (or a treatment like a Brazilian keratin treatment) your doctor may suggest you steer clear while you’re TTC, pregnant, or nursing. One good solution (if you’re not yet pregnant) is to dye your hair closer to its natural color, so it grows out more naturally.
  • Foods. The list of foods some people say you shouldn’t eat while pregnant is long and depressing (and your taste aversions may take care of the rest).  Things to talk about with your doctor if you eat frequently include: high-mercury foods, raw fish and meats, coffee, alcohol, deli meats, hot dogs, raw vegetables (some, like alfalfa sprouts and broccoli, aren’t recommended at all; others may be at risk for listeria if not washed properly), foods with BPAs (e.g., canned veggies and soups), foods made in a commercial blender (e.g., peanut butter, hummus, frozen yogurt, etc.).

Personally, I’ve been in the pregnancy corridor since mid-2010, when my husband and I started to seriously think about getting pregnant — and I’m still in it! Even though I stopped nursing my first child in August 2012 (after a year), I knew we wanted to get pregnant again soon, so I didn’t change my routine too much. I did get some laser hair touchups, dental X-rays, and a baseline mammogram in that brief window before we started trying again, though — who says mamas don’t have any fun?

Readers, how long have you been in the Pregnancy Corridor? What choices have you made (health or career-wise) while in this time period? If you’re out of the pregnancy corridor — what advice do you have for those still in it?

 (Pictured: Corridor – Telephoto Zoom Effect, originally uploaded to Flickr by Natesh Ramasamy.)

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Kat’s Birth Story

kats birth story (2)Executive Summary: It all turned out fine! I got a healthy baby out of it, and for the most part recovered entirely within a few weeks after birth.

What I Learned the Hard Way:

  • Take a LOT OF NAPS if you’re more than a week overdue — you never know when you’re going to go into labor, and you need your energy.
  • Talk to your doctor about what to expect during labor and delivery, but also during the postpartum experience at the hospital — and what to expect during “off” hours like the middle of the night or a weekend.  (I had assumed, perhaps foolishly, that hey, it was a hospital–there were no off hours!) If you might be giving birth during a holiday weekend, or another big vacation weekend, talk with your doctor about how that might be different too.  (Jack was not born during a holiday weekend, but I wonder if it was a big vacation weekend, perhaps because of grade school start dates.)
  • Talk to your husband or significant other about being your advocate (and your child’s advocate). You WILL NOT BE YOURSELF during your labor.  Even if you’re conscious and listening, you need to trust that he will take the action, ask the question, make the call — even if you don’t. [Read more…]