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Anon says
hope everyone had a better morning than i did. DH is traveling for work. we have 6 year old twins. Twin A came in well earlier than she is supposed to and was being a pain in the neck. Then flipped out bc Twin B tried to be helpful by carrying all of the water bottles downstairs and does this thing where she sits on the floor to pout. I got them each breakfast and went to the bathroom, then Twin A comes hysterical that Twin B ate half of her muffin, which Twin B of course denied, though she did say that Twin A didn’t do it either. Twin B is also hysterical at this point too. I was not proud of myself bc i really yelled at Twin B, but then i channeled everything i read about lying and said that i understand Twain A didn’t do it and that you are saying you didn’t do it, maybe there is a ghost in the house, etc. while at the same time acknowledging to Twin A that Twin B did it and it was wrong and unkind and that Twin A had every right to be mad and let Twin A have a few chocolate chips. And then 15 min later Twin B admitted that she spilled water on half of her muffin and it didn’t taste good and so she took Twin As. She clearly felt a lot of shame/guilt. (we are in the process of an adhd diagnosis, and apparently lying is a thing, though of course no diagnosis excuses the behavior). it’s only 9am where i live, but i feel like i’ve lived a whole day.
Anon says
Sorry, that sounds tough. I think lying about not having done something bad is still considered quite normal at this age; I wouldn’t assume it’s ADHD related.
Anonymous says
Lying is developmentally normal at that age. This isn’t a huge deal. Sounds like a normal morning with kids. Do you have any in person groups for parents of twins where you live?
Anonymous says
Is a muffin really worth all the drama? Can’t you give A another one and tell B to stop taking her sister’s food? Little kids lie when they know they have done something wrong, and often the best thing to do is to minimize your reaction.
I would not give a treat to the one whose muffin was stolen.
anon says
it was the last two muffins or i would’ve given A another one
Anon says
Is there any reason to decline a friend sending me a hand pump and a Haaka she used once or twice but never again? Obviously I would sterilize them. I’ve heard you shouldn’t accept hand-me-down pumps but I thought that might be for the ones with motors and parts that break down.
Anon says
I would be fine with that.
Anon says
I wouldn’t decline personally. Depending on the age of the hand-pump & haaka (or boon cup is my personal favorite), you might want to get a new membrane and duckbill valve (if it uses those). I’m nursing now, and sometimes I wish I had an extra hand-pump stashed away in my car as a back-up option.
Anon says
How old are they? Silicone/plastic can take on a cloudy look, and I personally replace my Haakaa with each baby since it’s so cheap (same with any plastic baby bottles). But as long as baby isn’t immuno-compromised and you sterilize, I don’t think there’s a huge reason not to use them. A hand pump you can completely take apart and clean and I have used my sister’s before; an electric pump with tubing would be more iffy.
Cb says
That’s totally fine. I freecycled mine.
Anonymous says
Breast pumps are classified as medical devices, so manufacturers and hospitals have to recommend the most stringent precautions for use. Hand pumps and cheaper electric pumps are basically too cheap to justify the expense that would go into cleaning/shipping them professionally (those hospital grade pumps are ~$2000 each and are closed systems for comparison). If you think about what is likely to be passed around, all the really bad viruses aren’t very stable outside of the human body/blood stock. HIV is not stable and would not be a worry. Hep C in theory has lasted somewhat intact in lab settings for a few weeks (presumably at high concentrations).
If you diligently wash the parts and dry them, and wait to use them for a few weeks from your friend’s last use, it’s really unlikely that any virus would be transmissible. Sure, if your baby spends time in the NICU or has another issue, you may not want to use for peace of mind. Also if these are from 5+ years ago, they may not be as effective.
Father’s Day says
Help me get motivated to do something for Father’s Day when Mother’s Day was a bust this year. We were at my MIL’s out of state and basically I was ignored. DH tried to make up for it later once we got home by making a nice dinner and getting me a gift. What can I do that recognizes the day in a way that’s low key but also low effort for me? Normally I’d let DH sleep in and have the day to do what he wants with I watch our three kids (5 and under), but that’s a lot of work for me and I have a bit of an attitude about that since I didn’t get even an hour to myself on Mother’s Day.
Anon says
I would try to separate the hurt you feel about Mother’s Day from what would be nice to do for Father’s Day. An eye for an eye doesn’t make a happy household. If you think he would enjoy sleeping in as a gift, then do that.
Mary Moo Cow says
+1. My mother’s day ended with DH and I collapsed on the couch and he said “I forgot to give you your present.” And then he didn’t give me the present. Shrug. That was last month. Resentment is a heavy burden. So rather than setting a zero bar for Father’s Day out of spite, I’m treating it as a separate holiday. Kids and I are giving DH new camping equipment for upcoming trip and a joke gift. We’ll try to make it a nice day for him, to remind ourselves of the 364 days he’s a great dad and we don’t acknowledge that.
I’m sorry your mother’s day was a bust. But will it really make you feel better if you make father’s day a bust just to feel even steven?
Anon says
This
Anon says
Agreed.
Anon says
Man, I don’t know. I don’t think OP is suggesting she makes it a total bust for her DH, just that she doesn’t need to go full throttle on giving her husband a full day of leisure. I support that. Some of my biggest fights with my DH have been when I’ve twisted myself in knots to do something, or have gone to the well, so to speak, when I’m already fully exhausted. I think it’s absolutely okay to scale these things to reflect the broader place in your life. As an example, my husband gave me an awesome mother’s day, but he’s traveled for work a ton the last few weeks, so his father’s day will celebrate him with some gifts he wants. But I’m not doing breakfast in bed, and we are going out to eat bc I don’t have it in me to clean a full kitchen and put kids to bed, since I’ve done so much of that solo lately. We’ll tell him how much we love and appreciate him, but he straight up said he doesn’t expect me to shoulder a full day of kid related work.
Maybe she picks a special meal he’d like, and gives him a gift, and the whole family does something fun in the morning. He’s celebrated, she’s not resentful. I think it’s a win/win. Otherwise, they are looking at a blow up fight around 4PM when she’s exhausted and frustrated.
Anon says
Yeah I’m reading these comments thinking “I guess I’m a petty b1tch” but there’s no way I would give him a whole day off when I didn’t get a minute to myself on Mother’s Day. I think refusing to celebrate Father’s Day at all would be unfair, but I would 100% not go out of my way to give him the most perfect FD ever after he did nothing on MD.
Anon says
OP I am struggling with the same thing. I did get two hours to myself on Mother’s Day, but my dad was visiting then so DH had an extra set of hands (i’m the poster above on this page with the twins and DH has been traveling all week so i’ve been solo parenting). I made the dinner reservation for Mother’s Day and for my birthday (which was two weeks later).
Anon says
Me too. I would absolutely make a lovely dinner and give him a thoughtful gift, but I would not do “day off”. And then next year have a conversation pre-mothers day about how you each like to spend your special day.
Anon says
Agree. Also, I feel like I routinely see posts from women (I am presuming) here who are frustrated with their spouse not being a full partner. All these comments about separate your MD from his FD feel like how you get there — I’m not super interested in training my husband to be able to pretty much blow through something that celebrates me, and then have me turn around and treat him like a king three months later. For me, the healthier thing way to go would be to not put on a huge to-do while drowning in resentment, but to scale the holidays so it feels even (not be mean or ignore it, just a scaled back celebration so you both end the day happy), then be upfront by saying directly what your expectations are for the next holiday or event.
Anon says
I agree with the point that celebrations should evolve with the season of life. One parent doing all the child care for a full day doesn’t make sense when you have small kids, though sleeping in or having a few hours in the afternoon to do something solo might. But I would not make these decisions out of spite.
Anon says
+1. Make a decision that works for where you’re at, but not out of spite. It’s too much scorekeeping to total up the hours you got for Mother’s Day to calculate how much you’ll allow for Father’s Day. It totally sucks your Mother’s Day wasn’t what it should’ve been, don’t get me wrong, but I’ve literally never seen scorekeeping make a situation better.
anon says
Sounds like making a nice dinner/brunch and getting him a git might be the best option. That’s pretty much all I ever do anyway, and hopefully it will feel “fair” to you.
Other commenters aren’t wrong about resentment, but eh, sometimes you have to just keep going through it before you come out the other side. Beating myself up about how I “should” feel has never worked well for me.
DLC says
Does your Husband care about Father’s Day? I mean, it depends on your relationship, but I flat out ask my husband what he wants to do/ if there’s anything he wants. I’m terrible at gift giving and would rather just do what he wants than have to guess and get it wrong. This year we are travelling and he said he wanted dinner at a nice brewpub. I asked, “Do you want to pick or do you want me to research?” We try to keep expectations low around Mother’s Day and Father’s Day – I once read somewhere that resentment lies in the gulf between expectation and reality, and i try to remember that.
Anon says
+1 to a special meal and maybe a gift. As far as the meal, do whatever is easiest for you – make burgers, takeout from his favorite place, or take the family to a pub. I got DH some hiking gear he wanted and we will all probably go to a brewery he’s been wanting to try. And yes I am still putting in more effort than DH did for Mother’s Day, but after several years I have realized that if I am expecting something special on a certain day then I have to plan it myself. So I planned my Mother’s day which involved a nice brunch at a restaurant and then an afternoon by myself at the bookstore. (In the past he planned the day which was nice but not what I wanted for that day.) This goes back to the person on the main board who was sad her family didn’t plan something special for her milestone birthday. Next year if you visit ILs for Mother’s Day take advantage of the free childcare and duck out to a cafe or go shopping or something.
OP says
I wanted to duck out, but unfortunately being at MILs does not equal free child care for us. She’s older and can’t watch the kids herself, and instead put DH all day doing a variety of projects- So I had the kids, admittedly with some help from her at times.
Anonymous says
I’d separate your attitude from Father’s Day. If you’re mad about Mother’s Day, then book some time for yourself and get a massage etc. But on Father’s Day itself, I would make it nice for DH, even if don’t go all out. Personally I’d book somewhere for brunch/ dinner because that way I wouldn’t have to cook but DH would get a special meal out. Win-win.
Anonymous says
Father’s Day is not as big a deal as Mother’s Day to begin with. Moms are supposed to get a day off. Dads are supposed to get dinner on the grill.
anon says
TBH, this matches my general observations. It’s not what me and DH have chosen for our first couple of years as parents, but it probably describes %95 of my friends and extended family.
Cb says
Folks with kids still in school, how is it going?
T has 12 more days and we’re all so, so over it. I think there are so many “special” activities and basically no learning, so kids are overhyped.
I was going to work halftime while we are away at my parents, but I’m exhausted and once the UK election is done and dusted (nice job, Conservatives, calling elections during the Scottish school hols), I’m taking 2 weeks off.
anon says
My kids only have 2 days left, but they turned in their computers over a week ago and brought home all their notebooks and textbooks and pencils last Friday, so I have no idea what’s actually going on in the classrooms this week.
Anonymous says
We are so over it in NYC. I don’t even know why they bother with June. There were 2 days off last week for professional development (I think?), 2 holidays next week (Eid, Juneteenth), then 3 more days the week after, and then done finally. My husband is a high school teacher, but he teaches seniors and had to turn in his grades on Monday so the school would know who is eligible to graduate in time for the ceremony. Still, he is ranting about his stupidly annoying students every evening for a solid 30+ minutes. If I never hear about dear, deluded Ryan again it will be too soon.
Spirograph says
This is our last week and thank goodness. My oldest is finishing 5th grade, which is the end of elementary in our district, and he has been too cool for school with a raging case of senioritis since early May! plus, the kids have been cleaning out their desks and just keep bringing home all their art projects and random stuff and leaving it all over the living room… summer is it’s own type of chaos, but I’m ready for the end-of-schoolyear transition to be done.
GCA says
This is their third-to-last day; kids were meant to have a walking field trip to a nearby movie theater, and then it started pouring so the field trip is postponed to Friday (argh – and I feel sorry for the teachers who were planning on getting a 2h break). They seem quite happy to still be in school this week, but are definitely looking forward to summer. I am not looking forward to summer logistics mayhem.
Anon says
This is my first real summer as a working mom (my kid is 6, but was in year-round daycare through the end of last summer). I know this isn’t an original complaint but….oof. I’m really struggling with the reduced childcare, increased driving time and constant schedule changes. The fact that my husband is an academic who travels a lot in the summer doesn’t help. It’s “working” in the sense that I’m getting my work done, but I have less time to do housework, less time to myself and feel like I’m not fully present with my kid when she’s home. She’s a champ at playing by herself and played Barbies on the floor of my office yesterday for two hours while I worked, but I feel guilty and like this is not what her summer should be. Not sure what I’m looking for, just commiseration I guess, but if anyone has tips I’ll take them.
Anon says
Playing with Barbies for two hours nearby the comforting presence of her mother sounds awesome. I’m serious — parents shouldn’t have to be a source of entertainment, and having long unstructured periods at home to play is a great way for summer to look. If you can throw in evening playground trips or ice cream cones, and arrange some afternoon playdates (like, a few a month, doesn’t have to be multiple a week) then her summer will be full of sweet memories.
I hear you on the parts that are stressful for you, but please don’t feel guilty about what you are/aren’t doing for your daughter.
Anon says
agree with this. also why are there constant schedule changes? Did you sign up for different camps each week?
anon says
Depending on the kids’ age(s), that’s sometimes the only option. My younger kid has the same schedule every day. It’s awesome. My older kid has aged out of everything that’s a day-long affair but still badly needs a little bit of structure during the summer or things go off the rails. So he has a number of other things that keep him busy but require a driver. Haven’t had much luck on the carpool front, so it’s on me and DH. And mostly me, because DH started a new job recently. It’s inconvenient, but trust me, I have looked at this from all angles.
Anon says
i get that, but OP said her kid is 6. mine is 6 too and also just finished K and at least where we live there are many options for same camp every week. i know it gets more difficult as they age, which is why i’m a firm believer in keeping it simple while you can!
Anon says
OP here. We did choose this because we thought it would be nicer for her to get to do different things related to her interests like dance, zoo, art, etc. rather than spending the whole summer at a parks & rec/Y/JCC place. I don’t mean that in a judgy way, I know the Y is a great places for some kids, it’s just not really my kid’s scene. She’s artsy and into pretend play and really isn’t a fan of running around on a playground all day. But it turns out the Y/JCC/parks camp all sold out immediately, and prioritized giving lots of people 1-2 weeks rather than giving a few people the whole summer, so doing the full summer at one camp likely wouldn’t have been an option anyway. I don’t know anyone who got the full summer at one place.
GCA says
I agree with 11:55, but summer does bring a lot of schedule changes. for instance, where I am, the lowest-cost camps run by aftercare/ parks & rec only go for 8 out of 11 weeks of summer holidays. So a lot of parents have to scramble to fill the first and last few weeks. And remember the moment in January or February where we were all freaking out about how hard it is to get into camps if you don’t sign up the minute they open? That could be a factor. Even with the same camps for 8 weeks, my kids’ camps go from 9-4pm so our dropoff and pickup schedule has to change too.
That said, I think OP has permission to ditch the guilt. Unstructured independent play is great! I spent school holidays at home with my grandparents growing up; I remember reading a zillion books, playing with my sister indoors and outdoors, a not insubstantial amount of TV, and being bored. Basically they fed us and took us on the occasional library/ pool outing and that was it.
Anoon says
Agreed on the playing Barbies point! My mom was a SAHM and I never went to summer camp or had anything planned apart from trips to my grandma’s out of town. Summer was for leisure, reading a million books, imaginative play, and yes, being “bored” by the end and ready to be back to school. My husband is an academic and I truly thought our kids would be home for the summers since he doesn’t have to go in to work but he is not up for that and so they go to day camp all summer. I feel guilty for the exact opposite reason– that our kids don’t get to be home all summer with nothing to do.
DLC says
My mother owned a bakery when I was growing up and my summers were spent hanging out the workroom as she dealt with customers. When I got old enough, my brother and I would walk to the 7-11 for a soda or walk to the library. The Y was down the street so we would also walk down sometimes when my mom enrolled us in summer camp. The lack of structure was actually pretty idyllic. Maybe I’m being nostalgic. Maybe my mother had the same guilt and stress that you did. But I don’t remember being resentful of my mom. Which is all to say it’s also your kids’ first “real” summer, and she probably doesn’t have the same expectations that you do.
I actually find summer more stressful than the school year in a lot of ways, for the very reason you cited – summer camp is great an all, but it takes so much more effort than just packing your kids lunch and sending them on the school bus. And then there’s all the pressure to make summer magical. I say choose one or two adventures a week and the the rest of it do what you can to survive with kindness and energy.
Vicky Austin says
This sounds so lovely, and it’s making me wonder, OP, could you maybe work from playground or pool or splash pad or even library while your kid does normal summer things, maybe with a friend?
Anonymous says
Honestly, she’ll be fine. I’m at home in the summer and my kids do not do camp and I do not entertain them all day!! They come up with their most creative ideas. My 7yo came up with her own comic book last week.
anon says
Summer is just really, really hard for all the reasons you described. It technically works, and I’m thankful that my job allows some flexibility, but I get absolutely exhausted and cranky being all things to all people. So much commiseration.
anonamommy says
I see you, and I feel this so much. After our first summer when I felt like everything was just half-@**sed, the last few summers I’ve just leaned in to less effort. I get my work done, I’m not winning any awards but I crush it the rest of the year. I have conversations with my kid about how different summer is and that’s part of what makes it special (she doesn’t have any idea how hard it is!). We try to do one special summer thing each day, even if it’s just reading a bedtime story outside or eating breakfast on the deck. We eat lots of fruit and check on our garden every day.
The hardest thing for me is that my kid has a lot of friends who have SAHPs and basically live their best lives all summer with full days at the pool, amusement parks, etc. We can’t do that, but I hope summers will still be a time of fun at our pace.
Mary Moo Cow says
Commiseration. Especially on the driving time, which can take you by surprise. I signed up to carpool with a friend for one kid for camp and definitely underestimated the round trip time. And my house has never been messier because one kid is home all day and since DH and I are both losing our alone/alone-task time on WFH days because she’s home, laundry and dishes are piling up.
As for what her summer should be, eh. Comparison is the thief of joy and perfection the enemy of the good enough. She’s playing; it’s her first summer at home. Try not to beat yourself up over what you think everyone else is doing or how it could be better and then see what you can do differently next summer, and then let it go.
Anon says
Thanks all for the kind comments. They made me feel a lot better <3
Ironically, I never went to camp myself and have very fond memories of summers spent basically doing nothing but reading and playing with dolls, but I'm a much more bookish, introverted personality than my daughter is and I want to make sure I'm giving her what she wants, not what I would have wanted. She seems happy enough and I know I should take that win. It's just hard feeling like you should be making ~magic~ all the time.
Cb says
Another parent of an only child chiming in. Could you host a play date every so often? If the kid dynamic is right, it can be way less work. I ask to borrow my friend’s kid for the day when we both need to work, because they can occupy themselves all day. I make lunch, leave out snacks, my husband sits and eats with them, we plan for a movie at the end of the day.
Anon says
Totally agree, and we do that for the random days off during the school year but unfortunately most of her friends are gone for the summer (college town and many faculty families decamp for the summer) or in extended day so there aren’t a lot of people around on weekday afternoons. We do have some weekend play dates scheduled but that doesn’t help me with work so much.
Traveling/funeral with toddler says
Our family (husband, I, and 18 month old) is going to be travelling in the next few weeks for a close family funeral. All 3 of us will need to be at the visitation & funeral itself (this is not negotiable). Husband will have the lead on caring for LO and stepping out with LO if needed.
Any recs for quiet toys at the funeral? LO loves books (but usually looks at them loudly). So far my best ideas are snacks and a pop-it.
Also, any recs for flying solo with said toddler? I will probably be flying home with LO solo due to hubs work schedule (short 1.5hr flight). LO has never flown before. Any phone apps that would be good on a plane? No sound preferred, obvs. LO is into letters and animals and I spy type pictures.
TIA!
Anon says
I’m sorry for your loss. My experience was that flying with a toddler was easier than I expected, and was often the easiest part of traveling with kids that age. They’re so easily entertained by their environment, we didn’t even really normally bring anything in the way of entertainment. If you’re willing to give them your phone, my kid loved looking at pictures of herself. If you can afford it, buy them a seat and bring a car seat on board. When traveling solo, other moms and flight attendants will offer to help you – let them.
Anonymous says
+1 to buying a seat and bringing the carseat
anon says
quiet toys: Water Wow books, wikistix, hand puppets (Melissa and Doug), Avery dot label stickers (they peel off without residue), Stockmar square beeswax crayons (they don’t roll), pulling tissues out of a tissue box (the round Kleenex boxes are nicest for this), a quiet book (ours is from Amazon – basically a cloth book with velcro pieces, zippers, buckles, etc.)
Anon says
Infinity snacks (mini bagels are surprisingly effective) on the plane and…post it notes. They are hilarious at that age. If you are ok with the tv, get her some headphones. My kid never watched at that age.
For the funeral/visitation, on e again…post it notes.
Anonymous says
SO MANY snacks. All the snacks!
Anonymous says
I would recommend the Lauri Toddler Tote. You might also see if you can get some mileage out of removable blue painter’s tape, which can also be used in a pinch for babyproofing outlets and things in a hotel room. I’m sorry for your loss.
Anon says
Sorry in advance for your loss. My twins were that age when my mother passed away and I’m outing myself to anyone who knows me, but we’d flown on Saturday back after Thanksgiving, my mom passed away Sunday morning and we took the 3.5 hour flight back the next day. My kids were champs under the circumstances. Their favorite plane activity at the time was putting things in/taking out of a Tupperware container and shaking to see the different sounds it made (it was fairly quiet), and putting colored popsicle sticks into a water bottle, dumping them out and doing it again. I also had a small magnetic board and different types of magnets, including some with gears. Snacks (particularly things like cheerios that can be eaten one at a time). We did not bring the kids to the funeral, but they were present at shiva (we’re Jewish). Honestly if your kid makes noise during the service people will understand. If it’s in your budget, you might consider buying a seat for LO on the way home when you are flying solo. We never did buy often lucked out with an empty seat
Anonymous says
I just did a big trip with my 18 month old and quiet toys that were a hit AND small/easily packable were a lacing toy, a mini magnetic erase toy (like a small Etch a Sketch), an old spice shaker with q tips in it that he could take out and put through the holes in the top of the spice shaker and a reusable sticker book (we had animals and a construction site). Also a spinning snack wheel container with fun snacks.
Highlights magazine has good detailed I Spy type pictures.
Re: screens/phones, I just downloaded videos of construction equipment and fish and he watched them with no sound.
AwayEmily says
Looking for a potty training pep talk…we started my 28-month-old over the weekend. She’d been showing all the signs — asking to use the potty at home and at school (especially for poop), telling us right away to change her diaper when it was dirty, etc. So we decided to go for it (even though my initial plan had been to do it much later in the summer). The first 24 hours were GREAT, but then it got worse and worse over the next two days…no active resistance, just lots and lots of accidents. Her first day back at school was yesterday: zero successes. The teachers said she was cheerful about sitting on the potty and told them right away when she had an accident, but…I don’t know. I just feel so dejected, like maybe we should have waited longer? I think I need some reassurance that it’s okay for progress not to be linear (she did have two successes this AM, so all hope is not lost). I have no memory of training my first, and my second we did during Covid when time had no meaning.
Anonymous says
To me it sounds like she’s not ready. Can you go back to diapers and try again in a few weeks?
AwayEmily says
I have thought about that! I’m just so befuddled because for the first 24 hours (actually more like 36), she had literally two accidents. She took herself to the potty each time she had to go, no issues at all. So clearly she has the physical capacity — she knows what having to go feels like, and she’s able to get there in time — it’s like she just kind of got bored with it? I’d feel differently if she just didn’t get it from the start. So weird. I’d definitely be up for stopping and trying again later if not for that 36 hours of success.
Anon says
omg your baby is old enough for potty training?!?! didn’t you just have her like yesterday. i feel like she was just born. at home, were you doing no pants? is she having more trouble at school than at home? maybe there are more distractions at school and it is harder to stop playing?
AwayEmily says
I AGREE that I only had her yesterday, this all seems very strange to me too.
And thinking about it more you are SPOT-ON about the distractions. the times when she has had accidents at home it is because she is engrossed in playing. And at school they mentioned that she seemed to struggle with the “chaos.” OK, this makes me feel better that it is external rather than internal issues.
Anonymous says
Every kid is different. She might be a good candidate for training underwear or pull-up in combination with potty tries. But no judgment if you pull the plug and go back to diapers for a couple months.
We potty-trained my extremely stubborn 3yo a few months ago and she’s still having accidents sometimes out of pure stubbornness. Nothing is linear!
anon says
I’m right behind you on this learning curve, except that we haven’t gotten rid of diapers yet. My 27 mo is obsessed with the Mo Willems book “Time to Pee” which makes a big deal about not ignoring the urge, your toys will still be there afterwards, etc etc. Might help if you think FOMO is part of the issue?
Spirograph says
On the actual post: I really like this skirt! it’s so pretty with the simple white tank or with the matching blouse faking a dress
(Alas, I am not working in an office this summer and can’t justify new “nice” clothes at the moment)
Anon says
Does anyone here have a kick scooter for themselves? If so, which one do you have? I’m thinking of getting one so that I can coast behind my kids as they ride their bikes on the trail. I can’t ride my bike slowly enough behind them nor can I run behind them, so a scooter seems like a possible solution. I know I’ve seen other adults ride them but my googling is subpar.
TheElms says
I see adults on the adult version of the Razor scooter. They look like this one: https://razor.com/products/kick-scooters/a6-scooter/
Cb says
Yep, there’s a school dad who rides on of these. I’m always slightly jealous as it looks really fast/fun. We cycle most of the time / I can’t figure out how to log scooting on strava so I haven’t taken the plunge.
Mary Moo Cow says
Not the OP, but thanks! DH routinely steals one kid’s scooter, much to the amusement of our neighbors. I’m going to look into this for him.
Anon says
Thank you! That looks like exactly what I need.
Anonymous says
I have a Kickped and I love it!! It’s pricy but I got it (9 years ago) for commuting. I used it for commuting for one year and then just recreationally since then (we moved so my commute is different). It’s held up great. It’s foldable for storage or carrying with you on the subway. Works great for bike/scooter trips with the kids. I found the handlebar vibration a lot for my sensitive wrists but putting some foam on the handlebars fixed it, and it’s a smoother ride than many other scooters.
Anonymous says
My comment disappeared but I have and love a Kickped. Expensive but I was initially using it for commuting.
Anon says
Thank you! I hadn’t seen that brand before.
TheElms says
Help with shoes? (That will arrive before Monday). I’m wearing this dress to a wedding that will be a full day affair 12noon until 11pm and I’ll have my kids to chase for at least part of that time so I’m thinking flats.
Dress: https://maggylondon.com/collections/shop-all-maggy-london/products/frankie-g5947
Shoe ideas:
https://www.zappos.com/p/womens-naturalizer-hawaii-pointed-toe-slingback-flats-dark-gold-leather/product/9958140/color/258451?zlfid=191&ref=pd_mobile_detail-2-sims_vis&utm_source=google&utm_medium=sem_g&utm_campaign=19898968292&utm_term=dsa-19959388920&utm_content=_g_150475507151_w_dsa-19959388920_l_CjwKCAjwjqWzBhAqEiwAQmtgTyhjCpaSuCdwMHkls7NHtrtKtx9jnsBJiVPud9rPT3n-P6unUNguRBoCSwgQAvD_BwE&gclid=CjwKCAjwjqWzBhAqEiwAQmtgTyhjCpaSuCdwMHkls7NHtrtKtx9jnsBJiVPud9rPT3n-P6unUNguRBoCSwgQAvD_BwE&ln=true (In gold)
https://www.zappos.com/p/womens-naturalizer-havana-coral-peach-synthetic/product/9427447/color/1048206?zlfid=191&ref=pd_detail-v2-2-c_v2p_p (in Coral – but maybe this clashes)
Anon says
I think the gold slingback would be perfect. Just make sure to coordinate your jewelry, like maybe some chunky gold hoops and a paperclip bracelet?
Beautiful dress, btw!