Organizing Thursday: The Parcel

I’m angry. I’m also 8 months pregnant. I’m angry about how poorly the medical profession treats women. I’m angry that the quality of care varies so much between providers even in the same practice. I’m angry at everyone who makes me feel like anything that goes wrong with the pregnancy is my fault, like I’m failing my baby, and I’m angry at everyone who treats me like I’m incompetent and/or a liar. I’m just plain angry at this whole situation.

I’ve had two medical types this week act horribly to me, and two who were wonderful. You’d think that would balance out but the horrible is really quite horrible.

– today, a receptionist/scheduler implied that my baby would die if I didn’t schedule a monitoring appointment on the day she wanted. I was just dx with gestational diabetes, I have 4 appts per week: OB, old mom specialist (tongue in cheek, what I’ve been calling them, I’m 41), and now gestational diabetes x2. Doctors say GD once a week is fine too. GD scheduler wanted a date that I already have an OB appt, I said so, and also pointed out I already have one GD appt scheduled that week. She said well idk what your OB does but we’re the ones who make sure you don’t have a stillbirth, so you need to come in that day. I said, lady, if you need me to see multiple doctors per day then admit me to the hospital. Otherwise find another day.

– earlier this week, also GD office, I asked about glucose values that spiked even though the corresponding meals had been 15 or less net carbs. She argued with me that those meals couldn’t have been so few carbs. I explained, which was already on the log, that I weighed everything on a scale and I wrote down the dietary info. She huffed, but finally said, well just eat less carbs maybe half what you’re eating now. I’m pregnant, I can’t eat less than 10 carbs per meal, I will go into ketosis (I tracked blood glucose nos. when I did keto a few years ago, so I have a good idea where my body hits ketosis) and that is super bad for baby. She was totally dismissive and just walked out.

My 1st grader complains about everything. Right now; specifically, he’s complaining about summer camp (in the past he has complained about activities on weekends, annoyance at running errands, having to do his homework, aftercare, some of his activities he initially asked to do). It makes me feel bad he’s doing summer camp and I constantly feel like the bad cop for enforcing some sort of productivity and structure. If it was up to him he would eat McDs, treats, and be on the iPad all day. I guess I don’t know what I am asking for but maybe it’s figuring out when to listen to the complaints and hearing it out vs tuning it out. Like should I be trying to find a nanny so he doesn’t have to do aftercare or summer camp or not bring him along on errands on weekends type of thing or let him drop activities when he started to complain? My husband says he just tunes out his complaints bc he complains all day but that doesn’t feel good to me either.

My daughter (7th grade next year) wants to go to a trip with her friends to Europe that costs 5k, organized by their school. I am torn, my husband is more against it. Our concerns are safety (I am a psychologist and have heard of all sorts of things going down on these types of trips) and a bit less so that it is overpriced (our whole family can go to Europe for 5k, but we can def pay and it wouldn’t be a big deal). I am torn because her good friends will likely go and she wants to go so badly (has been talking about it all year). She is a good kid and has never gotten into trouble, does well in school, her friends are generally great girls, etc. Would you let her go?