Accessory Tuesday: The Heron Flat

Crickets today… any funny kid stories?

I got a Baby Bjorn bouncer secondhand from someone in my neighborhood and it’s stained (milk/spit up type). Any miracle stain remover suggestions? Just good ole Dawn and sunshine? Thanks!

apologies in advance for the novel. looking for advice on how to potentially handle this situation better/more expediently if possible. i have 5.5 year old twins who share a bedroom. twin A came home from school yesterday saying she is supposed to bring a stuffed animal to school on friday for reading time. twin B was VERY jealous (even though her class has show and tell once a month and win A does not, but she LOVES stuffed animals, hence the jealousy). i could tell by the end of dinner that Twin B was dysregulated, which is a common occurrence, particularly in the evening, so I took Twin B upstairs to start getting ready for bed to kind of separate her from Twin A. She kept saying she was going to steal Twin A’s stuffie (the one she wanted to take to school on Friday), and did take it once, but I put it back on Twin A’s bed while Twin B was brushing her teeth. I then took Twin B to our upstairs playroom which has a door and told her that it was my job to keep her safe and that I couldn’t let her steal Twin A’s stuffed animal, and so we could hang in there until she was ready/calmer. Twin A is getting over an illness and fortunately was exhausted, so DH was able to get her to bed without Twin B in the room (usually they each like the other one to be there), and finally an hour and a half later, Twin B was finally ready to go to bed. In that hour and a half we talked about how it seemed like she was feeling jealous, etc. and what to do with those feelings (also to me seems like she should be mad at Twin A’s teacher rather than Twin A, but that is not how the mind of a 5 year old works)….but i don’t always have an hour and a half/i do a lot of solo parenting so i can’t always separate them like this. any other ideas on how to manage these kind of situations? and more generally how to help a kiddo who frequently gets jealous of others?

Just venting over a rather silly and extremely privileged thing, but sometimes I wish I hadn’t established a pattern and practice of involving my husband on home decor/furniture purchase decisions! Essentially, we decide we need to purchase X item or do Y thing to our house. We agree on the general idea of what we want to purchase/what we want the outcome to be, and we agree on the general cost. Usually it’s fine, in that I get worn down and just agree to what he wants to do/buy because I’m tired of discussing it and I just want to have the item/the thing done. And he does have good taste, and our house does look nice, it is just an exhausting process and I feel like I’m the only female I know who has a husband this involved in this type of decision. And I do keep in mind the bigger picture: our house is our largest investment, we both want it to look nice, we both want the items we purchase to be of good quality, and we both have to live there (with our four year old) and we need to both agree on the item and we should both enjoy the way our house looks. If I had my own way, my house’s interior would look like the inside of an Anthropologie store with tons of bright colors, funky lamps and a million pillows. If he had his own way, we’d only buy original Stickley furniture or similar style hand crafted or antique items. The latest is that we need to move our child out of his toddler bed (aka, the crib with one side removed) and into a real bed, as apparently, the weight limit is 50 lbs and our son is currently 49 lbs (oops, didn’t realize we needed to be watching that weight limit!). In my mind, we’d buy a rather basic style wood bed (full sized, so that we don’t need to get another when our kid is a teenager), and then let our kid pick out whatever sheets and comforter he wants. All together, with mattress, this will be a purchase of over $1000, and so I don’t feel right not including DH. My husband is now saying he wants a twin sized bed because a kid doesn’t need anything bigger, and, more importantly, there are more fun and whimsical options for twin sized beds than there are full sized. He’s not wrong on either of these points, but now I’m getting links for like Architectural Digest’s top kids furniture makes and certain Dutch companies that make these whimsical kids beds. We just need to order a bed, but he said “I’m just beginning my research”. All the beds will take weeks to get here, so we just need to do this sooner than later. I’m going to try to impress upon him the timeline, and say we at least need to get a mattress. End of vent/rant.