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Any advice on getting a 9-year-old boy to put it simply, stop doing dumb stuff? I have a newly 9 year old, who is immature for his age. There have been a few instances at school including this past week at camp where he got caught doing dumb stuff. For instance, he’d make silly jokes and not listen to teachers. He was also caught touching other boys’ private parts for giggles. When we talked to him about boundary/consent and asked him why he did it, he said other boys were doing the same thing and he wanted to join the fun. We also talked about just because our friends do silly things sometimes, it doesn’t mean we join in if what they are doing is wrong.

We are sick of getting reports from teachers / camps every couple of days and he is now at risk of getting kicked out of the camp. He is otherwise a good kid at home. It’s just every time he gets together with other boys his age, he goes nuts and has zero impulse control.

Husband said 9 year boys do do dumb stuff and they don’t mean malice. I grew up as a girly girl and never related to boys. And now I just need him to stop. Ugh.

Any advice? I am at my wit’s end…

I’ve been approached about an opportunity in a niche area where I think I’d genuinely excel. I have the right background, I used to work at the consultancy this company uses, I’m fluent in the system I’d be working in, and I know both the brand and the function well. I actually interviewed with this same hiring manager in the past for a lower-level role, got an offer, and declined over comp. After a call with HR last week, I think I’d be a strong contender this time.

Here’s the part that has my attention: the hiring manager, who specifically asked HR to reach out to me, is planning to retire in the next couple of years. From what I can tell, this is essentially succession planning, and I’d be positioned for a very senior leadership role when that happens. It’s the kind of work I love, and it would be a huge step up.

The catch is comp and flexibility. The role is in-office five days a week, about a 20-minute drive each way. Not terrible on paper, but I’ve been fully remote since Covid. I’m having a hard time putting a number on the flexibility I’d lose from WFH currently. Base could probably get to where I want to get and I’d need to learn more about other benefits.

My current job is in business development in a space that’s getting crowded and competitive. I’m fine for now, but I don’t know how long my company will want to stay in this area. I’m also very well paid, my stress level outside of work hours is low, and I work from home. I fly to our out-of-state office for a few days every couple of months, but otherwise I can put my kids on the bus in the morning and be there when they get off in the afternoon. I love that flexibility, and there’s a real comfort factor to WFH that’s hard to quantify. I’m also getting a promotion in the next few months with a slight bump in both base and target bonus.

I keep going in circles. This could be a major position in a couple of years and it’s work I’d find genuinely rewarding. I think I could get used to being in an office again. But what I have right now — the flexibility and the pay — is really, really good, and I can’t tell whether I’m underestimating what I’d be giving up.

Ugh. Has anyone made a trade like this? What did you underestimate? Did you end up regretting it?

Oof. We’re moving in less than 2 weeks and my 5 year old’s behavior is atrocious. I know it makes sense, but I’m very much not looking forward to how long this is going to be. She’s kind of over her current daycare since a lot of her friends have already left, do I try to let her skip some days or stick with the routine?

(My husband tends to respond to stress by underfunctioning, but that’s a whole other rant.)